Daycare.com Forum Daycare Management Software

Go Back   Daycare.com Forum > Main Category > Daycare Center and Family Home Forum

Daycare Center and Family Home Forum Daycare Center and Family Home owners, Directors, Operators and Assistants should post and ask questions here.

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 01-10-2013, 08:32 AM
cheerfuldom's Avatar
cheerfuldom cheerfuldom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 7,414
Default Why Don’t They Just Move?! LOL

my youngest daughter is going thru a hitting phase. she's 20 months. I am addressing it as best as possible and feel that it is already getting better after just a few days of consistent "no's", redirection, modeling gentle touches, and watching her like a hawk. anyway, when she does get to a kid to start swatting at them, they just stand there and cry and get whacked. these are kids at least a year older than her, sometimes a couple years older. she is by far the smallest! I have talked to them about moving back so they dont get hurt and making sure Ms.X knows that something is going on. normally i can stop it right before it happens but with 8 kids, i cant watch every one for every moment. anyway, sometimes they cry for me to come but most of the time, they just stand there and get whacked at least twice before I can intervene. I am glad they dont get aggressive back but why dont they at least move out of the way???? the 20 month old is barely walking...she's a late bloomer. she doesnt climb or run yet. the bigger kids could easily move back and help themselves a little. is this behavior strange? I have two kids specifically that do not help themselves at all when it comes to something hurting....like if they get hit by a swing, they will stand there and get hit again if I dont physically move them or stop the swing. it is like this about other similar scenarios. they dont learn the easy way or the hard way. i dont want anyone to get hurt but if i let them figure it out on their own, they just get hurt over and over. another instance is them sliding down the slide. they dont get up and move out the way at the bottom. they just sit there and get pummeled by the next several kids coming down. they cry and obviously are getting hurt....but yet they do not get out of the way! whats up with that???
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 01-10-2013, 09:09 AM
blandino's Avatar
blandino blandino is offline
Daycare.com member
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Tulsa area
Posts: 1,508
Default

I have has several kids who do this. One of which is 27 months, and will sit in front of the slide as the others go down and hit him on their way down - and he just sits there and cries. It drives me insane..
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 01-10-2013, 10:20 AM
mbullette's Avatar
mbullette mbullette is offline
New Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 130
Default

I have a little boy that hits all day long. I am working with him and so are his parents but nothing is working. Hopefully its just a stage that will end VERY VERY soon.
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 01-10-2013, 10:24 AM
daycarediva's Avatar
daycarediva daycarediva is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 11,539
Default

I have a 3.5 yo like this. He will stand behind the swing, scream "OUCH Miss. ****** the swing is HITTTING ME. OUCH!" If I tell him to move, he looks confused. I have to physically move him.

Today a dcb was pushing a car around the carpet (it has roads on it) and dcb stood in the way. Other dcb was ASKING him to please move *ram car* please MOVE *ram car* and dcb started crying at the second ram, JOHN IS HURTING ME WITH THE CAR!

I just shake my head. He also never looks up when running. really, looks at his feet.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 01-10-2013, 10:25 AM
countrymom's Avatar
countrymom countrymom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: ontario canada
Posts: 4,756
Default

I never understood this concept. Why don't they just move????
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 01-10-2013, 10:48 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by countrymom View Post
I never understood this concept. Why don't they just move????
that's what i was thinking. I think the better question is, why doesn't she stop hitting? I'm really sorry and don't want to sound like a b****, but why are you blaming the victim? I had to laugh about your slide example though. My kids do that too. It's like dominos bwahaha
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 01-10-2013, 11:15 AM
cheerfuldom's Avatar
cheerfuldom cheerfuldom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 7,414
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
that's what i was thinking. I think the better question is, why doesn't she stop hitting? I'm really sorry and don't want to sound like a b****, but why are you blaming the victim? I had to laugh about your slide example though. My kids do that too. It's like dominos bwahaha
yeah.....that does sound witchy, not going to lie.

I am not blaming the victim but I figured someone was going to be rude and imply that. I am addressing the behavior as best as possible but like my post said, the kids that dont move from the hitting are the same kids that dont move away from other similar situations. so even when the hitting is overcome, there will be something else going on where these kids still dont watch for themselves.
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 01-10-2013, 11:21 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom View Post
yeah.....that does sound witchy, not going to lie.

I am not blaming the victim but I figured someone was going to be rude and imply that. I am addressing the behavior as best as possible but like my post said, the kids that dont move from the hitting are the same kids that dont move away from other similar situations. so even when the hitting is overcome, there will be something else going on where these kids still dont watch for themselves.
Well, guess I misinterpreted your comments then because all I was reading was why didn't the person that was being hit do this or that instead of why doesn't a child stop hitting. Guess I was wrong. I have had kids that hit and kids that just stand there and take it until they have enough and clock the hitter. That pretty much stops it right then and there.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 01-10-2013, 11:23 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

You said that these kids are a year older than your dd, maybe they feel it's wrong to swat at someone younger than them? Maybe they're just surprised. who knows. do they hit at all?
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 01-10-2013, 11:37 AM
bunnyslippers's Avatar
bunnyslippers bunnyslippers is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 981
Default

I have the same issue here. My own 2.5 year old is in a "give me space" and "leave me alone" phase. For some unknown reason, this makes the two little girls I have, same age give or take a few months, stay around him, follow him around, touch him, etc. Often times, he ends up whacking them. I obviously give him consequiences for hitting...HOWEVER, there are times I seriously can't blame him for hitting them! They just push his buttons, then cry when he retaliates. Honestly, they have it coming a lot of the time. If they would just listen and leave him alone....but, no, that would make sense.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 01-10-2013, 11:42 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

I think it has to be hard for kids that age to figure out why all of these other kids are in their house using up their space ya know? That has to be frustrating.

Cheerfuldom is this a behavior a new one for your dd? Have you been doing daycare since she was born?
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 01-10-2013, 12:40 PM
youretooloud's Avatar
youretooloud youretooloud is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: The desert.
Posts: 1,956
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
that's what i was thinking. I think the better question is, why doesn't she stop hitting? I'm really sorry and don't want to sound like a b****, but why are you blaming the victim? I had to laugh about your slide example though. My kids do that too. It's like dominos bwahaha

We can't do it all... sometimes, we need the kids to help. I teach the kids to use an "Angry voice" and say "NO!" or "STOP!". I don't want them to use a whimpy voice while saying "Sto-op ittt... I don't liiike that.." Seriously, the perpetual victim is not going to get anything done...so, I want them to learn to assert themselves like they mean it.

The only kids who get hit over and over in my house are the ones who choose to use a whiny voice when they say it. They might as well be saying "Keep hitting me because I have no power to stop it".

Also, this child's arms are like 12 inches long...it doesn't hurt...there's no need to cry. Just say "NO".
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 01-10-2013, 12:46 PM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by youretooloud View Post
We can't do it all... sometimes, we need the kids to help. I teach the kids to use an "Angry voice" and say "NO!" or "STOP!". I don't want them to use a whimpy voice while saying "Sto-op ittt... I don't liiike that.." Seriously, the perpetual victim is not going to get anything done...so, I want them to learn to assert themselves like they mean it.

The only kids who get hit over and over in my house are the ones who choose to use a whiny voice when they say it. They might as well be saying "Keep hitting me because I have no power to stop it".

Also, this child's arms are like 12 inches long...it doesn't hurt...there's no need to cry. Just say "NO".

Well that's classic because they are somewhat weaker than the kid hitting. The kid hitting is not going to pick someone that's more aggressive than them because they know they will get their diaper kicked. Kids are very smart.

Actually I shouldn't say they're weaker necessarily but they're just not a child that hits. Doesn't make them weaker I guess.
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 01-10-2013, 12:49 PM
youretooloud's Avatar
youretooloud youretooloud is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: The desert.
Posts: 1,956
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
Well that's classic because they are somewhat weaker than the kid hitting. The kid hitting is not going to pick someone that's more aggressive than them because they know they will get their diaper kicked. Kids are very smart.

Actually I shouldn't say they're weaker necessarily but they're just not a child that hits. Doesn't make them weaker I guess.
But, these kids have known each other their whole lives, so they know it's OK to use an assertive voice. (It's not OK to hit back, but they don't ever do that)

I have had the occasional biter, and I would never dream of asking the kids to handle that on their own....but, I will coach a child to use a big voice when the babies are hitting them.

Why do only toddlers hit like that? It's like they have a switch that clicks on at 14 months, where they just walk around reaching up to hit bigger kids for no reason.
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 01-10-2013, 01:02 PM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by youretooloud View Post
But, these kids have known each other their whole lives, so they know it's OK to use an assertive voice. (It's not OK to hit back, but they don't ever do that)

I have had the occasional biter, and I would never dream of asking the kids to handle that on their own....but, I will coach a child to use a big voice when the babies are hitting them.

Why do only toddlers hit like that? It's like they have a switch that clicks on at 14 months, where they just walk around reaching up to hit bigger kids for no reason.
I am very lucky, I've never had a biter (knock on wood). I don't know why they hit like that. I kinda get it when it's the child that actually lives in the home like cheerfuldom's. I think that they get threatened because these kids are infringing on their "space" ya know? Doesn't make it right, but like I said initially the question is why is she doing that not so much why are the kids putting up with it. Has anything changed in the environment like are the kids sleeping in a different area than before, are they playing in or with toys that they didn't before? Or is she just being a normal toddler and hitting. I have a 20 month old boy that is fine all day and as soon as mom walks in he slaps her in teh face. I don't get that either. You wonder what is going on in their little heads.
Reply With Quote
  #16  
Old 01-10-2013, 08:03 PM
cheerfuldom's Avatar
cheerfuldom cheerfuldom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 7,414
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
You said that these kids are a year older than your dd, maybe they feel it's wrong to swat at someone younger than them? Maybe they're just surprised. who knows. do they hit at all?
my older kids here have gone thru hitting at younger ages but the 20 month old is the only one that is currently having an issue with it. I think part of the problem is that my middle bio. kids are here all day (20 months and 3.5 years old) and they do rough house a bit being siblings. Its hard because that behavior is not so bad when it is just our family at home and they are tickling each other and running around and swatting at each other in a playful way but now the 20 month old is getting wild on her own and directing it to the daycare kids. so I am addressing the behavior all day as best as possible. I dont personally mind a little rough housing between my own kids but as far as the daycare is concerned, I have to make sure that my own kids are acting appropriate and that means working on things all day, not just having some rules during daycare and some rules after hours. The toddler is not going to understand that she can only climb on sister after 530! LOL
Reply With Quote
  #17  
Old 01-10-2013, 08:07 PM
cheerfuldom's Avatar
cheerfuldom cheerfuldom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 7,414
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by youretooloud View Post
We can't do it all... sometimes, we need the kids to help. I teach the kids to use an "Angry voice" and say "NO!" or "STOP!". I don't want them to use a whimpy voice while saying "Sto-op ittt... I don't liiike that.." Seriously, the perpetual victim is not going to get anything done...so, I want them to learn to assert themselves like they mean it.

The only kids who get hit over and over in my house are the ones who choose to use a whiny voice when they say it. They might as well be saying "Keep hitting me because I have no power to stop it".

Also, this child's arms are like 12 inches long...it doesn't hurt...there's no need to cry. Just say "NO".
yes, we are working on the same thing! my two "victims" are very whiney about it, if they say anything. we are working on a low tone voice and using our big girl words "NO (kids name)! Do not hit me! I dont like that!" The toddler DOES listen to the kids that tell her to stop. We are working on the same voice for other things too. Instead of crying at the table and making me guess what they want, they need to calm down and ask in a clear way "Ms. X, I need some more water please"
Reply With Quote
  #18  
Old 01-10-2013, 08:10 PM
cheerfuldom's Avatar
cheerfuldom cheerfuldom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 7,414
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
I am very lucky, I've never had a biter (knock on wood). I don't know why they hit like that. I kinda get it when it's the child that actually lives in the home like cheerfuldom's. I think that they get threatened because these kids are infringing on their "space" ya know? Doesn't make it right, but like I said initially the question is why is she doing that not so much why are the kids putting up with it. Has anything changed in the environment like are the kids sleeping in a different area than before, are they playing in or with toys that they didn't before? Or is she just being a normal toddler and hitting. I have a 20 month old boy that is fine all day and as soon as mom walks in he slaps her in teh face. I don't get that either. You wonder what is going on in their little heads.
the only thing that has changed is what i mentioned....the 20 month old is finally walking. she can get to the big kids and get into their games and be a little pain now. I am not justifying her actions at all. Its not okay and her Dad and I have both been all over that sort of thing. We dont want her thinking that hitting and being pesky is okay!
Reply With Quote
  #19  
Old 01-10-2013, 08:24 PM
EchoMom's Avatar
EchoMom EchoMom is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Ohio
Posts: 728
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
Well, guess I misinterpreted your comments then because all I was reading was why didn't the person that was being hit do this or that instead of why doesn't a child stop hitting. Guess I was wrong. I have had kids that hit and kids that just stand there and take it until they have enough and clock the hitter. That pretty much stops it right then and there.
I don't think she was writing a post about "Those stupid kids deserve to be hit because they're too dumb to move!" It wasn't a post about hitting behavior, it's a post about why do the little kids not have the common sense to move? It's funny, it really is in a twisted sort of way (I'm saying I'M twisted because it IS funny...). That's why she said LOL in her title, it was a lighthearted post.

Which OP I appreciate and I laughed out loud LOL when I read your title and post. It's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO true and I'm glad to know I'm not the only one!

I have a 2 year old that will just SCREAM, SHRIEK, and WHINE when my 16 mo. DS takes a toy from her. He's just learning, so while yes I redirect him, he doesn't know better yet, and she's older so I'll say DCG tell him NO. DCG, MOVE. DCG GET UP. LOL My DS will wrestle kids older than him, 2 years, 3 years old! Some love it, some WHINE and I just say MOVE!

But you're right... OMG they just SIT THERE!!! Man, what are they 2?! LOL Oh yeah... They are. LOL
Reply With Quote
  #20  
Old 01-10-2013, 08:42 PM
cheerfuldom's Avatar
cheerfuldom cheerfuldom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 7,414
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by EchoMom View Post
I don't think she was writing a post about "Those stupid kids deserve to be hit because they're too dumb to move!" It wasn't a post about hitting behavior, it's a post about why do the little kids not have the common sense to move? It's funny, it really is in a twisted sort of way (I'm saying I'M twisted because it IS funny...). That's why she said LOL in her title, it was a lighthearted post.

Which OP I appreciate and I laughed out loud LOL when I read your title and post. It's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO true and I'm glad to know I'm not the only one!

I have a 2 year old that will just SCREAM, SHRIEK, and WHINE when my 16 mo. DS takes a toy from her. He's just learning, so while yes I redirect him, he doesn't know better yet, and she's older so I'll say DCG tell him NO. DCG, MOVE. DCG GET UP. LOL My DS will wrestle kids older than him, 2 years, 3 years old! Some love it, some WHINE and I just say MOVE!

But you're right... OMG they just SIT THERE!!! Man, what are they 2?! LOL Oh yeah... They are. LOL
funny! yes, it was a light hearted vent. although I am always up to ideas. It does seem like our own kids are quite confident and ready to get in there with the big kids a lot sooner than other kids out there.

the other thing is that one of the whiners in this story is 3.5! and she is almost the biggest kid here. she is fully capable of scooting back 6 inches and then calling for help or using her big girl words and asserting herself a bit. that is my frustration....that the other kids wont at least say something or ask for help!
Reply With Quote
  #21  
Old 01-11-2013, 03:26 AM
coolconfidentme's Avatar
coolconfidentme coolconfidentme is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Indiana
Posts: 1,536
Default

@lovemykidstoo..., I think we are "like" minds! Everything thing you sad I was saying in my head & then read your posts, lol.
Reply With Quote
  #22  
Old 01-11-2013, 04:12 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom View Post
the only thing that has changed is what i mentioned....the 20 month old is finally walking. she can get to the big kids and get into their games and be a little pain now. I am not justifying her actions at all. Its not okay and her Dad and I have both been all over that sort of thing. We dont want her thinking that hitting and being pesky is okay!
That's funny"she's being a little pain" LOL! Wonder if she was thinking and planning before she was more mobile I'm sure you are working with her on it and it does take time. sometimes when i've had kids that hit the parents will ask why they are doing it and I said because they can and because they're toddlers it's what they do. i still laugh when i'm picturing you talking about the pileup on the slide though. mine do the same dang thing and i just shake my head everytime!!
Reply With Quote
  #23  
Old 01-11-2013, 04:13 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom View Post
funny! yes, it was a light hearted vent. although I am always up to ideas. It does seem like our own kids are quite confident and ready to get in there with the big kids a lot sooner than other kids out there.

the other thing is that one of the whiners in this story is 3.5! and she is almost the biggest kid here. she is fully capable of scooting back 6 inches and then calling for help or using her big girl words and asserting herself a bit. that is my frustration....that the other kids wont at least say something or ask for help!
yea 3 .5 she should be definately figureing it out and also realizing that your daughter is younger and hasn't learned yet that that is not okay. that's what i tell my bigger kids that so and so is younger and is just learning that that is not okay.
Reply With Quote
  #24  
Old 01-11-2013, 04:14 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by coolconfidentme View Post
@lovemykidstoo..., I think we are "like" minds! Everything thing you sad I was saying in my head & then read your posts, lol.
lol that's funny! maybe you hijacked my password and are posting under my name lmao!
Reply With Quote
  #25  
Old 01-11-2013, 05:02 AM
countrymom's Avatar
countrymom countrymom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: ontario canada
Posts: 4,756
Default

acually the post about teaching kids to use their voice is really good. Thats what I do here. I want the kids to tell them to stop, I want them to use their voice. This is really important to establish in children because it will help them when they are older.

I've had kids just stand their and cry and when I tell them to use their voice and shout stop, the trouble maker is so shocked that they usually stop.
Reply With Quote
  #26  
Old 01-11-2013, 05:10 AM
SquirrellyMama's Avatar
SquirrellyMama SquirrellyMama is offline
New Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Iowa
Posts: 554
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo View Post
Well that's classic because they are somewhat weaker than the kid hitting. The kid hitting is not going to pick someone that's more aggressive than them because they know they will get their diaper kicked. Kids are very smart.

Actually I shouldn't say they're weaker necessarily but they're just not a child that hits. Doesn't make them weaker I guess.
I think this can be classic behavior from adults too. There are some people that will just stay and take the abuse. I'm not talking necessarily about physical abuse. I think there are personality types out there that will take the abuse and not move and keep getting hurt. I have a relative like this.

K
__________________
Homeschooling Mama to:

dd12
ds 10
dd 8
Reply With Quote
  #27  
Old 01-11-2013, 05:19 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SquirrellyMama View Post
I think this can be classic behavior from adults too. There are some people that will just stay and take the abuse. I'm not talking necessarily about physical abuse. I think there are personality types out there that will take the abuse and not move and keep getting hurt. I have a relative like this.

K
very very true
Reply With Quote
  #28  
Old 01-11-2013, 07:25 AM
lovemykidstoo's Avatar
lovemykidstoo lovemykidstoo is online now
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: U.S.
Posts: 4,688
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom View Post
my older kids here have gone thru hitting at younger ages but the 20 month old is the only one that is currently having an issue with it. I think part of the problem is that my middle bio. kids are here all day (20 months and 3.5 years old) and they do rough house a bit being siblings. Its hard because that behavior is not so bad when it is just our family at home and they are tickling each other and running around and swatting at each other in a playful way but now the 20 month old is getting wild on her own and directing it to the daycare kids. so I am addressing the behavior all day as best as possible. I dont personally mind a little rough housing between my own kids but as far as the daycare is concerned, I have to make sure that my own kids are acting appropriate and that means working on things all day, not just having some rules during daycare and some rules after hours. The toddler is not going to understand that she can only climb on sister after 530! LOL
I just noticed this post from last night. YOu're so right, she's not going to get that she can't do something during the day and do it after 5:30. That's a hard one!!
Reply With Quote
  #29  
Old 01-11-2013, 10:33 AM
Blackcat31's Avatar
Blackcat31 Blackcat31 is offline
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 19,716
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by SquirrellyMama View Post
I think this can be classic behavior from adults too.
I was thinking the same thing.....not about abuse but in regards to why some providers vent about things and I read the posts and think to myself..."Why are they allowing that to happen" or "Why don't they just say no?"

I know and I understand that it isn't always that easy for some and not everyone has a good backbone or can financially afford to just term a kid when things go bad but I see/read plenty of posts where providers are looking for solutions to issues that aren't that huge of a deal if they just said "no."

So I suppose that the kids getting hit don't just move for the same reason that some providers don't just say no to something.
Reply With Quote
  #30  
Old 01-11-2013, 10:52 AM
DayCareDiva30's Avatar
DayCareDiva30 DayCareDiva30 is offline
New Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 36
Default

I have a 23mo dcb that I call the Kingpin of the day care. He goes around bopping the other kids and taking their toys and their all older than he his. He even does this to my SA kiddos and no one ever says anything to him. They all just let him have his way. Now I'm starting to see the same behavior in my 14mo little cousin that I watch (I call him the 2nd lieutenant). It just amazes me that the youngest two in day care and they have the most control.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Toilet Trained to Move into the 3 Year Old Room? Cindy Parents and Guardians Forum 28 12-11-2014 04:23 AM
Today's The Day For The Move.... Countrygal Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 9 07-09-2012 10:28 AM
My Holidays Don’t Work For A DC Family mrsp'slilpeeps Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 24 05-02-2012 09:24 AM
Lunch Time Dilemma...Move It Or Not? SilverSabre25 Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 6 01-27-2011 08:55 AM
Contract Breach because of a Move? missaimee Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 30 09-07-2009 11:20 AM


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:10 PM.



Daycare.com         Find A Daycare         List Your Daycare         Toys & Products                 About Us

Daycare.com
Please read our Disclaimer before continuing.

Topics pertain mainly to the following States:

Alabama Alaska Arizona Arkansas California Colorado Connecticut Delaware District of Columbia Florida Georgia Hawaii Idaho Illinois Indiana Iowa Kansas Kentucky Louisiana Maine Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey New Mexico New York North Carolina North Dakota Ohio Oklahoma Oregon Pennsylvania Rhode Island South Carolina South Dakota Tennessee Texas Utah Vermont Virginia Washington West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming