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Francine 06:44 PM 03-22-2015
What do you think about daycare kids hugging and kissing each other and you when saying goodbye? I've never had it be an issue until this current group of kids.
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Cozy_Kids_Childcare 03:02 AM 03-23-2015
Originally Posted by Francine:
What do you think about daycare kids hugging and kissing each other and you when saying goodbye? I've never had it be an issue until this current group of kids.
I just had this happen for the first time last week. I wasn't aure how to handle it either at first. I think from now on they can hug but we keep our lips to ourselves. They are both 2 so they don't understand.
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AuntTami 03:42 AM 03-23-2015
Originally Posted by Cozy_Kids_Childcare:
I just had this happen for the first time last week. I wasn't aure how to handle it either at first. I think from now on they can hug but we keep our lips to ourselves. They are both 2 so they don't understand.
We hug our friends goodbye as parents are pulling into the driveway. We don't kiss though, just hugs. I can see the driveway from the living room so as they're oulling in, kids are saying goodbye. Then they get carried to the front door or walked, depending on their age, and they get a final hug and kiss on the cheek or forehead from me and they're handed off!
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Francine 04:50 AM 03-23-2015
I have been doing daycare for 20 years and this is the first group that I've had where this has come up. All of my kids have been here since birth except for one 2 1/2 year old. When she first started she wanted to hug everybody and kiss them on the lips, after the second day of this I had a talk with her about how it's okay to hug our friends goodbye but we should save our kisses for our family. As if we don't have enough germs spread around, I don't need a bunch of two year olds kissing each other LOL Not only that but she wants everybody to come to the door with her to do all of this hugging. I really try to keep an eye out for her pick up so that I can get HER right to the door.
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Gemma 04:54 AM 03-23-2015
My group is 3yrs and under, they usually hug and kiss me, never each other.
When I had SA kids, I allowed one quick hug and if they really wanted to kiss, it had to be a quick kiss on the cheek.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 05:49 AM 03-23-2015
I only allow hugs with me because I won't wrestle or hurt them (or give them lice). They can give each other high fives.
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LindseyA 06:06 AM 03-23-2015
In our group, we hug goodbye, or high fives/knuckles to the SA kids who are too cool for hugs (2 nine year olds) haha! I've never had any kids that are very "kissy kissy".
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Controlled Chaos 06:35 AM 03-23-2015
Something I do is kiss my pointer finger than "kiss" them on the nose or cheek with it. The older kids have started doing it to the smaller ones. It's adorable.
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Puddleduck 07:23 AM 03-23-2015
My first year of doing child care I had brothers who had herpes. You wouldn't know unless you saw them during an outbreak. No kissing at daycare. Ever. Not even kissing me.
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mommiebookworm 07:25 AM 03-23-2015
I have a very affectionate group too! I finally had to say no kissing. Because, one little guy was still kissing on the mouth.
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Unregistered 07:39 AM 03-23-2015
This may sound really cynical, but my last chronic hugger was using it as a stall and domination technique at pick-up time. He would drive the other kids crazy with his aggression and screaming all day, but want to hug all of them before he left. His parents ate it up. The other kids would grimace or try to escape, resulting in his parents thinking that they had spawned a mini-Ghandi and the other kids (including mine) had issues. I just started handing him off at the door.
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Blackcat31 08:04 AM 03-23-2015
I don't normally allow this type of thing.
It's not conducive to my set up and it's unnecessary and in most cases, like previous poster said and is nothing more than a stall tactic or an opportunity to put on a "show" for mom/dad.

When it's time to go, wave bye to your friends and go. No need to be hugging and kissing anyone goodbye......ESPECIALLY this time of year with all the colds and viruses going around.
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KIDZRMYBIZ 08:13 AM 03-23-2015
This happens from time to time here. I think it is a stall tactic to going home, as the child attempts to go from DCM/DCD to another child for a hug good-bye half a dozen times at pick-up. Call me cynical, too, but it doesn't seem like a sincere good-bye, but more of a game to see how many times they can do it before DCM/DCD runs out of patience. Often, they will get a little goofy with it, too, and turn it into a squeezing match. Of course I would never allow something like that to happen any other time of the day, and pick-up is no different.

I nipped it in the bud by prepping the DCKs before pick-ups one day, saying we weren't going to hug good-bye anymore. They could wave only to their friends once mommy or daddy was here. Then, when the parents were here, I stopped the DCKs in their tracks when they tried, and announced loudly and cheerfully, "Remember, we are not going to hug anymore? A few of you have an icky cold, and we are trying not to spread it. Thank you for following directions. Wave and say good-bye to your friends!"

And that was that.
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spinnymarie 09:37 AM 03-23-2015
Our set-up means it takes a moment for mom/dad to get all the way inside, so hugs at that time are fine. Kisses are for family.
Time-stall hugs are ended by me, and kids are 'helped' out. They don't like that though
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Starburst 10:10 AM 03-23-2015
At an FCC I used to work at one of the parents would tell their kids to hug all their friends and the teachers good bye.
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kendallina 11:31 AM 03-23-2015
We hug here, no kisses. Sometimes I have a young 3-year old (the youngest age that I take) and it takes them a couple of weeks before they remember that we don't kiss here. I just say, "save kisses for mom and dad!"
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WImom 05:29 PM 03-24-2015
We always say "kisses are for family, hugs are for friends" it works well. Most of my kids give hugs when they leave. If a friend doesn't want one they say "no thank you." I only give hugs if they ask first.
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renodeb 12:36 PM 03-25-2015
I had one little boy who wanted to hug and kiss the others each day and it turned into an annoying wrestling match because the hug turned into a way to start playing. I will say I don't encourage it but I don't discourage it either. Because I have mostly boys it's better if it's held to a minimum.
Deb
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Blackcat31 12:41 PM 03-25-2015
One of my DCK's was playing in the yard yesterday when one of my DCM's (not theirs) showed up.

DCK asked mom if she wanted a hug.

At least DCK asked....
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