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Michael 02:20 PM 09-28-2011
I guess I can start this one since the Venting Thread Was Deleted!

It happens sometimes. I did it once on the Positive Thread and it was our biggest thread!

No problem. So let's start this one up again since there were lots of vent/ors in the past.
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Kaddidle Care 02:37 PM 09-28-2011
Oh boy!

Hmm let's see. Today I was hit 3 times and threatened with a rather large block. (To which I said "Don't You DARE!") All by the same child.

Where do these kids come from?

Thankfully my co-worker came to my rescue (she has been hit by same child as well).

I went home and had a banana split. If this kid keeps it up I'm going to be as big as a house!
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Blackcat31 03:18 PM 09-28-2011
Well, my day started out with the best intentions. I've been really motivated lately to do some major cleaning, sorting and ditching of un-needed or bothersome toys and stuff. It is only Wednesday and I am feeling really good about my progress.

Then somehow, my over zealousness got ahead of my brain....

But tomorrow is a new day and since I am an eternal optimist, it now looks as though child care providers do not really complain or vent that much.
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sharlan 03:48 PM 09-28-2011
My 8 yo is melting because he got hit by a wiffle ball.

I asked how bad it hurt. His response, "I don't know how bad it hurts." "Ok, should we call an ambulance?" "Noooooooooo." "Ok, you'll live, go play."
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SilverSabre25 06:39 AM 09-29-2011
Paraphrase of a convo with a dcd last night...

Him: "We're working really, really hard on potty training her. Are you able to help at all with that?" [note: this has been ongoing since February and I do help, everyday, putting her on the potty, many times]
Me: "Yes, I can, I have been--I put her on the potty everytime we have potty breaks which is pretty much every major transition, so a lot. I've also been starting to brainstorm some other ideas to help her here--"
Him: "Well, we tried her in underwear at home yesterday and it didn't go so well."
Me: "For sanitary reasons, I need to have her in something absorbant until she's doing well; you could try undies under the pull-up, or I have some cloth training pants I've been thinking of trying. I cloth diaper DS so it's no trouble."
Him: "At home she gets jelly beans for peeing and a cookie for pooping in the potty!"
Me: [resisting urge to slam my head into the nearby wall] "Oh! Ok, well bring me some of those and I can continue that here!"
Him: "Okay, We'll do that."

Guess what didn't show up with dcg today...;;headdesk:: I think I'm going to buy my own this weekend, daggone it, and start a sticker chart with her. And the cloth pants too. Anything to get them off my back--she's only here three days a week and I'm starting to feel like I'm being blamed for her not being trained yet! She's the one with NO readiness signs AT ALL.
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MommyMuffin 09:29 AM 09-29-2011
My dcks are just crazy today and I am so sad. I hate it when they all misbehave all day, it makes my day so hard.
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Ladybutterfly 10:07 AM 08-17-2020
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
Paraphrase of a convo with a dcd last night...

Him: "We're working really, really hard on potty training her. Are you able to help at all with that?" [note: this has been ongoing since February and I do help, everyday, putting her on the potty, many times]
Me: "Yes, I can, I have been--I put her on the potty everytime we have potty breaks which is pretty much every major transition, so a lot. I've also been starting to brainstorm some other ideas to help her here--"
Him: "Well, we tried her in underwear at home yesterday and it didn't go so well."
Me: "For sanitary reasons, I need to have her in something absorbant until she's doing well; you could try undies under the pull-up, or I have some cloth training pants I've been thinking of trying. I cloth diaper DS so it's no trouble."
Him: "At home she gets jelly beans for peeing and a cookie for pooping in the potty!"
Me: [resisting urge to slam my head into the nearby wall] "Oh! Ok, well bring me some of those and I can continue that here!"
Him: "Okay, We'll do that."

Guess what didn't show up with dcg today...;;headdesk:: I think I'm going to buy my own this weekend, daggone it, and start a sticker chart with her. And the cloth pants too. Anything to get them off my back--she's only here three days a week and I'm starting to feel like I'm being blamed for her not being trained yet! She's the one with NO readiness signs AT ALL.
I'm so sorry. I feel ya. I am struggling with this same thing. DCM is following the book called "oh crap" which is a method to have several days at home without any pants on at all and give them a crash course in potty training. The idea is they feel it running down their legs and are better about to comprehend what's going on. I allowed the DCG to come back after she was finding success at home with this method and not having accidents. So she came back wearing a long dress & no underwear. She had so many accidents last week I almost lost my mind! I see now that it was my mistake to let her come back until she successfully wore underwear at home and still didn't have any accidents before she came to play with friends and had the added distractions. Plus at home her mom is asking her a thousand times a day if she needs to go and just putting her on the potty on her own accord. Here she has to go potty at each of our transition times but then several times pooped ON MY FLOOR! 5 minutes after she had just peed in the potty.

What would you do? Also this same dcg is a terrible nuisance to others, hits others often, and doesn't nap well. About to let her go.
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tehck_1013 10:47 PM 09-23-2015
So the grandmother of my dck's aged 2 and 7 picked up today. She was collecting their stuff and turned to ask me "No car seats?" I said "Uh, no, mom didn't leave them today." So she said "Okayyy.... I guess I'll be calling mom to see what the heck she wants me to do." and turns to leave, I said I have an extra one somewhere in the garage at least for little one... She said no it's okay I'll just call mom. So I thought maybe she would go to her car and then call and have her come by. But the next thing I know she's driving away! What the heck! The baby is only two years old and gma lives at least 15 to 20 minutes away.... If I had known she was gonna just drive away I would have kept them until mom got off work Unbelievable.
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NillaWafers 01:43 PM 09-25-2015
My new 2yr old DCG has finally settled in, doesn't cry at drop off anymore or spend her entire day hanging out by the door. That's nice, however, she's decided that the best way to get her way is to break down in sobs crying "mama" for every correction I give her.

Here are the things she's sobbed "mama" for more than 5 minutes about:

I put her in timeout for putting her entire hand in butter on the counter (which she put in her mouth!! YUCK!)
For breaking books on my bookcase and scentsy bars
I took away her food that took 45 minutes for her to eat
I asked her to lay down on her mat
I took away the water bottle she had more than 5 minutes to drink from (at naptime no less)
I lectured her for stealing from the plates I was preparing for lunch
I told her not to destroy my board books
Anytime I take away a toy she stole from another kid
Telling her to go play while outside (she just wants to sit next to me)

There's more but I don't feel like writing it all. I know this is all "testing boundaries" and seeing how much I'll let her get away with (not much) but damn is it annoying and I hope she moves on from it soon.
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childcaremom 01:56 PM 09-25-2015
This is my second vent about this dcg today

She has only been here 3 weeks and I've sent her home sick twice already. She came back today and mom told me she was fine yesterday. I call bs.

I was clear when I sent her home that she needed to have a full day at home happy and normal routine, eating, playing normally. Mom insisted that she had when she dropped her off.

She was miserable this morning. I put her down for an early nap and she woke up miserable. The last hour was unbearable.

Ugh. TGIF!
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Miss A 02:30 PM 09-28-2015
Mondays are so rough. I have a 15MO DCB who will not nap on Mondays! He shouts, laughs, calls out to others, and cries when I lay him down. Today was made worse by dad not bringing him until after 10:30, when his usual drop off is 7:15. Then, dad u formed me that he was going back home, as he had the day off from work. Seriously? Ugh.
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busdriver 04:23 PM 09-10-2017
Haha you should have kicked the child out. I have been hit threatened (even by owners brother when I went through workmans comp) by children but at the overcrowded center I am at the only time they kick kids out like this were when they hit the millionaire owner. I even watch her get kicked by a kid who was 302'd and let it happen after she rejected my help. She had no clue how to restrain a child.
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daycarediva 09:39 AM 09-11-2017
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Yes... mom and I have definitely become friends over the years. Not hang out together socially friends but stop by daycare and chill with me while on the playground kind of friends.

My DD and her oldest child stay in touch on social media. They are about 6-7 yrs apart in age but she babysat a lot for the family during her teen years

Great family! Mom started out as a teen mom and is now a married mom of 4 with a severe special needs child in the mix and is an intake counselor for a drug rehab agency. She's come a long way over the last 20 yrs..
I am sure you had a hand in her families success, BC. THIS is family child care.
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BumbleBee 10:18 AM 09-11-2017
Not a complete vent but sort of.

3 parents in tears this morning because morning drop off at school was rough. All have kindergartener's. I get it, I try to be sympathetic, but I also have kids to get breakfast for and supervise.
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Deemcs 11:24 AM 09-12-2018
Originally Posted by Kaddidle Care:
Oh boy!

Hmm let's see. Today I was hit 3 times and threatened with a rather large block. (To which I said "Don't You DARE!") All by the same child.

Where do these kids come from?

Thankfully my co-worker came to my rescue (she has been hit by same child as well).

I went home and had a banana split. If this kid keeps it up I'm going to be as big as a house!

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Cbear 03:20 PM 08-23-2020
Originally Posted by Kaddidle Care:
Oh boy!

Hmm let's see. Today I was hit 3 times and threatened with a rather large block. (To which I said "Don't You DARE!") All by the same child.

Where do these kids come from?

Thankfully my co-worker came to my rescue (she has been hit by same child as well).

I went home and had a banana split. If this kid keeps it up I'm going to be as big as a house!
What if you took a second to reflect to the child what he/she must be feeling at that moment "You seem very angry." ("Don't you dare" sounds like a challenge to me.) You'd be amazed at the changes in their actions when we change our reactions.
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Sunshine69 12:03 PM 08-24-2020
I was super annoyed today listening to daycare parents complain about the time they are going to have to miss from work if their child gets sent home from school with a cough/runny nose or fever. I get that folks don’t like to use their time off for stuff like that but, not having any of those benefits myself, makes it hard for me to sympathize.

These particular dcp’s have government jobs and earn a paid sick day each month in addition to their vacation and holiday time. I’ve had these families over 3 years and I’ve taken one sick day in three years.

One was saying that they hadn’t used vacation time to save for the time they’ll miss. I was scratching my head. Dc child was out just last month when the family was on vacation.

None of these families seem to acknowledge that I have not taken a vacation in over 3 years.

Sorry folks, it is a pandemic. We’re all having struggles. Sure would be nice if they knew who they were complaining in front of. Kinda like complaining how messy your house is in the presence of a homeless person. Sheesh! Take it somewhere else.
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DaveA 01:26 PM 08-24-2020
Trying really hard to avoid “short timers”. Had to really fight the urge to begin and end a conversation with a DCP that would have included an “and the horse you rode in on” moment from me. 3 more weeks. I can do this without snapping on a DCP. Maybe.
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Cat Herder 04:31 AM 08-25-2020
Originally Posted by DaveA:
Trying really hard to avoid “short timers”. Had to really fight the urge to begin and end a conversation with a DCP that would have included an “and the horse you rode in on” moment from me. 3 more weeks. I can do this without snapping on a DCP. Maybe.
You can do it.

I am fighting the same thing and I am only going on vacation.
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Sunshine44 12:02 PM 10-01-2011
I'm so depressed and overwhelmed right now. Between the daycare and life in general. Pray it gets better quickly.
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Unregistered 04:11 PM 10-11-2011
Originally Posted by Sunshine44:
I'm so depressed and overwhelmed right now. Between the daycare and life in general. Pray it gets better quickly.
I'll pray for you if you pray for me (MARSTELAC here...cannot find my password at the moment). Please don't be depressed. Somedays are really overwhelming but just get on here and vent away. Hugs to you....
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readingiskey 09:15 PM 08-20-2015
prayers to you <3
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Play Care 06:12 AM 08-21-2015
When I first bought the magnetic tot locks, I purchased two different brands to try out. I bought the one because it said it was easy to install, the other because it looked more durable.
Of course the "easy to install" ones broke almost immediately so today I am replacing them with the other locks. But I misplaced the directions. And DH's tool box is a disaster will drill bits everywhere. So I'm trying to YouTube a how to video but still need to figure out if the drill bit is the correct size - because it was just loosely floating in the tool box.

I will have two 16 months olds in a few weeks so this has to happen today.
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Play Care 06:16 AM 08-21-2015
And I kept being prompted to upgrade the laptop to Windows 10, and of course my laptop is acting up in the middle of the update
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Baby Beluga 08:23 AM 08-21-2015
Originally Posted by Play Care:
When I first bought the magnetic tot locks, I purchased two different brands to try out. I bought the one because it said it was easy to install, the other because it looked more durable.
Of course the "easy to install" ones broke almost immediately so today I am replacing them with the other locks. But I misplaced the directions. And DH's tool box is a disaster will drill bits everywhere. So I'm trying to YouTube a how to video but still need to figure out if the drill bit is the correct size - because it was just loosely floating in the tool box.

I will have two 16 months olds in a few weeks so this has to happen today.
Most drill bits have the size etched in on the bottom. It's usually in ittby bitty writing
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Play Care 10:16 AM 08-21-2015
Originally Posted by Baby Beluga:
Most drill bits have the size etched in on the bottom. It's usually in ittby bitty writing
Thanks! Not handy at all here

I finally did figure it out, but after a very embarrassing trip to the hardware store
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sahm2three 01:25 PM 10-03-2011
Ugh. So, no one will sleep today so we have kids screaming all over the place. NO ONE HAS SLEPT!!! I am so ready for this day to be over!!! I don't think daycares should be open on Mondays! LOL!
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MommyMuffin 10:28 AM 10-06-2011
DCB mom is on maternity leave, father took 3 weeks paternity leave. Well her leave is coming to an end and DCB has come EVERY DAY!!

Its not that I dont want him here but I dont understand why his mom with some time off of work wouldnt want to spend a day with him. I know she has a new baby...but seriously I started doing dc again when my newborn was 2 weeks old.

I just wish her last week she would say she was going to keep XX home one day to spend sometime with him. I dont get it!!!

When I brought DD to dc anytime that I wasnt running errands or working I was picking her up, even calling in sick to work when I missed her too much to send her to dc.

After reading the carrying thread...this boy fits
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Unregistered 10:52 AM 10-06-2011
I'm registered, but logged out cause pretty sure families can figure me out! I broke my little toe last nite and it hurts soooo bad. I went to urgent care and sat for 2 1/2 hours before been seen. Urgent care hours were over before I was seen, so now it's considered an ER visit It's really hard to keep up with a 1 year old when you can barely walk. Is it Friday yet?
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Nellie 08:48 PM 10-06-2011
SIL thinks she can pay when ever............what ever...........Any other kid it would have been bye, bye. Child was here an entire month before she desided she was going to pay. It has been another month and she made the comment I'll have to get to a bank soon and get you paid up(do you think). Oh she did sign a contract that I read to her and explained to her. I had to say something to get paid the first time and she made some comment like "Oh, you NEED money." My husband and I don't absolutly NEED my daycare income, but it is how we get ahead and have extra. She gets a invoice every week.............I can almost see if they were strapped for cash, but they aren't.
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momma2girls 06:23 AM 10-07-2011
Originally Posted by Nellie:
SIL thinks she can pay when ever............what ever...........Any other kid it would have been bye, bye. Child was here an entire month before she desided she was going to pay. It has been another month and she made the comment I'll have to get to a bank soon and get you paid up(do you think). Oh she did sign a contract that I read to her and explained to her. I had to say something to get paid the first time and she made some comment like "Oh, you NEED money." My husband and I don't absolutly NEED my daycare income, but it is how we get ahead and have extra. She gets a invoice every week.............I can almost see if they were strapped for cash, but they aren't.
Is there a contract that she signed?? Stick to your contract!! Write up a letter or tell her, she needs to pay every week, or late fees will be applied. BE STRONG!!!!
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Meyou 08:50 AM 10-07-2011
DCG has a rash and DCM sprayed her with lavender oil today in case it was from bug bites. The oil is suppose to deter them from biting?

Me <------- violently allergy to lavender so I feel like my head is going to pop off if my brain doesn't drain out of my sinus's first.

That all would be fine except DH's parents are coming tomorrow and I'm having a full blown allergy attack instead of cleaning my house.
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Springdaze 06:21 AM 10-07-2011
today a dcm says to me her husband notices my son had bumps on his arms. she said her son, who doesnt come to me anymore has a rash and they took him to the dr. I told her my son has bugbites that he scratches like crazy. just annoying that i have to defend myself and my child. she wasnt mad, but still! mind ya own!
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Unregistered 04:44 AM 10-10-2011
why do you walk in my house talking about "yea, daddys off today, but mommys not!" and how your other kid has cavities so only give this one 100% juice no hawaiian punch. -- Its not, its crystal light, sugar free. ---still, just juice. grrrrr!!!!!!!
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ckjm 10:26 PM 06-14-2012
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
why do you walk in my house talking about "yea, daddys off today, but mommys not!" and how your other kid has cavities so only give this one 100% juice no hawaiian punch. -- Its not, its crystal light, sugar free. ---still, just juice. grrrrr!!!!!!!
I've done in-home daycare for six years now have 3 boys of my own. My boys kept coming up with cavities even tho we were brushing regularly. The dentist asked what the boys usually drank. I said milk, water, & crystal light. I too felt that crystal light was much better to give your children. The dentist immediately corrected me & said that is a common misconception because it's sugar free, however, the acids in crystal light can be more harming to your teeth then letting your child drink koolaid or pop!! who would've EVER thought! I immediately quit the crystal light products! Doesn't this parent know that if their little one is coming up with cavities, milk & water are always the best thing for their teeth!!
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Toni's Tots 02:15 PM 10-18-2011
I am having one of those days, I am new to the whole daycare thing. I love kids which is why I decided to do this after my second son was born. I am having an issue however because I have my own three month old plus another 3 month old (they are only 1 day apart) that I am watching...the other baby wants to be held ALL THE TIME but I just don't have time to hold him that much plus I don't think it's really fair to my little guy since I don't hold him as much....what should I do!?
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Christina72684 02:20 PM 10-18-2011
I have a 7 month old daughter (she was 3months old when we opened) and we have my 3 month old nephew here. He cries all the time too! His mom doesn't want us to hold him too much because we will "spoil him." But on the flip side, babies need to be held and nurtured too. My daughter has been an angle (not to brag lol) and only cries if she's really hungry or really tired. Luckily I have an assistant who can take care of him or else I don't know what I'd do! It's still hard because we have a total of 12 kids and she can't just tend to him all day long, but it definitely helps!
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Toni's Tots 03:00 PM 10-18-2011
Yeah. I'm hoping that this doesn't burn me out because it's just me. He's a sweet little boy when he's happy but I just don't have enough arms to hold both.
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MarinaVanessa 06:22 PM 10-18-2011
Originally Posted by Christina72684:
I have a 7 month old daughter (she was 3months old when we opened) and we have my 3 month old nephew here. He cries all the time too! His mom doesn't want us to hold him too much because we will "spoil him." But on the flip side, babies need to be held and nurtured too. My daughter has been an angle (not to brag lol) and only cries if she's really hungry or really tired. Luckily I have an assistant who can take care of him or else I don't know what I'd do! It's still hard because we have a total of 12 kids and she can't just tend to him all day long, but it definitely helps!
You let her know that any good child development professional will tell you that there is NO WAY to spoil an infant that small. The last thing you need is for that baby to develop a complex or trust issues because the baby wants some snuggle time .
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mema 01:32 PM 10-19-2011
Is it Friday yet? Last week was a great week, so I should've known this week would be edgy.

DCB 15mon won't sleep and has been screaming for the last 2 days (hopefully just catching a cold or teething or something short lived).

DCB-A goes into to use bathroom before rest time. Comes out goes to his cot. DCB-B goes in bathroom, comes out and goes "I'm not going to use the bathroom." I replied that we all use the bathroom before rest. He asked if he could use the other one (no-MINE!). I walk in there and there is poop all over the toilet and toilet paper holder! WTH! I asked DCB-A (who's 5 btw) if there was anything he needed to tell me. Nope. I walk him to the bathroom and repeat the question. Still, nope. Really???? Can you not see that???
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Lil_Diddle 11:16 AM 08-10-2016
I had the same issue with my 2nd child as well, only they were three weeks apart. The other baby DEMANDED attention and wanted held all the time. Fortunately I was able to hire someone part time to just help a few of those busy hours. It was great and well worth the hit to the budget for those first few months. after 9 months when they were a little more mobile I went back to being on my own.
Originally Posted by Toni's Tots:
I am having one of those days, I am new to the whole daycare thing. I love kids which is why I decided to do this after my second son was born. I am having an issue however because I have my own three month old plus another 3 month old (they are only 1 day apart) that I am watching...the other baby wants to be held ALL THE TIME but I just don't have time to hold him that much plus I don't think it's really fair to my little guy since I don't hold him as much....what should I do!?

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Baby Beluga 08:36 AM 08-11-2016
3 years old poops in her pull up every.single.morning.

It is the smelliest, messiest poop ever.

I am so tired of changing her pull up. If you can TELL me you have pooped in your pull up, pooping IN the potty shouldn't be that hard.
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Annalee 10:22 AM 08-11-2016
From a church friend: "I need daycare recommendations. I want a daycare that has excellent security policies, doors locked, cameras, etc., also a daycare that will rock xxxx if he needs to go to sleep and one that won't just let xxxx sit there and bawl." I typed it just like she sent it excluding his name. I am NOT responding back to her! .
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NillaWafers 10:24 AM 08-11-2016
Originally Posted by Annalee:
From a church friend: "I need daycare recommendations. I want a daycare that has excellent security policies, doors locked, cameras, etc., also a daycare that will rock xxxx if he needs to go to sleep and one that won't just let xxxx sit there and bawl." I typed it just like she sent it excluding his name. I am NOT responding back to her! .
Uhh has she heard of a nanny? Cus that's what she wants lol.
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Blackcat31 10:27 AM 08-11-2016
Originally Posted by Annalee:
From a church friend: "I need daycare recommendations. I want a daycare that has excellent security policies, doors locked, cameras, etc., also a daycare that will rock xxxx if he needs to go to sleep and one that won't just let xxxx sit there and bawl." I typed it just like she sent it excluding his name. I am NOT responding back to her! .
Type back:

N A N N Y
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MunchkinWrangler 12:30 PM 08-11-2016
Originally Posted by Baby Beluga:
3 years old poops in her pull up every.single.morning.

It is the smelliest, messiest poop ever.

I am so tired of changing her pull up. If you can TELL me you have pooped in your pull up, pooping IN the potty shouldn't be that hard.
Ugh, I feel your pain. Every. Single. Day. God forbid I call it a diaper too!
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MunchkinWrangler 07:18 PM 08-11-2016
Well, second term in a week and a half. What gives?!? One termed before I could regarding my illness policy. Mom is in the medical field (fresh out of school, mind you) and thinks it's too strict. I am so happy licensing backed me up and even said that the HFM that I was excluding for was more than warranted and mom should be ashamed and know better to argue that. With all the horror stories about licensing lately, I have to truly say that my licensor was building me up and definitely calmed me down and made me feel better.

The second term I just got today. They were on a waiting list, unbeknownst to me of course, for a center and they got a call. They want their 18 MONTH OLD in a more academic environment. They also mentioned more kids and more adult interaction.
I start my preschool (supplementary, of course) program at 3 years old and sometimes I think that is too young.

Now, I am scrambling to fill 2 spots. Wish me luck, I have 2 interviews and currently going down the rabbit hole of crazy emails and inquiries.

I just need to take a deep breath. I will not let this ruin my trip this weekend with my ds. I am trying very hard to take the emotion out of it. The first term I was actively looking to replace anyway so I had a headstart but this one caught me by complete surprise.
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SilverSabre25 06:25 AM 10-20-2011
I'm exhausted this week. I can't seem to sleep much at night. I was up with DD for an hour at 3 AM after she had a nightmare and needed me to stay with her (she has a full size bed and I could have gone back to sleep except she kept wiggling and talking).

My cat is puking all over the place this morning, making for obnoxious clean-up chores. She's either mad and growling, or she's feeling miserable and moaning. Can't tell which. I don't even know if sick cats would make a moaning sound but that's sure what it sounds like.

I have a birthday party to prepare for on Sunday, which means cooking, cleaning, and baking a cake...which don't get me wrong I LOVE cake decorating...but it's time consuming and I'm a perfectionist and the kids in my family (including DD!) don't choose simple cakes very often.

It's been raining for two days and the kids are getting antsy, despite me having a bunch of gross-motor stuff available.

I have one little boy who thinks he's Lightning McQueen and for some reason this is involving hitting people with cars. My other dcb will be here soon and the two boys bounce energy off each other and make my head go kerplooey.

Someone's coming to see about the water in the naproom...and with a full-house of kids that will be interesting to say the least.

And did I mention that I'm exhausted?
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SilverSabre25 02:28 PM 10-23-2011
The dishwasher broke...on top of the rest of the stuff going on, the dishwasher broke today.

*sigh*

I hate doing dishes by hand...loathe it, actually. I dread it more than any other household chore.

I'm going to call a repair guy, but...it's an old dishwasher and if the part that's broken is more than about $10, it will make a lot more sense to just get a new one. SOON.

Rawr.
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Springdaze 04:37 AM 10-31-2011
I cant stand it when a child gets sick and the parents ask "has anyone else been sick?" I even had a dad get in a 2 yos face and say "your the one who got my kids sick!"
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sharlan 08:27 AM 10-31-2011
That father would have been gone from the premises.
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awestbrook713 09:03 AM 10-31-2011
school called and wants mom to pick up daughter who they think has pink eye, instead she calls to see if I want to take on the problem, nope sorry not for what I am getting paid which is another issue we need to discuss. Sick and tired of this mom, her rude daughter who says I want never please or thank you unless asked what is the nice thing to say.

DCG says to me the other day I wish you had chocolate. Mom gives her chocolate to go potty in the toilet. We don't get treats for going potty. Hope mom is ready to have a daughter in pullups for a long time.

What is wrong with parents!!!
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sharlan 01:38 PM 10-31-2011
I let my 8 yo pick out a pumpkin at the pumpkin patch last Tues. I was hoping that his dad would carve it with him. NOPE. The dad and his girlfriend each carved pumpkins last night but wouldn't let the 8 yo help.

It's been irritating me all day.
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Bookworm 07:08 PM 10-31-2011
I hate it when parents get mad because their child gets left behind for a field trip because mom/dad didn't feel like getting up to get little Susie to school at the right time. We give u that time for reason. Having to wait on the slackers used to constantly make us late but no more. I now have no problem leaving my cell # and directions at the center. Boy, that felt good.
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mia 10:02 AM 01-09-2014
Originally Posted by Springdaze:
I cant stand it when a child gets sick and the parents ask "has anyone else been sick?" I even had a dad get in a 2 yos face and say "your the one who got my kids sick!"
you and me both..... I have gone through this many times (not the dad thing thou - he would be asked to leave and not return) ....

I've had this client for 2 1/2 yrs.... have had no issues with any one before... this past Sept they put the oldest DCc in to a preschool for two times a week, I still have their youngest DCc, the first week after he started there and school started he came down with a cold... DCM asked me if anyone else was sick at the time there was not, a few days later there was another DCc that ended up sick.... the sickness went through like made ( Sept - Dec ) with colds, flu, pneumonia, bronchitis, 1/2 way through all this the same mom stated that, she hoped it was not going to be like last year where there was a lot of colds going around.... I replied, oh I hope not... So of course I did a lot more disinfecting of toys, and equipment in the daycare. After about a month into the sickness and cleaning... mom called and said she did not like how I was cleaning and that the product / supplies I used was not helping it was only making everyone sicker.... I told her I fallow the Daycare Protocol in cleaning.... and that I had been cleaning this way for over 20 years... but I would keep an open mind to any suggestion she may have... she then stated that she had none and did not know what to tell me... I continued to clean and disinfect all the daycare equipment. In the mean while she tells me that the preschool had another flu breakout going around ( here I am finally getting rid off all the illness errrr ). Two weeks went by then I received a e-mail from this mom again stating that they could not have their children exposed to the cleaning smells, and that the preschool her son goes to uses soap and water, bleach and water and when a outbreak occurs then they use a stronger chemical for that time frame. ( the exact same way I clean ) she failed to mention what the other chemical was that they use... I responded again stating that I have cleaned this way for over 20 years and have never had any issues or complaints, and that I fallow the exact daycare procedure on cleaning... I have not heard from her on this subject since.... I was clear of all illness over the Holidays... the children where back after being off for a few days to return to me sick with colds..... all 3 other DCc where fine until yesterday,

What do you all use to clean and disinfect your daycare equipment?????


Sorry for the rant....
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SilverSabre25 03:12 PM 11-03-2011
I'm going stir-crazy!!!!! Usually I get out of the house several evenings a week to at least run errands. I used to get to go to my sister's house for knitting once a week after the kids were in bed.

But not anymore...I've been stuck at the house since Monday and I'm going NUTS. Really I can hardly stand it.

This is the only downside to this new job of DH's. We have my mom's car available to us to use...but I don't like using it too much because I don't want to put *too* many miles on it before she gets it back (yes, for those of you who remember last year when my mom got sick, she's not living on her own yet or driving yet). We've needed a few groceries for two days now and I'm not going to get them until tomorrow. we have books overdue at the library and I can't get them back either.

Right now, tonight, even the mantra "big paycheck, big paycheck, big paycheck" isn't helping anything.

DH is off tomorrow morning (until 2 PM) and could stay with the dcks so I can get out of here but I'm not going to ask him to do that because he's been working 14 hour days all week. Okay, yeah, so have I, but that's not the point. He gets super grouchy when he stays with the kids and I don't want to deal with it. I don't even get to see him much right now...he comes home from work at 11 PM and I'm desperate for an adult to talk to and all he wants to do is watch ESPN and play on the computer...he doesn't want to talk much.

Sorry this is a total whine fest; I've just spent most of the past two days on the verge of tears, for no particular reason. Dread of the next 6.5 weeks I guess. I can't even tell him because the last time I tried to explain how I am feeling about this (yay money, boo being alone all.the.time), he just ignored *my* side and talked about how hard it is for him to not see the kids, etc. He didn't want to hear about how being WITH the kids is just as hard (harder....) than being without them. I'd give a lot for even one hour, one blissful quiet hour, without my kids. Without being fussed at by someone too small to reason with. I love my children, but I've been in their constant presence for going on 4 days, and the baby has been crazy fussy and clingy.

I just need to do a brain dump I guess.
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queenbee 05:33 PM 11-03-2011
Dear Parent,

Thank you for putting your 20lb, 18mo child in size 6 diapers. Your child woke up to a wonderfully wet bed where the extremely loose diaper hung and caused leaking. I can see where the diaper boxes can be confusing, I myself fail to sometimes read the ouside of the box where it CLEARLY labels the pounds that a child should be with different sizes. Even with a few requests to bring a smaller size, you keep fantastically ignoring me while continuing to bring in size 6 diapers.

Thankfully (and I think you'll really enjoy this part), I've collected a large amount of extra diapers in various sizes from left-overs from potty-trained children and donations and I will be replacing your diapers with my extra diapers that fit juuuuuuust riiiiiiiiight on your little one

This idea came to me as I was outside this evening washing a new pack'n'play your child peed on. I believe this will work out so great for the both of us - your child will be in diapers that fit and I will be replenshing my stash of diapers with a lot of size 6's which I was very low on.

Thank you so much for you "cooperation" and your donations of diapers.

Sincerely,
Ms Tee
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Meyou 03:54 AM 11-04-2011
Seriously....if you think you need to send your child with cough medicine and vaporub because they're sick then why are you surprised when I say, "They're sick" and that they need to stay home today???
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Cat Herder 06:43 AM 11-04-2011
Originally Posted by queenbee:
Dear Parent,

Thank you for putting your 20lb, 18mo child in size 6 diapers. Your child woke up to a wonderfully wet bed where the extremely loose diaper hung and caused leaking. I can see where the diaper boxes can be confusing, I myself fail to sometimes read the ouside of the box where it CLEARLY labels the pounds that a child should be with different sizes. Even with a few requests to bring a smaller size, you keep fantastically ignoring me while continuing to bring in size 6 diapers.

Thankfully (and I think you'll really enjoy this part), I've collected a large amount of extra diapers in various sizes from left-overs from potty-trained children and donations and I will be replacing your diapers with my extra diapers that fit juuuuuuust riiiiiiiiight on your little one

This idea came to me as I was outside this evening washing a new pack'n'play your child peed on. I believe this will work out so great for the both of us - your child will be in diapers that fit and I will be replenshing my stash of diapers with a lot of size 6's which I was very low on.

Thank you so much for you "cooperation" and your donations of diapers.

Sincerely,
Ms Tee
Love it.... I am currently dealing with chronic "Plumbers Crack", "Blowouts" and "Diaper Thongs".

Parent: "But I have 3 cases of them."...... Size 4; kid wears a 6

Maybe we could work out a trade.
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sally 09:25 AM 05-16-2013
I have a dcm that does the opposite. Her almost 3yr old is very big for his age and they keep putting him in size 4 diapers. He weighs 45 pounds. They also buy the really cheap brands and he wets right thru them. Too but with this small size his shirt and pants are always wet. I have asked them repeatedly to bring larger size diapers but they say that they can't find any. Hello you buy these at walmart I think you can find 5's or 6's too
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MsLaura529 08:19 AM 05-17-2013
I have a very young DCM (young as in, she is putting her baby in DC so that she can finish high school) ... says 9 month old infant is down to 1 nap a day, only drinking 1 bottle here (before his nap), and baby does a horrible job with eating baby food. I'm kind of at a loss on what to do with him. He's asleep now (cried himself to sleep on the floor), so this afternoon should be a huge blast :\
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Leigh 07:23 AM 05-25-2013
Originally Posted by sally:
I have a dcm that does the opposite. Her almost 3yr old is very big for his age and they keep putting him in size 4 diapers. He weighs 45 pounds. They also buy the really cheap brands and he wets right thru them. Too but with this small size his shirt and pants are always wet. I have asked them repeatedly to bring larger size diapers but they say that they can't find any. Hello you buy these at walmart I think you can find 5's or 6's too
I simply will NOT put up with cheap, crappy diapers. I recently amended my contract to state that I prefer Pampers diapers. If you don't send those, then Target's Up & Up or Huggies will do. Do NOT send any other store brand diapers, do NOT send Luv's.

There are simply too many brands of diapers that don't work, and it is not fair to take time away from my job every day to bathe children who are covered in poop because their diaper failed again.

At this same time, I stated that parents of infants are expected to use a high-quality bottle, and I stated that much as I hate to clean them, I feel that Dr. Brown's are the best. Parent's Choice bottles and the like that allow a child to swallow more air than milk are NOT allowed at my home. I state in my contract that I have 2 dozen Dr. Brown's bottles that they are welcome to borrow from me for use at home, if they choose not to purchase them. The first baby I had after this change is using bottles borrowed out.

I explain to parents that it is not fair to kids to cause them pain from swallowing all that air (these kids cry all day, as we all know). I made this decision after feeding a baby from one of those POS bottles and watching it bubble and gurgle while the poor kid tried to get milk out of it.

I HAVE been called insane for both of the policies, I HAVE been told that I am out of line to dictate diaper and bottle brands. I don't care. When I am the one caring for the child, I will NOT deal with the fallout of parents who want to save a couple of bucks.

I also am an Amazon Prime member, and tell all DCP's that I will order their diapers for them from Amazon if they wish, in order to save them some money. I clip and print diaper coupons for the parents to help them save on them, too.
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Unregistered 07:31 PM 05-31-2013
Originally Posted by Leigh:
I simply will NOT put up with cheap, crappy diapers. I recently amended my contract to state that I prefer Pampers diapers. If you don't send those, then Target's Up & Up or Huggies will do. Do NOT send any other store brand diapers, do NOT send Luv's.

There are simply too many brands of diapers that don't work, and it is not fair to take time away from my job every day to bathe children who are covered in poop because their diaper failed again.

At this same time, I stated that parents of infants are expected to use a high-quality bottle, and I stated that much as I hate to clean them, I feel that Dr. Brown's are the best. Parent's Choice bottles and the like that allow a child to swallow more air than milk are NOT allowed at my home. I state in my contract that I have 2 dozen Dr. Brown's bottles that they are welcome to borrow from me for use at home, if they choose not to purchase them. The first baby I had after this change is using bottles borrowed out.

I explain to parents that it is not fair to kids to cause them pain from swallowing all that air (these kids cry all day, as we all know). I made this decision after feeding a baby from one of those POS bottles and watching it bubble and gurgle while the poor kid tried to get milk out of it.

I HAVE been called insane for both of the policies, I HAVE been told that I am out of line to dictate diaper and bottle brands. I don't care. When I am the one caring for the child, I will NOT deal with the fallout of parents who want to save a couple of bucks.

I also am an Amazon Prime member, and tell all DCP's that I will order their diapers for them from Amazon if they wish, in order to save them some money. I clip and print diaper coupons for the parents to help them save on them, too.
I could not use anything for my kids BUT Luv's and honestly for my kids they worked very well. Mind you, this was years ago when diapers were made just a bit more absorbent than they do now and you got way more for your money. And Dr. Brown's bottles were the worst for my kids. They used Playtex Vent Air. I think it's up to the parents to choose which diaper/bottle to get their kids. Same with clothes,shoes, jackets, baby foods, etc. But I do agree that if the kid is soaking thru the diapers, another plan needs to be made. Although at THREE, why is the kid soaking that much?
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BigMama 11:04 AM 11-08-2011
I had a busy but good morning with the DCKs. It is unseasonably warm here so we played outside and went for a walk after our morning activities. They all ate a good lunch and went down for their naps so peacefully. I knew they were tired and I was looking forward to getting some much needed organizing done while they napped. Weeeelllll....my neighbor has two toddlers (ages 1 and 2) that don't nap and she had them outside. They use my backyard like it is a public playground (a whole other issue), but today her 2-year-old decided that he needed to be on my front porch. Because it was so nice out I had the front windows open...windows that lead right into where the kids are sleeping. Well, the boy is talking and shouting and the mom is talking in her regular loud voice. They had already woke up one DCK when I went over & shut the windows (which she apparently took offense to). Seriously? SERIOUSLY?
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Cat Herder 12:37 PM 11-08-2011
So I fell, injured my arm and now EVERYTHING is taking twice as long to get done. Grrr.. I am tired, my arm hurts AND I'm grumpy.

This week needs to end, NOW.

Where's the caffeine and chocolate???
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queenbee 01:56 PM 11-08-2011
In my November newsletter, I reiterated my policy of No Naptime Pickups.

My separate garage is converted to our daycare room with a kitchen and a bathroom and a separate infant space.....but we are all in the same large room. All of my children start getting tucked into mats and into pack'n'plays at around 12pm everyday.

Today TWO of my parents informed me that the kids have doctor appointments and that they will be picking up between 12:30 and 1pm.

Really?

I absolutely dread pickups that happen during naptime. It disrupts my schedule and then I have to keep up kids who should be sleeping and who then cry because they want to lay down.

Never again. The parents got a big ol' *sigh* and I reminded them AGAIN, that I don't allow naptime pick-ups and that they need to schedule appointments after naptime. I can only imagine the crying and fit-throwing the parents have to listen to on the way to the doctors.

Why would anyhone schedule a child's doctor appointment during naptime?
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SilverSabre25 02:14 PM 11-08-2011
Gulp...I have to go vote by myself with two cranky children. Here's hoping the wait is short.
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SilverSabre25 05:01 AM 11-17-2011
7 hours of sleep in the past 2 days.

That's 7 hours of sleep, and 41 hours of being awake. The 7 hours were in very broken stretches.

I am so tired that I feel faintly ill and dizzy. I haven't felt like this in years. Forming coherent thoughts is very hard.

I do not know how I am going to make it through the day. I know from experience that caffeine in this state will make me jittery and unable to sleep...and nothing will help me but sleep.

I can't ask DH to help me out because a) he is being less than sympathetic and b) he really doesn't want to and c) he really shouldn't call off work right now and d) he'll just pull the "14 hour work day" card on me.
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sharlan 06:07 AM 11-17-2011
I know how rough that is. Can you rest when the littles are down, or would you fall asleep?
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Cat Herder 06:14 AM 11-17-2011
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
7 hours of sleep in the past 2 days.

I am so tired that I feel faintly ill and dizzy. I haven't felt like this in years. Forming coherent thoughts is very hard.
Do you have any "Stress" B Complex? Take it with orange juice and a peanut butter sandwich. It has "saved" me on many, many occassions.
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SilverSabre25 06:18 AM 11-17-2011
Originally Posted by sharlan:
I know how rough that is. Can you rest when the littles are down, or would you fall asleep?
I would fall asleep. Not much hope I'd get even get a chance to rest though--DS is in 'omg the world is ending HOLD ME' mode, and not napping much the past couple days. Getting a cold + three teeth + growth spurt...he's to the point with this stuff that I'm very close to picking up infant Motrin at the store tonight to see if it helps his sleep.

Originally Posted by Catherder:
Do you have any "Stress" B Complex? Take it with orange juice and a peanut butter sandwich. It has "saved" me on many, many occassions.
Hmm, I'll have to check. I don't think I have a B Complex but I do have Vit D and a couple other things that might help. I'm a bit perkier after breakfast but it's going to be a long day.
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AmyLeigh 01:27 PM 11-17-2011
Is it in the air?

I got maybe 12 hours combined over the last 3 nights. Starting to drink way too much espresso. I actually had palpitations this morning. I don't know if it is due to the caffeine, lack of sleep or stress.

So glad next week is a short week!
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SilverSabre25 07:17 AM 12-09-2011
Sucky morning so far...trying to pick it up and have something great to post in the 31 Days of Happy thread later today!
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greenhouse 02:54 PM 12-09-2011
@&#%!!!! Dcm "forgot" her check book.She offered to mail it!! It's Friday, what a way to end the week with no payment.
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AfterSchoolMom 06:23 PM 12-11-2011
"Precious Snowflake" strikes again!

We were out to dinner tonight with some friends and their kids. The almost 4 year old (not mine) began waving her knife around wildly in the air, and Mom took it from her. She began throwing a fit, so Mom gave it back and told her that she could swing it as long as she didn't do so over her head.

Wow. Just wow.

I never know what to do/say in these situations. It's not my business to interfere with how they parent their children, but come ON!!!!!
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Meyou 03:14 AM 12-12-2011
Originally Posted by AfterSchoolMom:
"Precious Snowflake" strikes again!

We were out to dinner tonight with some friends and their kids. The almost 4 year old (not mine) began waving her knife around wildly in the air, and Mom took it from her. She began throwing a fit, so Mom gave it back and told her that she could swing it as long as she didn't do so over her head.

Wow. Just wow.

I never know what to do/say in these situations. It's not my business to interfere with how they parent their children, but come ON!!!!!



I think I would have opened my big, fat mouth for that one! I also have trouble deciding whether to say something to friends kids when we're all together. Sometimes it's easy because the kids will gravitate towards me and I can step in easily but in a situation at a table..... I might just have to throw Mom down and smack some sense into her.
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caring4kidsinSD 10:55 AM 12-12-2011
UGH!!!!! my helper is so incompetent. She's been here for 4 months and still gives the wrong pacis to the babies. They each have their own type so there should be no confusion!!!! ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And one tends to get sick all the time and giving him the wrong paci only adds to it -
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krissy_mo 01:03 PM 12-13-2011
U know, we buy everything thrift store.... don't have cable tv, don't spend a lot of money except for housing, food, etc... shoot, we don't even have a car payment right now.... however, with old cars, we have to start thinking about potential repairs....

I just want to be able to be an old-fashioned stay home mom... I home school and I want to be able to have enough gas money to run to the park once or twice a week. That's it!

My gripe is how the economy doesn't support old-fashioned ways of living now a days. It just shouldn't be REQUIRED that we have two income houses. We are great providers and all, but really, look at the state of the country and our kids these days....

Maybe we are missing being home with a GOOD mom and being raised in a family with old-fashioned values. Maybe the whole Dad gets home from work at five or six and the family eats dinner together thing is so vital that taking those roles away has been the biggest cause of the decline of our country....

Just a thought....

now, since I AM trying to stay home... some one tell me how to get my trash bill paid this week... while still having enough left over for Christmas dinner..... any suggestions????

LOL!
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AmyLeigh 03:19 PM 12-13-2011
Krissy,
I know exactly how you feel. I can't wait to be just a stay at home, homeschooling mom again. An interesting read is The Two-Income Myth. It discusses how our society came to require two incomes to survive. Keep up the good work!
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GretasLittleFriends 08:10 PM 12-13-2011
Not exactly daycare related...

Had a good day, unexpected early day. Was supposed to have kids here 'til 9:30, but they're dad got sick. My last kids left today at 5p. That doesn't happen often.

Well, my odd (16) and her bf got into an argument via text. She made a joke, he, apparently doesn't share her sense of humor, and well, we all know sarcasm isn't read well (without proper annotation). He told her he was done texting her tonight, and told her not to call. She got all crabby, bringing down the mood in the house.

My DH drives truck and is gone right now. He called me about an hour ago, upset because he lost his key ring. He thinks they fell into the trash, and it got emptied earlier today. He has the ignition key, but lost his other keys. It had the trailer padlock on there. Long story, he had a meat load, some damaged boxes were rejected, but the meat was ok. He threw it in the trailer (temp controlled trailer) with the load he is hauling now and bought a new fridge for his truck today for the meat. Fridge ok to run now, he went to take the meat out of the trailer and put it in his fridge (company was going to throw it, nothing was wrong with it, just damaged box). Anyway, he can't find his keys and can't get into the trailer. He's upset because he feels it's 500 wasted. Because he could have just thrown the meat in the first place, saved the $500 on the fridge, and likely not lost his keys. We're talking maybe $100 worth of high-end deli (not yet sliced) type meat. Now he has to either pay to have the lock cut. It's a high end lock and a regular bolt cutter won't do the trick. OR Shut the temp control off on the trailer (it's not supposed to be on) and let the meat spoil, or deliver a cold load that's supposed to be not refrigerated... Not sure what he's hauling. Anyway, we spent 37 minutes on the phone with him crabby the whole time, and not really talking, just there and very irritable.

In both situations there is nothing I can do, and now I'm feeling kind of grumpy.
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Countrygal 10:10 AM 01-20-2012
Originally Posted by krissy_mo:
U know, we buy everything thrift store.... don't have cable tv, don't spend a lot of money except for housing, food, etc... shoot, we don't even have a car payment right now.... however, with old cars, we have to start thinking about potential repairs....

I just want to be able to be an old-fashioned stay home mom... I home school and I want to be able to have enough gas money to run to the park once or twice a week. That's it!

My gripe is how the economy doesn't support old-fashioned ways of living now a days. It just shouldn't be REQUIRED that we have two income houses. We are great providers and all, but really, look at the state of the country and our kids these days....

Maybe we are missing being home with a GOOD mom and being raised in a family with old-fashioned values. Maybe the whole Dad gets home from work at five or six and the family eats dinner together thing is so vital that taking those roles away has been the biggest cause of the decline of our country....

Just a thought....

now, since I AM trying to stay home... some one tell me how to get my trash bill paid this week... while still having enough left over for Christmas dinner..... any suggestions????

LOL!
I know this is an older post, but I agree with it so much I just had to say that I wish there was a "like" button on here!!!!
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SilverSabre25 06:26 AM 12-20-2011
Apparently, "Everyone, be quiet! I'm trying to get the baby to sleep!" means, "Be quiet for five seconds and then scream as LOUD AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN." Do this three times, even after being reminded AGAIN to use quiet voices. Grin and giggle like a maniac when the baby wakes back up, cries, and your daycare provider knows that now the baby won't get to sleep until almost noon.


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Meyou 06:54 AM 12-20-2011
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
Apparently, "Everyone, be quiet! I'm trying to get the baby to sleep!" means, "Be quiet for five seconds and then scream as LOUD AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN." Do this three times, even after being reminded AGAIN to use quiet voices. Grin and giggle like a maniac when the baby wakes back up, cries, and your daycare provider knows that now the baby won't get to sleep until almost noon.

I had them in five separate locations doing 5 separate QUIET things this morning for the very same reason.....the week before Christmas sucks.
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providerandmomof4 01:51 PM 01-15-2012
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
Apparently, "Everyone, be quiet! I'm trying to get the baby to sleep!" means, "Be quiet for five seconds and then scream as LOUD AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN." Do this three times, even after being reminded AGAIN to use quiet voices. Grin and giggle like a maniac when the baby wakes back up, cries, and your daycare provider knows that now the baby won't get to sleep until almost noon.

This just made me smile... I am in this situation almost daily and to top it off, when the baby does wake up from the yelling- one little girl will almost daily, feel the need to bust into the room that I'm trying to get the baby to sleep in, slam the door against the wall with a loud BANG, and yell, "Baby's up?"
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happykidschildcare 04:59 PM 01-05-2012
my complaint of the day is parents thinking your open at this time and closed at this time and other kids are here so I will just leave lil tommy and amy there too....ummm no. Its says in my contract my business hours are not your contracted hours, and I willl only have your child for 9 hours. I ended it with im a very patient person, but Im also human!!!!!!!!! just saying!
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kayla 06:26 AM 01-11-2012
So monday i had a child forget there snow pants which is fine because i have extras, well i said that when the dad said oh you forgot your snow pants looks like you cant play outside. First off since when is it a 4yr olds responsibility to remember his snowpants, well ever since monday he hasn't brought his snowpants im wondering if now its because i said i had extras!! ughh parents!!
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SilverSabre25 07:59 AM 01-11-2012
Children would NOT be quiet, kept finding noisy thing after noisy thing to do, and woke the sleeping baby.

Nothign makes me grouchier than a woken baby.
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MNMum 12:37 PM 01-11-2012
So annoyed with this mother. This is the baby I have been watching for 4 mos. He has sensory issues, will hardly eat, is still completely on a bottle. Has been fighting major constipation since she switched him to milk a month before his first birthday (in Sept). And parents don't really feel it is something to worry about. He also still freaks out when any new person is around. Even my mother, who has been my substitute off and on since he started.

Last Wed eve I came down with the stomach flu. My schoolager had it Tuesday night, she stayed home but was upstairs on Wed. I texted all the parents around 8pm and closed for Thursday (I don't have dck on Fri). I was sick for two days. Well...this morning(Wed a week later), this mother calls and says "Dcb just threw up all over me. You better tell the other parents because their kids will be getting it too. I don't know if he will be there tomorrow. Hopefully he only throws up this one time." I felt like I was being slapped across the face. Who knows if it is even the same thing I had, that was a full week ago, usually the stomach flu travels more quickly than that.

Also, I got a phone call from someone that this family had given my number. This woman says, "I know that baby is leaving in January, so I'm wondering if you have any openings?" Geez, that's the first I've heard of it?

I can feel the passive aggressive vibes from this woman a lot lately. I've also had payment issues from her. For awhile they were out of checks and the bank screwed up the order. So she paid late for about 4 times from that. When I finally called her out on it she acted like this would never happen again, it's just that the bank screwed up the checks. Guess what? About every other week she forgets her check book and says her husband will pay at pick up. He never does. She brings a check the next day...ugh. I'm going to copy the page of the contract that explains the $5 per day late fee and hand that to her next week when she trys to pull it again.

You ladies are so right! Don't give them an inch...they will take a mile. Guess us newbies have to learn it the hard way.
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Hunni Bee 04:48 PM 01-11-2012
...do parents think they don't have to BATHE their children in the winter??

I got so tired of smelling stinky breath, feet and butts! And I can't give everybody a birdbath in the sink!
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queenbee 08:25 PM 01-13-2012
Oh my god

Why is it, so FREAKING hard, to remember to pay every Friday for daycare? You do it every week, the same amount......why can't you think "Hey, it's Friday and I'm picking up my kids - now would be a good time to pay my provider for all the hard work she does?"

It's two weeks into the new year and every.single.one of my parents have been late last week and this week. I've had to issue late fees for each parent and, of course, every parent through a fit and claimed they thought they had all day to pay on Fridays.

I made over $200 extra from just late fees and I'm still so frustrated. I had to ask for extentions for my cable and phone bill and I've never had to do that before because with MMK I don't get my money until the following Friday.

I conducted this email and sent it to each parent:

Dear Families,

FINAL WARNING: Tuition Payments are due every Friday by 6:00pm. Failure to pay for tuition on time will result in termination of child care services.

Parents are highly encourged to participate in Auto-Pay with childcarepay.com

Thank you,
QueenBee


I have a large Waiting List and I am prepared to start dropping families if I have to charge 1 more late fee. I will miss the kids like crazy but I will not be late on another one of my bills.
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momma2girls 06:44 AM 01-19-2012
Originally Posted by MNMum:
So annoyed with this mother. This is the baby I have been watching for 4 mos. He has sensory issues, will hardly eat, is still completely on a bottle. Has been fighting major constipation since she switched him to milk a month before his first birthday (in Sept). And parents don't really feel it is something to worry about. He also still freaks out when any new person is around. Even my mother, who has been my substitute off and on since he started.

Last Wed eve I came down with the stomach flu. My schoolager had it Tuesday night, she stayed home but was upstairs on Wed. I texted all the parents around 8pm and closed for Thursday (I don't have dck on Fri). I was sick for two days. Well...this morning(Wed a week later), this mother calls and says "Dcb just threw up all over me. You better tell the other parents because their kids will be getting it too. I don't know if he will be there tomorrow. Hopefully he only throws up this one time." I felt like I was being slapped across the face. Who knows if it is even the same thing I had, that was a full week ago, usually the stomach flu travels more quickly than that.

Also, I got a phone call from someone that this family had given my number. This woman says, "I know that baby is leaving in January, so I'm wondering if you have any openings?" Geez, that's the first I've heard of it?

I can feel the passive aggressive vibes from this woman a lot lately. I've also had payment issues from her. For awhile they were out of checks and the bank screwed up the order. So she paid late for about 4 times from that. When I finally called her out on it she acted like this would never happen again, it's just that the bank screwed up the checks. Guess what? About every other week she forgets her check book and says her husband will pay at pick up. He never does. She brings a check the next day...ugh. I'm going to copy the page of the contract that explains the $5 per day late fee and hand that to her next week when she trys to pull it again.

You ladies are so right! Don't give them an inch...they will take a mile. Guess us newbies have to learn it the hard way.
I have definately leared the hard way on everything. You make an exception for one, then another, then they all expect it all the time. I was done making exceptions about 7 yrs. ago!!!
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Tia 05:16 PM 01-16-2012
On Friday I lost a child that I have become very attached too and today I really missed him Sometimes I really worry about the parents who take there children somewhere else stating it's to expensive and wants to pay less than $500.00 for an infant and two sibling, I don't understand it. Some just don't appreciate us for what we do. I am more sorry for the children.
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kidkair 12:06 PM 01-17-2012
More like ramblings than venting but stuff on my mind that I want to write out.
Rambling thought 1: I have two clients who are having babies and I have agreed to have both babies start in August. I usually have everyone renew contracts at the start of September so the older kids will have new contracts in Sept and the babies contracts will start in August. I want to raise one family's rate because it is $70/week under what I charge new clients. Baby is going to be on new rate and will have a $50 sibling discount bring baby's total to $20 over sibling's total. I want to raise sibling's total $20 so it's even with baby's. I feel like the timing on this is bad because they know they'll have two kids to pay for soon but I'm sure have no idea that come Sept they'll be paying more for kid 1 too nor that baby will actually be higher than first kid. The other family I'm leaving at the lower rate because I already told her what the rate would be and I don't go back on my word though I'm kicking myself for the way I phrased it.
Rambling though 2: I've been doing lots of reading starting with why we have to give kids so much peanut butter when less still equates to meat by way of protein at least with the brand I get. So with all my reading I find that we get way more protein than we need and that veggies (potatoes, lettuce, carrots) all have the protein we need and more than enough. I also found that milk leaches calcium from the body so it does no good for calcium intake and is completely unnecessary past getting it from mom. So I've decided to stop drinking milk and eating most meats (especially since most sources have hormones and such that I've been trying to get away from anyway). Further into this craziness of mine I've discovered that the gov't is paying me to continue to feed kids meat and milk not because it's proven healthy for the kids but because it helps the meat, milk, and oil companies who in turn help the gov't officials. Seems to me like we've turned into a gov't by and for the corporations rather than by and for the people. Many many myths came to light in my searches for increasing my health and the only thing keeping me from changing the kid's diet is that I wouldn't get reimbursed and still depend on that money.
Rambling thought 3: My kids (all daycare kids) have gotten a bit too dependent on my involvement to stay out of trouble and really play. The older ones just sit around waiting for me to be in the room so they can talk to me about things they've already told me. The younger ones stuff toys into every crevice they can find and hang on the older ones for attention. Go play just sends one kid into tears like it's the worse thing in the world. While I'm making lunch the kids get withdrawn from each other and wander around aimlessly not really playing and not talking to anyone. I only have one great talker all the rest are learning. I keep trying to get the best talker to go tell her stories to the other kids and that just leads to her being withdrawn. Worries me a little bit as to how she'll be when the two babies start and are occupying my time considerably.
Rambling thought 4: I must be doing something right since all my families love me and I'm full as I want to be as I'll have 6 full timers when the babies start and possibly still have 2 waiting for when I have an opening for their kid.
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AmyLeigh 01:52 PM 01-17-2012
Originally Posted by kidkair:
Rambling though 2: I've been doing lots of reading starting with why we have to give kids so much peanut butter when less still equates to meat by way of protein at least with the brand I get. So with all my reading I find that we get way more protein than we need and that veggies (potatoes, lettuce, carrots) all have the protein we need and more than enough. I also found that milk leaches calcium from the body so it does no good for calcium intake and is completely unnecessary past getting it from mom. So I've decided to stop drinking milk and eating most meats (especially since most sources have hormones and such that I've been trying to get away from anyway). Further into this craziness of mine I've discovered that the gov't is paying me to continue to feed kids meat and milk not because it's proven healthy for the kids but because it helps the meat, milk, and oil companies who in turn help the gov't officials. Seems to me like we've turned into a gov't by and for the corporations rather than by and for the people. Many many myths came to light in my searches for increasing my health and the only thing keeping me from changing the kid's diet is that I wouldn't get reimbursed and still depend on that money.
I have an issue with that, too. Watch any documentary on food and you will see how much the government has a say in what we eat. Really scary. If gov't really had people's best interests in mind, we would be reimbursed more for organic, vegetarian/vegan meals and more raw foods. We become trapped between knowing what we want to/should do, and what we actually can afford to do.
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kidkair 04:09 PM 01-17-2012
Originally Posted by AmyLeigh:
I have an issue with that, too. Watch any documentary on food and you will see how much the government has a say in what we eat. Really scary. If gov't really had people's best interests in mind, we would be reimbursed more for organic, vegetarian/vegan meals and more raw foods. We become trapped between knowing what we want to/should do, and what we actually can afford to do.
I've seen a couple and they are just gross. I've been slowly going toward vegetarian meals but it's difficult to make the change especially when I'm repairing my house and getting it as efficient as possible. My husband has suggested we save for new windows, and solar panels and then we can go as organic and vegetarian as we want to. In the mean time he and I have stopped drinking milk and we'll stop buying meat and get more into the alternative proteins according to the food program.
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SilverSabre25 03:02 PM 01-17-2012
Originally Posted by kidkair:
Rambling though 2: I've been doing lots of reading starting with why we have to give kids so much peanut butter when less still equates to meat by way of protein at least with the brand I get. So with all my reading I find that we get way more protein than we need and that veggies (potatoes, lettuce, carrots) all have the protein we need and more than enough. I also found that milk leaches calcium from the body so it does no good for calcium intake and is completely unnecessary past getting it from mom. So I've decided to stop drinking milk and eating most meats (especially since most sources have hormones and such that I've been trying to get away from anyway). Further into this craziness of mine I've discovered that the gov't is paying me to continue to feed kids meat and milk not because it's proven healthy for the kids but because it helps the meat, milk, and oil companies who in turn help the gov't officials. Seems to me like we've turned into a gov't by and for the corporations rather than by and for the people. Many many myths came to light in my searches for increasing my health and the only thing keeping me from changing the kid's diet is that I wouldn't get reimbursed and still depend on that money.
Yeah...this is why I'm glad I'm not on a food program. Although, Americans *DO* need more protein in their diets, as a whole, and many fewer grains. You are right about everything else though. I don't give milk with meals, just water, or occasionally with breakfast or a snack. I count other calcium/protein sources instead. Good luck finding a happy medium, and kudos for realizing that the government's idea of "healthy" is NOT. Nor is it scientific or anything. It's dumb.
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kidkair 04:03 PM 01-17-2012
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
Yeah...this is why I'm glad I'm not on a food program. Although, Americans *DO* need more protein in their diets, as a whole, and many fewer grains. You are right about everything else though. I don't give milk with meals, just water, or occasionally with breakfast or a snack. I count other calcium/protein sources instead. Good luck finding a happy medium, and kudos for realizing that the government's idea of "healthy" is NOT. Nor is it scientific or anything. It's dumb.
Here's the site I was reading about protein: http://michaelbluejay.com/veg/protein.html

I'm not even sure what to believe at this point. I'm not going off the food program because I'm not sure what the parents would say if I all of a sudden said "I'm going off the food program and no longer serving milk or meat." Not that I'd be that blunt. For now at least I'll just play along with the gov't but maybe start offering water along side the milk and start serving the kids family style and make the veggie dishes far more delicious than the meat and grains.
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MrsB 08:55 AM 01-18-2012
I was having problems with a few families who pay consitently late. (I require payment on Monday for that week) In my contract I have a clause that you can have two seperate occurances per year where you can pay up to 4 days late without getting charged a late fee after the 4th day you get charged regardless. So I put a chart up on my bulliten board at the sign in table right in front where everyone can see it and it has all the parents names on it. When they pay I put the date in the square of the date that it was paid. If they are late I highlight the empty box with a yellow highlighter (so they know their will be a late fee on their next weeks pay). If they used one of their 2 non penalty I highlight it in green once they pay with the date they paid. If it has gone 4 days with still no payment I mark the box in pink. Which means the next daycare day they are not allowed to bring their child to care without payment.

Seems a bit complicated but the idea is simple. No parent wants to be called out for not paying on time. You could do something even as simple as putting their name on the bulliten board as "So-n-So" NOT PAID. The parents got the hang of it REALLY quick and after the third week of doing this I have only had 3 late payments and they were made on Tuesday. (Been doing this for about 18 months now) Then you have proof and so do they, of late fees charged and they cant say well I paid on time. I used to get so frustrated with this every week and would take it so personally.

Sometimes you just have to take it back to basics. Remember when you were in kindergarten and you had the color coded behavior charts? Same idea just for people that are supposed to act like adults. I had a few balks at it but I just explained that I have to be consitant with everyone and I have to get paid so I can have the food, curriculum, heat, lights, and water, ready for them when they get here. Besides would they like it if on pay day their boss told them oh I forgot my check book can I get it to you in 5 days!

I have one parent that I know is struggling and she called me one night and said my child support check didnt come through and I really dont have the money to pay you until it goes through. I let her know that I so appreciated the call and hoped that she would be up front with me in the future. We agreed that this weeks payment would be due on Wednesday for half the weekly rate (she needed to give me a post dated check for Wednesday on Monday still) and that the other half would be due with next weeks payment. I wrote it up she signed it on Monday and gave me the post dated ck and I marked it on the sheet as paid on Monday on time. No late fees. I let her know again I am more than willing to work with her if she is having a hard time but she needs to let me know ahead of time so we can come up with a plan before its due rather than just assuming I dont mind. She felt like I was being understanding and I didnt feel disrespected! I'v been doing this long enough though that you can't please everyone and there are always be "THOSE PARENTS" Everyone hope you are having a wonderful day!
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E Daycare 12:09 PM 01-18-2012
I have one 2yr old that only gets a paci at nap but insists on trying to climb the highest mountain to get it throughout the day. He's a bear in the morning and comes in sucking on one so mom can get him out the door. As soon as he comes in I take it and it's meltdown city. Every time since August. I want to start cutting them (paci). Drives me nuts!!!

I also have a baby (4 mo) that needs one every minute of every day regardless. If it falls out when she sleeps it's screaming bloody murder. So far every half hour it sounds like she's being murdered cause it falls out. She can't do tummy time or she screams. Doesn't do anything without it. Only time she's happy is when she's sucking on it or the bottle. Ate 4 oz for me today (she's been here 7 hrs) and just wants the paci.

Please if you see me, kidnap me!!!
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momma2girls 12:15 PM 01-18-2012
Originally Posted by E Daycare:
I have one 2yr old that only gets a paci at nap but insists on trying to climb the highest mountain to get it throughout the day. He's a bear in the morning and comes in sucking on one so mom can get him out the door. As soon as he comes in I take it and it's meltdown city. Every time since August. I want to start cutting them (paci). Drives me nuts!!!

I also have a baby (4 mo) that needs one every minute of every day regardless. If it falls out when she sleeps it's screaming bloody murder. So far every half hour it sounds like she's being murdered cause it falls out. She can't do tummy time or she screams. Doesn't do anything without it. Only time she's happy is when she's sucking on it or the bottle. Ate 4 oz for me today (she's been here 7 hrs) and just wants the paci.

Please if you see me, kidnap me!!!
Calgon take me away!!!
I had a 1 3/4 yr. old, still with a paci 24/7- I recently placed a new policy in the newsletter regarding pacis. At the age of one, your child should be paci free, if they cannot go without it at naptime, lovies, blankets, they will be kept in their pack and play for naptime only. This little boy is almost 2, parents still have his pacifier in at home, on the way here, etc.. he onlly receives it at naptime only here, and he has done fine with it. I was so sick of him coming in, trying to get it away from him, screaming, etc. then if he let it fall out of his mouth, then the other one yr. old would have it in her mouth, or going to her mouth, losing it, etc. etc.... The Mom didn't understand it at first. Just like his lovie/blanket, he only has that at naptime as well. When he had it here, all the time, if a child, even touched it, he would scream bloody murder. UGHH!!!!!! It's worked very well here!! He still is only saying about 4-5 words, because of the paci being in his mouth, which I think is terrible, but I am not his parents!
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