I am really starting to resent my job because parents are so disrespectful... I have asked a certain parent to take their shoes off and they don't. He deliberatly ignores me, Im sorry I am pregnant and cannot wipe the floor everytime you decide to be rude and disregard my shoe policy.... I dont understand how parents can be so rude and not even acknoledge your rules... whats wrong with people... How would they like it if I came to their home and walked all through their home with my shoes on!!!! Hello people it is just plain rude I am a family home daycare not a daycare center... Please respect my home!!!! It is not yours I live here.....

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Yeah, this wouldn't fly here. First time would have been "Please don't walk in my home with your shoes on - I don't care what you do elsewhere, but this is my house and that is my rule". Second time I would have handed him a rag to wipe up - and told him "Look, we had this conversation - don't do it again". Third time = immediate termination. And yes, I AM serious. This is my home before it is a business. I don't don't do well with disrespect like this. I have said it a million times and I will say it again - I don't have time to look after parents as well as their children.

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The next time he comes in immediately get down on your hands and knees right behind him (hopefully you're extremely preggers) and make a great show of grunting and groaning then crawl and follow him every where he goes wiping up behind him as he walks (still making a lot of noise) then look up at him and politely ask him to take his shoes off again through your gritted teeth . Make a whole lot of noise as you get up on your feet again .
J/k.

Why not just have the door closed and locked when you know he's about to arrive. When he knocks you can answer the door and stand in the doorway and that's when you ask him to remove his shoes. Do not move out of the doorway until he does and if he doesn't want to remove his shoes then tell him to hang on and call out to his child then allow the child to walk out to him. He might just be embarrassed for some reason ... maybe he has stinky feet. Either way if you are requiring everyone to remove their shoes and he's the only one that doesn't then just don't let him go in the house. This is a good time to have that one-on-one conversation about why you don't allow shoes in the house anymore.

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Oh, and I don't do signs, newsletters, email notices, etc - and I don't recommend them. People need to be told certain things face to face. It's almost guaranteed that the offender will exempt themselves from the warning and think it was meant for someone else.... they can't do that if you are specifically telling them to their face.

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I made each family take their shoes off for the interview process. I tell them we are aa no shoe home because of the crawlers, and because I cant have 8 people in my home on a daily basis all with shoes on (gross).

Put a sign on the door that says, "For the health and safety of the littles, everyone must remove their shoes upon entry to the home."

Tell the DCD to take his shoes off. How rude!

If he still ignores you, that is blatent disrepect. Give a 2 week probation, in written form. Or term. Ugh how rude!

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I actually had to place this in my contract- please respectful to my home and daycare, please remove shoes if you are going to come in off the foyer. I would also place this in a newsletter and remind everyone of your rules!!

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Stop the parent at the door and don't allow them in.

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I feel like I have tried everything... Telling the parent, putting a note on the door, I just don't understand like I said I think it's being done on purpose and I'm going to get rid of him as soon as I have my baby. I told dh I won't even feel bad.

He is always very disrespectful, I feel like he is one of those people that is always trying to catch you doing something wrong... He is very sneaky when he comes into my home. My house is bi level and you first walk into an entry and then their is a set of stairs when you come in threw the entry downstairs is a play area for older children and at top of stairs is kitchen and living room (play area for babies). I always ask that parents take off shoes in entry. To me if he is that lazy he cant bend over and take his shoes off thats pretty pathetic, this is my home I am 9 mos pregnant and you don't see me walking around with my shoes on.... ughh some people don't care but this is my biggest pet peeve. He is so rude... Any ideas for a termination letter??? Because I will not have them back after I give birth!!!

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Also by rude I mean he has an attitude about everything. On the weekend I had my baby shower which happened to be st pattys day he asked if I could watch his kids?!?!? Umm sry this is no baby sitting service, when I told him I had plans and I dnt do weekends he got very snippy. Another time I came out of bathroom and his baby was crying I picked her up immediately to try and console her when I walked into the kitchen he was standing there all creepy and was very rude about asking what happened... Umm I explained I just came from bathroom and I was not positive what happened.. He could have picked his child up when it happened he was there while I was in the restroom, I know he knows I was in there because all of our water pipes are very loud. I said you know I'm sry about what happened, and he just grabbed her and left all rude.. He then decided he would text the parent who he assumeds child did it telling them to talk to their child... uhh exuse me so rude(the two parents used to be a couple long ago) so I told the mom when she got there oh I think your daughter hurt baby, she says yeah I heard so n so text me asking me to talk to her.... That is not his job I can take care of what happens in my home... My dh told me I should have looked at him and asked him what he was doing when he was standing there all creepy... This is also the parent that asked me if I gave his child his adhd meds, when I said yes he said oh he told me you didnt.... Umm I'm sry you believe a 6 yr old why would I lie about giving this child his meds.... I'm just sick n tired and this shoe thing was the last straw!!!!

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Hand him the cleaner and a wet rag and just stand there with your hands on your hips and give him the stink eye. Then point to your sign.

If he doesn't like it, there's the door.

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I am a conflict avoider... and always think if I say something I come across as a b***h, so I'm always afraid to say something. One of my families is quite large, and have a difficult time taking off their own shoes. I feel bad asking them to, but I don't want them on my carpet! They try to stay on the wood floor, but I have carpet on either side of the entry way and the kid always likes to go 'exploring' in to the daycare no-no land. I literally have to herd her child and pull DCB and hold him down for Mom, make an effort to grab him first before she tries.

The hardest season is winter when they want to sit the kid on one of my couches to put the kids shoes on because they're too large to scrunch down. I try to get the kid ready before they arrive, but they are never on a schedule and won't text. Wet, snowy shoes on white carpet. Ugh. We need new carpet, but DH doesn't want to rush into anything because of daycare just ruining it again.

Just had DCB vomit on my carpet... it didn't come out and we had to use Oxy clean which just bleached a ring around the yellow bile stain... we will be replacing carpet ASAP in that area. This child came sick (Parents knew...) His last day is Friday Parent's have NO clue -- Just one day I'd like to do daycare out of their house

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Oh dear. I hope you can figure out a friendly and firm way to let this family go after your baby is born.

Many hugs.

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Easy.

Dear _______,

This notice is to inform you that I am terminating our childcare services contract, effective (date).

I wish your family all the best.

Regards,
Me


See? Easy

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lol thanks so much I will be using that~!

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By the way, it's a good idea to put a little disclaimer in there that they are still required to follow all policies and procedures in your handbook/contract until mentioned date and that payments are still due on usual dates - otherwise, services may be terminated sooner. Just to cover your butt.

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We have tons of threads on Disrespectful Parents: https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.p...ectful+parents

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easy one...do what I did...send them the carpet cleaning bill...no joke I did it...dcd never wore shoes in my house again....

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I the backbone you have!

I'll just have you start doing my dirty work-

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lol REALLY... Well I got it from blackcat....she gave it to me...Oh and Sharlan too. they tell me like it is and I have learned from my mistakes..

BTW..I did give DCD one nice warning and when he ignored the warning, I sent the bill...

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I use a sign and a gate. It has helped. I also have a big mat that says stay here on it.......it doesn't really say stay here but for anyone that has a brain it does. It's for stuff that is tracked in and big. Parent's don't think about how much floor cleaning we do. They are just interested in the child and the child's surroundings. We don't think about it when we go into other places, like stores and just imagine the people that work, esp the ones that have to clean the floors.....lets say wal-mart. Think it bugs us......lol. I feel like I bang my head some days. I also try to help out the parent's that need it. I see the relief in them, which makes me happy to help another out. When I can I do and when I can't they do.

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