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lovemykidstoo 04:52 AM 08-02-2017
So the child that gives me the most grief has been at grandmas all week and won't come back until tomorrow. He's typically here 50 hours a week. First one here, 7:30 on the dot and last one to leave 5:25 on the dot. He can be sweet, but typically talks non-stop all day, has bathroom issues that I posted in another thread about and goes crazy everytime someone else is at the door dropping off or picking up. Behavior "look at me" attention issues. For God's sake don't even think of talking to mom or dad for more than 35 seconds, he's off the rails. It's been a whole different feel this week and I LIKE IT! This is a brief snippet of what I wrotea about it in another thread.



"I have a dcb that turned 3 in April. Parents gave me notice that he was going off to full time preschool in September, so he wouldn't be with me anymore. Fine, I filled his spot with someone starting in November. The glitch is, he's not trained. We've been going through training since April. I went through months of putting him on the toilet every hour and had him go. He went each time. Then he would pee in his pullups or diaper, whatever he had on. Never has pooped on the toilet for me yet. He typically goes during naptime. Parents want him to wear underwear here and say that's the problem."
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midaycare 05:10 AM 08-02-2017
I have a similar child but he's 4.5. Leaves for preschool in 5 weeks and every day he misses is like a small glimpse to save my sanity

He is super sensitive (also super smart). Today he came in and wailed huge tears because he didn't have a blue cup. Last night he was hysterical because he couldn't get his socks on. Hysterical. I won't help him because I know he can do it, but I do encourage him and guide him. Still tries to hits and loves to throw sand if he thinks I'm not watching. When he goes to time out, he wails like he's in pain. I'm so done.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 05:23 AM 08-02-2017
So you only have 1 month left?
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lovemykidstoo 05:28 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
So you only have 1 month left?
Well it's not really clear yet. He's supposed to start preschool full time in about 2 weeks, but he has to be 100% trained and he's not. So he may be here until November when his replacement starts.
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laundrymom 05:32 AM 08-02-2017
I gave notice to My child like this and mom opted to not return durin notice period. Which is fine. They all pay ahead two weeks.
I was stressed so much when he was here and the kids were so stressed that not one single time since he left has anyone asked about him. Mentioned him. Seemed to miss him at all. We went from screaming playroom where kids got "accidentally" hurt constantly and everyone was on the verge of tears , including me. I dreaded him showing up and was a bundle of raw nerves by pickup time-- to calm learning atmosphere. And it continues this week. We are half way through our second week of him not being here and our whole vibe has relaxed. We enjoy our days. There are still times of stress but it's not constant. I never realized how much energy and focus we spent on behavior issues until they were gone. And I had him for five years.
I hope your environment calms for you soon.
Happy Wednesday!!
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lovemykidstoo 05:40 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I have a similar child but he's 4.5. Leaves for preschool in 5 weeks and every day he misses is like a small glimpse to save my sanity

He is super sensitive (also super smart). Today he came in and wailed huge tears because he didn't have a blue cup. Last night he was hysterical because he couldn't get his socks on. Hysterical. I won't help him because I know he can do it, but I do encourage him and guide him. Still tries to hits and loves to throw sand if he thinks I'm not watching. When he goes to time out, he wails like he's in pain. I'm so done.
Oh yea that all sounds familiar lol. Mom and dad keep sending him in shoes that fit him last summer and are tie shoes. He can get 1 on, but not the other. I have asked several times to bring his other shoes and they never do. Then she picks him up at the end of the day and I don't put the shoes on him. Figure, let her do it and maybe she'll see how crappy they are. They just moved in down the street (5 houses) away. She tells him he doesn't need them on, they're just going home. So of course seh doesn't want to do it because she's lazy and she knows how hard they are and then he throws a fit. Yup, that's fun after having him 10 hours a day. Sure I could avoid that by putting the shoes on, but I want her to experience the crap she's causing.

Then another issue for me is her and the husband let him sit in the front seat to and from their house (5 houses away) and most times the let him sit on their lap and drive. Yup, he's 3. The dad joked the one day and said he almost hit the brick wall a neighbor has up by the road. I got mad and said are you serious? you know he'd probably die if the airbag goes off right? Stupid!
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lovemykidstoo 05:41 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by laundrymom:
I gave notice to My child like this and mom opted to not return durin notice period. Which is fine. They all pay ahead two weeks.
I was stressed so much when he was here and the kids were so stressed that not one single time since he left has anyone asked about him. Mentioned him. Seemed to miss him at all. We went from screaming playroom where kids got "accidentally" hurt constantly and everyone was on the verge of tears , including me. I dreaded him showing up and was a bundle of raw nerves by pickup time-- to calm learning atmosphere. And it continues this week. We are half way through our second week of him not being here and our whole vibe has relaxed. We enjoy our days. There are still times of stress but it's not constant. I never realized how much energy and focus we spent on behavior issues until they were gone. And I had him for five years.
I hope your environment calms for you soon.
Happy Wednesday!!
OH boy! Sorry you had that child too!
It is funny now that you mention it, but we're going on day 3 of him not being here and noone has asked about him. hmm I didn't notice that. I do feel bad because he can be the smartest and nicest little boy, but he has no self control whatsoever. Then when mom and dad come he does stuff he knows he's not supposed to do and looks at me like, yea what ya gonna do, my mommas here. Well, I don't care who's here, I get after him and she does literally nothing.
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LVG 10:34 AM 08-02-2017
I have a kid EXACTLY like this. He can be the nicest, most polite boy, but spends most of his day doing things to drive me, and the other kids up the wall...hitting others, arguing, trying to do things he knows will rile up the other kids...and he just pooped in his pants as I was writing this for the umpteenth time since I've had him...did I mention, he's 4.5. His last day is FRIDAY!!! HOOORAAAY!! I am closing at the end of August anyway, so I was just keeping him until the last day. Well, last week his mom and I talked, and she felt like it would make things easier on me if she went ahead and moved him to his new place since I am getting down to the bare bones around here preparing for the move. I'm just over the moon excited for Friday to get here!!
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lovemykidstoo 10:41 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by LVG:
I have a kid EXACTLY like this. He can be the nicest, most polite boy, but spends most of his day doing things to drive me, and the other kids up the wall...hitting others, arguing, trying to do things he knows will rile up the other kids...and he just pooped in his pants as I was writing this for the umpteenth time since I've had him...did I mention, he's 4.5. His last day is FRIDAY!!! HOOORAAAY!! I am closing at the end of August anyway, so I was just keeping him until the last day. Well, last week his mom and I talked, and she felt like it would make things easier on me if she went ahead and moved him to his new place since I am getting down to the bare bones around here preparing for the move. I'm just over the moon excited for Friday to get here!!
Oh my gosh 4 1/2 and still pooping in his pants? OMG! That would be him I bet. I am happy for you that you're done with that particular child this Friday! It's so weird how 1 child can change the feel for the day. I can hardly wait until tomorrow when he gets back from grandma having him since Saturday.
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LVG 11:05 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
Oh my gosh 4 1/2 and still pooping in his pants? OMG! That would be him I bet. I am happy for you that you're done with that particular child this Friday! It's so weird how 1 child can change the feel for the day. I can hardly wait until tomorrow when he gets back from grandma having him since Saturday.
Yep!! The accidents have been going on since before he came to me, and that was in February. I posted about it a couple of weeks ago on here. We decided back in March that we were closing, so I didn't want to term him, and lose income that I knew I wouldn't be able to replace knowing we were closing, so I have just dealt with it. If I were not closing, I would have definitely termed him by now!! Good luck tomorrow!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:38 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
Well it's not really clear yet. He's supposed to start preschool full time in about 2 weeks, but he has to be 100% trained and he's not. So he may be here until November when his replacement starts.
I'd take a hit in income for 2 months and say the spot was filled. Which, it was. Just not for that moment.
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LysesKids 11:57 AM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I'd take a hit in income for 2 months and say the spot was filled. Which, it was. Just not for that moment.
THIS... sometimes the loss of the stresser outweighs the loss of income
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lovemykidstoo 12:41 PM 08-02-2017
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I'd take a hit in income for 2 months and say the spot was filled. Which, it was. Just not for that moment.
Trust me I"ve thought of this lol. I don't know what they're going to do, but they have to speak up soon because I think he's supposed to start there in 2 weeks. Her husband is soooo cheap that I think he'll take his chances with him starting there and hope he doesn't have an accident, so it probably won't be an issue. It's hard to say no to keeping him until the first of November because it's $700 a month I'd be losing.
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