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knoxmomof2 09:43 PM 09-16-2016
I bought a house a year ago, moved about 15 minutes from the old place. All 4 of my families came with me, but 1 balked at it. In the old house, my living room was the daycare space so we had our couch in there. 2 parents in particular would set up camp practically at dropoff/pickup. I was new, had no backbone so one would stay for an hour and a half at times!!
When we moved, the new house has a dedicated daycare room and separate nap room. No adult furniture (the lingerer actually commented at the lack of couch, to which I replied "I'm always on my feet anyway, so I really don't need it"). I *thought* this would deter limgerers.. Nope! The same 2- and subtle hints just don't work. So, after a year, DH came up with the idea of using the nap room as the transition room since it has a side entrance anyway. The floor plan allows for it, they come in and when they're done saying goodbye they call for me and I lead their child into the daycare room (nearby) as we talk about important info. So, I posted a note on our Facebook group about the change the weekend before the Monday it started. DCM of 2 handled it fine, then again she never lingered and ran a daycare center previously. DCM that lingers to say goodbye to DCG (so, basically puts on a show and expects no one to come near her child while doing so) seemed decent about it. Probably since it still afforded her the special goodbye time with DCG, but I'm sure she's not happy about not being right in the middle of everything. DCM that stays up to an hour was NOT happy!! (same one who balked at the move) She made some pouty comment about "I can't, honey, it's against Miss ______'s rules" when DCG was trying to lead her into the house. Then, after I led DCG into room and turned to tell DCM to have a good day, the door was just shy of slamming behind her! I stated with the post that this way would allow for less disruption to my routine, a quieter environment for parents and children for transitions and better communication between me and parents since there wouldn't be a crazy mob right there in the same space.
Anyway, I just don't understand why which door they walk in should cause any issues. These parents have been sending their children for 2, 3 and 4 years so trust should not be an issue. I really feel that the miffed Moms are just upset that they don't have an audience anymore. DH says it's because they don't like change...
I couldn't be happier at the results! Drop-off and pick-up are so much less stressful and I'm taking control of my business and home ☺️
When we moved, the new house has a dedicated daycare room and separate nap room. No adult furniture (the lingerer actually commented at the lack of couch, to which I replied "I'm always on my feet anyway, so I really don't need it"). I *thought* this would deter limgerers.. Nope! The same 2- and subtle hints just don't work. So, after a year, DH came up with the idea of using the nap room as the transition room since it has a side entrance anyway. The floor plan allows for it, they come in and when they're done saying goodbye they call for me and I lead their child into the daycare room (nearby) as we talk about important info. So, I posted a note on our Facebook group about the change the weekend before the Monday it started. DCM of 2 handled it fine, then again she never lingered and ran a daycare center previously. DCM that lingers to say goodbye to DCG (so, basically puts on a show and expects no one to come near her child while doing so) seemed decent about it. Probably since it still afforded her the special goodbye time with DCG, but I'm sure she's not happy about not being right in the middle of everything. DCM that stays up to an hour was NOT happy!! (same one who balked at the move) She made some pouty comment about "I can't, honey, it's against Miss ______'s rules" when DCG was trying to lead her into the house. Then, after I led DCG into room and turned to tell DCM to have a good day, the door was just shy of slamming behind her! I stated with the post that this way would allow for less disruption to my routine, a quieter environment for parents and children for transitions and better communication between me and parents since there wouldn't be a crazy mob right there in the same space.
Anyway, I just don't understand why which door they walk in should cause any issues. These parents have been sending their children for 2, 3 and 4 years so trust should not be an issue. I really feel that the miffed Moms are just upset that they don't have an audience anymore. DH says it's because they don't like change...
I couldn't be happier at the results! Drop-off and pick-up are so much less stressful and I'm taking control of my business and home ☺️
Josiegirl 02:50 AM 09-17-2016
The fact that YOU like the change and how it's affected your business is all that matters!!
I bet the reason they're upset is because they have a hard time letting go of their child's world every day.
When my own kids were little and started school I was terrible. I'd walk them in, get them settled, stay for a few minutes. I was one of those moms that had a hard time letting go. My kids had no issues, it was all me.
Good for you for staying strong!
Their little babies are growing up and they're having a hard time not being able to see it all happen themselves.
But I gotta say......an hour and a half??? Egads.
I bet the reason they're upset is because they have a hard time letting go of their child's world every day.
When my own kids were little and started school I was terrible. I'd walk them in, get them settled, stay for a few minutes. I was one of those moms that had a hard time letting go. My kids had no issues, it was all me.
Good for you for staying strong!
Their little babies are growing up and they're having a hard time not being able to see it all happen themselves.
But I gotta say......an hour and a half??? Egads.
laundrymom 05:59 AM 09-17-2016
You are such a caring provider.
I'm afraid I would have said,
Sarah, since you stay here for an hour each day why don't you come later? Josie misses craft time because of your morning drop offs anyway, this would allow you the time you need at home. We will look for you around 9 instead of 8. Ok?
I'm afraid I would have said,
Sarah, since you stay here for an hour each day why don't you come later? Josie misses craft time because of your morning drop offs anyway, this would allow you the time you need at home. We will look for you around 9 instead of 8. Ok?
Mike 06:30 AM 09-17-2016
Originally Posted by laundrymom:
You are such a caring provider.
I'm afraid I would have said,
Sarah, since you stay here for an hour each day why don't you come later? Josie misses craft time because of your morning drop offs anyway, this would allow you the time you need at home. We will look for you around 9 instead of 8. Ok?
You are such a caring provider.
I'm afraid I would have said,
Sarah, since you stay here for an hour each day why don't you come later? Josie misses craft time because of your morning drop offs anyway, this would allow you the time you need at home. We will look for you around 9 instead of 8. Ok?
That's what I would do. If the parent stays for "a visit", I'd just have them drop the kid off at the time they are ready to go.
Poptarts22 08:56 AM 09-17-2016
Recently, I had a mom staying at pick up and drop off for FAR too long. She would even comment that on her days off she had considered dropping in to visit. Drove me nuts! Thankfully (lol) she sucked at her job and was terminated. She now makes Facebook posts constantly about how she can't afford to work because the high cost of daycare-you know--one of those parents who think we are all getting rich at their expense. Good riddance!!
Leigh 02:01 PM 09-18-2016
Originally Posted by knoxmomof2:
I bought a house a year ago, moved about 15 minutes from the old place. All 4 of my families came with me, but 1 balked at it. In the old house, my living room was the daycare space so we had our couch in there. 2 parents in particular would set up camp practically at dropoff/pickup. I was new, had no backbone so one would stay for an hour and a half at times!!
When we moved, the new house has a dedicated daycare room and separate nap room. No adult furniture (the lingerer actually commented at the lack of couch, to which I replied "I'm always on my feet anyway, so I really don't need it"). I *thought* this would deter limgerers.. Nope! The same 2- and subtle hints just don't work. So, after a year, DH came up with the idea of using the nap room as the transition room since it has a side entrance anyway. The floor plan allows for it, they come in and when they're done saying goodbye they call for me and I lead their child into the daycare room (nearby) as we talk about important info. So, I posted a note on our Facebook group about the change the weekend before the Monday it started. DCM of 2 handled it fine, then again she never lingered and ran a daycare center previously. DCM that lingers to say goodbye to DCG (so, basically puts on a show and expects no one to come near her child while doing so) seemed decent about it. Probably since it still afforded her the special goodbye time with DCG, but I'm sure she's not happy about not being right in the middle of everything. DCM that stays up to an hour was NOT happy!! (same one who balked at the move) She made some pouty comment about "I can't, honey, it's against Miss ______'s rules" when DCG was trying to lead her into the house. Then, after I led DCG into room and turned to tell DCM to have a good day, the door was just shy of slamming behind her! I stated with the post that this way would allow for less disruption to my routine, a quieter environment for parents and children for transitions and better communication between me and parents since there wouldn't be a crazy mob right there in the same space.
Anyway, I just don't understand why which door they walk in should cause any issues. These parents have been sending their children for 2, 3 and 4 years so trust should not be an issue. I really feel that the miffed Moms are just upset that they don't have an audience anymore. DH says it's because they don't like change...
I couldn't be happier at the results! Drop-off and pick-up are so much less stressful and I'm taking control of my business and home ☺️
You're exactly right. You removed their audience. They no longer get your attention for their lingering drop offs. They WANT your attention. You took it away and put it where it belonged (on the children), and now DCM is jealous and hurt. Stick to your guns, girl.I bought a house a year ago, moved about 15 minutes from the old place. All 4 of my families came with me, but 1 balked at it. In the old house, my living room was the daycare space so we had our couch in there. 2 parents in particular would set up camp practically at dropoff/pickup. I was new, had no backbone so one would stay for an hour and a half at times!!
When we moved, the new house has a dedicated daycare room and separate nap room. No adult furniture (the lingerer actually commented at the lack of couch, to which I replied "I'm always on my feet anyway, so I really don't need it"). I *thought* this would deter limgerers.. Nope! The same 2- and subtle hints just don't work. So, after a year, DH came up with the idea of using the nap room as the transition room since it has a side entrance anyway. The floor plan allows for it, they come in and when they're done saying goodbye they call for me and I lead their child into the daycare room (nearby) as we talk about important info. So, I posted a note on our Facebook group about the change the weekend before the Monday it started. DCM of 2 handled it fine, then again she never lingered and ran a daycare center previously. DCM that lingers to say goodbye to DCG (so, basically puts on a show and expects no one to come near her child while doing so) seemed decent about it. Probably since it still afforded her the special goodbye time with DCG, but I'm sure she's not happy about not being right in the middle of everything. DCM that stays up to an hour was NOT happy!! (same one who balked at the move) She made some pouty comment about "I can't, honey, it's against Miss ______'s rules" when DCG was trying to lead her into the house. Then, after I led DCG into room and turned to tell DCM to have a good day, the door was just shy of slamming behind her! I stated with the post that this way would allow for less disruption to my routine, a quieter environment for parents and children for transitions and better communication between me and parents since there wouldn't be a crazy mob right there in the same space.
Anyway, I just don't understand why which door they walk in should cause any issues. These parents have been sending their children for 2, 3 and 4 years so trust should not be an issue. I really feel that the miffed Moms are just upset that they don't have an audience anymore. DH says it's because they don't like change...
I couldn't be happier at the results! Drop-off and pick-up are so much less stressful and I'm taking control of my business and home ☺️
thrivingchildcarecom 10:32 AM 09-19-2016
Good for you! I think your hubby is right. Nobody particularly likes change. But just like everyone else, your parents will get used to it.
Stand your ground and know that you are doing what is best for the children, parents and your business.
Stand your ground and know that you are doing what is best for the children, parents and your business.
EntropyControlSpecialist 10:37 AM 09-19-2016
DCM will need to make friends in her life and stop forcing you to be a friend when you need to be working. 
That's how I view it, anyways.
Forcing a friendship isn't cute.
That's how I view it, anyways.Forcing a friendship isn't cute.
Ariana 06:11 PM 09-19-2016
Some people are just so bizarre it hurts my head!
This woman is crazy so I am glad you no longer have to deal with her craziness
This woman is crazy so I am glad you no longer have to deal with her craziness
knoxmomof2 01:22 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
The fact that YOU like the change and how it's affected your business is all that matters!!
I bet the reason they're upset is because they have a hard time letting go of their child's world every day.
When my own kids were little and started school I was terrible. I'd walk them in, get them settled, stay for a few minutes. I was one of those moms that had a hard time letting go. My kids had no issues, it was all me.
Good for you for staying strong!
Their little babies are growing up and they're having a hard time not being able to see it all happen themselves.
But I gotta say......an hour and a half??? Egads.
Yeah, she didn't take subtle hints either... With the policy change, I upped the frequency of my posts on the closed Facebook page I have for the daycare in an attempt to keep them in the loop more on their children- I even started adding a video each day. Just a short clip of a funny moment. That way, they're connected to their child, just not connected to me so much.. The fact that YOU like the change and how it's affected your business is all that matters!!
I bet the reason they're upset is because they have a hard time letting go of their child's world every day.
When my own kids were little and started school I was terrible. I'd walk them in, get them settled, stay for a few minutes. I was one of those moms that had a hard time letting go. My kids had no issues, it was all me.
Good for you for staying strong!
Their little babies are growing up and they're having a hard time not being able to see it all happen themselves.
But I gotta say......an hour and a half??? Egads.
knoxmomof2 01:23 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by laundrymom:
You are such a caring provider.
I'm afraid I would have said,
Sarah, since you stay here for an hour each day why don't you come later? Josie misses craft time because of your morning drop offs anyway, this would allow you the time you need at home. We will look for you around 9 instead of 8. Ok?
I was a wimp.. LOL.. you guys have taught me to do things differently. I just have to get unhappy enough to make the change- and I finally did!You are such a caring provider.
I'm afraid I would have said,
Sarah, since you stay here for an hour each day why don't you come later? Josie misses craft time because of your morning drop offs anyway, this would allow you the time you need at home. We will look for you around 9 instead of 8. Ok?
knoxmomof2 01:24 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by Poptarts22:
Recently, I had a mom staying at pick up and drop off for FAR too long. She would even comment that on her days off she had considered dropping in to visit. Drove me nuts! Thankfully (lol) she sucked at her job and was terminated. She now makes Facebook posts constantly about how she can't afford to work because the high cost of daycare-you know--one of those parents who think we are all getting rich at their expense. Good riddance!!
Good riddance is pretty much what I get to say now.. ah, it feels so nice to just DO my job Recently, I had a mom staying at pick up and drop off for FAR too long. She would even comment that on her days off she had considered dropping in to visit. Drove me nuts! Thankfully (lol) she sucked at her job and was terminated. She now makes Facebook posts constantly about how she can't afford to work because the high cost of daycare-you know--one of those parents who think we are all getting rich at their expense. Good riddance!!
knoxmomof2 01:25 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by Leigh:
You're exactly right. You removed their audience. They no longer get your attention for their lingering drop offs. They WANT your attention. You took it away and put it where it belonged (on the children), and now DCM is jealous and hurt. Stick to your guns, girl.
Thank you!You're exactly right. You removed their audience. They no longer get your attention for their lingering drop offs. They WANT your attention. You took it away and put it where it belonged (on the children), and now DCM is jealous and hurt. Stick to your guns, girl.
knoxmomof2 01:26 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by thrivingchildcarecom:
Good for you! I think your hubby is right. Nobody particularly likes change. But just like everyone else, your parents will get used to it.
Stand your ground and know that you are doing what is best for the children, parents and your business.
Thank you! So far, it's getting "easier" (as easy as a mad DCM can be.. lol)Good for you! I think your hubby is right. Nobody particularly likes change. But just like everyone else, your parents will get used to it.
Stand your ground and know that you are doing what is best for the children, parents and your business.
knoxmomof2 01:28 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
DCM will need to make friends in her life and stop forcing you to be a friend when you need to be working. That's how I view it, anyways.
Forcing a friendship isn't cute.
No, it's desperate.. and sad. She is the type that will make you feel like you're her confidante, but she just wants an ear. Sorry, not a therapist... DCM will need to make friends in her life and stop forcing you to be a friend when you need to be working.
That's how I view it, anyways.Forcing a friendship isn't cute.
knoxmomof2 01:28 PM 09-24-2016
Originally Posted by Ariana:
Some people are just so bizarre it hurts my head!
This woman is crazy so I am glad you no longer have to deal with her craziness
Thank you!! Me too Some people are just so bizarre it hurts my head!
This woman is crazy so I am glad you no longer have to deal with her craziness
