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deliberateliterate 06:08 AM 10-29-2014
This has just been escalating for about 6 months now. At first it was directed at my 4yo son. Now he's at school during the day, so it's directed at my other 2yo DCG, and more recently, it's at me.
They are not hard hits, more like smacks. Her first instinct when something doesn't go her way is to raise her hand and smack at whoever is offending her. When someone tries to steal her toy, or someone is in her way, etc. With me, it's when I take a toy or something inappropriate (remote control, cordless phone, someone's shoe, etc) away, or when I stop her from doing something, she gets this really mad look on her face and tries to hit me.
As I said, it's escalating, and I'm at a loss. She use to do it only when I wasn't looking. In fact, she use to glance at me to see if I was looking and if I was, she'd lower her hand. But now she doesn't care if I'm there or not.
She just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago, and is mostly non-verbal and in my non expert opinion, might have some delays. When I tell her not to hit, or to be nice to her friends, she just looks at me blankly, or smiles. And of course now the other 2 yr old picked up on it, and smacks her right back.
They are not hard hits, more like smacks. Her first instinct when something doesn't go her way is to raise her hand and smack at whoever is offending her. When someone tries to steal her toy, or someone is in her way, etc. With me, it's when I take a toy or something inappropriate (remote control, cordless phone, someone's shoe, etc) away, or when I stop her from doing something, she gets this really mad look on her face and tries to hit me.
As I said, it's escalating, and I'm at a loss. She use to do it only when I wasn't looking. In fact, she use to glance at me to see if I was looking and if I was, she'd lower her hand. But now she doesn't care if I'm there or not.
She just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago, and is mostly non-verbal and in my non expert opinion, might have some delays. When I tell her not to hit, or to be nice to her friends, she just looks at me blankly, or smiles. And of course now the other 2 yr old picked up on it, and smacks her right back.
Play Care 06:17 AM 10-29-2014
Originally Posted by deliberateliterate:
This has just been escalating for about 6 months now. At first it was directed at my 4yo son. Now he's at school during the day, so it's directed at my other 2yo DCG, and more recently, it's at me.
They are not hard hits, more like smacks. Her first instinct when something doesn't go her way is to raise her hand and smack at whoever is offending her. When someone tries to steal her toy, or someone is in her way, etc. With me, it's when I take a toy or something inappropriate (remote control, cordless phone, someone's shoe, etc) away, or when I stop her from doing something, she gets this really mad look on her face and tries to hit me.
As I said, it's escalating, and I'm at a loss. She use to do it only when I wasn't looking. In fact, she use to glance at me to see if I was looking and if I was, she'd lower her hand. But now she doesn't care if I'm there or not.
She just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago, and is mostly non-verbal and in my non expert opinion, might have some delays. When I tell her not to hit, or to be nice to her friends, she just looks at me blankly, or smiles. And of course now the other 2 yr old picked up on it, and smacks her right back.
At the risk of being slammed, I would take her hand GENTLY BUT FIRMLY and Hold it down (she shouldn't be able to pull her hand free and smack at you) and say very, VERY sternly "NO HITTING!! HITTING HURTS!!" Keep it simple simple, as she is not understanding the "be nice to friends" messages she's been getting.This has just been escalating for about 6 months now. At first it was directed at my 4yo son. Now he's at school during the day, so it's directed at my other 2yo DCG, and more recently, it's at me.
They are not hard hits, more like smacks. Her first instinct when something doesn't go her way is to raise her hand and smack at whoever is offending her. When someone tries to steal her toy, or someone is in her way, etc. With me, it's when I take a toy or something inappropriate (remote control, cordless phone, someone's shoe, etc) away, or when I stop her from doing something, she gets this really mad look on her face and tries to hit me.
As I said, it's escalating, and I'm at a loss. She use to do it only when I wasn't looking. In fact, she use to glance at me to see if I was looking and if I was, she'd lower her hand. But now she doesn't care if I'm there or not.
She just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago, and is mostly non-verbal and in my non expert opinion, might have some delays. When I tell her not to hit, or to be nice to her friends, she just looks at me blankly, or smiles. And of course now the other 2 yr old picked up on it, and smacks her right back.
midaycare 06:49 AM 10-29-2014
I would immediately move her to a pack and play. Let her know its unacceptable and every time she does it, she will be removed. I guess that's a time out, and she's a little young ... But she's hitting!
TheGoodLife 07:08 AM 10-29-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I would immediately move her to a pack and play. Let her know its unacceptable and every time she does it, she will be removed. I guess that's a time out, and she's a little young ... But she's hitting!
I would immediately move her to a pack and play. Let her know its unacceptable and every time she does it, she will be removed. I guess that's a time out, and she's a little young ... But she's hitting!
Yes! I haven't had a problem with my kids or DCKs hitting, but when my DD was biting while nursing (she was maybe 9 months at the time), I'd take her off my lap, sit her on the ground and say "no bite, bite hurts." She didn't like her "time out" on the floor and stopped quickly. I'd think it might work in your situation as well, and I think a short time out is appropriate when it comes to hitting.
Heidi 07:16 AM 10-29-2014
I'd go with catching her hand and "NO HIT!" it a firm voice. By the time you get her to a pnp half way across the room, she'll have forgotten what she did already.
Unregistered 08:05 AM 10-29-2014
Have you talked to her parents? Seems like she has a lot of issues and is probably special needs. It's also common for special needs children, even older ones/even adults, to look for physical solution to things than other routes. I also say this, because most nonspecial needs children would stop hitting once they get hit back.
racemom 06:08 AM 11-02-2014
Originally Posted by Heidi:
I'd go with catching her hand and "NO HIT!" it a firm voice. By the time you get her to a pnp half way across the room, she'll have forgotten what she did already.
I have to disagree with this, when I work with the two year olds I find when I make them sit for doing something they can tell me afterwards why they had to sit. When it is time to get up I always ask what did you do to your friend and they will answer hit him, and then I say it's not nice to hit you hurt dcb now go tell him you are sorry. They will then go over and say sorry and give a hug.I'd go with catching her hand and "NO HIT!" it a firm voice. By the time you get her to a pnp half way across the room, she'll have forgotten what she did already.