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midaycare 03:05 PM 06-11-2014
I took on a family that I knew would be questionable. They needed care from 4-9 pm Wed-Fri. They accept state aid, so the rest they have to pay for themselves. Dcm didn't show up with payment today for the week, which I require. She asked to pay on Friday. Eh ... I let her drop kids off.

The 2.5 year old is a terror. He is extremely destructive and I had 2 parents comment to me, "Wow you have your hands full!" And "Whew! He's into everything!"

I'm thinking of terming tonight at pickup but have never done this before. Should I give them more time? I'm really worried about my stuff!
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Michael 03:17 PM 06-11-2014
I think you answered yourself in your description of this family. Sooner the better IMO.
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midaycare 03:22 PM 06-11-2014
Originally Posted by Michael:
I think you answered yourself in your description of this family. Sooner the better IMO.
I guess I'm looking for the "it's okay, you can term them..." Thanks
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EntropyControlSpecialist 03:30 PM 06-11-2014
I rarely have "terror kids" get better behavior wise. I want to say that only one ever did improve. The others I either had shadowing me constantly or I had to term.
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midaycare 03:47 PM 06-11-2014
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I rarely have "terror kids" get better behavior wise. I want to say that only one ever did improve. The others I either had shadowing me constantly or I had to term.
That is really helpful, because I feel like a bit of a failure after throwing in the towel on night #1. But older dcb put a hole in my wall with how hard he smacked a Thomas train against it
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Blackcat31 03:49 PM 06-11-2014
It's ok... Ive termed the first day too before.

Usually your first instinct is the correct one.

He might get better but it WILL be a lot of work on your part.
I wouldnt be willing to put in that kind of work for a parent who has alrwady stiffed me payment... Kwim?
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e.j. 04:18 PM 06-11-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I guess I'm looking for the "it's okay, you can term them..." Thanks
It's okay, you can term them.

Two parents have already commented on the behavior they've witnessed. Don't risk losing their kids in order to keep the "little terror".
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melilley 04:39 PM 06-11-2014
I agree, it's ok to term! And you are in no way a failure! I have one challenging child here and haven't termed yet, but the day he puts a hole in my wall, he's gone. That is ridiculous!
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midaycare 05:24 PM 06-11-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
It's ok... Ive termed the first day too before.

Usually your first instinct is the correct one.

He might get better but it WILL be a lot of work on your part.
I wouldnt be willing to put in that kind of work for a parent who has alrwady stiffed me payment... Kwim?
Those were kind of my thoughts ... I'm glad to hear you've termed before in the first day too . If Blackcat has done it, I know it's okay, lol
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midaycare 05:25 PM 06-11-2014
Originally Posted by e.j.:
It's okay, you can term them.

Two parents have already commented on the behavior they've witnessed. Don't risk losing their kids in order to keep the "little terror".
Yes, I definitely don't want to lose my other kids - I have such a great group here!
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midaycare 07:03 PM 06-11-2014
I termed a little while ago and it went really well. DCM didn't even look surprised.

Thanks for your support everyone!
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Blackcat31 06:17 AM 06-12-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I termed a little while ago and it went really well. DCM didn't even look surprised.

Thanks for your support everyone!
Glad it went ok...

Was mom's lack of surprise due to the fact this has happened before to her do you think? I mean she can't be surprised that her son is so aggressive.

Did she pay you for the one day you did provide care? Or is it a wash?
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MotherNature 07:35 AM 06-12-2014
I would want some sort of payment for sure. You did watch her kids for a day, plus now you're out the cost of patching a wall, plus the time and repainting, etc.
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cheerfuldom 09:52 AM 06-12-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Glad it went ok...

Was mom's lack of surprise due to the fact this has happened before to her do you think? I mean she can't be surprised that her son is so aggressive.

Did she pay you for the one day you did provide care? Or is it a wash?
yeah I would bet that mom has been daycare hopping with a destructive poorly behaved child for awhile. Any regular parent would be shocked and surprised to be termed after one day.
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taylorw1210 09:58 AM 06-12-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I termed a little while ago and it went really well. DCM didn't even look surprised.

Thanks for your support everyone!
Jeez, if my child was terminated from care due to behavior I would be mortified! This must not be her first rodeo.
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coolconfidentme 10:04 AM 06-12-2014
I termed on day 2 yesterday. DCD said, "I need to know right now if this is your finally decision!?" I took the paper outta his hand, looked at it, handed it back & said, "Yep."

ps..., Everyone was in a happier mood today.
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melilley 11:47 AM 06-12-2014
Originally Posted by coolconfidentme:
I termed on day 2 yesterday. DCD said, "I need to know right now if this is your finally decision!?" I took the paper outta his hand, looked at it, handed it back & said, "Yep."

ps..., Everyone was in a happier mood today.
Oh wow, I had to laugh at this!
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midaycare 11:56 AM 06-12-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Glad it went ok...

Was mom's lack of surprise due to the fact this has happened before to her do you think? I mean she can't be surprised that her son is so aggressive.

Did she pay you for the one day you did provide care? Or is it a wash?
From watching her complete and utter lack of surprise, I believe this has happened to her more than a few times.

I did not want any future dealings with her, so I said I did not need payment. She offered to pay me for the day and for the damage, but I have no illusions that I would ever see that payment.
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midaycare 11:56 AM 06-12-2014
Originally Posted by coolconfidentme:
I termed on day 2 yesterday. DCD said, "I need to know right now if this is your finally decision!?" I took the paper outta his hand, looked at it, handed it back & said, "Yep."

ps..., Everyone was in a happier mood today.
Hilarious!!!
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