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Old 10-25-2010, 07:32 AM
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Hi all, I'm new here, but have been lurking and reading the posts for a while. I have already learned so much I have a question. It really annoys me when a parent brings her child late. He was coming at 7:30, but sometimes (frequently) its not until 8:15. When I asked her if this was his new drop off time she laughed and said she should be here at 7:30, but always runs late. However, she still expects him to have breakfast. He is a baby so I don't prepare meals, but it throws off my routine with the other kids if I have to stop and feed him right when he comes in. This also throws off the rest of his feeding schedule. I understand things happen and people run late, but every day? Thats just crazy. Am I being silly or does this bother you guys as well? What do you do about it? I hate to push this issue to much, because there are a few other issues with this mom that I feel are more important.
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Old 10-25-2010, 07:49 AM
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Personally late drop offs don't bother me unless (1 they are my first drop off of the day- hey I could have hit the snooze button for once! (2 they come late AND UNFED (3 their coming late makes me late if I have to leave and go somewhere.
I think you had better say something to momma. Communication solves most problems. I am thinking something like "hey it really throws me off my routine if lil junior shows up late and unfed. I expect junior to eat before arrival." If breakfast is something you offer to everyone you could say that you schedule lil junior's feeding at 7:45 and if he arrives later than that you will feed him next at 10am or whenever you generally do snack.
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Old 10-25-2010, 08:00 AM
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I have a breakfast cut off time. If your child is not here by 7:45am breakfast will not be served so they are to come fed.
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Old 10-25-2010, 08:23 AM
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If you have other issues with this parent, and want this to stop, I would say a good middle-ground would be to tell her what you told us about throwing off your schedule , and explain that you are not going to feed dck past breakfast time. If she's going to be late anyway, please take the time to feed dck so your routine isn't interrupted.
That will inconvenience her just enough to keep her on her toes, IMO.
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Old 10-25-2010, 08:50 AM
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I would just say,.. oh I understand that (being late) and that you get so behind sometimes too. That you will try to get little raymond a larger portion of his morning snack today because he seems to be quite hungry when you drop off late and he misses our breakfast time. Then smile and do the uncomfortable pause thing,.... she will learn real fast that lack of preparation on her part does not constitute an emergency on yours.

Of course then as soon as she leaves,.. give the little guy something small to tide him over until snack.

When she asks at pickup if he was fussy, or really hungry of whatever,.. just say yes, he had two portions of snack today and seemed fine after that. Don't tell her he was fed after she left,...she is an adult for goodness sake,... she needs to get her rear out of bed. I have no sympathy for laziness. If she overslept, came in apologizing that he wasnt fed, and asked you to please feed him that is one thing,...but to just show up with a hungry guy because she is running late,.. no,.. she is already late,.. take 5 more minutes and feed your kid.
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Old 10-25-2010, 09:04 AM
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What gets to me is they expect you to stay at home no matter what time they drop off. I had a little boy usually is dropped off between 8:00(contracted time is 8:30) and 8:30. His dad didn't drop him off one day til 9:30! I told him oh I didn't think he was coming today, beings there isn't any school today(Mom is a teacher) no meetings, or anything for the teachers. I just about left for a walk about 15 min. prior to you coming. He replied why should it matter you are open and here all day long. I said no I am not- I take walks almost everyday with the children. I wish I would have been gone, then he wouldn't have known what to do!! This drives me nuts!! I can't believe he dropped off 1 1/2 hrs. after he normally comes- no phone call nothing!!
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Old 10-25-2010, 09:10 AM
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iowa,.. directly copied from my contract,...
~ VERY IMPORTANT Please call or text if your child will not be attending for the day. If you do not show up or call within 1 hour of your contracted drop off time I will assume you are keeping them home or have made other arrangements for that days care. I consider it a gift of a paid day off from you and may make plans to be away for the day. It will not affect my vacation of personal days.


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Old 10-25-2010, 09:14 AM
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iowa,.. directly copied from my contract,...
~ VERY IMPORTANT Please call or text if your child will not be attending for the day. If you do not show up or call within 1 hour of your contracted drop off time I will assume you are keeping them home or have made other arrangements for that days care. I consider it a gift of a paid day off from you and may make plans to be away for the day. It will not affect my vacation of personal days.


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Old 10-25-2010, 09:25 AM
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I think I will tell her he needs to be fed prior to coming if he will be late. That seems pretty standard to most daycares. I'm not sure how she will take it though. When I talk to her about issues I am having she just kind of looks at me with a deer in the headlight stare. Don't you hate that look I am very happy to know that I'm not the only one that is irritated by late drop offs. I will definately be adding the late drop off clause into my contract I love it!
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Ah, the ol' deer in the headlight stare...I know it well!
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Old 10-25-2010, 08:38 PM
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I have a family that does that...daily and has been doing so for 4 months! Their contracted time is 730am. I think they came once at 730. The rest of the time they show up anywhere from 8-930am, but usually more so between 8-830. And I know exactly why they did it!!

My contract states that early drop off service is available for a fee of $5, they may drop off up to 30 minutes early. So they contracted the 730 time to cover their butts when winter comes, and it takes them longer to get to work! This way they get to escape the $5 early drop off fee...hmm..smart huh?

Just when you think you have everything covered! I think in the future, if someone tries to pull that trick on me again, I am going to tell them they have to change their contracted time. I just have to figure out what to say the reason is for doing so that they will understand.

I really dont care if they come late, in fact I prefer it..more quiet time for me, and makes for a shorter day.
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Old 10-26-2010, 04:38 AM
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I have a family that does that...daily and has been doing so for 4 months! Their contracted time is 730am. I think they came once at 730. The rest of the time they show up anywhere from 8-930am, but usually more so between 8-830. And I know exactly why they did it!!

My contract states that early drop off service is available for a fee of $5, they may drop off up to 30 minutes early. So they contracted the 730 time to cover their butts when winter comes, and it takes them longer to get to work! This way they get to escape the $5 early drop off fee...hmm..smart huh?

Just when you think you have everything covered! I think in the future, if someone tries to pull that trick on me again, I am going to tell them they have to change their contracted time. I just have to figure out what to say the reason is for doing so that they will understand.

I really dont care if they come late, in fact I prefer it..more quiet time for me, and makes for a shorter day.
I can understand you not really caring if they are a bit late. I would not either; however, it would affect my ability to leave the house. I drive kids to school at specific times. Not knowing when a parent arrives can be nerve-wracking b/c you know the minute you leave the house for the 10 min timeframe you are driving kids to school that DCP will show up! I would not like that at all!
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Old 10-26-2010, 05:30 AM
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Yup, I also have a family that's like that. Contracted from 8am-6pm but doesn't get here until 8:30-9:30 sometimes as late as noon. Doesn't bother me much since I drop off the SA's at school at 7:45am and I'm back by 8am anyway so it doesn't get in my way BUT she always brings DCB without feeding him food. He gets the boob, so don't get me wrong but he's 15 months old now and the only real meals he gets are the ones that I give him here and dinner at home.

When he gets here he asks for food as soon as he gets put down on the floor and I always EVRY MORNING hear "Oh, he hasn't had breakfast yet, he had the boob but no food". Sometimes it's as late as noon! Does it bother me? Not really. Technically (if she's telling me the truth) he's had BM so he should have something in his tummy and my response is always the same "Oh, well we already had breakfast and 1st snack but lunch is coming up at 11:30" If she were bringing him at 8am like she was supposed to then he'd get a snack at 9am. I guess the way I see it is like this, if she's not concerned about feeding him real food and can get by on BM only until noon (EVERY time he's brought at noon she has said the same thing) then he'll b fine with a sippy cup of water until our next meal or snack.

Oh and on an end note ... I will always prefer to have a child dropped off late rather than picked up late.
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Old 10-26-2010, 05:41 AM
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I just find it messes with everyones schedule. Especially the baby. However, there isn't a whole lot I can do about it (other than talk to her.) He isn't big enough to have a snack to tide him over. I would either have to give him a bottle or baby food.

Oh and on an end note ... I will always prefer to have a child dropped off late rather than picked up late.

Great point!!!! At least she never has picked him up late!!!!!
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Old 10-26-2010, 05:43 AM
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I have in my contract the times I serve breakfast, so if they show up within that time, late or not, they still get breakfast, I dont plan any activities until after this time and clean-up after, I dont care if there late, doesnt bother me, gives me extra time without all of them in the AM, I have one parent who will bring there son every once in a while, outside of my eating time, and he'll tell me he needs a snack or something, and it bugs me, but I just go with it, and just give him a little snack, Hes a younger more self absorbed dad, and I'm just like whatever, I do like it when they send me a text message if they are running really late, and most have always done that.
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Old 10-26-2010, 06:10 AM
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iowa,.. directly copied from my contract,...
~ VERY IMPORTANT Please call or text if your child will not be attending for the day. If you do not show up or call within 1 hour of your contracted drop off time I will assume you are keeping them home or have made other arrangements for that days care. I consider it a gift of a paid day off from you and may make plans to be away for the day. It will not affect my vacation of personal days.


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I added this for next yr.'s contract- but I placed in there 1 hr. late, if no call, I figure you are not coming, and I can plan my day for it. Walks, parks, etc.... I love it!! I also added to please have children, dressed, changed and fed for the am. This inc. babies must have bottles, before coming to daycare.
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Old 10-26-2010, 06:25 AM
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I've had a few families like this as well. I personally don't care (with the older ones not babies) if they drop off late UNLESS like someone else said it's my first client and I got up for them. I had a mom who's contracted time was 7:00 and she never dropped off at that time, it was more ike 8 or 8:30, He was my first for the day, I told her she needed to tell me the day before if he was coming or not early. She says, well I don't always know how my mornings go what??? I said well figure it out because I need to know. She made me so mad a few times she would call and ask if I'd open 15 min earlie 6:45 for a meeting, I said yes with her to not show up, oooohh I was steaming mad, I told her again I wasn't doing that and she finally got better, oh but then there was a couple times where she dropped off earlier than her contracted time and I wasn't even ready yet and she would call me from the front door, I told her I'm not open yet she needs to authorize it ahead of time, she said oh I thought you were open from 6:30 - 5? I said IF I have someone contracted at that time I am for them but you're contracted hours are 8 (changed after a couple years). Some people.

Anyways I dont' mind late drop offs, makes for an easier day for me but I do like to be told. A baby depending on age I might be bothered by that more seeing the feeding and such and throws babies off schedule so easy, I've never had that happen yet.
I would do what the others said and tell her he needs to eat before he comes.
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Old 10-26-2010, 06:30 AM
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I've had a few families like this as well. I personally don't care (with the older ones not babies) if they drop off late UNLESS like someone else said it's my first client and I got up for them. I had a mom who's contracted time was 7:00 and she never dropped off at that time, it was more ike 8 or 8:30, He was my first for the day, I told her she needed to tell me the day before if he was coming or not early. She says, well I don't always know how my mornings go what??? I said well figure it out because I need to know. She made me so mad a few times she would call and ask if I'd open 15 min earlie 6:45 for a meeting, I said yes with her to not show up, oooohh I was steaming mad, I told her again I wasn't doing that and she finally got better, oh but then there was a couple times where she dropped off earlier than her contracted time and I wasn't even ready yet and she would call me from the front door, I told her I'm not open yet she needs to authorize it ahead of time, she said oh I thought you were open from 6:30 - 5? I said IF I have someone contracted at that time I am for them but you're contracted hours are 8 (changed after a couple years). Some people.

Anyways I dont' mind late drop offs, makes for an easier day for me but I do like to be told. A baby depending on age I might be bothered by that more seeing the feeding and such and throws babies off schedule so easy, I've never had that happen yet.
I would do what the others said and tell her he needs to eat before he comes.
Last summer, I kept waiting around for a little 4 yr. old girl. Her contracted time was 8:30, she would sometimes show up at 10 or 10:30. I finally had enough of it, when I wanted to take everyone to the park, for a walk, etc. and I was waiting around for her all the time. THere was a couple of times, I left at 10:00 and she had to come and find me. I left a note on the door, where I was. From then on, she either called, or told me she would be later,etc. If you do anything at all, walks, field trips, parks, etc. you need to be able to leave when you'd like to, not wait around for someone for 2 hrs.!!!
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Old 10-26-2010, 06:49 AM
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My plan for when this problem arises for me is to call parent and ask if so and so is coming...and if they dont answer and I am going to the park/walk etc I have a sign I hang on the door saying We Are Out. I guess I will find out if it works or not. Maybe I will have perfect parents though!
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Old 10-26-2010, 07:41 AM
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I don't wait for anyone. Well, unless it's something like parent doesn't know what time they will be dropping off, because dck has doc appt or something. Otherwise, if we want to go somewhere, we go. All the parents have my cell number and I always take my phone with me. They can track me down - they might think twice about just showing up whenever again.
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I don't wait for anyone. Well, unless it's something like parent doesn't know what time they will be dropping off, because dck has doc appt or something. Otherwise, if we want to go somewhere, we go. All the parents have my cell number and I always take my phone with me. They can track me down - they might think twice about just showing up whenever again.
Me either! We go if we planned to whether everyone is present or not! Last year we went to Pumpkin Patch without a little boy (Mom was a habitual late arriver) We did wait 20 minutes for her and she didn't answer her cell. She ended up driving him out to the Pumpkin Patch (20 miles) and then complained about being late for work!!!! Then the little boy told me I was mean for not waiting for him. His mom and I had a discussion at pick up. I made her explain that it was HER fault he missed the bus, not mine. She is still a late arriver, but little boy never says anything about it now.
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