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mrsnj 02:10 PM 08-01-2013
My enabler dad of my SA age DCG that I have mentioned before with issues dropped off one day this week. Didn't say anything unusual. Dropped off. Nothing out of whack. The SA kids were playing outside. She didn't want to go out and play (Mainly cause I had a new SA child start and this child has some issues with changes and knew she would need time to accept) so I let her come in and watch some tv and wake up for the day. Nothing unusual. Fast forward....
My older kids are outside playing and I am in the kitchen watching and taking care of the littles and setting up for craft. My daughter comes running up and say "Mommy, XYZs daddy is outside". I look and do not see him and ask where. She leads me to the front windows and shows where he is sitting, not in my drive or in front of my house but in front of my neighbors house WATCHING THE KIDS. Just sitting with his truck running and watching the kids. Like they would not notice him in his RED TRUCK and point it out??? Don't get it. He sits for a little more and finally pulls up and comes to the door. Asks if his daughter is here (like where would she be? HE dropped her off!) and wants to speak with her. I send her to the door and he says "Everything ok?" And she is looking at him like 'huh?' but says "Yeah" (with a question in her tone) He looks at her. She looks at him and shrugs her shoulders and walks away. He is still standing there watching her leave. So I ask him if everything was ok. Was she sick or something (Cause she was one of my hand/foot/mouth kiddies brought sick and not telling me a few weeks ago. Thinking it was another slip in) No. Everything is fine. And he leaves.
So........you case out the yard
..... and lurk ...... watching the kids and then come in to see if your daughter is here? Cause you think she went....where? You saw her come in. You saw her ask to watch tv.
It was about the weirdest thing. I have no clue why he would drive by. Why he would stop and lurk. Why he would ask if she was here. Why he would ask her if she was ok. And then walk away.
I have no clue what that was about but I am truly truly puzzled. And got to admit a little creeped out.
My older kids are outside playing and I am in the kitchen watching and taking care of the littles and setting up for craft. My daughter comes running up and say "Mommy, XYZs daddy is outside". I look and do not see him and ask where. She leads me to the front windows and shows where he is sitting, not in my drive or in front of my house but in front of my neighbors house WATCHING THE KIDS. Just sitting with his truck running and watching the kids. Like they would not notice him in his RED TRUCK and point it out??? Don't get it. He sits for a little more and finally pulls up and comes to the door. Asks if his daughter is here (like where would she be? HE dropped her off!) and wants to speak with her. I send her to the door and he says "Everything ok?" And she is looking at him like 'huh?' but says "Yeah" (with a question in her tone) He looks at her. She looks at him and shrugs her shoulders and walks away. He is still standing there watching her leave. So I ask him if everything was ok. Was she sick or something (Cause she was one of my hand/foot/mouth kiddies brought sick and not telling me a few weeks ago. Thinking it was another slip in) No. Everything is fine. And he leaves.
So........you case out the yard
..... and lurk ...... watching the kids and then come in to see if your daughter is here? Cause you think she went....where? You saw her come in. You saw her ask to watch tv. It was about the weirdest thing. I have no clue why he would drive by. Why he would stop and lurk. Why he would ask if she was here. Why he would ask her if she was ok. And then walk away.
I have no clue what that was about but I am truly truly puzzled. And got to admit a little creeped out.
CedarCreek 02:26 PM 08-01-2013
That is odd..
Maybe he was confused as to why kids were playing in the front yard and his daughter wasn't one of them? Is your yard fenced?
Maybe he was confused as to why kids were playing in the front yard and his daughter wasn't one of them? Is your yard fenced?
mrsnj 02:49 PM 08-01-2013
Oh no.They were playing in the back yard. And no not fenced in. He has an open view of them from the neighbors. But since he dropped off and he heard her ask to watch tv, I would think it odd if he didn't know where she was! She could have been on the patio. Or in the pool. He cannot get that view from there.
Just was so weird
Just was so weird
melilley 02:59 PM 08-01-2013
How odd, that would creep me out! I would be so uncomfortable! There is no reason for him to sit and watch your house, from across the street! Hopefully your neighbor didn't see him sitting there!
coolconfidentme 03:00 PM 08-01-2013
Maybe he thought the kids were playing unsupervised idk. I would have asked him so he knew you were aware he was there & you WERE watching the kids.
crazydaycarelady 03:06 PM 08-01-2013
How long have you had the child in care? I always felt like after I had the child in care awhile the parents need to trust me. If they don't it usually causes issues (like this.)
EntropyControlSpecialist 07:45 PM 08-01-2013
That is really bizarre.
"Hey DCD, I noticed you sitting in your truck watching the other children playing this morning. In the future, I'd appreciate it if you would come join us on our property/observe at drop-off or pick-up so as not to alarm the neighbors or the children. Thanks."
"Hey DCD, I noticed you sitting in your truck watching the other children playing this morning. In the future, I'd appreciate it if you would come join us on our property/observe at drop-off or pick-up so as not to alarm the neighbors or the children. Thanks."
Josiegirl 03:44 AM 08-02-2013
While what he did was very strange, maybe he had come back to see if you had allowed her to watch tv? TV doesn't come on here except during quiet time and maybe he thought she shouldn't be watching it? I dunno. I think you should confront him about any issues he might have had and do as the last poster suggested. I wouldn't want a parent to be spying on me, only for the creep factor. It must be hard but trust is an important aspect of a parent/provider relationship.
countrymom 04:28 AM 08-02-2013
that goes with the spying gma I had. Who hid in my house and watched the kids while I was getting lunch ready.
Josiegirl 04:33 AM 08-02-2013
Omg she actually HID in your house? That's way too creepy.
Familycare71 04:38 AM 08-02-2013
Originally Posted by countrymom:
that goes with the spying gma I had. Who hid in my house and watched the kids while I was getting lunch ready.
that goes with the spying gma I had. Who hid in my house and watched the kids while I was getting lunch ready.
IN your house!?!?
Kaddidle Care 04:42 AM 08-02-2013
Originally Posted by coolconfidentme:
Maybe he thought the kids were playing unsupervised idk. I would have asked him so he knew you were aware he was there & you WERE watching the kids.
This is what I was thinking.Maybe he thought the kids were playing unsupervised idk. I would have asked him so he knew you were aware he was there & you WERE watching the kids.
MyAngels 05:20 AM 08-02-2013
I have a couple of neighbors who have called the police on people sitting in their cars on my street. He's lucky your neighbors aren't like mine 
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mrsnj 06:02 AM 08-02-2013
LOL! I was thinking the same thing. But the development is small and most know his truck. Still....
She has been with me two years so not sure what he was thinking.
It was actually kinda weird. There was this prolonged silence where everyone just stared at each other and his daughter just shrugged and walked away.
LOL I remember the gmom story. Yes. She has him beat I think. One thing in the car another in my house!
She has been with me two years so not sure what he was thinking.
It was actually kinda weird. There was this prolonged silence where everyone just stared at each other and his daughter just shrugged and walked away.
LOL I remember the gmom story. Yes. She has him beat I think. One thing in the car another in my house!