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TwinMama 05:48 AM 03-11-2016
I have 2 dck that are super naughty at pick up and one is naughty during drop off too.
Usually they're hitting their parents or just pitching a fit and it doesn't involve anyone else. Today the one decided to scream his head of and run around taking toys from the other kids. He even flipped one child off a toy. His behavior would've resulted in a time out had his mom not been here.
The thing is...usually he's good and is nice and loving to the other kids. It's just when his parents are here that he acts like a maniac.
Do you step in while the parents are here?
Usually they're hitting their parents or just pitching a fit and it doesn't involve anyone else. Today the one decided to scream his head of and run around taking toys from the other kids. He even flipped one child off a toy. His behavior would've resulted in a time out had his mom not been here.
The thing is...usually he's good and is nice and loving to the other kids. It's just when his parents are here that he acts like a maniac.
Do you step in while the parents are here?
Thriftylady 05:57 AM 03-11-2016
I would start by telling parents this cannot continue, that they need to get their child under control. If that didn't work, I wouldn't let the parent in the door. I would hand them out.
Leigh 06:43 AM 03-11-2016
Originally Posted by TwinMama:
I have 2 dck that are super naughty at pick up and one is naughty during drop off too.
Usually they're hitting their parents or just pitching a fit and it doesn't involve anyone else. Today the one decided to scream his head of and run around taking toys from the other kids. He even flipped one child off a toy. His behavior would've resulted in a time out had his mom not been here.
The thing is...usually he's good and is nice and loving to the other kids. It's just when his parents are here that he acts like a maniac.
Do you step in while the parents are here?
The behavior would have resulted in a time-out regardless of whether the parent was there at my house. When it happens again, tell the parent to pick up their child and leave immediately. If he needs to put on coat/shoes, tell the parent to do it in the car. Let them know the next day at drop off that their child's behavior has become unacceptable and that you will need them to call when they are in your driveway and that you'll bring the children to the door for them to pickup there. Make SURE you block the child from coming back in, because they usually try. They WANT to create that chaos, and sometimes they'll try very hard to get past you to do it. I have a VERY sweet little boy here who turns into a demon some days when his mom picks up (If I tell him he can't have something he saw in my fridge this morning, he'll have a fit when mom gets here begging for it to see if I have the same answer when his mom is here). It's VERY important that rules don't change when the kids' parents show up. Enforce them every time.I have 2 dck that are super naughty at pick up and one is naughty during drop off too.
Usually they're hitting their parents or just pitching a fit and it doesn't involve anyone else. Today the one decided to scream his head of and run around taking toys from the other kids. He even flipped one child off a toy. His behavior would've resulted in a time out had his mom not been here.
The thing is...usually he's good and is nice and loving to the other kids. It's just when his parents are here that he acts like a maniac.
Do you step in while the parents are here?
Miss A 06:50 AM 03-11-2016
I always have problems with pick ups at night with one family. I now remind this child what behavior is acceptable when parents are in my home, and remind children that while they are in my home, I am still in charge. I will even use these reminders in front of parents to drive the point home.
Ariana 06:54 AM 03-11-2016
I had this issue with one little girl but it was only at pickup because mom picks up. She hits and kicks her mom and would destroy my entryway, pulling out baskets and winter gear etc. So I started getting her dressed before mom came and she was to sit on the entryway bench until her mom came. I explained to mom that this works better for me. Mom comes and I do very little small talk. Whenever we get into a conversation about something the behavior dissolves into this mess so I usher them out the door. I often times have to be a human shield blocking her from going into my house with her boots on. So far this routine has worked beautifully.
For drop off I would just tell the parents that the kids are acting up and so they need to start making drop off quicker.
For drop off I would just tell the parents that the kids are acting up and so they need to start making drop off quicker.
midaycare 07:10 AM 03-11-2016
I have this issue right now, except all of my dck's get naughty during all drop offs and pick ups. So they have to be really short now and the parent no longer has my attention. Nor do I help them get their child out of the door. My focus is on the others.
nannyde 07:24 AM 03-11-2016
Time for the Buh Bye outside program!
Unregistered 09:47 AM 03-11-2016
Originally Posted by nannyde:
Time for the Buh Bye outside program!
I finally did this with my pita dck, Omg it has been WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!Time for the Buh Bye outside program!
Blackcat31 11:38 AM 03-11-2016
Originally Posted by TwinMama:
I have 2 dck that are super naughty at pick up and one is naughty during drop off too.
Usually they're hitting their parents or just pitching a fit and it doesn't involve anyone else. Today the one decided to scream his head of and run around taking toys from the other kids. He even flipped one child off a toy. His behavior would've resulted in a time out had his mom not been here.
The thing is...usually he's good and is nice and loving to the other kids. It's just when his parents are here that he acts like a maniac.
Do you step in while the parents are here?
For the kid that is naughty at pick up, I would require the parent to text or call that they are on their way. I would have the child ready so that there is no transition time where both mom and you are present. I have 2 dck that are super naughty at pick up and one is naughty during drop off too.
Usually they're hitting their parents or just pitching a fit and it doesn't involve anyone else. Today the one decided to scream his head of and run around taking toys from the other kids. He even flipped one child off a toy. His behavior would've resulted in a time out had his mom not been here.
The thing is...usually he's good and is nice and loving to the other kids. It's just when his parents are here that he acts like a maniac.
Do you step in while the parents are here?
When mom arrives, she can walk in and swoop him up and out the door.
I would not allow that kind of behavior at pick up (and I don't mean from the child
)
ColorfulSunburst 06:52 AM 03-12-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
For the kid that is naughty at pick up, I would require the parent to text or call that they are on their way. I would have the child ready so that there is no transition time where both mom and you are present.
When mom arrives, she can walk in and swoop him up and out the door.
I would not allow that kind of behavior at pick up (and I don't mean from the child )
same here.For the kid that is naughty at pick up, I would require the parent to text or call that they are on their way. I would have the child ready so that there is no transition time where both mom and you are present.
When mom arrives, she can walk in and swoop him up and out the door.
I would not allow that kind of behavior at pick up (and I don't mean from the child
)During drop off time I do allow to parents to be here no longer than it is necessary for signings in and than: smile-open the door-haveagoooddayseeyoutonight-big smile-close the door.
midaycare 07:58 AM 03-12-2016
Drop offs I can manage quickly, but pick ups I have too m7ch to tell a parent. We discuss what we did that day, I hand them any crafts and explain how their child did them, I talk about how much they ate, how they slept, and any issues.
I tried sheets once but it took way too long to fill out. No thanks!
When dck's are naughty during pick ups, I just have to deal with it. But the parent has to attend to their child while I handle the others and talk to the parent at the same time.
I tried sheets once but it took way too long to fill out. No thanks!
When dck's are naughty during pick ups, I just have to deal with it. But the parent has to attend to their child while I handle the others and talk to the parent at the same time.
Unregistered 05:53 PM 03-12-2016
I would handle it one of two ways. Either the parent texts and I hand the child over at the door, or the child goes into time out regardless of the parent's presence. My house, my rules.
Ariana 05:29 PM 03-13-2016
Originally Posted by midaycare:
Drop offs I can manage quickly, but pick ups I have too m7ch to tell a parent. We discuss what we did that day, I hand them any crafts and explain how their child did them, I talk about how much they ate, how they slept, and any issues.
I tried sheets once but it took way too long to fill out. No thanks!
When dck's are naughty during pick ups, I just have to deal with it. But the parent has to attend to their child while I handle the others and talk to the parent at the same time.
Could you do a private FB page for this? This is what I do now so no more questions at the door. I post a ton of photos and explanations of what we did plus the weekly menu.Drop offs I can manage quickly, but pick ups I have too m7ch to tell a parent. We discuss what we did that day, I hand them any crafts and explain how their child did them, I talk about how much they ate, how they slept, and any issues.
I tried sheets once but it took way too long to fill out. No thanks!
When dck's are naughty during pick ups, I just have to deal with it. But the parent has to attend to their child while I handle the others and talk to the parent at the same time.
LindseyA 05:31 AM 03-14-2016
I have told children in the past (when they hit their parents at pick up or drop off) that they are still in my house. They know that we don't hit anyone in my house, especially mom or dad. I say as its happening in front of parents, and usually they step in. If it continues to happen, then I follow as others have said. Have child ready and waiting as parents pull up.
midaycare 10:13 AM 03-14-2016
Originally Posted by Ariana:
Could you do a private FB page for this? This is what I do now so no more questions at the door. I post a ton of photos and explanations of what we did plus the weekly menu.
I used to do a private blog, then a weekly newsletter...bottom line - no one cared. All that effort for nada. So now they get a quick debriefing at pickup, and I have a bulletin board which no one ever checks out Could you do a private FB page for this? This is what I do now so no more questions at the door. I post a ton of photos and explanations of what we did plus the weekly menu.
Michelle 10:35 AM 03-14-2016
I definitely would do a time out in front of parent. maybe the parent needs to be taught how to discipline
EntropyControlSpecialist 10:58 AM 03-14-2016
Originally Posted by Leigh:
The behavior would have resulted in a time-out regardless of whether the parent was there at my house. When it happens again, tell the parent to pick up their child and leave immediately. If he needs to put on coat/shoes, tell the parent to do it in the car. Let them know the next day at drop off that their child's behavior has become unacceptable and that you will need them to call when they are in your driveway and that you'll bring the children to the door for them to pickup there. Make SURE you block the child from coming back in, because they usually try. They WANT to create that chaos, and sometimes they'll try very hard to get past you to do it. I have a VERY sweet little boy here who turns into a demon some days when his mom picks up (If I tell him he can't have something he saw in my fridge this morning, he'll have a fit when mom gets here begging for it to see if I have the same answer when his mom is here). It's VERY important that rules don't change when the kids' parents show up. Enforce them every time.
Great advice. I totally agree. The chaos will continue indefinitely if you don't end it.The behavior would have resulted in a time-out regardless of whether the parent was there at my house. When it happens again, tell the parent to pick up their child and leave immediately. If he needs to put on coat/shoes, tell the parent to do it in the car. Let them know the next day at drop off that their child's behavior has become unacceptable and that you will need them to call when they are in your driveway and that you'll bring the children to the door for them to pickup there. Make SURE you block the child from coming back in, because they usually try. They WANT to create that chaos, and sometimes they'll try very hard to get past you to do it. I have a VERY sweet little boy here who turns into a demon some days when his mom picks up (If I tell him he can't have something he saw in my fridge this morning, he'll have a fit when mom gets here begging for it to see if I have the same answer when his mom is here). It's VERY important that rules don't change when the kids' parents show up. Enforce them every time.
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:00 AM 03-14-2016
Originally Posted by midaycare:
Drop offs I can manage quickly, but pick ups I have too m7ch to tell a parent. We discuss what we did that day, I hand them any crafts and explain how their child did them, I talk about how much they ate, how they slept, and any issues.
I tried sheets once but it took way too long to fill out. No thanks!
When dck's are naughty during pick ups, I just have to deal with it. But the parent has to attend to their child while I handle the others and talk to the parent at the same time.
I e-mail a sheet to them and it takes very little time. It includes how much their ate, drank, their mood, the time they fell asleep and woke up (between 12:00-2:00, that is), and what we're learning about. Drop offs I can manage quickly, but pick ups I have too m7ch to tell a parent. We discuss what we did that day, I hand them any crafts and explain how their child did them, I talk about how much they ate, how they slept, and any issues.
I tried sheets once but it took way too long to fill out. No thanks!
When dck's are naughty during pick ups, I just have to deal with it. But the parent has to attend to their child while I handle the others and talk to the parent at the same time.
MUCH less time than standing there telling every parent everything.
You might consider that if your method ever becomes burdensome.