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Jack Sprat 01:41 PM 08-22-2013
Oy! I have a very strong dislike to that word. I am buying the Ooey Goey lady's shirt the has the word crossed out. I find it degrading when people call me a babysitter or say "Oh she's just a babysitter."

Sorry for the vent.
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Cat Herder 01:44 PM 08-22-2013
I miss making "babysitting" money.

My daughter can get couples to pay her for one night out what I get for 3 kids all day...

People are willing to pay to play.... just not to work.
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MCC 01:46 PM 08-22-2013
It is very frustrating when people say that. I actually had a very close friend say that to me the other day "How many kids are you babysitting now"? I was mad/sad/annoyed/hurt all at once.

I wanted to hand her the pile of 100+ pages of paper work I've been going through to switch from a permit to a license, or maybe ask her to BABYSIT my kid so I can meet with my tax preparer for my BUSINESS.

People just don't understand that we are business owners. Not occasional babysitters pocketing extra cash.
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Moppetland 04:09 PM 08-22-2013
Originally Posted by MCC:
It is very frustrating when people say that. I actually had a very close friend say that to me the other day "How many kids are you babysitting now"? I was mad/sad/annoyed/hurt all at once.

I wanted to hand her the pile of 100+ pages of paper work I've been going through to switch from a permit to a license, or maybe ask her to BABYSIT my kid so I can meet with my tax preparer for my BUSINESS.

People just don't understand that we are business owners. Not occasional babysitters pocketing extra cash.

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EntropyControlSpecialist 07:14 PM 08-22-2013
I advertise as in-home preschool and I had someone on craigslist e-mail me this week asking about my baby-sitting rates.

I replied back that I am sorry but I do not have time to baby-sit due to the fact that I run an in-home preschool and need to spend time with my own family outside of business hours. I wished her luck in her baby-sitter search.
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MCC 07:16 PM 08-22-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I advertise as in-home preschool and I had someone on craigslist e-mail me this week asking about my baby-sitting rates.

I replied back that I am sorry but I do not have time to baby-sit due to the fact that I run an in-home preschool and need to spend time with my own family outside of business hours. I wished her luck in her baby-sitter search.
I wish I had the balls to say this kind of stuff!
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coolconfidentme 07:25 PM 08-22-2013
Originally Posted by MCC:
It is very frustrating when people say that. I actually had a very close friend say that to me the other day "How many kids are you babysitting now"? I was mad/sad/annoyed/hurt all at once.

I wanted to hand her the pile of 100+ pages of paper work I've been going through to switch from a permit to a license, or maybe ask her to BABYSIT my kid so I can meet with my tax preparer for my BUSINESS.

People just don't understand that we are business owners. Not occasional babysitters pocketing extra cash.
I now say one of two things;

"Good God, I haven't sat on a baby in years."
or
"If I babysat, I would come to your house, eat all your food, put the kids to bed & make out with the bf on your couch."

(I picked them both up on here.., thanks ladies!)
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nannyde 07:27 PM 08-22-2013
I'm a babysitter and proud of it. The term doesn't bother me at all. I think it's a great profession!
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DaisyMamma 08:07 PM 08-22-2013
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
I miss making "babysitting" money.

My daughter can get couples to pay her for one night out what I get for 3 kids all day...

People are willing to pay to play.... just not to work.
Totally true. If I "babysit" at night I come to you and $18/hr
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MyAngels 08:32 PM 08-22-2013
Originally Posted by nannyde:
I'm a babysitter and proud of it. The term doesn't bother me at all. I think it's a great profession!


I don't mind it, either. It's not like what I'm called changes what I do in any way.
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Laurel 08:54 PM 08-22-2013
It doesn't bother me either.

Laurel
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LK5kids 09:13 PM 08-22-2013
I detest it! I liked the comeback I read here a few weeks ago....gosh, I haven't babysat since middle school!
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Cradle2crayons 09:21 PM 08-22-2013
Doesn't bother me either. I've never had it said to me as an offensive statement, simply as the term that some people use. Where I'm from people just don't speak formally. It's never bothered me and likely never will.
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Familycare71 09:25 PM 08-22-2013
Out of curiosity I looked up the definition. It used to bother me but now it doesn't- most of the time I don't think people mean it rudely.
Anyway here is the definition:

ba·by·sit·ter also ba·by-sit·ter (bb-str)
n.
1. A person engaged to care for one or more children in the temporary absence of parents or guardians.
2. A person who cares for or watches over someone or something that needs attention or guidance.
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Cradle2crayons 09:27 PM 08-22-2013
Originally Posted by Familycare71:
Out of curiosity I looked up the definition. It used to bother me but now it doesn't- most of the time I don't think people mean it rudely.
Anyway here is the definition:

ba·by·sit·ter also ba·by-sit·ter (bb-str)
n.
1. A person engaged to care for one or more children in the temporary absence of parents or guardians.
2. A person who cares for or watches over someone or something that needs attention or guidance.
I really have never understood what about the word is so horrible...

Where I'm from if you say daycare provider, they think you work in a center.
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Blackcat31 09:43 AM 08-23-2013
Originally Posted by MyAngels:


I don't mind it, either. It's not like what I'm called changes what I do in any way.
This^^. It's just a word.

It says MORE about the person using it than it does about the person they are labeling.

It doesn't bother me a bit. I still provide the same services and the same quality NO MATTER what people call me.

It's definitely NOT worth my time to get upset about it.

It's no different than teachers getting upset that child care providers refer to themselves as teachers. ...kwim?
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Maria2013 09:50 AM 08-23-2013
the term "babysitter" in itself doesn't bother me!... but, more time than not the parents referring to me as their "babysitter" try to turn, bend and disregard the rules
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EntropyControlSpecialist 10:47 AM 08-23-2013
Originally Posted by Maria2013:
the term "babysitter" in itself doesn't bother me!... but, more time than not the parents referring to me as their "babysitter" try to turn, bend and disregard the rules

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wahmof3 11:07 AM 08-23-2013
It used to bother me for all of the reasons PP's have stated.

But its something that I can't change- no matter how many times I try.

I refuse to let it ruin my day.

So it is what it is......

I just know that I am darn good at whatever you wanna call it.

Have a great day- its FRIDAY
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Starburst 12:39 PM 08-23-2013
Originally Posted by Lil Monkey:
Oy! I have a very strong dislike to that word. I am buying the Ooey Goey lady's shirt the has the word crossed out. I find it degrading when people call me a babysitter or say "Oh she's just a babysitter."

Sorry for the vent.
Next time someone says that you should say "Oh, then I better to raise my prices because babysitters get paid at least $10 per hour per family, don't have to provide food for the children, aren't required to have a license or take child safety/care classes, and get reimbursed for transportation mileage and gifts bought for the children."

Sorry, I'm in a snarky mood right now.
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Starburst 12:42 PM 08-23-2013
Originally Posted by wahmof3:
It used to bother me for all of the reasons PP's have stated.

But its something that I can't change- no matter how many times I try.

I refuse to let it ruin my day.

So it is what it is......

I just know that I am darn good at whatever you wanna call it.

Have a great day- its FRIDAY
Every time they say that in front of you, you can make them write 100 times "I will not call my child's daycare provider a babysitter" and have to turn it in the next day before pick up . Though chances are they will rather leave then have to do homework.
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Jack Sprat 02:02 PM 08-23-2013
It bothers me and probably always will. It bothered me when I was a nanny and people called me a babysitter. I hardly let it ruin my day! lol! Good to see that so many aren't bothered by it as well.
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providerandmomof4 10:22 PM 08-24-2013
I dislike the term. I feel like the client is trying to belittle me somehow because when I think of "babysitter", I think of a teenager sitting on the couch, watching tv, until the parents get home. I do a heck of a lot more than that, I have more education than a lot of my dcp....It just really rubs me wrong.
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Unregistered 11:15 PM 08-24-2013
Originally Posted by Lil Monkey:
Oy! I have a very strong dislike to that word. I am buying the Ooey Goey lady's shirt the has the word crossed out. I find it degrading when people call me a babysitter or say "Oh she's just a babysitter."

Sorry for the vent.
Oh no! I am so sorry because I know I do this sometimes. I use babysitter interchangably with daycare provider and I just realized in a couple posts I did here, I did that!
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Maria2013 05:54 AM 08-25-2013
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Oh no! I am so sorry because I know I do this sometimes. I use babysitter interchangably with daycare provider and I just realized in a couple posts I did here, I did that!
Don't be sorry, you didn't know it bothered some of us
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Cradle2crayons 10:43 AM 08-25-2013
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Oh no! I am so sorry because I know I do this sometimes. I use babysitter interchangably with daycare provider and I just realized in a couple posts I did here, I did that!
That's how people in my area use it. It doesn't bother me at all.
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jenn 10:50 AM 08-25-2013
It doesn't bother me. I have been called babysitter, nanny, daycare provider,...I don't care what they call the job I do, as long as they respect me in their actions and remember to pay me on time
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Maria2013 11:26 AM 08-25-2013
Originally Posted by jenn:
It doesn't bother me. I have been called babysitter, nanny, daycare provider,...I don't care what they call the job I do, as long as they respect me in their actions and remember to pay me on time

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Play Care 10:54 AM 08-26-2013
Like another poster I am not so much bothered by the terms I am the lack of respect that usually comes with it.

And there have been posts here that do use the term in a derogatory fashion (most in the parents section) sort of like "who does she think she is?! She's only a babysitter!"
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My3cents 08:06 AM 08-29-2013
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
I miss making "babysitting" money.

My daughter can get couples to pay her for one night out what I get for 3 kids all day...

People are willing to pay to play.... just not to work.

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My3cents 08:23 AM 08-29-2013
Originally Posted by Play Care:
Like another poster I am not so much bothered by the terms I am the lack of respect that usually comes with it.

And there have been posts here that do use the term in a derogatory fashion (most in the parents section) sort of like "who does she think she is?! She's only a babysitter!"
Who do I think I am???? I think I am the person that is taking care of your most valuable possession. Most parents couldn't do what I do and they tell me that often. I once had a parent tell me they were going to open up a daycare so she could be home with her kids and that didn't last long-

Sometimes it bothers me and sometimes it doesn't the term "babysitter" It depends on how it is used and who it is coming from. I too would love to get paid what a "babysitter" gets paid for less hours and less responsibilities-

I know many people don't even fathom the mental work that is done in this job. Yes I could be sitting there with the kids but my mind is watching xy and z and figuring out ABC while doing jklmnop. I might be sitting in a chair outside with the kids but my eyes are scanning everything around me, my mind is juggling what comes next and what is happening in the now. Often my body is ready to go at a seconds notice to break up anything needed. I think this job is one that looks easy on the outside but its not at all, it has many facets to it and pulls from all directions.
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