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sharlan 10:27 AM 07-08-2013
I have two kids that have always been the most fantastic eaters. Prior to the food program, I gave them their main food item (waffle or cereal, meat and bread items) first. After they ate most of that, they got their veggie, then fruit, then milk.

Now, after 6 weeks, neither one will eat anything besides their fruit and milk. It doesn't matter what I make, they won't eat it.

My one drank her milk and ate her applesauce, refusing to eat her waffle after 30 mins. I had her get down from the table after she dropped her fork for the 4th time. She has been asking for yogurt or a banana for the past 45 mins. I keep telling her no, you didn't eat your breakfast, you're not getting a snack, go play toys. She starts playing with something and comes back and asks for food. I'm sure she's hungry.

My other one looked at her breakfast like it was poison and pushed it away, eating nothing. She keeps going to the fridge and pantry, hitting the doors. That's her way of telling me she's hungry.

I know it's against the food program's regulations, but I'm tempted to feed them the way I used to. I put two plates in front of each child, setting one out of their reach and just giving them what I want them to eat first.

My horrible eater ate everything so he could get back to the computer.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:00 AM 07-08-2013
If the way you were doing it was working for you and they were getting all their components in, I would go back to doing it that way. When the food program comes to observe, do it their way then. I just can't imagine doing it in a way that the children WEREN'T eating and were miserable.
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coolconfidentme 11:00 AM 07-08-2013
I have a few like that, but I serve it anyway. You can always opt to not do the food program & not be reimbursed.
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blandino 11:06 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
If the way you were doing it was working for you and they were getting all their components in, I would go back to doing it that way. When the food program comes to observe, do it their way then. I just can't imagine doing it in a way that the children WEREN'T eating and were miserable.
Agreed !
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My3cents 11:12 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by sharlan:
I have two kids that have always been the most fantastic eaters. Prior to the food program, I gave them their main food item (waffle or cereal, meat and bread items) first. After they ate most of that, they got their veggie, then fruit, then milk.

Now, after 6 weeks, neither one will eat anything besides their fruit and milk. It doesn't matter what I make, they won't eat it.

My one drank her milk and ate her applesauce, refusing to eat her waffle after 30 mins. I had her get down from the table after she dropped her fork for the 4th time. She has been asking for yogurt or a banana for the past 45 mins. I keep telling her no, you didn't eat your breakfast, you're not getting a snack, go play toys. She starts playing with something and comes back and asks for food. I'm sure she's hungry.

My other one looked at her breakfast like it was poison and pushed it away, eating nothing. She keeps going to the fridge and pantry, hitting the doors. That's her way of telling me she's hungry.

I know it's against the food program's regulations, but I'm tempted to feed them the way I used to. I put two plates in front of each child, setting one out of their reach and just giving them what I want them to eat first.

My horrible eater ate everything so he could get back to the computer.
How is what your doing now so different then before?
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sharlan 11:26 AM 07-08-2013
What I've always done is give the kids one or two items on their plate at a time. I always gave them their meat/protein first, then their bread/noodle/grain second, then they got their veggie, and fruit and milk last.

These two girls have always been my best eaters. They've always eaten everything, willing to try new foods. Now, one won't try anything new and will only eat limited fruits. She refuses foods that she's always eaten. The second one will only eat fruit and drink her milk.

If I pair fruit with anything, they won't touch it. For example, we have apples with string cheese. They've always eaten string cheese, but won't touch it now. I generally have a protein and fruit or veggie with most snacks. They will only eat crackers or fruit for snacks. Even yogurt is a fight.

Most meats that they've always eaten is a no go.

Do you think it's cheating the food program to give them all of their components, but only one at a time?
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:32 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by sharlan:
What I've always done is give the kids one or two items on their plate at a time. I always gave them their meat/protein first, then their bread/noodle/grain second, then they got their veggie, and fruit and milk last.

These two girls have always been my best eaters. They've always eaten everything, willing to try new foods. Now, one won't try anything new and will only eat limited fruits. She refuses foods that she's always eaten. The second one will only eat fruit and drink her milk.

If I pair fruit with anything, they won't touch it. For example, we have apples with string cheese. They've always eaten string cheese, but won't touch it now. I generally have a protein and fruit or veggie with most snacks. They will only eat crackers or fruit for snacks. Even yogurt is a fight.

Most meats that they've always eaten is a no go.

Do you think it's cheating the food program to give them all of their components, but only one at a time?
Nope!
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Blackcat31 11:33 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by sharlan:
Do you think it's cheating the food program to give them all of their components, but only one at a time?
I only have to have the required components AVAILABLE but not necessarily on their plates. I can serve the components in any order I choose to.

I think that would be the best way for you to do it..it worked for you before so why change it up now...
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Play Care 11:39 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I only have to have the required components AVAILABLE but not necessarily on their plates. I can serve the components in any order I choose to.

I think that would be the best way for you to do it..it worked for you before so why change it up now...
I agree. I usually serve the veggies first because my group wouldn't eat them otherwise... I don't see how this is "wrong?" I'm usually still preparing the other components so its not as if I'm refusing anyone food

Now, if the food program people were here observing I would tell Tommy "it's almost finished cooking!" Rather than "not until you eat a green bean!"
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butterfly 11:44 AM 07-08-2013
I would check with your local office. Here, we have to have all the components on the table or on their plates. They would not allow me to only serve one component at a time. You could do it family style though and help them serve certain components first - since they would have access to everything...
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sharlan 11:44 AM 07-08-2013
I'm going back to my old way then. It's probably going to be a fight because they've gotten used to eating only fruit.

All of the components will be available, on the table, just not on their individual plates.
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MissAnn 11:58 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by sharlan:
I'm going back to my old way then. It's probably going to be a fight because they've gotten used to eating only fruit.

All of the components will be available, on the table, just not on their individual plates.
I'd be thrilled that they are eating fruit. I'd love to quit serving bread altogether. It's strange that meat is not a breakfast component.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:59 AM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by MissAnn:
I'd be thrilled that they are eating fruit. I'd love to quit serving bread altogether. It's strange that meat is not a breakfast component.
I completely agree with the bread and meat thoughts!
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JoseyJo 12:08 PM 07-08-2013
You could call your food program and ask specifically- but here in KS they "prefer" that we eat family style or give all components at the same time. But they don't require it. As long as all food groups are "available"- they define this as having enough for seconds of everything for every child.

Right now with our current group we serve a smallish serving of each component as "firsts". They must try (even a tiny bite) of each component to get seconds of any food. They can get thirds if they eat everything on their plate. There is no pressure to eat any food though- you can eat or not eat what you want. When you are done you can be excused, even if you didn't eat anything, but you have to wait for the next meal for more food. We have some who go hungry a couple of times a month because they don't like the food, and we have one almost 4yo dcb who never gets seconds because he won't eat any fruit or vegetable. I have specifically talked to our food program about him and they said the way we do it is good, no seconds on meat/grain if you don't eat any fruits/veges.
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itlw8 12:16 PM 07-08-2013
nothing says you can not sit everyone at the table before you serve all the food. serve the meat... then go get the veggies and start serving them as they eat. then slowly serve the fruit. They do need to learn they can eat more than one food at a time but so what if you are slow serving.

besides you rep is not there everyday. I do not think in the regs it says all food has to be on the plate before the child starts eating.
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itlw8 12:21 PM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by sharlan:

If I pair fruit with anything, they won't touch it. For example, we have apples with string cheese. They've always eaten string cheese, but won't touch it now. I generally have a protein and fruit or veggie with most snacks. They will only eat crackers or fruit for snacks. Even yogurt is a fight.

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serve two veggies instead of a fruit for now until they start eating again plus they could just be going through a stage and eating less. so give the minimum fruit so they can eat other food.
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melilley 12:33 PM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by MissAnn:
I'd be thrilled that they are eating fruit. I'd love to quit serving bread altogether. It's strange that meat is not a breakfast component.
I know! I hate that you have to serve a bread/grain for breakfast, it makes no sense to me. I understand that you need servings of grains, but to make it a requirement for breakfast..... They should make it where you can choose certain components, like bread, meat, or eggs, for example, and a fruit or veggie.
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melilley 12:38 PM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by sharlan:
I'm going back to my old way then. It's probably going to be a fight because they've gotten used to eating only fruit.

All of the components will be available, on the table, just not on their individual plates.
Here we can have it either available on the table (family style) or we can make their plates for them. It counts either way.
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Heidi 02:51 PM 07-08-2013
Originally Posted by itlw8:
serve two veggies instead of a fruit for now until they start eating again plus they could just be going through a stage and eating less. so give the minimum fruit so they can eat other food.
This is what I would suggest. Fruit just needs to disappear for a little while. Nothing wrong with vegies for breakfast.
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My3cents 12:12 PM 07-11-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I completely agree with the bread and meat thoughts!
agree no place to put eggs. I think too much bread is required also
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My3cents 12:18 PM 07-11-2013
Most of the time I serve everything at once in divided plates. They pick and choose what they want to eat. I don't give more if they don't eat everything first usually, unless I know a child doesn't like something. It depends. I don't have fussy eaters. They eat it all for the most part and want more.

I did serve salad first the other day while I made everything else up to get them going. They thought that was fun, because it normally all comes out at the same time.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 12:44 PM 07-11-2013
Originally Posted by My3cents:
agree no place to put eggs. I think too much bread is required also
Me, too! It grosses me out the amount of grain they think you need.
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LK5kids 03:50 PM 07-11-2013
I think if it works for you, go ahead. But isn't it a lot more work?

I have really good eaters and once in awhile my super eater (mom is into whole and fresh food, so she's used to it) really doesn't care for a food.....eats everything except one food and wants more of something and I do let her.

I wouldn't generally give out more of say fruit or grains if that's what they only want either. I might give out a bit more protein.

I think do what works for you as long as they are being offered all the components at some point!
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MrsSteinel'sHouse 05:26 PM 07-11-2013
grain vs bread. I think if you start thinking grain instead of bread it doesn't seem like as much. Oats, rice, barley etc.
If you serve am snack, lunch, dinner you don't have to have a grain at breakfast. You could do eggs and a fruit of vegie.
I personally serve the vegie first if everything isn't ready. They always seem to eat the meat and grain.. it is the vegie that I need to get in
I generally serve it all together. I limit 2nds depending on the child and what they are eating.
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melilley 10:52 AM 07-12-2013
Originally Posted by MrsSteinel'sHouse:
grain vs bread. I think if you start thinking grain instead of bread it doesn't seem like as much. Oats, rice, barley etc.
If you serve am snack, lunch, dinner you don't have to have a grain at breakfast. You could do eggs and a fruit of vegie.
I personally serve the vegie first if everything isn't ready. They always seem to eat the meat and grain.. it is the vegie that I need to get in
I generally serve it all together. I limit 2nds depending on the child and what they are eating.
Here we have to serve a grain, fruit or veggie, and milk for breakfast in order to be reimbursed, even if we serve serve the other meals.
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Unregistered 06:16 PM 07-26-2013
Go right ahead and serve foods in "courses". My sponsor was here 4 days ago, and we discussed this very thing, along with kids whose parents don't want them to have milk. I was told to put the milk on the table with an empty glass, and I can honestly say that I offered it. She said to go ahead and serve the rice or almond milk to the child after he "refused" the dairy. I mentioned that a toddler won't eat meat unless it's served first-if there is ANYTHING else besides the meat dish, the meat doesn't get touched. The foods must be available. You can leave them on the counter and serve in courses, as long as all gets served.
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daycare 06:29 PM 07-26-2013
I serve in course and I am on the food program. I even asked my rep about it.

I have a counter top right next to the eating area where I line up all of the food. I have all of the drinks poured and the food set up. When the kids have all sat I go around with one food item at a time, which is usually my veggie first and place it on their plate. My rule is you have to have at least one bite before you get to decide that you don't like it.

If you didn't like it, then you sit and wait for those that did to eat it before I will serve the next thing. Once gone, I serve the protein and repeat. I do this for each meal component.

THe drink is always served last no matter what. As soon as you finish your food you can have your drink.....

I have passed everyone of my inspections like this....
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sharlan 07:57 PM 07-26-2013
I started placing all of the food on the counter next to the table and giving the main component I want eaten first on their plate. Then I give the veggies and the fruit last.

I also started placing on the food on the plate and saying you must eat your meat first.

Both options have worked well and my two girls have started eating again. My youngest actually picked up her plate and licked it clean today after she got her peaches.
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