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Old 05-08-2014, 07:56 PM
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Received a message from a mom that I have had in my program for 3 years, she will be leaving in August for school. The message says, "I need 2 talk 2 u about something face 2 face would u do coffee with me Saturday morning we must talk without the kids around"

I do not know what is going on or why she would want to speak without children present nothing bad has happened recently but I am still worried. Should I still accept the child tomorrow after this message?
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Old 05-08-2014, 08:01 PM
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I don't think she would drop the kids off with you if she thought something was wrong with you. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess it's something in her personal life, like a divorce or separation. Maybe someone is really sick in the family (perhaps even her).

Why don't you ask her tomorrow at drop off, "Hey, is there something wrong with _____? I know you don't want to talk about it here, but I'm just wondering if I should be looking out for something today."

At least that might give you a hint ...
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Divorce/marriage breakdown is the first thought that came to my mind.
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I don't think she would drop the kids off with you if she thought something was wrong with you. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess it's something in her personal life, like a divorce or separation. Maybe someone is really sick in the family (perhaps even her).

Why don't you ask her tomorrow at drop off, "Hey, is there something wrong with _____? I know you don't want to talk about it here, but I'm just wondering if I should be looking out for something today."

At least that might give you a hint ...
Yes, for sure inquire as she said.
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Old 05-08-2014, 08:20 PM
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I would not meet for coffee on my day off. I would schedule an after hours phone call if she wants to discuss something with the kids not present. My guess is that she is wanting to ask for a major favor and figures taking you out and asking in person will make it hard for you to say no. Its easier to say no if you aren't in person
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I'm thinking she wants a favor or something out of the ordinary...and you should say no
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Old 05-08-2014, 08:32 PM
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I would not meet for coffee on my day off. I would schedule an after hours phone call if she wants to discuss something with the kids not present. My guess is that she is wanting to ask for a major favor and figures taking you out and asking in person will make it hard for you to say no. Its easier to say no if you aren't in person
This wd my thought too. She wants a favor.
I also second the after hours phone call. No one in my daycare should take my precious family time from me.
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Old 05-08-2014, 08:34 PM
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I agree... That's never a good thing. She's either asking for a favor or going to be pulling the kids out sooner or something. I don't think it has anything info with you or your program though. I would ask if you could just talk on the phone, you have plans or something.
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I would not meet for coffee on my day off. I would schedule an after hours phone call if she wants to discuss something with the kids not present. My guess is that she is wanting to ask for a major favor and figures taking you out and asking in person will make it hard for you to say no. Its easier to say no if you aren't in person
Say no to the weekend coffee meeting and the favor.

"Sorry dcm, I have family plans. I am available for a phone conference today at X or tomorrow at X. Let me know what will work for you."
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I guess I'm one of the few who would agree to meet with her on a Saturday, but then I'm not involved with any family being home ATM. If you have a 3 yr. relationship with this family there is some definite history there already. Only you know how much you want to invest as far as time outside of dc hours.

As far as favors, etc., wait and see. I cannot begin to imagine what her needs are.
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I would probably meet for coffee, but I never turn down a coffee invitation. It might be a favor or it might be something going wrong in their family. You might send her a message back asking for a little more information before deciding.


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I had a DCF ask for a meeting with me after hours once...

They were on the cusp of leaving (kids were aging out) and they had been a long term family that I had a pretty good relationship with.

I tried to decline politely but mom kept pushing...

A million things went through my head:
  • Why do they want to talk to me after hours?
  • What favor are they going to ask?
  • She wants me to keep her kids longer (I don't take SA'ers)
  • She wants to leave early and skip out on paying the last couple weeks
  • Oh-oh....

.....turns out she put together a really nice "social hour" type get together (after hours = NO kids ) and had included a couple other moms/families that attended my program and had all worked at the same place as DCM...

Basically, she threw me a little "provider appreciation" party as a thank you for everything she said I had done for her family in the years they had attended my daycare.

Hmm....who would have thunk it?
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I do not do things relating to daycare on the weekends , that time is reserved for my family .
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Wow! Blackcat, that's amazing, and a huge compliment!
Would be so great if more dcp's appreciated us this way.

Blackcat's example is perfect, to even a worrier like me. Don't let your mind go there and get you all worked up and worried about it.

I would rather do the conversation on the phone though. I wouldn't want to give up my weekend, and I'm more confident to say what needs to be said on the phone, than in person.

Don't be afraid or pressured to give her any answers at that moment Simply state...let me think about that, and I'll get back to you with an answer.
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I would go just because I am nosy and curious as to what she has to say. If she ask for a favor chug your coffee fast and go home quickly. My first thought was divorce or pregnant.
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I talked to mom via FB until 11 last night. mom requested I keep my dd away from her child and to not nap together either. She wouldn't give me any details. I denied care for today bc whatever is going on I don't feel comfortable watching her until or if it is resolved. Her 4 yo daughter was mildly hurt yesterday. She jumped on the foot of the recliner while my dd was pulling the lever. Her elbows were a little red, everything else was ok. Her a dd are best friends, great parents.

I really really don't want to waste my weekend on this! I don't want to ruin my Mother's Day!
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Old 05-09-2014, 09:27 AM
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I talked to mom via FB until 11 last night. mom requested I keep my dd away from her child and to not nap together either. She wouldn't give me any details. I denied care for today bc whatever is going on I don't feel comfortable watching her until or if it is resolved. Her 4 yo daughter was mildly hurt yesterday. She jumped on the foot of the recliner while my dd was pulling the lever. Her elbows were a little red, everything else was ok. Her a dd are best friends, great parents.

I really really don't want to waste my weekend on this! I don't want to ruin my Mother's Day!
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Oh well, that changes all the rules. Eff her then. My own children always came first and if a dcm ever had a beef against one, I'd be looking for a replacement asap. Sounds like helicopter mom is over reacting to what happened between your dd and her dd.
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Old 05-09-2014, 09:49 AM
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I talked to mom via FB until 11 last night. mom requested I keep my dd away from her child and to not nap together either. She wouldn't give me any details. I denied care for today bc whatever is going on I don't feel comfortable watching her until or if it is resolved. Her 4 yo daughter was mildly hurt yesterday. She jumped on the foot of the recliner while my dd was pulling the lever. Her elbows were a little red, everything else was ok. Her a dd are best friends, great parents.

I really really don't want to waste my weekend on this! I don't want to ruin my Mother's Day!
Oh brother... What a waste of time! Can you imagine being in a public setting and her trying to tell you this? And to not allow them to play together at YOUR HOME DAYCARE?? Ugh!! I can see wanting to talk about what happened and such but she sounds like she's just pushing the blame elsewhere to make this work until Aug.
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Old 05-09-2014, 09:57 AM
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just saw the update. if she is not giving details, then she can leave now. that is a Lic complaint waiting to happen and you don't need the liability risk.
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Oh brother... What a waste of time! Can you imagine being in a public setting and her trying to tell you this? And to not allow them to play together at YOUR HOME DAYCARE?? Ugh!! I can see wanting to talk about what happened and such but she sounds like she's just pushing the blame elsewhere to make this work until Aug.
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Weird,text her if she can give any information about what she's need to talk...Saying maybe yiu have something to do...Those parents never give something good for us...especially with this kind message...
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I talked to mom via FB until 11 last night. mom requested I keep my dd away from her child and to not nap together either. She wouldn't give me any details. I denied care for today bc whatever is going on I don't feel comfortable watching her until or if it is resolved. Her 4 yo daughter was mildly hurt yesterday. She jumped on the foot of the recliner while my dd was pulling the lever. Her elbows were a little red, everything else was ok. Her a dd are best friends, great parents.

I really really don't want to waste my weekend on this! I don't want to ruin my Mother's Day!
In that case....no way to any kind of after hours meeting and no to watching her child anymore effective immediately. No way would I agree to keep my child away from a daycare child. It is your child's home.
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Old 05-09-2014, 02:42 PM
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On a limb here. Could she be concerned that her dd has been showing signs of sexual abuse at home, and she doesn't want her daughter to spread the issue to other kids?

The problem with going out to coffee, is that now you're stuck there, in a public place, till the coffee's gone, or you can come up with a reason to leave. I'd have my own child gone at pick up today, and just say, we need to talk now. What's up. Get it over with. Or have her buckle her kid in the car and you talk at the front of the car.

This isn't sounding good.
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Old 05-09-2014, 02:56 PM
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its like the Jerry Maguire movie. when he wants to deliver bad news he takes them into public because they can not react horribly there.

I would demand a call or I would stop all services from today.
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You did the right thing not having the kids in care today. If she is throwing accusations or thinking about it, you don't want to open yourself up to any more opportunities for her to complain.
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You did the right thing not having the kids in care today. If she is throwing accusations or thinking about it, you don't want to open yourself up to any more opportunities for her to complain.
And it seems like this isn't going to be a good fit for her dd anymore
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This sounds like something sexual. I would meet.
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This sounds very troubling. I wouldn't meet with her in public. I would communicate with her in ways that document everything.

I also would not accept her child back into my care.
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Maybe have her email her concerns to you to go over at when you have time this weekend, and that you will get back to her by a determined time to discuss it. They you have a copy in writing, and time to make a decision without feeling trapped or put on the spot.
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<<<<The problem with going out to coffee, is that now you're stuck there, in a public place, till the coffee's gone, or you can come up with a reason to leave.>>>

I disagree. At any time, she could tell dcm that she is leaving. She doesn't have to finish her coffee. "I'm off now. You take care and I'll see you Monday morning." Easy peasy.
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If you guys met over the weekend I hope things went better than anticipated!
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Met with mom on Friday evening. I recorded the converstation on my phone. NannyD was right. Thursday the girls went to the restroom I let them. Previously didn't see anything wrong with 2 girls using the restroom together. Mom said that my dd put toliet paper to use like a (pad) mom was not upset, mad or angry said she wanted to keep her here bc she loves us, it wasn't meant in a bad way exc. said they were staying see you on Monday. Talked to my dd she broke down crying promising up & down she did not do it she gave her the toilet paper but didn't do it to her. She used tp also. Dcd messaged me yesterday afternoon and says they aren't coming back. He kept saying it wasn't my fault or my dd fault but he still can't bring her back. Then said we would like ur dd to spend the night next weekend our dd would love that. We can all get together twice a month for play dates. Could we still use you for drop in? Makes 0 sense. I termed a problem kid last week now we are really going to hurt.

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That does not make sense , it's weird that they will not bring her to you but want you dd to sleepover their house . I would not let my dd sleepover in this situation nor take them on a drop in basis . Either they trust you to care for their kid or they don't .
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Met with mom on Friday evening. I recorded the converstation on my phone. NannyD was right. Thursday the girls went to the restroom I let them. Previously didn't see anything wrong with 2 girls using the restroom together. Mom said that my dd put toliet paper to use like a (pad) mom was not upset, mad or angry said she wanted to keep her here bc she loves us, it wasn't meant in a bad way exc. said they were staying see you on Monday. Talked to my dd she broke down crying promising up & down she did not do it she gave her the toilet paper but didn't do it to her. She used tp also. Dcd messaged me yesterday afternoon and says they aren't coming back. He kept saying it wasn't my fault or my dd fault but he still can't bring her back. Then said we would like ur dd to spend the night next weekend our dd would love that. We can all get together twice a month for play dates. Could we still use you for drop in? Makes 0 sense. I termed a problem kid last week now we are really going to hurt.

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I'm not sure what they are complaining about? Two kids at once in the bathroom?

Either way, I would not allow playdates or sleepovers at their house, and I would no longer keep them as a client. Period.
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So they don't want to bring their daughter back, but are willing to let the girls have sleep overs with one another???
This makes no sense.
So the little girl had toilet paper in her underwear like a pad and said your daughter did it???
So what???
First, why did she leave it in there if she didn't want it in there. Second why would she let another kid fold up toilet paper and put it in her underwear?
Third, so what if it happened at all, sounds like modeling somebodies mom to me....
Glad they aren't coming back, but think you should sever ties, no play dates or sleep overs.
If they can't trust you to care for their child, then your child shouldn't go to their house, and you shouldn't have theirs over for any "sleepover"......
The whole thing is very bizarre....
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Strange....

And if they are leaving, I would tell them that your policies are in place so they need to pay the notice time if they won't be there.
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I'm not following either...what a weird complaint.
The story is very odd and no I would not allow my DD to have sleepovers or play dates at this point.
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So they don't want to bring their daughter back, but are willing to let the girls have sleep overs with one another???
This makes no sense.
So the little girl had toilet paper in her underwear like a pad and said your daughter did it???
So what???
First, why did she leave it in there if she didn't want it in there. Second why would she let another kid fold up toilet paper and put it in her underwear?
Third, so what if it happened at all, sounds like modeling somebodies mom to me....
Glad they aren't coming back, but think you should sever ties, no play dates or sleep overs.
If they can't trust you to care for their child, then your child shouldn't go to their house, and you shouldn't have theirs over for any "sleepover"......
The whole thing is very bizarre....
yeah this! I just am not coherent enough to get it down. This exactly!
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I wouldn't do sleepovers. No playdates at each other's house. Meet up at the park, sure.

As far as the incident goes, 4yo (and older!) follow through on crazy ideas. I doubt that my friends and I are not the only ones to make t.p "maxi pads" and use t.p. stuff our fake bikini tops (by turning pulling our shirt bottoms down the top? Since I remember this clearly, I am sure I was well beyond the age of "knowing better".
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I agree with everyone, just weird.

So if they say that copying mom and pretending to have a pad in their underwear is bad, they are giving their daughter the wrong impression about using a pad. Maybe the girl will think mom is doing something bad when she uses a pad? Just too confusing for kids, they didn't do anything wrong.

I do understand if they are concerned about a privacy issue, but that doesn't seem to be their complaint.

I would not allow the sleepover or playdates.

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Personally, I would end all contact. There is no way that I would allow my dd to spend the night or have playdates. That may just be their way to interrogate her without you present.
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I'm puzzled too it doesn't make sense. Both parents knew my rule of only girls in BR together and only boys in BR together. One part of the message he is implying inappropriate touching then saying it's normal child behavior and wanting the girls to play together still. The only possiblity I can think of is they were able to get into the preschool/daycare by her work earlier than expected. Mom said it's preschool the message from dad said daycare? I moved 7 months ago and the drive is difficult for them. 30 minutes to my house and 45-50 back to both of their jobs. I would pray to high heaven they wouldn't make this up or inflate it to get out early.

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So, they might be leaving to put their dd in preschool, but need free care, I mean, playdates when not in preschool? Is that a possibility?

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So they don't want to bring their daughter back, but are willing to let the girls have sleep overs with one another???
This makes no sense.
So the little girl had toilet paper in her underwear like a pad and said your daughter did it???
So what???
First, why did she leave it in there if she didn't want it in there. Second why would she let another kid fold up toilet paper and put it in her underwear?
Third, so what if it happened at all, sounds like modeling somebodies mom to me....
Glad they aren't coming back, but think you should sever ties, no play dates or sleep overs.
If they can't trust you to care for their child, then your child shouldn't go to their house, and you shouldn't have theirs over for any "sleepover"......
The whole thing is very bizarre....


I agree. Just politely decline the sleepover invitation. If they press you, go ahead and tell them why.
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Ensure that they pay their final two weeks notice and let them go. I, personally, wouldn't want to do "free care/playdates" on my weekends for a client (past or present).
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Met with mom on Friday evening. I recorded the converstation on my phone. NannyD was right. Thursday the girls went to the restroom I let them. Previously didn't see anything wrong with 2 girls using the restroom together. Mom said that my dd put toliet paper to use like a (pad) mom was not upset, mad or angry said she wanted to keep her here bc she loves us, it wasn't meant in a bad way exc. said they were staying see you on Monday. Talked to my dd she broke down crying promising up & down she did not do it she gave her the toilet paper but didn't do it to her. She used tp also. Dcd messaged me yesterday afternoon and says they aren't coming back. He kept saying it wasn't my fault or my dd fault but he still can't bring her back. Then said we would like ur dd to spend the night next weekend our dd would love that. We can all get together twice a month for play dates. Could we still use you for drop in? Makes 0 sense. I termed a problem kid last week now we are really going to hurt.

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OK...this is something I wanted to ask about. I have 2 precocious 4/5 year old girls. Today one pulled her shirt down in front of a boy. The boy said...are those your boobies? (ugh). The other girl was going potty on the toilet. When she got off she went to the opening of the door and danced with her pants down! The boobie girl did this while waiting her turn to go potty. Today I was wondering.....my kids go potty whenever they want. They don't ask...they just go. With these things starting to happen, should I have the kids TELL me when they have to go and I stand at the door? They can't shut the door and I wouldn't let them anyway. Too many dangers in a bathroom plus.....like in your case, unregistered.....2 kids could be in there and I don't know it....if the door is shut I just think that leads to more mischievousness. I'd love to hear what you guys do?????
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OK...this is something I wanted to ask about. I have 2 precocious 4/5 year old girls. Today one pulled her shirt down in front of a boy. The boy said...are those your boobies? (ugh). The other girl was going potty on the toilet. When she got off she went to the opening of the door and danced with her pants down! The boobie girl did this while waiting her turn to go potty. Today I was wondering.....my kids go potty whenever they want. They don't ask...they just go. With these things starting to happen, should I have the kids TELL me when they have to go and I stand at the door? They can't shut the door and I wouldn't let them anyway. Too many dangers in a bathroom plus.....like in your case, unregistered.....2 kids could be in there and I don't know it....if the door is shut I just think that leads to more mischievousness. I'd love to hear what you guys do?????
I sure would! I have a couple of kids that must be monitored and cannot make good choices when near a bathroom (much like these that you are mentioning). My door can NEVER be closed due to one of those things on it that prevents fingers from getting pinched. ONE in at a time, door cannot close, and other children waiting to use it must be in the playing area NOT near the bathroom (although, I do have a gate that I will shut as well near it).

I also mention things like this to their parents. "If you could please have a talk with Sally at home tonight to reinforce the rules at daycare that we keep our private parts private and do not show or attempt to show them to others that would be great. Thank you so much."
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OK...this is something I wanted to ask about. I have 2 precocious 4/5 year old girls. Today one pulled her shirt down in front of a boy. The boy said...are those your boobies? (ugh). The other girl was going potty on the toilet. When she got off she went to the opening of the door and danced with her pants down! The boobie girl did this while waiting her turn to go potty. Today I was wondering.....my kids go potty whenever they want. They don't ask...they just go. With these things starting to happen, should I have the kids TELL me when they have to go and I stand at the door? They can't shut the door and I wouldn't let them anyway. Too many dangers in a bathroom plus.....like in your case, unregistered.....2 kids could be in there and I don't know it....if the door is shut I just think that leads to more mischievousness. I'd love to hear what you guys do?????
I started the rule of telling before going bc kids like to play in the BR mostly with the water in my case. Thought 2 girls using the BR was harmless guess I was wrong. Provides have to cover their tush every minute of the day 4 every small thing.
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Sounds like making a mountain out of a mole hill to get out of contract. Please keep communications from dcd about wanting to do drop ins and sleep overs, so if they raise issues you have proof that it obviously wasn't that big of a deal. I call certain areas your business and tell all kids to keep their business to themselves and mind their own. I am also big on space invading. I never allow more than one in the. bathroom. But here they di have to shut the door because we have a couple lookie loos. I have one I have even looked up to see had opened the door and was grinning at me. I also dont allow kids to watch diaper changes and will say thats no our business go play. As for one per bathroom, if for no other reason kids give each other some aunry ideas, like lets shampoo the walls, lol.
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Save and print all communication immediately. And then stop communicating if at all possible. Do not let your dd near them. They will interrogate them.

They were never a friend, they were a customer. Now they aren't even that. No playdates.

Expect a call from licensing. Someone will tell them to make a report. Or, the new "preschool" will do it because the story they may have heard would be "reportable."

I have a friend who had something similarly stupid happen. They took her computer away to analyze it to make sure there was no p*rn on it. They were in her face for months and months after than. Everything was cleared up, but you can imagine the h*ll she lived through, the customers she lost, the sleep she never found.

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WoW all that fuss about toilet paper in the underwear?!? Good Lord what is this world coming to.
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Um wow!!! What a WEIRD weird story. Do not communicate any further. Something is off, and it's not you.

Never leave a kid in the bathroom alone w/ closed door. I made the mistake of doing that w/ a 4 yo, actually this happened in June and he was to turn 5 in that July. Not even in 3 minutes, he had POOP smeared EVERYWHERE. I smelled something odd, opened the door and he was covered. It just takes a minute to really do damage. I really wanted to give him a what-for but he wasn't my kid. He KNEW better as at that age, c'mon! Never were the kids allowed to close the door again.
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OP, update:

As you know they termed shortly after the converstation. I messaged dad asking if he wanted the tax info now or Jan 2015. He didn't respond so I messaged mom 3 days later, no response. Then almost a month later. Mom messaged me Monday wanting a play date. I replied politely declining the play date and future ones. She read the response shortly after but didn't respond until this afternoon. She said we will be at X mall with date and time. We would like you to be there. We decided not to report the incident to DHS.

It sounds like a threat to me! What do I do? I'm very nervous! My background is squeaky clean and I would like to keep it that way! To my knowledge even false accusations stay on your record and will hurt you. Right? How should I approach this?
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Keep all communication. That they keep pushing to have play dates afterwards is interesting and works in your favor I would think. I would keep politely declining and hope it all goes away.

Whole thing seems odd and blown out of proportion.

Lessons learned.
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Stop communication now! Do not converse anymore with this family!

Gather your documentation about the incident including any text messages and emails about the incident and get your dc and other paper work ready for an inspection.

I'm not saying you will be reported and inspected, but get your ducks in a row just I case.

If you are investigated, you have the time that they waited to NOT report it on your side. As well as the proof that they still wanted a relationship with you and your dd.

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Makes sense, over worrying for no reason. I was up late last night putting together a file. After thinking about it more I think they were just finding an excuse to get out early without paying for the 2 weeks notice.
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Makes sense, over worrying for no reason. I was up late last night putting together a file. After thinking about it more I think they were just finding an excuse to get out early without paying for the 2 weeks notice.
You have reason to be concerned. Id just document and keep all the texts from this family. I agree it was a threat.

They wanted a " separation but not a divorce .

I hope they move on.
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OP, update:

As you know they termed shortly after the converstation. I messaged dad asking if he wanted the tax info now or Jan 2015. He didn't respond so I messaged mom 3 days later, no response. Then almost a month later. Mom messaged me Monday wanting a play date. I replied politely declining the play date and future ones. She read the response shortly after but didn't respond until this afternoon. She said we will be at X mall with date and time. We would like you to be there. We decided not to report the incident to DHS.

It sounds like a threat to me! What do I do? I'm very nervous! My background is squeaky clean and I would like to keep it that way! To my knowledge even false accusations stay on your record and will hurt you. Right? How should I approach this?
It's like she is black mailing you into meeting with her for a play date! I would be super, super worried about this. And it makes me angry for you!

Did you ever respond to that message from her?
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no way no how would I ever let my DD in their company again!!! It sounds to me like they are trying to set you up. Keep all communication and document everything. Hopefully they will just go away.
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no way no how would I ever let my DD in their company again!!! It sounds to me like they are trying to set you up. Keep all communication and document everything. Hopefully they will just go away.
Exactly. I feel like they are trying to get her somewhere to ambush her.
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