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NillaWafers 01:36 PM 08-12-2016
I was just curious, seems like many of us have had sooo many crazy parents - but who was your worst? What did he/she do to make it to the #1 position?

Should make for some entertaining reading >_<
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DaveA 01:53 PM 08-12-2016
Toss up between the DCD who tried to start a fight in my driveway with another DCD (a local cop) who had busted him or the DCM who tried to pay me in moonshine. That one probably wins because I termed them & they filed a false abuse claim in retaliation.

Weirdest thing DCPs have ever done was probably the couple who propositioned DW & me for a "play date".
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Meeko 02:04 PM 08-12-2016
DCM picked up her two year old every afternoon around 4pm. One day, right after she left, my phone went. It was our friend down the street who is a police officer.

He says "A mom just left your place at a crazy speed. She literally FLEW over the speed bump. Tell her if I see her again she's in trouble". So I said I would.

About 15 minutes later, I got a call from the mom. "What the he!! happened to DCB's tongue??!!!!" She was furious.

I told her nothing happened! He was happy all day and left a happy camper. She told me his mouth was bleeding like crazy and his tongue had a gash. She demanded to know "What I had done to her son"

I started to put two and two together. My best guess is that when she hit the speed bump, he badly bit his tongue. He was FINE when he left here. All smiles. Mouth wounds bleed profusely, so she would have noticed straight away if he had been hurt here.

I tried to reason with her, but she was raging. She said she wasn't bringing him back, wasn't giving me notice etc. I told her when she calmed down, we would talk.

That was the last I saw of them. About two months went by and I got a letter from an attorney. Supposedly I had abused her child. However, she didn't want to go to court and would settle for a $7000 payout

I called him and told him to bring it on. I told him I would arrive at court with the police officer down the street, a child protective services worker (client) and every client I had.

I pointed out that surely the judge wouldn't take kindly to a mother truly believing her child had been abused and yet was willing to forget it for a payoff?????

Never heard a peep after that!!!!!!!!!

I found out later, that the wife and husband were both busted for drugs. They obviously were looking for some drug cash. I'm SURE she knew that she caused the tongue injury, but wanted to implicate me.
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spedmommy4 02:05 PM 08-12-2016
Worst dcp ever had an extraordinarily difficult child. Dcp dropped off little one and, shortly after, little one got sick. My staff called the parent and spoke with them directly. Over an hour later, I called the parent again and she pretended she didn't know she needed to pick up. Very long story short, I enforced 24 hour sick policy and she pulled from care. I endured two weeks of ranting emails and have a long ranty review about how mean I am and how unfair my sick policy is on my Facebook page.
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LostMyMarbles 02:13 PM 08-12-2016
Nilla, I am sooooo glad you asked. Go get yourself some nillawafers and a glass of milk and sit back and read.

So I had a Dcm who was a nut job. She would show up when she wasn't scheduled, not show up when she was scheduled, pick up late, drop off early and just planed piss me off on a daily basis.

One time she came 2 hours early. I was on my way to a school function for one of my kids, and had 2 dcks. They were well behaved and I didn't have any issues taking them anywhere. So Miss Nut Job shows up 2 hours early, and I said No. I explained that I had to go to the school for a program for my child. She got huffy with me and said she wanted to take a shower and Get ready work. I said I could not take her due to not having enough car sets. I also explained that it is a time where she would need to sit quietly and she wasn't capable of doing that. She stormed off saying she would see me later.

A week later she called me freaking out, crying and telling me she was going to be late. She showed up about 2 hours late freaking out saying it was all my fault. I asked what was my fault. She explained to me that when she went to take a shower her child got out of the house and she could not find her. She was running around her neighborhood screaming the child's name. One neighbor called the police for her. A neighbor on the next block walked over and said, are you looking for a brow hair little girl because she is swinging in my back yard. It was happy ending for a terrible scary situation, thank goodness.

I asked after she told me all this, how it was my fault. She said because I won't let her bring her child early so she can take a shower and get ready for work. I gave her the walking papers on the spot.
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Silly Songs 02:28 PM 08-12-2016
Paying in moonshine ? I wonder when the family I nanny will resort to that ? They owe me two weeks pay, but gave me 50 today to help me out !! Seriously !!
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NillaWafers 02:29 PM 08-12-2016
Originally Posted by Silly Songs:
Paying in moonshine ? I wonder when the family I nanny will resort to that ? They owe me two weeks pay, but gave me 50 today to help me out !! Seriously !!
You what I bet would help you out? Paying you what they owe you. Some people..
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AmyKidsCo 02:31 PM 08-12-2016
I haven't had THAT bad of parents.

DCM brought her 2 yr old and said she'd thrown up that morning but she thought the girl had eaten some soap because she found her in the tub and the puke was all soapy. Nope, she really was sick. This same mom would come right at closing time with her 2 SA kids then let them play in my backyard for a half hour after closing.

DCM asked me to give her 2 yr old a bath because she didn't have time. She asked to borrow some dress-up clothes for a Halloween costume. And once I saw her driving around town with her 2 yr old standing up in the back seat.

DCD asked to use the "rest room" then wanted some water, then asked if he could keep the cup for the day because he'd be thirsty running errands.
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permanentvacation 02:34 PM 08-12-2016
I had an interview with a dad, his girlfriend, and a young child. I kept having a weird feeling during the interview, but just couldn't figure out what my 'feeling' was about. The dad acted strange when I showed him the paperwork that needed to be filled out by the child's doctor. Then he noticed the section that states if the parents object to immunizations due to religious beliefs, they can sign the paper and not have a doctor fill the form out. Then Dad seemed quite content.

I watched the child for 4 days. Around 10 am on the 5th day, Dad called me and told me that the police had arrived at his house, took the child to give him back to his mother and that the mother had reported him for kidnapping the child!

The man had literally KIDNAPPED his child from the mother!!! That's why he couldn't take the paperwork to the child's doctor and was so content and relieved when he realized that he could bypass the doctor by signing that his religious beliefs are against immunizations!!!

Since then, I absolutely refuse to accept children if their parents want to claim religious objection to immunizations.
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Blackcat31 03:13 PM 08-12-2016
young mom, 2 yr old and 6 month old

moved across country alone.
fantastic kids, really nice mom.
stayed almost 3 yrs. Full time.
ended with lots of police.
a restraining order.
an 84 yr old neighbor with a broken hip.
a family separated.

it was frustrating and heartbreaking.
it deeply impacted my views on lots of things professionally, personally and in general.
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KiwiKids 05:00 PM 08-12-2016
Was asked to DUI check the person picking up the kids because they sounded drunk on the phone and had a known drinking problem.

The other brought me a child with the stomach flu knowing I was 8.5 months pregnant and had gestational diabetes. I caught on within an hour but it wasn't enough...Guess who was puking with out of control blood sugar a few days later?
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KiddieCahoots 06:35 PM 08-12-2016
Oh God! There are too many.....where we get the experience behind our belts though....right!?
Guess it would have to be the mom who I suspected was a user, (but couldn't prove it), freak out when I confronted her about her arrival time being 2, 3, or more hours past her drop off time, without notification.
She stood 2 inches from my face and screamed "f@ck you", as well as other profanities, while her 2yr old cried and screamed witnessing the situation.
First time in my 16 yrs of daycare that I thought I'd have to physically defend myself.
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childcaremom 03:04 AM 08-13-2016
Hm. How to pick?

I can think of a few that tie for top place.

1- I was brand new to dc so went above and beyond for mom. When I stopped doing that, dcm pulled dcg, refused to pay me and then reported me. Left threatening phone messages for a few weeks.

2- Parents pushed me on every single policy I had. Then acted like I was the bad guy for enforcing them. Multiple suspected dope and drops, picking up late, arguing everything, bullying behaviour from dad, bullying behaviour from mom. They caused me a lot of stress while they were here. Come tax time, they started sending harassing emails about receipts (which I had given them). Rather than asking for replacements, mom tried threatening me with government action if I didn't comply. Um. Ok. They were only here a few months before I termed them but it felt like a life time.

3- Clients paid a deposit to hold a spot. Changed her mind 2 weeks later. Repeatedly harassed me to get her money back. I refused. She cursed me up and down. Turns out, she acted even worse for the provider that ended up with them (termed them after 4 weeks). She was a pumpkin.
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Josiegirl 04:07 AM 08-13-2016
All I can say is WOW after reading all of these replies.
I don't know how some of you put up with all that you did for so long. Makes for eye-opening stories to share on here and many learning experiences. I think you all should be writing books!!

I was going to share but after reading these, I've got nothing. My dcparents have all been creme de la creme dcfs. Thanking my lucky stars too.
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DaveA 04:19 AM 08-13-2016
Originally Posted by KiwiKids:

The other brought me a child with the stomach flu knowing I was 8.5 months pregnant and had gestational diabetes. I caught on within an hour but it wasn't enough...Guess who was puking with out of control blood sugar a few days later?
All off these are bad, but as a husband this one infuriates me. If someone put my pregnant wife's/ unborn child's health at risk to keep from having to take care of their own sick kid I'd have a real hard time not absolutely chewing out DCP the next time I saw them.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:27 AM 08-13-2016
1. I was newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy, family kept bringing in sick children and saying it was because of too much granola/watermelon/candy/etc. They broke policies (or, tried to) all the time and I had enough. Mom yelled at me and slammed the door at pick up time in front of all of the children and then sent her husband here to chew me out. My husband wouldn't allow him in.

2. I was still newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy and the behavior of a child continued escalating. I had tried to deal with it for 9 months but he was 4.5 and enjoyed hurting other children. He found it funny and it made him happy. I placed him on a behavior plan to attempt to get the parents to assist me more but he was suspended within 24 hours for 3 incidents of harming other children. The Dad then blamed me for his child's behavior (even though he did things like throw rocks at his Grandma's head outside of here which his wife let me know...) and told me he was suing me unless I gave the remainder of their tuition back. I wound up giving it back to avoid additional stress. They knew I had lost 3 babies before and needed to minimize my stress levels. We still saw him around for years after that and he always smiled, waved, and asked how we were doing. I always walked away.

3. This year...
Mother fabricated her child's abilities and the child needed one on one care. It wasn't safe for anyone for her not to have it. I terminated care, she didn't bring her back, demanded the belongings by a certain time, and I placed them on the porch so as not to have an explosive Mom around my kids. She still rang the bell and proceeded to yell at me in front of the kids at pick up time about how rude of a person I was. I told her that her e-mail sounded upset so I was making it a safe situation for my current kids by not allowing anger or yelling around them. She continued to yell.
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KiwiKids 06:05 PM 08-13-2016
Originally Posted by DaveA:
All off these are bad, but as a husband this one infuriates me. If someone put my pregnant wife's/ unborn child's health at risk to keep from having to take care of their own sick kid I'd have a real hard time not absolutely chewing out DCP the next time I saw them.
It was pretty unreal. I was very adamant with all my DCP's that this was a high risk pregnancy for a few reasons including gestational diabetes and I would be able to work up to delivery IF I could avoid any complications.

My husband was very upset too. It took almost two weeks for me to eat normally and have my bloodsugar balance back out. They were in their last few weeks of care because I was downsizing before baby. They opted to leave even earlier after knowing how sick I ended up getting.
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KiwiKids 06:09 PM 08-13-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
1. I was newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy, family kept bringing in sick children and saying it was because of too much granola/watermelon/candy/etc. They broke policies (or, tried to) all the time and I had enough. Mom yelled at me and slammed the door at pick up time in front of all of the children and then sent her husband here to chew me out. My husband wouldn't allow him in.

2. I was still newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy and the behavior of a child continued escalating. I had tried to deal with it for 9 months but he was 4.5 and enjoyed hurting other children. He found it funny and it made him happy. I placed him on a behavior plan to attempt to get the parents to assist me more but he was suspended within 24 hours for 3 incidents of harming other children. The Dad then blamed me for his child's behavior (even though he did things like throw rocks at his Grandma's head outside of here which his wife let me know...) and told me he was suing me unless I gave the remainder of their tuition back. I wound up giving it back to avoid additional stress. They knew I had lost 3 babies before and needed to minimize my stress levels. We still saw him around for years after that and he always smiled, waved, and asked how we were doing. I always walked away.

3. This year...
Mother fabricated her child's abilities and the child needed one on one care. It wasn't safe for anyone for her not to have it. I terminated care, she didn't bring her back, demanded the belongings by a certain time, and I placed them on the porch so as not to have an explosive Mom around my kids. She still rang the bell and proceeded to yell at me in front of the kids at pick up time about how rude of a person I was. I told her that her e-mail sounded upset so I was making it a safe situation for my current kids by not allowing anger or yelling around them. She continued to yell.
Oh man! My four pregnancies were all high risk and knowing you are supposed to be low stress and then having DCP's be so impossible... It is the worst feeling.
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Hunni Bee 09:59 AM 08-14-2016
Hmmm....

Can't decide between the creeper dad who made sexually and racially inappropriate comments, stood around watching us all day and creeped me out so bad I started having nightmares about him...

...or the aunt with custody of one of most challenging children ever who made rude comments about our director and daycare, then aggressively confronted us about it in front of dc parents and children. This woman also once picked her kid up, sat in the parking lot for an hour on the phone, and then sent the 5-year-old back across the parking lot and into the building alone for a snack when she got hungry.

Perhaps the parents of a little girl who came for a week, screamed every day all day and then suddenly on Friday when their copay was due...accused us of slapping the the nonverbal child and threatened us with physical harm

Or maybe the parents who said their children's severe aggression, sexually inappropriate behavior, rage disorder and health issues were all the result of my ineptitude as a teacher.

Somewhere in there.
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e.j. 11:02 AM 08-14-2016
Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
All I can say is WOW after reading all of these replies.
I don't know how some of you put up with all that you did for so long. Makes for eye-opening stories to share on here and many learning experiences. I think you all should be writing books!!

I was going to share but after reading these, I've got nothing. My dcparents have all been creme de la creme dcfs. Thanking my lucky stars too.
I was thinking the same thing! I've had my share of dc parents that drove me crazy for various reasons but none were as bad as the ones described here! You all make me feel very grateful for the dc families I've had over the years!
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lovemydaycare0912 04:55 AM 08-15-2016
None of mine were as bad as these yet I've only been open 1.5 yrs. Here goes my list:

1- mom of 2 only spoke Spanish just moved in across the street was waiting for her military assistance to kick in. I offered discount until then, (bad idea I now know) but she got so upset when she found out that I wouldn't give her a discount on top of her assistance. So upset that she had her husband call me from Afghanistan while he was fighting down there to threaten me.
2- of course you all know my 1st family who tried calling all the shots. Last straw was when she accused me of depriving her child from a meal yet she always came after breakfast was over. Once I termed her, she waited 5 or 6 weeks to file a complaint with my state office.

That's about it.
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daycarediva 09:03 AM 08-15-2016
There are so many!

The dcp who sent me DOZENS of texts all night long when her kid got a stomach bug accusing me of giving him food poisoning.

The dcp who baby wore 24/7 (even to shower, sleep, etc) and expected me to do the same. He screamed blood murder the entire time he was here, from open to close, for months before I termed. That was also the last infant I ever took.

The dcp who tried to accuse me/my dc children of sexually abusing her child to protect the actual abuser.

The dcp who tried to cover up abuse as a car accident and drop off dck.

The dcg who has a dog bite so severe there was a hole in her cheek and parents refused to bring her to the ER.

The dcp who lied for months about being at work, even FORGING signatures on her forms for the hours I billed the state for. I ended up having to repay a TON of money.
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Annalee 09:24 AM 08-15-2016
There are some close races for the worst at my daycare, but the one who asked me to use a medicine dropper to get her child to drink breastmilk because he wouldn't take a bottle was definitely the worst experience I ever had. This battle went on for 3 months and ended in an abrupt termination. No way was I letting her work out a two week notice. She had some way out there ideas about parenting.
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Unregistered 04:27 PM 08-15-2016
Mine worst would be a new parent who sent the police to my house after she picked up claiming that all the children were home alone with no adults.probally to get out of paying
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EntropyControlSpecialist 05:39 AM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Mine worst would be a new parent who sent the police to my house after she picked up claiming that all the children were home alone with no adults.probally to get out of paying
Ohh. I think that a police issue was my worst one, too.

Last winter a Mom was going to be late dropping off (the door locks when the drop off window is closed and I will not answer any longer). She was speeding here, a police officer turned on his lights and began chasing her, she was flying over the median to avoid him, and when he finally caught up with her she was leaving a voicemail on my phone saying don't worry, she would be here soon to take care of her son, call an ambulance, etc. Her son was IN THE CAR WITH HER. She told the police officer that her son was having seizures in my home and that she had to race to get here. She then texted telling me to not answer the door and the police officer was "acting weird." I heard knocks at the door shortly after and thinking it was her didn't answer. It was actually an ambulance. The police officer had sent a firetruck and ambulance here because he thought it odd that I hadn't requested them (he called it all in). Then more knocks came a bit later. I answered and it was the police officer. He checked my sign in log, read the text, listened to the voicemail and then pursued the Mom. My licensor then showed up right after for my yearly surprise inspection that had NOTHING to do with this incident. I began crying because of the stress and she gave me a hug.
I terminated them effective immediately and my licensor said I NEEDED to.
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childcaremom 05:42 AM 08-16-2016
to a lot of these stories.

Mine were bad. Some of these are just awful.
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KiwiKids 07:10 AM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
Ohh. I think that a police issue was my worst one, too.

Last winter a Mom was going to be late dropping off (the door locks when the drop off window is closed and I will not answer any longer). She was speeding here, a police officer turned on his lights and began chasing her, she was flying over the median to avoid him, and when he finally caught up with her she was leaving a voicemail on my phone saying don't worry, she would be here soon to take care of her son, call an ambulance, etc. Her son was IN THE CAR WITH HER. She told the police officer that her son was having seizures in my home and that she had to race to get here. She then texted telling me to not answer the door and the police officer was "acting weird." I heard knocks at the door shortly after and thinking it was her didn't answer. It was actually an ambulance. The police officer had sent a firetruck and ambulance here because he thought it odd that I hadn't requested them (he called it all in). Then more knocks came a bit later. I answered and it was the police officer. He checked my sign in log, read the text, listened to the voicemail and then pursued the Mom. My licensor then showed up right after for my yearly surprise inspection that had NOTHING to do with this incident. I began crying because of the stress and she gave me a hug.
I terminated them effective immediately and my licensor said I NEEDED to.
OMG! She sounds crazy! It was a speeding ticket. Pay it and move on.
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Mike 07:16 AM 08-16-2016
I sure hope I don't end up having stories like some of these.

I'm mostly worried about the possibility of a false charge of sexual abuse by an angry parent. I never was worried about that when I started making my plans, but a few weeks ago my sister brought it up. Like she said, there is always a risk of angry parents, or even kids, making a false charge, and if I'm watching other people's kids and it ever did happen, it could be trouble.

Why she brought that up, we know of 5 men, directly or indirectly, who have been charged in the last 20 years. 2 we know were innocent and just had an angry step-daughter. 1 we know was guilty and is in prison now. The other 2, only him, the accuser, and God know the truth. All 5 of their lives were ruined, even the 2 innocent ones, so now I'm starting to wonder if male daycare is a high risk, or if I just have to have cameras keeping a record of everything just in case.

DaveA and any other guys here, have you ever thought about the risks of false charges? Do you do anything to prevent or protect from that possible problem? Even the ladies here could be falsely charged, so do you ever think about that, or do anything about that possibility?

I'm thinking maybe it would be safer to be a manny instead. That way it's only 1 family, so much less risky.
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DaveA 08:21 AM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by Mike:
I sure hope I don't end up having stories like some of these.

I'm mostly worried about the possibility of a false charge of sexual abuse by an angry parent. I never was worried about that when I started making my plans, but a few weeks ago my sister brought it up. Like she said, there is always a risk of angry parents, or even kids, making a false charge, and if I'm watching other people's kids and it ever did happen, it could be trouble.

Why she brought that up, we know of 5 men, directly or indirectly, who have been charged in the last 20 years. 2 we know were innocent and just had an angry step-daughter. 1 we know was guilty and is in prison now. The other 2, only him, the accuser, and God know the truth. All 5 of their lives were ruined, even the 2 innocent ones, so now I'm starting to wonder if male daycare is a high risk, or if I just have to have cameras keeping a record of everything just in case.

DaveA and any other guys here, have you ever thought about the risks of false charges? Do you do anything to prevent or protect from that possible problem? Even the ladies here could be falsely charged, so do you ever think about that, or do anything about that possibility?

I'm thinking maybe it would be safer to be a manny instead. That way it's only 1 family, so much less risky.
Short answer- yes I've thought about it. Longer answer- I don't think I could have made in this business 2 decades if it worried me. If it happens I know my career is probably screwed, but I can't live my life based on the possibility of someone else might lie. By that line of logic I wouldn't have gotten married because if things went south she might say I abused her. As for "special precautions" not really other when I was in centers the standard policies for all staff. I had problems centers not letting me work with infants and individual parents not letting their kids be in my classroom/ staff not wanting me there, but it was the minority. I say set your own guidelines to your comfort level and go with it.
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Blackcat31 09:05 AM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by DaveA:
Short answer- yes I've thought about it. Longer answer- I don't think I could have made in this business 2 decades if it worried me. If it happens I know my career is probably screwed, but I can't live my life based on the possibility of someone else might lie. By that line of logic I wouldn't have gotten married because if things went south she might say I abused her. As for "special precautions" not really other when I was in centers the standard policies for all staff. I had problems centers not letting me work with infants and individual parents not letting their kids be in my classroom/ staff not wanting me there, but it was the minority. I say set your own guidelines to your comfort level and go with it.
This is great advice from a male provider!!

My DH feels the same....he said he can't control others and how they perceive things but he can be cautious and do whatever it takes to avoid situations where someone might make something out of nothing but even if he does that every day without fail, it doesn't mean he is guaranteed to never be accused of anything (we all know how some parents can be...) Instead of living in fear of "what if..." we all need to make sure we are PRO-active verses reactive.
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Baby Beluga 09:21 AM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
Ohh. I think that a police issue was my worst one, too.

Last winter a Mom was going to be late dropping off (the door locks when the drop off window is closed and I will not answer any longer). She was speeding here, a police officer turned on his lights and began chasing her, she was flying over the median to avoid him, and when he finally caught up with her she was leaving a voicemail on my phone saying don't worry, she would be here soon to take care of her son, call an ambulance, etc. Her son was IN THE CAR WITH HER. She told the police officer that her son was having seizures in my home and that she had to race to get here. She then texted telling me to not answer the door and the police officer was "acting weird." I heard knocks at the door shortly after and thinking it was her didn't answer. It was actually an ambulance. The police officer had sent a firetruck and ambulance here because he thought it odd that I hadn't requested them (he called it all in). Then more knocks came a bit later. I answered and it was the police officer. He checked my sign in log, read the text, listened to the voicemail and then pursued the Mom. My licensor then showed up right after for my yearly surprise inspection that had NOTHING to do with this incident. I began crying because of the stress and she gave me a hug.
I terminated them effective immediately and my licensor said I NEEDED to.


How did the officer miss the child in the backseat with DCM as she is telling him this story about her son?
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MrsSteinel'sHouse 09:38 AM 08-16-2016
my worst parent makes me cry- I reported her several times to Children's service and so did my person at Job and family but unfortunately they didn't have "enough". Dcm left 2 kids with drunk boyfriend and he drowned the little boy (he would have turned 2 on the day we buried him) Sister (3 yr old) was in the tub with her dead brother for about an hour....) Now, the "happy" out of that was then children's services removed his sister. I got pictures from her new mama of her 1st day and last day of Kinder last year. I don't get to see her now because they are trying to move her on and I understand that. I just wish that mom would have brought them to me that night (they had not been in my care for several months but I always told her that she could drop them off any time). That is my worst mom.

All the other crazy that I have had over the years...
"they love me like family, don't know what they would do without me.... and then I enforce a policy and bam. I am pulling my child today and you will never see them again even though you have had them since they were born and they are now 4!

Crazy dad- liked to be 5-15 minutes late at least 4 times a week. I wrote out a letter saying if they were late again I was terminating. (I had only really dealt with dad, at that point mom didn't have a car) Sure enough, he was late. He said how much do I owe you for being late? I said you don't, he said oh thanks I thought from the letter you would charge me. I said no as the letter stated, I am terminating you. Oh my ugly! Mom and I then talked later and I made an agreement with her and she was NEVER late. In fact, I love her dearly. She was being abused by him and I finally got her out and she and dd are doing well... 5 hours away.

oh crazy nurse, I had her son 12 hour days (never again) loved me.... Met a guy at Christmas, decided to move 8 hours away with son to be with him, the day after. Didn't understand how I could charge her the 2 week notice! It is Christmas. I said it is your contract and I will take you to small claims and since you are moving it needs to be in cash within 24 hours. She paid.

Teacher mom would hand her son a cookie every morning to eat on the way here (she lives a block down from me) knowing I would feed him breakfast. "whatever gets him through til lunch and he likes a cookie" He was one...
So then he rotted out his front teeth by 2 and the doc said get rid of the binky... so she told me this so I did. Silly me because she didn't. He would walk in with one and I would take it and put it up. One day I walked into his house and he looked at me and handed me the bink (he was 4 by this time) and mom said, oh you don't have to give it to her, you are at your house!

oh lots of crazy parents.....
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EntropyControlSpecialist 10:33 AM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by Mike:
I sure hope I don't end up having stories like some of these.

I'm mostly worried about the possibility of a false charge of sexual abuse by an angry parent. I never was worried about that when I started making my plans, but a few weeks ago my sister brought it up. Like she said, there is always a risk of angry parents, or even kids, making a false charge, and if I'm watching other people's kids and it ever did happen, it could be trouble.

Why she brought that up, we know of 5 men, directly or indirectly, who have been charged in the last 20 years. 2 we know were innocent and just had an angry step-daughter. 1 we know was guilty and is in prison now. The other 2, only him, the accuser, and God know the truth. All 5 of their lives were ruined, even the 2 innocent ones, so now I'm starting to wonder if male daycare is a high risk, or if I just have to have cameras keeping a record of everything just in case.

DaveA and any other guys here, have you ever thought about the risks of false charges? Do you do anything to prevent or protect from that possible problem? Even the ladies here could be falsely charged, so do you ever think about that, or do anything about that possibility?

I'm thinking maybe it would be safer to be a manny instead. That way it's only 1 family, so much less risky.
When my husband worked here a Mom accused him of "something" (we don't even know what her accusation was and she said it to our face) while changing her pull-up. He NEVER changed her pull-up. He was here for helping me with our infant daughter, actually. She said her 2yo daughter was exploring down her pants so naturally she learned that from here. She called the police. The officer thought it was crazy as well and nothing ever came of it.

I would keep a camera system running and recording.


Originally Posted by Baby Beluga:


How did the officer miss the child in the backseat with DCM as she is telling him this story about her son?
I think he maybe thought/was told that it was a sibling??? He wouldn't know they only had one child. He didn't tell me every detail. Just that he was chasing her over medians and such.
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christine19720 11:17 AM 08-16-2016
Over the almost 30 years I've been doing this there have been too many to mention. But, what I have learned is just when you thought you had seen and heard it all another ridiculous situation will present itself.
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lovemydaycare0912 11:19 AM 08-16-2016
I just remember a parent who actually never made it in my care. Thank GOD! She had 6 children. Wanted the 3 school agers to be on subsidy but she would only use it during no school days. I told her I couldn't do that because I could not accept money for not having them the other days. She wanted FT for her youngest who at the time was almost 3. At the time, I knew nothing about holding fees and deposits. I submitted her subsidy paperwork before her child would begin, and had to wait forever. She lied and told them she worked in another state. Then since it was taking longer than a month, I told her I needed a holding fee because I could no longer hold her spot. I asked for $75. She said she couldn't afford it because (insert excuse here.) Then throughout that entire process, she also no longer had a cellphone. She expected me to communicate with her through her work line during work hours only. Same day, her subsidy got accepted but she would have had to pay $130 out of pocket. I left her a message and told her I was not willing to give her the spot. She never responded.
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Mike 04:42 PM 08-16-2016
Originally Posted by DaveA:
Short answer- yes I've thought about it. Longer answer- I don't think I could have made in this business 2 decades if it worried me. If it happens I know my career is probably screwed, but I can't live my life based on the possibility of someone else might lie. By that line of logic I wouldn't have gotten married because if things went south she might say I abused her. As for "special precautions" not really other when I was in centers the standard policies for all staff. I had problems centers not letting me work with infants and individual parents not letting their kids be in my classroom/ staff not wanting me there, but it was the minority. I say set your own guidelines to your comfort level and go with it.
True
It would be the same as saying I'm not going on a plane because it might crash, or even, I'm never getting in a car again because people have been killed in them.

All the families that have been in my life to any degree loved having me in their kids lives, so that must be a good sign. I think my sister is just over concerned because one of the men who was falsely charged is a friend of hers. I just have to be extra careful.
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Mad_Pistachio 05:01 PM 08-16-2016
so, that's something I don't normally mention.
before we have enrolled into our daycare (which is, by the way, wonderful), we have heard of a sexual abuse scandal it was involved into. as far as I understand, it was before "miss Moosy" has become the director. another director's husband was accused of molesting a girl enrolled. arrest, investigation, the center closed for some half a year to a whole year, the whole shebang. the psychologists working with the girl ended up stating that she was coached: Mom wanted money out of the center. not sure what happened to the man (probably his life was ruined). the place has been deserted for a while, whoever was enrolled before the scandal were forced to find another care, and all that.
which did not stop us from enrolling.
I have not discussed the story with her, it was all through the grape vine, and, like I said, our daycare is wonderful, and I trust her with my child's life.
those things are scary, from both sides.
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