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LeslieG 01:31 PM 07-07-2014
I have a 2.5 year old dcb that will go on the potty at home (and will even ask to use it) but will not use it for me. Do any of you have advice on how to get him interested in using it at my house?
... HELP I'M TIRED OF CHANGING POOP!!!
... HELP I'M TIRED OF CHANGING POOP!!!
AmyKidsCo 01:45 PM 07-07-2014
I would have the child sit on the potty at regularly scheduled times - here it's always after breakfast, before going outside, after coming back inside, after lunch, and after nap.
Note I said to have the child SIT on the potty - don't tell him he has to GO potty because you can't make him go.
Note I said to have the child SIT on the potty - don't tell him he has to GO potty because you can't make him go.
Blackcat31 01:49 PM 07-07-2014
Originally Posted by LeslieG:
I have a 2.5 year old dcb that will go on the potty at home (and will even ask to use it) but will not use it for me. Do any of you have advice on how to get him interested in using it at my house?
... HELP I'M TIRED OF CHANGING POOP!!!
I have certain activities here that only kids in underwear get to do. I have a 2.5 year old dcb that will go on the potty at home (and will even ask to use it) but will not use it for me. Do any of you have advice on how to get him interested in using it at my house?
... HELP I'M TIRED OF CHANGING POOP!!!
Sometimes that is enough to motivate a child who is clearly ready into being ready.
For example, each child here gets their own art supply box. If you wear underwear, you get scissors, glue and markers. If you wear diapers/pull-ups you get crayons and a glue stick but no scissors or markers.
I also offer a few extra curricular activities such as swimming lessons and gym time via the YMCA. Children NOT potty trained are not allowed to participate in these activities.
You need to find something that motivates him to want to use the toilet and then go with it. For each kid, that motivator is different. Some respond well to sticker charts or candy and others do well with praise and positive reinforcement. You just gotta find what his currency is.
nanglgrl 03:55 PM 07-07-2014
Are you certain the child goes potty at home and tells his/her parents? A lot if parents say that to make you work harder on potty training at daycare while they have the child in diapers at home. I had one recently but was friends with the parents in Facebook and wverytime they posted a picture of the child he was in diapers..every single time.
hope 03:56 PM 07-07-2014
I would not fully trust that he is going potty at home. I have found many, many parents that just say that so that the provider does the work. I wouldn't stress over it. If he goes at home he should go for you. Until then, pull ups.
boysx5 04:20 PM 07-07-2014
Originally Posted by hope:
I would not fully trust that he is going potty at home. I have found many, many parents that just say that so that the provider does the work. I wouldn't stress over it. If he goes at home he should go for you. Until then, pull ups.
Yes I couldn't agree more I just termed someone over this they wanted me to potty train so the child could go to schoolI would not fully trust that he is going potty at home. I have found many, many parents that just say that so that the provider does the work. I wouldn't stress over it. If he goes at home he should go for you. Until then, pull ups.
hope 04:26 PM 07-07-2014
Every friend, neighbor and family member with kids I know says they have done this. They all seem proud to be getting out of the potty training deal. They just put junior in underwear one day and say he has been doing great at home. They make it the daycares problem. And we all fall for it and feel like we are doing something wrong!
Meeko 04:37 PM 07-07-2014
Too often the parents will proudly say "He goes potty all the time at home!" But that's because they take him every 20 minutes.
I had one dcb who had no concept that he was supposed to be responsible for recognizing the need to go. If we didn't send him, he would just wet his pull-up and carry on as if all was normal. He just figured somebody was supposed to tell him every single time.
I finally got through to his parents that HE had to tell US......not the other way around!
I had one dcb who had no concept that he was supposed to be responsible for recognizing the need to go. If we didn't send him, he would just wet his pull-up and carry on as if all was normal. He just figured somebody was supposed to tell him every single time.
I finally got through to his parents that HE had to tell US......not the other way around!
nannyde 04:57 PM 07-07-2014
I have had kids trained at home for a year before they trained at my house. I don't worry about the parent lying. I have my policies and I stick to them. I refuse to do daily conferencing about it also. Once a month we can touch base. If they say he's great at home then they are just buying four to five diapers a day. That's a small amount of money. If they say the kid will be confused if I do diapers and they do underwear, I remind them that the kid has done great at home and that means they aren't confused.
I get tired of the lying. Potty training lying is second only to illness lying in daycare.
I get tired of the lying. Potty training lying is second only to illness lying in daycare.
LeslieG 05:06 PM 07-07-2014
I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.
Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.
I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.
Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.
I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.
EntropyControlSpecialist 05:16 PM 07-07-2014
Originally Posted by LeslieG:
I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.
Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.
I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.
HOLY COW! Please do not make a child that young, or any child for that matter, sit on a toilet for 30 minutes! I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.
Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.
I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.
It should take ONE minute. One minute, no pee came out, he is done. One minute, pee came out, he is done.
I have a 2.5DCG that Mom says is potty trained. One month ago she said she asks her to go potty every 20 minutes. Um. That isn't potty trained. That is just coincidentally going pee in a toilet because you are there three times an hour anyways.
nannyde 05:42 PM 07-07-2014
Originally Posted by LeslieG:
I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.
Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.
I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.
Three minutes on the pot at normal diaper changes. That's all you need.I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.
Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.
I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.
Play Care 03:36 AM 07-08-2014
One of the things I do when a parent insists their child is trained at home is to have THEM bring them to the potty here and SHOW me the child is trained.
LeslieG 05:39 AM 07-08-2014
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
HOLY COW! Please do not make a child that young, or any child for that matter, sit on a toilet for 30 minutes!
It should take ONE minute. One minute, no pee came out, he is done. One minute, pee came out, he is done.
I have a 2.5DCG that Mom says is potty trained. One month ago she said she asks her to go potty every 20 minutes. Um. That isn't potty trained. That is just coincidentally going pee in a toilet because you are there three times an hour anyways.
Oh no! Now I feel terrible!! I have no children of my own and I really have no experience potty training kids, so I had no idea that 30 minutes was too long! HOLY COW! Please do not make a child that young, or any child for that matter, sit on a toilet for 30 minutes!
It should take ONE minute. One minute, no pee came out, he is done. One minute, pee came out, he is done.
I have a 2.5DCG that Mom says is potty trained. One month ago she said she asks her to go potty every 20 minutes. Um. That isn't potty trained. That is just coincidentally going pee in a toilet because you are there three times an hour anyways.
I was just trying to get him to see that pee goes in the potty, not his diaper. If I have him sit on the potty for a minute or two at certain times of the day, I feel like he won't go because he already got his pee out in his diaper.
EntropyControlSpecialist 05:53 AM 07-08-2014
Originally Posted by LeslieG:
Oh no! Now I feel terrible!! I have no children of my own and I really have no experience potty training kids, so I had no idea that 30 minutes was too long!
I was just trying to get him to see that pee goes in the potty, not his diaper. If I have him sit on the potty for a minute or two at certain times of the day, I feel like he won't go because he already got his pee out in his diaper.
That makes sense but that is just an incredibly long time for a 2-year-old to sit (even off the potty).Oh no! Now I feel terrible!! I have no children of my own and I really have no experience potty training kids, so I had no idea that 30 minutes was too long!
I was just trying to get him to see that pee goes in the potty, not his diaper. If I have him sit on the potty for a minute or two at certain times of the day, I feel like he won't go because he already got his pee out in his diaper.
I really think he is too young to be potty trained. I have only met one little boy who was potty trained at 2.5 and his Mom was a SAHM at the time. He came here at age 3 fully trained so I don't know what her methods were to get him to that point but even being a fully potty trained newly turned 3yo little boy is pretty good in my book! Most boys that I have known tend to train around 3.5.
Maybe take a look at the following list (for signs that YOU see, not what Mom says...because parents can say a lot and it doesn't mean it is true...!): http://www.babycenter.com/0_potty-tr...cklist_4384.bc
melilley 07:16 AM 07-08-2014
I have an almost 3 year old who is potty trained at home and will only go here when he wants. Mom and dad let him run naked at home, but obviously he can't do that here. I believe my dcb's parents, but they know that he can't wear underwear here until he goes by himself. I do ask him and if he wants to go then he goes, if he doesn't then he doesn't. Honestly, the only time I take all the kids in the bathroom and have the ones who try, try is right after lunch after we brush our teeth, other than that it's not really feasible to take them all into the bathroom multiple times a day since it's just me here.
I agree that 30 minutes is a long time, but you didn't know, now you do. If he really does go at home, he should know that pee goes in the potty.
I agree that 30 minutes is a long time, but you didn't know, now you do. If he really does go at home, he should know that pee goes in the potty.
KSDC 11:13 AM 07-08-2014
Some children will potty train at home first and take a lot longer in group care.
I think it is because there is so much going on at DC (toys and friends to play with) that they just don't pay as close attention to their body cues. They are too busy having fun to want to stop to go potty!
I think it is because there is so much going on at DC (toys and friends to play with) that they just don't pay as close attention to their body cues. They are too busy having fun to want to stop to go potty!