I have a two year old DCG that has turned into quite the drama queen. Emotional outbursts, dirty looks when she doesnt get her way and what not. Its really not anything I cant handle but I know she is a lot worse at home. She comes in partially dressed because "she didnt want to wear a shirt today" or the with a diaper rash because "she doesnt like diaper changes anymore".

Anyway, about a month ago, she started to tell her parents that the kids here were hitting her and mostly was blaming on of my biological kids, although she would name several kids and would tell her mom who hit her and where. Of course mom was concerned which I understand. This girl was NOT getting hit and actually, would hit other kids on occasion, mostly due to fights over toys. It really was very rare and a non-issue as far as I was concerned but according to mom, she had a lot of stories at home. I did talk to mom and let her know that I was supervising carefully and was not seeing this behavior to be reality, just stories. I trusted that mom believed me because she said that there were never any marks and she did drop the subject after our discussion about it.

fast forward but for the last day or two, DCG has been quite emotional the last few days and been telling ME that kids are hitting her. I am right there watching them and no one is hitting! She tattles mostly when she does not get a toy she wants or in jealousy over my own biological children. This DCG is my one that is here open to close, rain or shine. I believe the recent behavior is attention seeking and that she really does need more time with mom and dad. She has started crying for her parents. They are loving parents but they do send her even if they have a day off, her dad works long hours and they have been travelling a lot on the weekends.

Do you think that I should give mom a heads up on the "tattling" I am seeing at daycare?

I dont personally want to mention my own feelings about DCG needing to spend more time with her parents...thats just my own opinion on why this behavior has started up again recently. I am less than five weeks from a new baby of my own. This DCG is basically like a member of the family and I do think that she is feeling the transition more than a regular daycare child would, if that makes sense. I have had her since she was a baby and she was the youngest daycare child for a long time. She had a hard transition when I added my 7 month old daycare baby as well.

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I would give mom a heads up on what is going on and the amount of sudden crying. I bet you she's doing it at home too. Also, I would get a tattling toad and let her start talking to the toad, it works great and the kids loved talking to my frog who was sensored to croak too.

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I think I'd mention it to Mom and maybe just start the conversation like "I see what you mean about the stories. She's started to do the same here" and reiterate that you're supervising closely and not seeing the claim. You could also mention your suspicions about her insecurities with the new baby coming. It totally could be related. Perhaps she was getting a lot of extra attention at home when she'd tell about the assaults, and hoping to get the same with you. She may just be insecure with the upcoming changes.

Good luck!

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I would do this as well.

I have a child who is very similar. She is the "little Princess" at home and her older sister (a GEM!) is ignored. She just told Mom the other day, "She hit me!" I looked her dead in the eye and said, "No, DCG, you hit your sister." She gave me an ugly look and grunted at me. I had to ask, "Do you need to go to hula hoop time before you go home? We do not grunt at Mrs. Teacher."

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