This kind of goes along with the Mollescum post as it is the same child, though it is unrelated to the skin issue.

How would you handle a child that has been in your care for a day and when faced with having to go to time out for something, or asked to do something he doesn't want to do, such as cleaning up toys he is done with playing with, he tells me "no", flat out, and when I go get him to bring him back to the toys to be picked up, he runs away...repeatedly.

He completely runs the show at home, as mom admits, because she doesn't want to "fight the battle". I have noticed that he has zero self-help skills and cannot put on his own shoes or coat. We were getting ready to leave for school today and I asked him to get on his shoes and he says "I don't know how" or "I can't". Mom said he needed help with his pants in the bathroom, but as I coached him through it, he did it but dramatically panted like it was so hard, but it can be done.

At pick up, DCB threw a fit because he wanted to be outside playing. Dad just stood there like he had no idea what to do. It wasn't even so much of a "lingering to hear about the details of the day" because I had already given that info, it was more of a quiet dad standing there having no clue what to do, almost as if waiting for me to give in or something.



I just wonder if the issues I am having, with regards to him not respecting my rules or myself, are going to get worse rather than better in time with the lack of boundaries at home.

He went to time out a few times for not listening, but he had no idea what to do....he could not understand why he was in timeout after he counted to 10....is that a thing?! Anyway, I did not mention these issues that got him to time out at pick up though I am wondering if I should bring them up tomorrow. I know all kids say no, but it just seems odd to me because he just met me, if that makes sense.

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