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Unregistered on purpose 07:31 AM 09-25-2010
first i want to start off by saying i am a registered poster here, i just logged out for privacy purposes. i hope you all understand.

second, i know what i need to do, i'm just looking for some other opinions, and a little backbone.

i have a family i have been caring for for almost a year. their child is the most sweetest well behaved child i have ever cared for. a couple of times the parents have showed up, either at pick up or drop off, and appear to be stoned. at first, i thought, o.k., maybe she has allergies, or is overtired, whatever. but i thought she was stoned all along. another friend of a friend mentioned to me that these people are huge pot heads. now, i dont judge anyone for what they do in the privacy of their own homes, but showing up and putting your child in the car when you are under the influence is not cool. i know technically, i am a mandated reporter. but i have a few reservations about jumping the gun. #1, they dont appear to be "sloppy drunk i can totally tell", so i dont know if its me seeing things or not. #2, friend of a friend said something, but its hearsay, ya know? #3, they are good friends with another family i care for, so how do i deal with that?! they are going to bad mouth me to them, i'm sure. and if i terminate, the other family i have is going to wonder why. (the other family does NOT come across as the type to smoke pot) #4 if i do turn them in, will they retaliate by turning me in for something stupid? #5, is it enough proof to warrant a call to CPS? i mean, they really are nice people, and are really good parents. they come from nice families. i have no other issues as far as how they treat their child. they are in NO way abusive.

i know what i am supposed to do, i am just torn, and looking for a little advice. thanks...
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Unregistered 09:26 AM 09-25-2010
I would tell a police officer to stop them, after they leave, for DUI. One time and that should get them to take notice. It will put it in front of a judge and would also be considered potential child endangerment situation. Sounds harsh but it could change their behaviour in a BIG way.
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JenNJ 11:11 AM 09-25-2010
How would you feel if they were in an accident after leaving your home and knowing you could have prevented injuries to them, their child, and others?
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kendallina 12:53 PM 09-25-2010
I have called cps for this reason before. The first time I called the woman on the phone literally laughed at me and said something like, that's not something you can turn someone in for. I didn't feel good about that reaction at all, talked with my supervisor (I worked at a center), who agreed with me and I called cps back and spoke with a supervisor there, who agreed with me that I needed to complete a report.

You know that this is the right thing to do. The goal of CPS is not to take people's children away from them, but to help the family do what is appropriate for their children. Someone needs to stop this family from driving when they are high. It is illegal and dangerous and they could kill themselves, their children or someone else.

I'm sorry you are faced with this, this is such a crappy situation to be in. Good luck.
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DBug 02:27 PM 09-25-2010
In Canada, you can call the CAS anonymously to ask if you should report a specific situation. Perhaps if you were to call the CPS (or the cops) "just for advice", you might feel confidant enough to report this family, since you'd be on the phone with them already . I know sometimes if I can trick myself into almost doing something, I can summon the guts I need to actually do it .

Honestly, we need more people in this world like you, who are willing to put themselves out there to protect a child, rather than just look the other way. Let us know how it goes!
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kendallina 03:37 PM 09-25-2010
Originally Posted by DBug:
In Canada, you can call the CAS anonymously to ask if you should report a specific situation. Perhaps if you were to call the CPS (or the cops) "just for advice", you might feel confidant enough to report this family, since you'd be on the phone with them already . I know sometimes if I can trick myself into almost doing something, I can summon the guts I need to actually do it .

Honestly, we need more people in this world like you, who are willing to put themselves out there to protect a child, rather than just look the other way. Let us know how it goes!
Yup, you can do this here too-good idea!
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PAMommy1228 05:18 AM 09-27-2010
Originally Posted by DBug:
In Canada, you can call the CAS anonymously to ask if you should report a specific situation. Perhaps if you were to call the CPS (or the cops) "just for advice", you might feel confidant enough to report this family, since you'd be on the phone with them already . I know sometimes if I can trick myself into almost doing something, I can summon the guts I need to actually do it .

Honestly, we need more people in this world like you, who are willing to put themselves out there to protect a child, rather than just look the other way. Let us know how it goes!
I cannot speak for the whole USA, but here in CT if you are a mandated reporter you cannot be anonymous. I ran into this problem with a family member last year.
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Unregistered 10:24 AM 09-25-2010
Because you dont "know" for sure, no evidence ect. I would talk to them about it. I know its hard to confront parents but maybe a simple, "I see that you are good parents but your eyes look a little red and I have been thinkin that maybe you are high when you are picking up your child, I have to let you know that as a mandated reported I am obligated to report this. If you are smoking pot please do not pick up your child." Its the rules, you give them a warning...and then you have to do what you have to do.
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Unregistered 07:40 PM 10-03-2019
Hello ,

How do I report a daycare worker that smokes weed. I rent an apartment . I am on the top floor . The Owners live downstairs . They have a 2 year old son. During the day they operate a daycare from 6am-6pm . At night they smoke so much pot that my entire apartment is covered in the smell and smoke. I when as far as covering the holes in the kitchen and bathroom sink with plastic. Most of the time I get a really bad headache. Is it illegal for them to smoke and be childcare providers ?
In the mornings they spray a whole can of whatever they think might get the smell out before the parents drop off their kids so the smell is covered up . And most of the time they would come to the door for the kid so I don’t think the parents even notice but it’s really bad how can I report this?
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Pestle 03:21 AM 10-04-2019
You need to find out who's responsible for licensing and oversight in your area. The Department of Human Services might be it--Google your state (if you're in the US) and "daycare licensing".

In my state it's not legal to smoke anything on the property. However, if this is an unlicensed but legally-operating daycare, you might not have much luck going to the licensing agency.

Whether they're violating their licencing agency's regulations is separate from whether they're committing a crime. In my state, I'm a mandated reporter of child abuse and neglect. When it comes to controlled substances, I only have to report if they're being used in conjunction with harming a child. So if I knew my neighbors were smoking pot, I wouldn't be legally obligated to report, but if I knew they were smoking pot while their infant rolled around screaming in an unchanged diaper, I WOULD be obligated to report. Does that make sense?

In your shoes, I would start with the property manager. If they're smoking anything in a building where smoking is prohibited, it's the property manager who has the most control and the most vested interest.
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Unregistered 10:40 AM 03-23-2021
The amount of “nosy neighbor can’t find business of their own” this is giving. I really hate this stigma of weed and old prudes like you are the ones who keep it alive. “Is it illegal to smoke and own a daycare” lmao you’re such a nerd for that. I hope you got bullied in school. If you did it didn’t help you grow, it didn’t effect your formative years apparently. You’re still the same socially awkward and anxious good for nothing nobody that you always were. Trying to report people and take their license and livelihoods away from them for the equivalent of drinking a beer. People like you don’t deserve to have neighbors. You’re so selfish and toxic.


Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Hello ,

How do I report a daycare worker that smokes weed. I rent an apartment . I am on the top floor . The Owners live downstairs . They have a 2 year old son. During the day they operate a daycare from 6am-6pm . At night they smoke so much pot that my entire apartment is covered in the smell and smoke. I when as far as covering the holes in the kitchen and bathroom sink with plastic. Most of the time I get a really bad headache. Is it illegal for them to smoke and be childcare providers ?
In the mornings they spray a whole can of whatever they think might get the smell out before the parents drop off their kids so the smell is covered up . And most of the time they would come to the door for the kid so I don’t think the parents even notice but it’s really bad how can I report this?

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Cat Herder 11:29 AM 03-23-2021
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
The amount of “nosy neighbor can’t find business of their own” this is giving. I really hate this stigma of weed and old prudes like you are the ones who keep it alive. “Is it illegal to smoke and own a daycare” lmao you’re such a nerd for that. I hope you got bullied in school. If you did it didn’t help you grow, it didn’t effect your formative years apparently. You’re still the same socially awkward and anxious good for nothing nobody that you always were. Trying to report people and take their license and livelihoods away from them for the equivalent of drinking a beer. People like you don’t deserve to have neighbors. You’re so selfish and toxic.
Actually, it is illegal for family childcare providers to smoke cigarettes or pot on daycare premises.

Marijuana is still illegal in most states.

You sound like an obnoxious 14 year old.
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Blackcat31 12:04 PM 03-23-2021
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
The amount of “nosy neighbor can’t find business of their own” this is giving. I really hate this stigma of weed and old prudes like you are the ones who keep it alive. “Is it illegal to smoke and own a daycare” lmao you’re such a nerd for that. I hope you got bullied in school. If you did it didn’t help you grow, it didn’t effect your formative years apparently. You’re still the same socially awkward and anxious good for nothing nobody that you always were. Trying to report people and take their license and livelihoods away from them for the equivalent of drinking a beer. People like you don’t deserve to have neighbors. You’re so selfish and toxic.
.....and yet you’re the one making rude, immature and childish comments in an 11 yr old thread about weed on a daycare discussion board....
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Rockgirl 12:55 PM 03-23-2021
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
.....and yet you’re the one making rude, immature and childish comments in an 11 yr old thread about weed on a daycare discussion board....
I had to laugh, too! “I hope you got bullied in school”
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Unregistered 10:33 AM 03-23-2021
Lmao 11 years later and this DIDNT age well at all. “She’s driving under the influence” how prude are you lol. Now look everyone agrees weed ain’t a drug to make you act out of sorts and driving under that influence is like the least of your worries. It’s way worse to drive drunk or tired. I’ve had more near accidents from driving tired as opposed to high. Don’t be such a nerd.
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Cat Herder 11:31 AM 03-23-2021
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Lmao 11 years later and this DIDNT age well at all. “She’s driving under the influence” how prude are you lol. Now look everyone agrees weed ain’t a drug to make you act out of sorts and driving under that influence is like the least of your worries. It’s way worse to drive drunk or tired. I’ve had more near accidents from driving tired as opposed to high. Don’t be such a nerd.
No, not everyone agrees. It is still illegal to drive under the influence and yes children can be removed from irresponsible and reckless parents. Childcare providers are still required to report parents driving under the influence.
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