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Jo123ABC 12:14 PM 05-13-2019
Hi everyone!
What's your deal breaker? Reason for terminating care? I'm about to kick one out that is misbehaving during nap time. I have kicked one out for constant fussing, almost kicked one out because mom was crazy and treated me like I was her teenage daughter
What's your deal breaker? Reason for terminating care? I'm about to kick one out that is misbehaving during nap time. I have kicked one out for constant fussing, almost kicked one out because mom was crazy and treated me like I was her teenage daughter
DaveA 12:23 PM 05-13-2019
1 child terminated for their behavior in 12+ years. Otherwise it's all been on the parents- late payment/ nonpayment, not following policies, or not understanding I'm not their employee.
ETA: it's usually not "1" thing. Parents who push it usually try it in multiple ways.
ETA: it's usually not "1" thing. Parents who push it usually try it in multiple ways.
Michael 12:38 PM 05-13-2019
We have threads for terminating with these TAGS:
Non-Payment
Sick Policy
Disrespectful
Screaming
Behavioral
Bad Fit
No Show
Biter
Hyper
No Trust
Inappropriate Behavior
Violent
Because Of Parents
Illness/Sickness
Cigarette Smoke
Stealing
Lying
Due To Hours
Won't Nap
Hitting
Crying
Warts
Non-Payment
Sick Policy
Disrespectful
Screaming
Behavioral
Bad Fit
No Show
Biter
Hyper
No Trust
Inappropriate Behavior
Violent
Because Of Parents
Illness/Sickness
Cigarette Smoke
Stealing
Lying
Due To Hours
Won't Nap
Hitting
Crying
Warts
Mom2Two 01:02 PM 05-13-2019
Originally Posted by DaveA:
1 child terminated for their behavior in 12+ years. Otherwise it's all been on the parents- late payment/ nonpayment, not following policies, or not understanding I'm not their employee.
ETA: it's usually not "1" thing. Parents who push it usually try it in multiple ways.
1 child terminated for their behavior in 12+ years. Otherwise it's all been on the parents- late payment/ nonpayment, not following policies, or not understanding I'm not their employee.
ETA: it's usually not "1" thing. Parents who push it usually try it in multiple ways.
There have been a couple of children that didn’t make it past interview due to their behavior during the interview, but the parents I’ve wanted gone have been crazy, high-maintenance parents.
But for me the relationship usually goes downhill when I start saying “no” a lot. High-maint types can’t handle being told”no.”
Cat Herder 01:08 PM 05-13-2019
Children: Violent Behaviors that don't improve with intervention in a reasonable amount of time.
Adults: Let me count the ways.
Adults: Let me count the ways.
springv 01:09 PM 05-13-2019
Non payment and not following our policies have been the reason in our daycare center.
Gemma 04:48 AM 05-14-2019
Originally Posted by DaveA:
it's usually not "1" thing. Parents who push it usually try it in multiple ways.
it's usually not "1" thing. Parents who push it usually try it in multiple ways.
Just about all families I've terminated, was due to disrespectful parents that signed my contract having no intention what so ever of following my policies!
I don't have patience for disrespectful boundary pushers
Jupadia 06:53 AM 05-14-2019
I've only termed one family. My ratios changed and made me include my own kid. So I had to give notice to a parent so I would not be over. I actually gave birth to my seconed two days before the change, but had one parent who chose to leave themselves cause my husband (who's backup in my contract) was going to be helping full time for a couple weeks while I recovered. So it was only the one family I had to let go myself.
Unregistered 11:59 AM 05-14-2019
So far, I have termed for EXTREME bad behavior (violence, destroying my house), non-payment after several warnings, inconsistent payment/having to ask constantly to be paid and then Mom's attitude made it a termination on the spot, consistent late payment, and on Friday, bad behavior with the parents making excuses instead of trying to help fix it. Working through my 2 week notice right now, ugh!
MamaG2903 11:59 AM 05-14-2019
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
So far, I have termed for EXTREME bad behavior (violence, destroying my house), non-payment after several warnings, inconsistent payment/having to ask constantly to be paid and then Mom's attitude made it a termination on the spot, consistent late payment, and on Friday, bad behavior with the parents making excuses instead of trying to help fix it. Working through my 2 week notice right now, ugh!
Oops, wasn't logged in!So far, I have termed for EXTREME bad behavior (violence, destroying my house), non-payment after several warnings, inconsistent payment/having to ask constantly to be paid and then Mom's attitude made it a termination on the spot, consistent late payment, and on Friday, bad behavior with the parents making excuses instead of trying to help fix it. Working through my 2 week notice right now, ugh!
BGM 01:16 PM 05-13-2019
I'm about to tell a family their kid can't come back next year (I close for the summer). He is constantly causing trouble during nap time and his new feature is biting. Sad part is, he was one of my first daycare kids, but if I have to do another year with this kid, I'll lose my mind.
I've also termed for:
3-Parental lack of cooperation (making demands, being rude/acting like I work for them, not paying on time, ignoring policies, dropping off/picking up whenever they felt like regardless of my hours and so on)
1-Absolutely crazy behavior of a two year old. I know they're energetic, but this kid was always on 10. I couldn't handle it.
1-Super aggressive/angry behavior; throwing chairs, any toy they could find, shoving other kids just because, etc.
I've only been open a little less than 2 years, so I'm a bit embarrassed of how many families I've termed; but it feels so good to term the clients I just don't get on well with. I figure I might as well enjoy the job I conjured up out of thin air!
I've also termed for:
3-Parental lack of cooperation (making demands, being rude/acting like I work for them, not paying on time, ignoring policies, dropping off/picking up whenever they felt like regardless of my hours and so on)
1-Absolutely crazy behavior of a two year old. I know they're energetic, but this kid was always on 10. I couldn't handle it.
1-Super aggressive/angry behavior; throwing chairs, any toy they could find, shoving other kids just because, etc.
I've only been open a little less than 2 years, so I'm a bit embarrassed of how many families I've termed; but it feels so good to term the clients I just don't get on well with. I figure I might as well enjoy the job I conjured up out of thin air!
Mom2Two 01:26 PM 05-13-2019
Originally Posted by BGM:
I've only been open a little less than 2 years, so I'm a bit embarrassed of how many families I've termed; but it feels so good to term the clients I just don't get on well with. I figure I might as well enjoy the job I conjured up out of thin air!
I've only been open a little less than 2 years, so I'm a bit embarrassed of how many families I've termed; but it feels so good to term the clients I just don't get on well with. I figure I might as well enjoy the job I conjured up out of thin air!
Blackcat31 01:40 PM 05-13-2019
Originally Posted by BGM:
I've only been open a little less than 2 years, so I'm a bit embarrassed of how many families I've termed; but it feels so good to term the clients I just don't get on well with. I figure I might as well enjoy the job I conjured up out of thin air!
Oh No! Do NOT be embarrassed about having to find your groove! That's actually a good thing!! I've only been open a little less than 2 years, so I'm a bit embarrassed of how many families I've termed; but it feels so good to term the clients I just don't get on well with. I figure I might as well enjoy the job I conjured up out of thin air!
What people "think" operating a child care is like and what operating one is actually like are two totally different movies so I think going through a lot of families is a great way to learn what does and doesn't work for you. It's also a great way to learn the business and gain experience.
It's the providers that refuse to terminate a family or child that is down right awful simply because they were one of their first families. That logic always makes me sad.
Ariana 02:38 PM 05-13-2019
I terminated two children for aggressive out of control behaviour and constant crying. First one lasted 7 months, second lasted a week.
I terminated two children because their parents were in denial about developmental delays/issues. One child turned out to be deaf, another child I suspected ASD.
I am usually able to deal with parental behaviour but it is by far the most stressful aspect of this job. I have been contemplating ending care for one family because mom is always asking me to stop napping her kid no matter how many times I have addressed the issue in a polite manner.
I terminated two children because their parents were in denial about developmental delays/issues. One child turned out to be deaf, another child I suspected ASD.
I am usually able to deal with parental behaviour but it is by far the most stressful aspect of this job. I have been contemplating ending care for one family because mom is always asking me to stop napping her kid no matter how many times I have addressed the issue in a polite manner.
Pestle 03:49 PM 05-13-2019
Terminated one on the spot for extreme aggression (FAS case and the family lied about being kicked out of the previous daycare for aggression)
Terminated one on the spot for drug paraphernalia out in the open while I was babysitting from their house with my own child on site. Should have terminated months earlier for aggression and late payments and late pick ups. My first months being open and it's a learning curve
Terminated one for nonstop hysterical screaming from dropoff to pickup (family said at termination that the same thing happens in the church nursery)
Terminated one with advance notice because they were part time and I needed their spot for a sibling of a full-time kid
Terminated one on the spot for drug paraphernalia out in the open while I was babysitting from their house with my own child on site. Should have terminated months earlier for aggression and late payments and late pick ups. My first months being open and it's a learning curve
Terminated one for nonstop hysterical screaming from dropoff to pickup (family said at termination that the same thing happens in the church nursery)
Terminated one with advance notice because they were part time and I needed their spot for a sibling of a full-time kid
e.j. 04:56 PM 05-13-2019
I out and out termed one child because I didn't feel I could keep the little Houdini safe.
I didn't term but I did nudge people out the door for not wanting their exhausted child to nap at nap time, for showing up late for pick up too often and for raising his fists to me as if he were going to punch me after I explained that his newly walking child lost his balance and fell onto a toy, resulting in a small bruise. (I should have out and out termed him for that but....you live and learn.) He was nudged out shortly after that night!
I didn't term but I did nudge people out the door for not wanting their exhausted child to nap at nap time, for showing up late for pick up too often and for raising his fists to me as if he were going to punch me after I explained that his newly walking child lost his balance and fell onto a toy, resulting in a small bruise. (I should have out and out termed him for that but....you live and learn.
) He was nudged out shortly after that night!