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Scout 04:10 PM 02-14-2013
Maybe it's because I am the mom to boys only but, why didn't anyone tell me girls are so whiny? I have all boys and one girl who started a few months ago. I MUCH prefer the boys! She is more destructive than they are! Everything goes into her mouth(and she is old enough to know better). She expects me to do simple things for her like scratch an itch she can easily reach herself!
Drives.me.nuts.!! I wanted to have a girl and was contemplating trying for it until about the 3rd day with this little diva!
Now I am so grateful I am blessed with boys!!
Drives.me.nuts.!! I wanted to have a girl and was contemplating trying for it until about the 3rd day with this little diva! Now I am so grateful I am blessed with boys!!
daycarediva 04:15 PM 02-14-2013
I have two dcg's and neither are whiny. Actually they buddy up together and I rarely here a peep out of them during free play. I think it depends on the kids, bc your dcg sounds just like my dcb!
rmc20021 05:08 PM 02-14-2013
I would DEFINITELY take girls over boys ANY day...
I've had all boys this time around being licensed and it's been HORRIBLE. All they want to do is try to wrestle. They can't walk past each other without trying to grab or trip each other. They are loud and rough.
Yes...girls usually are more whiney, but easier to manage. Your girl is probably so whiney because she IS the only girl in a group of boys.
When I had daycare my first time around I was licensed for 12 and I had my own two preschool daughters. I was able to eventually weed out all the infants and boys and ended up with only ALL girls (I only cared for 8 at that time) who were about the same ages of my own girls.
They all grew up together and most of them are mommy's themselves now, but it was just an amazing group of girls I had and what I'd give to have that same type of group now.
I've had all boys this time around being licensed and it's been HORRIBLE. All they want to do is try to wrestle. They can't walk past each other without trying to grab or trip each other. They are loud and rough.
Yes...girls usually are more whiney, but easier to manage. Your girl is probably so whiney because she IS the only girl in a group of boys.
When I had daycare my first time around I was licensed for 12 and I had my own two preschool daughters. I was able to eventually weed out all the infants and boys and ended up with only ALL girls (I only cared for 8 at that time) who were about the same ages of my own girls.
They all grew up together and most of them are mommy's themselves now, but it was just an amazing group of girls I had and what I'd give to have that same type of group now.
EntropyControlSpecialist 05:21 PM 02-14-2013
All of the little boys in my group are whiney. My little girls are all well behaved, keep their hands to themselves, etc.
EntropyControlSpecialist 05:21 PM 02-14-2013
Originally Posted by rmc20021:
I would DEFINITELY take girls over boys ANY day...
I've had all boys this time around being licensed and it's been HORRIBLE. All they want to do is try to wrestle. They can't walk past each other without trying to grab or trip each other. They are loud and rough.
Yes...girls usually are more whiney, but easier to manage. Your girl is probably so whiney because she IS the only girl in a group of boys.
When I had daycare my first time around I was licensed for 12 and I had my own two preschool daughters. I was able to eventually weed out all the infants and boys and ended up with only ALL girls (I only cared for 8 at that time) who were about the same ages of my own girls.
They all grew up together and most of them are mommy's themselves now, but it was just an amazing group of girls I had and what I'd give to have that same type of group now.
I was JUST thinking today that when two of mine leave for Kinder I WILL NOT replace them with boys. They will HAVE to be girls.I would DEFINITELY take girls over boys ANY day...
I've had all boys this time around being licensed and it's been HORRIBLE. All they want to do is try to wrestle. They can't walk past each other without trying to grab or trip each other. They are loud and rough.
Yes...girls usually are more whiney, but easier to manage. Your girl is probably so whiney because she IS the only girl in a group of boys.
When I had daycare my first time around I was licensed for 12 and I had my own two preschool daughters. I was able to eventually weed out all the infants and boys and ended up with only ALL girls (I only cared for 8 at that time) who were about the same ages of my own girls.
They all grew up together and most of them are mommy's themselves now, but it was just an amazing group of girls I had and what I'd give to have that same type of group now.
Bookworm 05:51 PM 02-14-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
All of the little boys in my group are whiney. My little girls are all well behaved, keep their hands to themselves, etc.
In my class, the boys are whiney and huge tattlers. My girls, not so much. All of my high maintainence kids are boys.All of the little boys in my group are whiney. My little girls are all well behaved, keep their hands to themselves, etc.
Jewels 07:12 PM 02-14-2013
I say all the time I would so rather have adaycare full of girls vs boys, my Bois, while being great kids, are loud, the wrestling and just pure craziness of the boys when they r all together, mymy biggest whiner is a 3 year old boy.
cheerfuldom 07:24 PM 02-14-2013
I think it is the personality becuase I have certainly met many whiney cry baby boys. but that doesnt mean girls are angels. my worst hitter/bitter/rowdy kid here is a girl
Scout 03:56 AM 02-15-2013
She is an only child...maybe this has something to do with it!! I do really enjoy putting her hair up in cute little ponytails though! She probably does need a little girl here to calm her. I didn't think about that...unfortunately I am full as of now until the fall unless something changes first!
She probably does need a little girl here to calm her. I didn't think about that...unfortunately I am full as of now until the fall unless something changes first!
NeedaVaca 05:00 AM 02-15-2013
I have girls that are angels! However, 1 DCB is a real handful. I would love to have all girls!
coolconfidentme 05:12 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by Bookworm:
In my class, the boys are whiney and huge tattlers. My girls, not so much. All of my high maintainence kids are boys.
I have two GREAT girls & a little $H!T. The rest are boys & I will takes the girls any day of the week. They boys all want to whine or fight or bully each other & have to be redirected constantly. In my class, the boys are whiney and huge tattlers. My girls, not so much. All of my high maintainence kids are boys.
GIRLS ROCK!
canadiancare 05:15 AM 02-15-2013
I tend to have a preference for boys because I prefer their style of play and I find them less needy. That said I currently have one little boy who is a master tattle taler which I don't like. I have one little girl who can't play independently and will be the type of kid who spends her recess walking with the teacher (this is the kind of child I don't enjoy very much). I have no problem with active behaviour but I get annoyed with the kid who just sits and stares at you waiting for you to direct some play for them no matter how still and well behaved they are.
hope 05:35 AM 02-15-2013
When I first started I always had boys. Not by preference, just seemed to be the only kids who needed care. Boys will find any excuse to rough house. I spent my days breaking up their wrestling matches bc someone would always end up hurt. Now I have a group of all girls and we learn lessons during our tea parties. They love to MOët picnics and bake goodies. They are all soft spoken and polite. Not saying boys cant be any of these things, just that wrestling always seems to creep its way into everything and the structure goes out the door.
slpender 06:06 AM 02-15-2013
My dcg are not so bad but my daughter who is 2 and is an only child and an only grandchild is a major DRAMA QUEEN some days I am ready to pack her up and send off to the center down the street. She also has daddy wrapped right around her finger.
Country Kids 06:20 AM 02-15-2013
Boys are rough
Girls are whiney (depending on birth order IMO)
My boy are rough but learns from much older siblings
My one boy that is an only is the quietest, most polite little guy you'll ever meet.
My girls are a whole different story-whiney, bossy, mother hen, tattlers, toy stealers, hitters, the list goes on-
My girls are either onlies, are the youngest of much older siblings. One has older siblings but is the only girl in the family.
In my opinion I have found-boys that are onlies are great!!!! Girls that are the middle child are great!!!!!
This is only my opinion and what I have found to work in my childcare-
Girls are whiney (depending on birth order IMO)
My boy are rough but learns from much older siblings
My one boy that is an only is the quietest, most polite little guy you'll ever meet.
My girls are a whole different story-whiney, bossy, mother hen, tattlers, toy stealers, hitters, the list goes on-
My girls are either onlies, are the youngest of much older siblings. One has older siblings but is the only girl in the family.
In my opinion I have found-boys that are onlies are great!!!! Girls that are the middle child are great!!!!!
This is only my opinion and what I have found to work in my childcare-
Blackcat31 07:24 AM 02-15-2013
boys 
girls
girls
momofsix 07:41 AM 02-15-2013
Girls all the way!!!God know what he was doing when he gave me six daughters. My sister has 5 boys and thinks they are so much easier
Play Care 08:26 AM 02-15-2013
The worst whiners I have ever had were BOYS. The girls had their moments, especially around 4 when it was the "you are not invited to my b-day party" nonsense, but all in all, I prefer girls.
Right now I have two very high needs, whiny brothers and despite me doing everything by the book, they pretty much horrify everyone with their constant whining/crying I am off today with my own sick daughter and even being ill she's not whining. What a relief for my ears (although I might ask her to tone down the wretching
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Right now I have two very high needs, whiny brothers and despite me doing everything by the book, they pretty much horrify everyone with their constant whining/crying
I am off today with my own sick daughter and even being ill she's not whining. What a relief for my ears (although I might ask her to tone down the wretching)
youretooloud 08:35 AM 02-15-2013
That's funny.. I usually have whiny boys, and stronger girls.
The girls are quicker to try new things, and less likely to cry over every little thing.
The girls are almost ALWAYS the first to ride a two wheeler, or cross the monkey bars, or any of those physical milestones.
I do have one girl right now who went through a very long dramatic phase that drove my crazy. She's starting Pre-K next year, so I am extremely happy that she has given it up.
The girls are quicker to try new things, and less likely to cry over every little thing.
The girls are almost ALWAYS the first to ride a two wheeler, or cross the monkey bars, or any of those physical milestones.
I do have one girl right now who went through a very long dramatic phase that drove my crazy. She's starting Pre-K next year, so I am extremely happy that she has given it up.
Country Kids 08:41 AM 02-15-2013
I have two girls that are known as "drama queen" by all the kids and even some of the parents-
They will be going off to kindy, so it will be a whole new world for them. I guess your behavior is what gets you a nickname or outlook on life!
They will be going off to kindy, so it will be a whole new world for them. I guess your behavior is what gets you a nickname or outlook on life!
cheerfuldom 09:30 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by Country Kids:
Boys are rough
Girls are whiney (depending on birth order IMO)
My boy are rough but learns from much older siblings
My one boy that is an only is the quietest, most polite little guy you'll ever meet.
My girls are a whole different story-whiney, bossy, mother hen, tattlers, toy stealers, hitters, the list goes on-
My girls are either onlies, are the youngest of much older siblings. One has older siblings but is the only girl in the family.
In my opinion I have found-boys that are onlies are great!!!! Girls that are the middle child are great!!!!!
This is only my opinion and what I have found to work in my childcare-
The middle kids i know are the worst....Boys are rough
Girls are whiney (depending on birth order IMO)
My boy are rough but learns from much older siblings
My one boy that is an only is the quietest, most polite little guy you'll ever meet.
My girls are a whole different story-whiney, bossy, mother hen, tattlers, toy stealers, hitters, the list goes on-
My girls are either onlies, are the youngest of much older siblings. One has older siblings but is the only girl in the family.
In my opinion I have found-boys that are onlies are great!!!! Girls that are the middle child are great!!!!!
This is only my opinion and what I have found to work in my childcare-
Scout 11:14 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
boys
girls
BC-you crack me up!! This is exactly how I feel! I should've just posted that!boys
girls
Scout 11:16 AM 02-15-2013
Wow~I am surprised at how many of us prefer girls! I love the little boys I have and would take them any day. They are all very polite and one even said he would miss me today since he wouldn't be here!! They do tend to run around but, like I said, I am used to this since I have a 4yo son!
They do tend to run around but, like I said, I am used to this since I have a 4yo son!
Solandia 11:37 AM 02-15-2013
From my experiences, I find that most providers...in a highly competetive market...will lean heavily towards girls with a select few boys (often firstborn/only).
*IN GENERAL* early childcare programs with mostly girls will be easier, overall...in terms of safety and general behavioral types of issue. Once they hit about 4-5yo, those girls start to test out their emotional terrorist skills (aka, mean girl stuff)
Most times, I had all boys. Many of them were kicked out of other programs because they no longer "fit in" once they got to be toddlers...typical boy toddler, nothing excessive, just more work than the girls who didn't throw, kick or crash their toys 6 hours/day. Boys tend towards more impulsive, less discerning of personal injury, and just more physical in general. I prefer boys, because I prefer to be outside & the excess energy and impulsiveness gets worked out if you can run 4+ hours a day in the backyard. LOL.
ETA: That boys seem to be more work, because I feel that most care situations are set up for boys to fail. Emphasis on fine motor skills at lower and lower ages is frustrating, and boys tend to respond to frustration very physically. The hyper sensitivity/overreactions to a push or shove among friends is another. The hands to yourself is very hard...and boys often need the "touch" to communicate. I know *I* am touchy with my boys...I have to {gently}put my hand on their shoulder, elbow, chin or mouth when I am talking to them or giving directions or redirect. Eye contact & voice is not enough. And I have found (with my mostly girl provider-friends), that they view my physical-ness as a negative...and are very uncomfortable with that in a correction situation...hugs are great, but never scold with a touch.
*IN GENERAL* early childcare programs with mostly girls will be easier, overall...in terms of safety and general behavioral types of issue. Once they hit about 4-5yo, those girls start to test out their emotional terrorist skills (aka, mean girl stuff)
Most times, I had all boys. Many of them were kicked out of other programs because they no longer "fit in" once they got to be toddlers...typical boy toddler, nothing excessive, just more work than the girls who didn't throw, kick or crash their toys 6 hours/day. Boys tend towards more impulsive, less discerning of personal injury, and just more physical in general. I prefer boys, because I prefer to be outside & the excess energy and impulsiveness gets worked out if you can run 4+ hours a day in the backyard. LOL.
ETA: That boys seem to be more work, because I feel that most care situations are set up for boys to fail. Emphasis on fine motor skills at lower and lower ages is frustrating, and boys tend to respond to frustration very physically. The hyper sensitivity/overreactions to a push or shove among friends is another. The hands to yourself is very hard...and boys often need the "touch" to communicate. I know *I* am touchy with my boys...I have to {gently}put my hand on their shoulder, elbow, chin or mouth when I am talking to them or giving directions or redirect. Eye contact & voice is not enough. And I have found (with my mostly girl provider-friends), that they view my physical-ness as a negative...and are very uncomfortable with that in a correction situation...hugs are great, but never scold with a touch.
coolconfidentme 11:43 AM 02-15-2013
ps..., My girls go to town when we eat while the boys fiddle fart around.
DCMom 12:16 PM 02-15-2013
I have a group of 14, 7 boys and 7 girls.
3 of the boys are whiny tattlers. Could rival ANY of the girls. Yet they are the most destructive and 'active' kids of the whole group. Two of the three are siblings.
3 boys are the sweetest, most helpful and polite kids. I would take them any day any time. Two of the three are siblings
1 boy, you never know which kid you are going to get here...some days he is so good and sweet, other days he's a real little sh!t. Most days he is somewhere in the middle.
3 girls...I call them the Daycare Divas. Sassy, demanding, tattlers, sneaky. But they have their good days. Two are siblings.
3 girls...sweet, kind, thoughtful, polite, helpful. Two are siblings.
1 girl...a baby. I've only had her a few weeks, but she seems to be easy.
I guess the pattern I have seen in the last few years is more about parenting and less about gender.
3 of the boys are whiny tattlers. Could rival ANY of the girls. Yet they are the most destructive and 'active' kids of the whole group. Two of the three are siblings.
3 boys are the sweetest, most helpful and polite kids. I would take them any day any time. Two of the three are siblings
1 boy, you never know which kid you are going to get here...some days he is so good and sweet, other days he's a real little sh!t. Most days he is somewhere in the middle.
3 girls...I call them the Daycare Divas. Sassy, demanding, tattlers, sneaky. But they have their good days. Two are siblings.
3 girls...sweet, kind, thoughtful, polite, helpful. Two are siblings.
1 girl...a baby. I've only had her a few weeks, but she seems to be easy.
I guess the pattern I have seen in the last few years is more about parenting and less about gender.
Sunchimes 12:19 PM 02-15-2013
I have a little toy drum. It has been through 3 girls without a scratch. It's a very popular toy, but it was always used correctly. We've spent hours having parades with our drum.
A year ago, I got my first boy. He's 12 months old now. His favorite activity is pounding the drum on the floor as hard as possible. I fear for Drum.
It's pretty much that way with everything now.
A year ago, I got my first boy. He's 12 months old now. His favorite activity is pounding the drum on the floor as hard as possible. I fear for Drum.
It's pretty much that way with everything now.
jenn 12:23 PM 02-15-2013
I had an all boy daycare (not by choice, just who enrolled) when I started. I now have an all girl daycare (again, just who enrolled).
While the girls do tend to have a little more drama, they are still easier to me. They tend to get involved with each other, interact and PLAY. My group of boys played more independently, mainly just banging things together and running around.
I think it's what you're used too and where your tolerances are. I have a daughter, so I "get" girls. Girls are whiny, Boys are loud. I prefer whiny
While the girls do tend to have a little more drama, they are still easier to me. They tend to get involved with each other, interact and PLAY. My group of boys played more independently, mainly just banging things together and running around.
I think it's what you're used too and where your tolerances are. I have a daughter, so I "get" girls. Girls are whiny, Boys are loud. I prefer whiny
Blackcat31 12:49 PM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by DCMom:
I guess the pattern I have seen in the last few years is more about parenting and less about gender.
This this and this!!!!!!!!!! I guess the pattern I have seen in the last few years is more about parenting and less about gender.
Candy 12:57 PM 02-15-2013
Boys are much easier for me. To me they are alot easier to entertain you just give them a toy and they go about their business. Girls seems to like to talk ALOT. I watch one girl who just never stops talking. Then she talks like a baby with a high voice(she is 6 tho) so i can't understand what she is saying most of the time.