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Blissful Kids 07:14 AM 12-14-2012
I had to tell everyone about what one of my daycare moms is doing for me for Christmas. Every day until I close next Friday (I'm taking the week of Christmas off since we're leaving town) she is bringing me a small gift. Today it was mint chocolate covered marshmallows from Trader Joes. I thought this was such a cute idea! Has anyone else gotten some fun presents from daycare parents? I found lots of ideas on Pinterest for my son's teachers. =)
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mom2many 07:17 AM 12-14-2012
That is so sweet and thoughtful! I LOVE pinterest and all of the cute ideas on there. They have great gift ideas!
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Mom&Provider 07:50 AM 12-14-2012
That's very nice!

I've only ever gotten wine, coffee etc. I was very happy tho when one of my DCP's also brought a gift each for my own children which I thought was very thoughtful!
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sharlan 08:19 AM 12-14-2012
My best present ever was a sweatshirt one of my mom's made. I was going through chemo and she came over while I was gone and made a sweatshirt with all the kids handprints on it. I loved that sweatshirt so much that I still have it 21 yrs later.
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cheerfuldom 09:16 AM 12-14-2012
I prefer cash I know I am spoiled because last year all of my daycare parents give me a week of daycare payment as a bonus!
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bunnyslippers 09:22 AM 12-14-2012
I have gotten a Coach bag, jewelry, cash, gift cards out to dinner, wine, flowers, and lots of other stuff. I have very generous families here!!!!
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Mommy2One 09:39 AM 12-14-2012
Do providers usually just get small presents as the previous posters have mentioned? Do any of you get bonuses from you parents? If so, percentage-wise, how does it compare to your weekly rate?

I'm asking as a parent. I have read that nannies typically get a bonus equal to one week's pay. I feel my provider is somewhere between a nanny and a home daycare because she only cares for my daughter part-time and an infant part-time so it's not like she has 6-8 familes that each give her a $10-$20 gift. She's fantastic, regularly goes above-and-beyond and treats my daughter like a member of the family.

I was planning to give her a $50-$100 gift card to Target along with a Christmas/thank you card (amount depends on if/when/how much my Christmas bonus is this year). If it affects your opinion, we pay her $120/3-day week.

I also purchased a personalized blanket for each of her sons from the Disney Store, with a matching hardcover book and a matching stuffed animal, which is going to be "from my daughter."

Would that be appropriate? Any suggestions?
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cheerfuldom 10:17 AM 12-14-2012
Originally Posted by Mommy2One:
Do providers usually just get small presents as the previous posters have mentioned? Do any of you get bonuses from you parents? If so, percentage-wise, how does it compare to your weekly rate?

I'm asking as a parent. I have read that nannies typically get a bonus equal to one week's pay. I feel my provider is somewhere between a nanny and a home daycare because she only cares for my daughter part-time and an infant part-time so it's not like she has 6-8 familes that each give her a $10-$20 gift. She's fantastic, regularly goes above-and-beyond and treats my daughter like a member of the family.

I was planning to give her a $50-$100 gift card to Target along with a Christmas/thank you card (amount depends on if/when/how much my Christmas bonus is this year). If it affects your opinion, we pay her $120/3-day week.

I also purchased a personalized blanket for each of her sons from the Disney Store, with a matching hardcover book and a matching stuffed animal, which is going to be "from my daughter."

Would that be appropriate? Any suggestions?
I have always heard that nannies get two weeks paid, home daycare providers get one week paid. Normally at centers, there isnt just one teacher per room so a lot of parents buy something for the classes use or do small gift cards for each teacher that their child works with ....like $10 Starbucks cards or something.

I do receive bonuses from my families but have never received gifts for my children.
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Mom&Provider 10:32 AM 12-14-2012
Originally Posted by Mommy2One:
Do providers usually just get small presents as the previous posters have mentioned? Do any of you get bonuses from you parents? If so, percentage-wise, how does it compare to your weekly rate?

I'm asking as a parent. I have read that nannies typically get a bonus equal to one week's pay. I feel my provider is somewhere between a nanny and a home daycare because she only cares for my daughter part-time and an infant part-time so it's not like she has 6-8 familes that each give her a $10-$20 gift. She's fantastic, regularly goes above-and-beyond and treats my daughter like a member of the family.

I was planning to give her a $50-$100 gift card to Target along with a Christmas/thank you card (amount depends on if/when/how much my Christmas bonus is this year). If it affects your opinion, we pay her $120/3-day week.

I also purchased a personalized blanket for each of her sons from the Disney Store, with a matching hardcover book and a matching stuffed animal, which is going to be "from my daughter."

Would that be appropriate? Any suggestions?

I think you are giving her a great gift! I know I really appreciated the gifts that were given to my children too and what you have planned is very thoughtful!

As for a base in regards to money as a bonus/gift, which I have never gotten BTW, it's one weeks pay for daycare providers from what I have read.
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crazydaycarelady 10:56 AM 12-14-2012
I think those sounds like nice gifts for your provider Mommy2One.

I usually get gifts from the parents like gift certificates to restaurants, Starbucks, etc. Usually for around $50. I have never one time in 21 years received a weeks pay.
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Nellie 12:35 PM 12-14-2012
Originally Posted by Mommy2One:
Do providers usually just get small presents as the previous posters have mentioned? Do any of you get bonuses from you parents? If so, percentage-wise, how does it compare to your weekly rate?

I'm asking as a parent. I have read that nannies typically get a bonus equal to one week's pay. I feel my provider is somewhere between a nanny and a home daycare because she only cares for my daughter part-time and an infant part-time so it's not like she has 6-8 familes that each give her a $10-$20 gift. She's fantastic, regularly goes above-and-beyond and treats my daughter like a member of the family.

I was planning to give her a $50-$100 gift card to Target along with a Christmas/thank you card (amount depends on if/when/how much my Christmas bonus is this year). If it affects your opinion, we pay her $120/3-day week.

I also purchased a personalized blanket for each of her sons from the Disney Store, with a matching hardcover book and a matching stuffed animal, which is going to be "from my daughter."

Would that be appropriate? Any suggestions?
When my little sisters were in daycare 20 years ago my mother told me she heard on Opera that you were suppose to give daycare providers a week worth of pay as a Christmas gift. I always did the same when my own children attended daycare. I gave more when my daughter only attended part time. I have been in business for 4 years in Jan. I was closed due to a maternity leave one year, but I never have received a weeks worth of pay as a bonus. I have gotten gifts and gift cards equaling about 1/4 to 1/2 weeks pay. Most of my families this year are struggling. I know 2 of them qualify for daycare assistance, but sense I don't accept it they have chosen not to go else where. One of my better off families in the past has given me as small gift and cookies. But this family gives me gifts though out the year as tokens of appreciation. They get a gift for each on of my children on their birthdays(this year they even gave my 14 year old a $25 gift card) and gave me a generous $50 gift card to the salon. Every holiday valentines day, mothers day, Thanksgiving, ect they get some small gift with a wonderful hand written letter of appreciation. I think what you have planned is wonderful. Personally do what you want. I wouldn't want someone to give a gift that they felt like they had to give me or that they couldn't afford. I know one mom that told me after Thanksgiving that she only had $30 to spend on each of her children for Christmas. I know that these children have Christmas with there dad and generous grandparents, aunt and uncles so if they get me anything other than a hand made card from the kids this year I'll feel awful.
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Nellie 01:19 PM 12-14-2012
Originally Posted by Blissful Kids:
I had to tell everyone about what one of my daycare moms is doing for me for Christmas. Every day until I close next Friday (I'm taking the week of Christmas off since we're leaving town) she is bringing me a small gift. Today it was mint chocolate covered marshmallows from Trader Joes. I thought this was such a cute idea! Has anyone else gotten some fun presents from daycare parents? I found lots of ideas on Pinterest for my son's teachers. =)
What a sweet idea
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MyAngels 01:34 PM 12-14-2012
A week's pay seems to be becoming more common in my area. 10 years ago I would never have received that much from any family, but in the past few years I've received it more and more - last year all but 1 family gave me that amount.
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daycarediva 03:21 PM 12-14-2012
Originally Posted by Mommy2One:
Do providers usually just get small presents as the previous posters have mentioned? Do any of you get bonuses from you parents? If so, percentage-wise, how does it compare to your weekly rate?

I'm asking as a parent. I have read that nannies typically get a bonus equal to one week's pay. I feel my provider is somewhere between a nanny and a home daycare because she only cares for my daughter part-time and an infant part-time so it's not like she has 6-8 familes that each give her a $10-$20 gift. She's fantastic, regularly goes above-and-beyond and treats my daughter like a member of the family.

I was planning to give her a $50-$100 gift card to Target along with a Christmas/thank you card (amount depends on if/when/how much my Christmas bonus is this year). If it affects your opinion, we pay her $120/3-day week.

I also purchased a personalized blanket for each of her sons from the Disney Store, with a matching hardcover book and a matching stuffed animal, which is going to be "from my daughter."

Would that be appropriate? Any suggestions?
As a provider, I think this is VERY sweet to include her children. My own kids get overlooked SO OFTEN. We had a homemade card exchange and nobody brought them cards (except one family) My 4 year old was heartbroken!

I think half your weekly rate ($50 is FINE!) and a thank you card would make her day!
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Sunshine74 04:20 PM 12-14-2012
We are lucky if we get anything for Christmas, so I appreciate anything I get. Last year I got a homemade ornament (which I love btw) from one child, and a gift bag with lotion and fuzzy socks from another. A couple of our parents will buy doughnuts or bagels for the whole staff.
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Springdaze 06:02 PM 12-14-2012
i think a weeks pay is alot to expect. I certainly would not be able to afford it! good for you and them if they can! if they can afford it, maybe charge them more normally!
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momofboys 06:26 PM 12-14-2012
I have gotten small gifts but never a week's pay, wishful thinking. Even when I worked as a nanny they only gave me $75 gift card. Not complaining but I doubt my current family will give me anything.
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spud912 08:28 AM 12-15-2012
Originally Posted by Mommy2One:
Do providers usually just get small presents as the previous posters have mentioned? Do any of you get bonuses from you parents? If so, percentage-wise, how does it compare to your weekly rate?

I'm asking as a parent. I have read that nannies typically get a bonus equal to one week's pay. I feel my provider is somewhere between a nanny and a home daycare because she only cares for my daughter part-time and an infant part-time so it's not like she has 6-8 familes that each give her a $10-$20 gift. She's fantastic, regularly goes above-and-beyond and treats my daughter like a member of the family.

I was planning to give her a $50-$100 gift card to Target along with a Christmas/thank you card (amount depends on if/when/how much my Christmas bonus is this year). If it affects your opinion, we pay her $120/3-day week.

I also purchased a personalized blanket for each of her sons from the Disney Store, with a matching hardcover book and a matching stuffed animal, which is going to be "from my daughter."

Would that be appropriate? Any suggestions?
That is amazing, especially since you thought to include her children!
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pandamom 12:40 PM 12-15-2012
I work at a center so I know I'm not getting a weeks pay lol. I'm a floater and some parents have given me some yummy homemade goodies.

For my sons' rooms, I gave the teachers a group gift. I gave them a bottle of Olay Dawn dish soap and yummy smelling foaming hand soap since our center doesn't provide dish soap and I know teachers tend to buy their own hand soap for their room. I also gave a $30 gift card for them to use towards teacher or classroom supplies since I know the head teachers always spend money out of pocket on certain supplies.
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Hazel 03:04 PM 12-15-2012
I've never gotten a weeks pay but the gifts I've recieved have varied WIDELY over the years. $50 visa gift card, $50 to nice restaurant, $25 to WaWa (local convenience store for coffee ect), $10 for dunkin donuts, small gift baskets from bath shops.. The list goes on.. Last year a family gave me a gift basket with a candle, hand soap, body wash, lotion and spray (all the same scent which I loved!) and a $25 gift card to bed bath and beyond. Then I've gotten the really cheap stuff that was NOT my taste and TOTALLLLY was a regift... Like the African safari style frame with a 3D giraffe inside... Or the dollar store picture frames..
I say, a gift card for a neutral place (like target, local popular restaurant, movie theater)For as much as you think is reasonable ($25 min if possible) AND a small gift like a Yankee candle or some really nice chocolates that you know they like but don't buy for themselves.
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Sunshine74 10:42 PM 12-15-2012
Originally Posted by pandamom:
I work at a center so I know I'm not getting a weeks pay lol. I'm a floater and some parents have given me some yummy homemade goodies.

For my sons' rooms, I gave the teachers a group gift. I gave them a bottle of Olay Dawn dish soap and yummy smelling foaming hand soap since our center doesn't provide dish soap and I know teachers tend to buy their own hand soap for their room. I also gave a $30 gift card for them to use towards teacher or classroom supplies since I know the head teachers always spend money out of pocket on certain supplies.
This is so awesome and helpful. I spend a lot of money on classroom supplies, it drives my husband crazy. Sometimes I get reimbursed, but sometimes I don't (the pitfalls of working for your family).
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Meeko 08:41 AM 12-16-2012
I've had the whole range.

Last year, one Mom gave me a weeks pay as a bonus AND a gorgeous cookbook I had been wanting AND a heartfelt card with a hand-written note of appreciation. She also does little thoughtful things all year.

Others didn't even say "Merry Christmas"
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Blissful Kids 09:30 AM 12-17-2012
Originally Posted by Blissful Kids:
I had to tell everyone about what one of my daycare moms is doing for me for Christmas. Every day until I close next Friday (I'm taking the week of Christmas off since we're leaving town) she is bringing me a small gift. Today it was mint chocolate covered marshmallows from Trader Joes. I thought this was such a cute idea! Has anyone else gotten some fun presents from daycare parents? I found lots of ideas on Pinterest for my son's teachers. =)
Today it was a Starbucks drink with home made coffee sleeve and a Starbucks gift card. =)

I do think one week's pay is a lot, but if some parents can afford it then that is a great gift!
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Willow 09:49 AM 12-17-2012
Sounds silly but the most thoughtful gift I've ever gotten was a whopping $100 gas card and a bunch of small snacks for my kids.

When I was dating my (now) husband who lived a good hour and a half drive from my home all of my parents knew that upon close on Friday we were off for the weekend.

The idea that they supported me and my blossoming relationship despite the fact that it might take me away from being able to care for their child someday meant the world to me. It showed me they cared about me as a person, and my happiness


Aside from that I've gotten everything from gift cards to my favorite restaurants, BBQ sauce (lol), scarves, lotions and candles, wine and the like.

This year I had two of my families ask me for some ideas for things I'd like to have for my daycare. I thought supporting my business in that way was an awesome idea!
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itlw8 10:28 AM 12-17-2012
gifts and bonuses vary widely.. one family always gives 100 and wants it spent on me not the kids. another bakes cookies each year. some do nothing. this bunch tends to give 10 to 25 gift card. I love them all.
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Evansmom 12:49 PM 12-17-2012
I have gotten flowers and small gifts over the years that are very nice. I always like to be remembered. I'd like to be remembered with cash but...

Last year I got handed an envelope and I was thinking "aw yeah!" but then I opened it and it was a photo card of the family. Ha ha!!

This year I wrote thank you cards to all my families for trusting me with their kids and also am extending a complimentary date night one night next month where we will stay open late and feed the kids and have a movie so they can go out to dinner or something.
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littlemissmuffet 03:57 PM 12-17-2012
I've gotten all kinds of awesome (and not so awesome, lol) gifts over the years - but this year is my favorite... I am closed the 24th through to the 26th, but I won't have any kids the 27th, 28th and possibly the 31st! SIX DAYS OFF WITH PAY, and I didn't even have to use any vacation time
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jessrlee 04:51 AM 12-19-2012
I got a big bag of goodies today . I'm so excited! She brought me lunch, cookies, a cookbook, rice and veggie steamers, tissues, and some really nice Usborn books

For the kids this year I bought everyone a pair of pajamas, and made the parents gingerbread hand prints.
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Michelle 06:02 AM 12-19-2012
This year is so different than last year.
I have been getting presents all week. Starbucks cards, cookies, etc.
The parents I have this year are very caring.
We have all been to each others birthday parties and we are like a big family.
I still have 2 families that give me problems but the rest Rock!!!

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Blackcat31 08:13 AM 12-19-2012
Over the years I have gotten everything ranging from a family photo card to a really great gift..... that I found out later was stolen.

I don't expect gifts or cards or anything really, following my policies, being respectful and paying me on time (especially during paid time off) is all the appreciation I really need/want.

I know we all like to get gifts but just because it's Christmas doesn't mean I expect something for doing what I am paid to do.

It's nice to hear that I am appreciated for my services but like I said, following my rules/policies is enough appreciation for me.

Sorry, I am not trying to dimish those wonderful families others have that do gift you....it is super sweet of them to think of you.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:15 AM 12-19-2012
If I have all of the parents pay on time so I can pay my bills (thanks soon to be ex husband) then I will be so, so thankful.
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lovemykidstoo 11:35 AM 12-19-2012
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Over the years I have gotten everything ranging from a family photo card to a really great gift..... that I found out later was stolen.

I don't expect gifts or cards or anything really, following my policies, being respectful and paying me on time (especially during paid time off) is all the appreciation I really need/want.

I know we all like to get gifts but just because it's Christmas doesn't mean I expect something for doing what I am paid to do.

It's nice to hear that I am appreciated for my services but like I said, following my rules/policies is enough appreciation for me.

Sorry, I am not trying to dimish those wonderful families others have that do gift you....it is super sweet of them to think of you.
BC someone gave you a stolen gift? Holy cow, what was it if you don't mind me asking? I don't expect gifts either but it really is nice. I love seeing my dck's when they open the gifts that I get them. I usually spend around $10 each on them. Just small things. Even with family Christmas I get more joy out of watching everyone else open their gifts. So BC, do you tell your parents not to buy you anything for Christmas?

I have a 2 day Christmas party going on here because there are 2 kids that don't come today that come tomorrow and I dont' want them to miss out, so a 2 dayer it is I did have 2 parents that send gifts with their child. One was a $100 gift card to Meijers and the other was a $15 gift card to a restaurant and a $25 gift card to where I get my haircut (we both go to the same place).
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Blackcat31 11:52 AM 12-19-2012
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
BC someone gave you a stolen gift? .

I PM'ed you. This family is a current family still.

Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
So BC, do you tell your parents not to buy you anything for Christmas?
No, I just don't say anything. If a family feels compelled to buy me something, I do appreciate it and thank them for it with a hand written note but most of the time, I have found that it is the newer clients that tend to buy gifts.

The long standing ones don't and not because they don't appreciate me but more because I don't give gifts to DCK's for their birthdays and Christmas.

I tend to leave 99.9% of the celebrating for any holiday/birthday to families to do in private.

We don't have big parties here for holidays or birthdays. I operate much more like a school than a family child care.
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kitykids3 07:07 PM 12-19-2012
I usually get handmade pictures from the kiddos and gift cards to Home Depot (when I bought my house 2 yrs ago), Target, restaurants, Half Price Books, Bed Bath and Beyond, etc.

I have 2 presents under the tree waiting to be opened and I had gotten a GC to Macy's when we had our party a couple weeks ago.

Today one of the dcf picked up and mom handed me an envelope. I asked if it was my Christmas present (I had thought she had forgotten cuz she is always doing nice things like a GC on Thanksgiving even) and she said to open it later.

I opened it after she left and it was $200 CASH. Wow!! Nicest present ever! I don't know why but maybe because the last 6 months have been roughest with her 2 boys? Either way, awesome.
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Sunshine74 08:32 PM 12-19-2012
One of our dcf brought breakfast for the whole staff this morning. It was awesome; they brought bagels, muffins, doughnuts, coffee, and everything that goes with it all. We were snacking on the food all day, and I think there is still some left. This dcf does it every year and it's so appreciated!
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Malmom 10:10 PM 12-19-2012
One of my favorite presents ever was a $50 gift card to a hotel, a $25 gas card, and then 4 $15 gift cards to restaurants, all packaged up in a basket with a mini road atlas and a few snack foods. I was pregnant and due 2 months later, and they told me to get away for one last kid free trip.

Now, I usually get the money or gift cards. Some parents give a full weeks pay, and others give half. I'm definitely blessed now. I've dealt with crappy parents who never said Merry Christmas, and have dealt with parents giving obvious regifts (mom was a pre-k teacher). I'm definitely thankful for the cash and the cards that accompany them.
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lovemykidstoo 06:27 AM 12-20-2012
I had my morning laugh. My dcg's (twins) came in with a pretty bag and as they handed it to me, the one girl says "we got you a bracelet"! LOL! Thanks for the surprise. She was sooo cute!! Love how the kids get so excited!
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Unregistered 05:23 AM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by littlemissmuffet:
I've gotten all kinds of awesome (and not so awesome, lol) gifts over the years - but this year is my favorite... I am closed the 24th through to the 26th, but I won't have any kids the 27th, 28th and possibly the 31st! SIX DAYS OFF WITH PAY, and I didn't even have to use any vacation time
That is an ideal gift... enjoy every second.


Ive never gotten a gift worth mentioning. A measley ten dollar gift card i consider an insult. It basically says i know i should give you a gift but i dont want to spend the money on you. I would much rather have a heartfelt thank you and have parents follow rules, policies, etc.

What you are doing for her and her family is a wonderful gesture. The gift for her children is thoutful and says THANK YOU for all you do.
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lil angels 07:55 AM 12-21-2012
Wow I got a $50, 20, and $25 restaurant gift cards. $25 Visa card. Lots of cards and chocolate and lotions this yr. what nice family's I have for thinking of me. And everyone has as of yesterday already paid me for my week off next week. Great family's I have
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SilverSabre25 07:58 AM 12-21-2012
None this year, but really, it's all good, because I took off the 24th AND the 26th this year So excited. That's all the gift I need--5 days off with my family. Longest break in 2.5 years!

Plus, I only have two families right now and one family is newish (only been here two months) and the other is having some major financial struggles, so it really wasn't likely this year anyway. Even more reason I'm glad i gave myself the gift of time off.
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Unregistered 08:00 AM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
None this year, but really, it's all good, because I took off the 24th AND the 26th this year So excited. That's all the gift I need--5 days off with my family. Longest break in 2.5 years!

Plus, I only have two families right now and one family is newish (only been here two months) and the other is having some major financial struggles, so it really wasn't likely this year anyway. Even more reason I'm glad i gave myself the gift of time off.
Yes, time off is priceless.
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renodeb 08:04 AM 12-21-2012
I have had all kinds of gifts ranging from movie tickets, gc for a mani/pedi, to peppermint candles (through them out b/c they were way to strong). I dont think I have ever gotten a bonus though. Honestly I would love to just get a small bonus but Im not picky. This year one client gave me baked goods and nothing from the other client which is ok. I know they appreciate me so its cool.
I think a bonus is the best gift. Everyone could use a little extra $!
Debbie
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Willow 08:16 AM 12-21-2012
Have to share, the oddest gift I've ever gotten was just given to me yesterday....along with some very nice shampoo and conditioner (mom's mom owns her own salon) was a big bottle of lotion. I pulled it out telling her how much I love new lotions and then turned in around to see a GIANT MARIJUANA LEAF plastered on the front

I get that hemp products are fine and all, but is that really something you'd jump to give your daycare provider??

I tried to hide my double take but I'm pretty sure I was unsuccessful LOL

I absolutely adore the family, but it's probably something I'll keep in my bathroom drawer as opposed to out by the kitchen sink
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momofboys 08:20 AM 12-21-2012
I did not get anything, not even a card. Feel awkward handing out my small gifts. The one parent is a teacher and I would be surprised if she does not get gifts from her students. Just disappointed, not wanting much but a letter if appreciation would have sufficed
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MissAnn 08:30 AM 12-21-2012
I fared pretty well this year. Mostly gift cards. 2 from the same place...that always helps! Last year a mom posted on Facebook the gifts she made for her kids teachers. I knew not to get excited...I counted 2 gifts and the boy I have has 2 older brothers. Seems if you don't work in a brick building, you don't qualify for a gift. Sad.
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DaisyMamma 09:15 AM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by momofboys:
I did not get anything, not even a card. Feel awkward handing out my small gifts. The one parent is a teacher and I would be surprised if she does not get gifts from her students. Just disappointed, not wanting much but a letter if appreciation would have sufficed
I really think you should send home the gifts.

$10 gift card from one family who has two kids enrolled. I guess is something though, cuz the other families haven't given me so much as a card, a "Merry Christmas" or a simple Thank You.

Originally Posted by MissAnn:
I fared pretty well this year. Mostly gift cards. 2 from the same place...that always helps! Last year a mom posted on Facebook the gifts she made for her kids teachers. I knew not to get excited...I counted 2 gifts and the boy I have has 2 older brothers. Seems if you don't work in a brick building, you don't qualify for a gift. Sad.
You're very lucky this year! Good for you!

That was very rude of the DCM to post what the teachers got last year and not include you!
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lovemykidstoo 09:43 AM 12-21-2012
I'm sorry but I think that the people that don't do anythiing are rude and unappreciative. REally is it too much trouble to even just write something in a card? You don't even have to give something with monetary value, but a CARD! That is inexcusable. That would really hurt my feelings. I am blessed that I have such wonderful parents. Every single one gave me giftcards or cash and even a beautiful bracelet. The best part of all of it? The heartfelt messages that were in the cards that came with the gifts. Those notes meant alot. Shame on those people that don't even give a card.
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DaisyMamma 09:47 AM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
I'm sorry but I think that the people that don't do anythiing are rude and unappreciative. REally is it too much trouble to even just write something in a card? You don't even have to give something with monetary value, but a CARD! That is inexcusable. That would really hurt my feelings. I am blessed that I have such wonderful parents. Every single one gave me giftcards or cash and even a beautiful bracelet. The best part of all of it? The heartfelt messages that were in the cards that came with the gifts. Those notes meant alot. Shame on those people that don't even give a card.

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DaycareMomma 09:50 AM 12-21-2012
On Monday one of my dcm's walks in, sees that I had done the Christmas party with the kids and said "Oh I didn't know you were doing the Christmas party today. Guess I should go buy you a gift. Ugh I hate shopping like this. So what do you want?" I am pretty sure it took me a good minute or two to pick my jaw up off the floor. Her tone of voice was the worst part, it was like it annoyed her that she'd have to spend money on me even after she paid me for the week. I just looked at her and told her not to get me anything. I honestly wanted to cry. I've been through he l l and back with her son and her trying to convince me that at 22 months old he's fully potty trained at home an that its my fault he isn't doing it here. I mean, a fricken "Thanks for all you do for us" would have been AMAZING!

Sorry I just had to get that off my chest.

My drop in family didn't get me anything this year, which is a shock because they're normally really good about getting me stuff throughout the year, but I'm ok with it.

Then my new family got my two kids a toy to thank them for sharing their mommy and their house every day! I thought that was so sweet. BEST.GIFT.EVER.!
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momofboys 09:52 AM 12-21-2012
I will definitely be sending home my gifts just sad that they didn't 't evn take the time to pen a message in a card.
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akpayne 10:39 AM 12-21-2012
I have been pleasantly surpised today with all the nice gifts I have recieved. beautiful candles, bubble bath, yummy chocolates and some very generous gift cards. The best gift was a beautiful letter one of my dcm wrote about how much my involvement in her daughters life is appreciated. brought me to tears!
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Blissful Kids 12:19 PM 12-21-2012
I have in my contract that my paid holidays are Christmas Eve and Christmas. So I texted parents reminding them of this and one texted back that they were going to pay me for the whole week anyways as a Christmas bonus! So I guess I will get almost a whole week's pay!

Oh, and other sweet dcm whose been bringing me something once a day brought a cookie mix and today homemade gingerbread playdough with Christmas cookie cutters. How fun! =)
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Countrygal 12:50 PM 12-21-2012
Honestly, where we are (very bad economy), I don't think most people give anything. I had one family that gave me a $100 bonus last year, but neither of the other families gave me anything. They did buy presents for the other kiddos in the daycare - little gifts like stocking stuffer types. When I worked for the post office as a foot carrier I got a little, but not all that much, either. It's just not done around here much.

I usually give things like plates of cookies and homemade gifts even myself. I have no money to give anyone, and not many people around here have any money to spare.....
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WoodOx 01:18 PM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
None this year, but really, it's all good, because I took off the 24th AND the 26th this year So excited. That's all the gift I need--5 days off with my family. Longest break in 2.5 years!

Plus, I only have two families right now and one family is newish (only been here two months) and the other is having some major financial struggles, so it really wasn't likely this year anyway. Even more reason I'm glad i gave myself the gift of time off.
Same here, no gifts, but I have those 5 days off.it's been close to 3yrs since i have had that much time off.
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Sunchimes 01:56 PM 12-21-2012
Nothing, but I didn't expect anything. I only have one family (2 kids) and they didn't give me anything last year. It was funny today. They had a big spread at work and she said that they sent her home with a ton of leftover goodies from the party and she didn't know what in the world she was going to do with them all. When I helped her carry the kids and presents to the car, the entire front seat was full of cookies and cupcakes. Again she repeated that she didn't know what in the world she was going to do with it all.

After 2 years with this family, I just grinned to myself and inwardly shook my head. Some people just don't get it.

Funny thing is that she has a pin board on Pinterest called "teacher gifts" but I'm the closest thing to a teacher connected to that family. I guess teaching the baby her abc's, counting to 20, spelling her name, all her colors and shapes doesn't really count as teaching.

But I got a lovely Christmas card from the family I had to term last Spring (ran out of spaces, and it worked out well for all of us in the end).
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WoodOx 02:04 PM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by Sunchimes:
Nothing, but I didn't expect anything. I only have one family (2 kids) and they didn't give me anything last year. It was funny today. They had a big spread at work and she said that they sent her home with a ton of leftover goodies from the party and she didn't know what in the world she was going to do with them all. When I helped her carry the kids and presents to the car, the entire front seat was full of cookies and cupcakes. Again she repeated that she didn't know what in the world she was going to do with it all.

After 2 years with this family, I just grinned to myself and inwardly shook my head. Some people just don't get it.

Funny thing is that she has a pin board on Pinterest called "teacher gifts" but I'm the closest thing to a teacher connected to that family. I guess teaching the baby her abc's, counting to 20, spelling her name, all her colors and shapes doesn't really count as teaching.

But I got a lovely Christmas card from the family I had to term last Spring (ran out of spaces, and it worked out well for all of us in the end).
amazing, I can't believe parents are so ungrateful some times.sorry they didn't offer you cookies.
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Lyss 02:26 PM 12-21-2012
I've always gotten things already mentioned (cards, gift cards, lotions and the likes) but this year nothing, not even a thank you. Well except the great gift of a week and a half vacation from everyone I gave myself!

One DCM bought my DD a HUGE personalized blanket (its like 60x80) with a picture of DD and DCB with caption "First Best Friends! 2012" and a toy car.

I don't buy gifts for DCFs, the kids make presents for DCPs, but I don't do anything for them other than a party.
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crazydaycarelady 02:55 PM 12-21-2012
Over the years I have gotten everything from nothing, to a Dollar Store fingernail kit, to $100 gift cards. The one thing I have noticed is that the annoying families usually don't do anything and the awesome families are usually generous. I guess that makes sense.
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Hunni Bee 03:05 PM 12-21-2012
I was very pleasantly surprised, I was literally showered with gifts all week..... I really didn't expect it, as I have only been here a few months....but even from the families who didn't give me anything, tons of thank you's, Merry Christmas, etc....

At the place I was at before, I gave thr kids gifts, had the Christmas party out of my own money, etc....sometimes didn't get so much as a "bye" as they were leaving.

I have been blessed.
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BumbleBee 03:09 PM 12-21-2012
I got homemade chocolate chip cookies & a variety of chocolates with a homemade card from dcg. Dcg wasn't here today but they came all the way over here (8 miles) just to give it to me
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Fruitloops1 04:17 PM 12-21-2012
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
I'm sorry but I think that the people that don't do anythiing are rude and unappreciative. REally is it too much trouble to even just write something in a card? You don't even have to give something with monetary value, but a CARD! That is inexcusable. That would really hurt my feelings. I am blessed that I have such wonderful parents. Every single one gave me giftcards or cash and even a beautiful bracelet. The best part of all of it? The heartfelt messages that were in the cards that came with the gifts. Those notes meant alot. Shame on those people that don't even give a card.
I agree a card is the best. Just a simple heart felt THANK YOU!



This is my first year and I wasn't expecting anything but a few families got me and my assistant some things. We got gift cards, lotion,we got champagne, cookies, I even got cash which was WOW. I received the CUTEST Christmas card in the mail. DCB looked adorable with his little finger in his mouth. I want to keep all of them for years to come. One DCM even used a picture I took of DCG for their Christmas card. They all wrote such sweet things in them too. And some parents...nothing...but thats ok. Everyone said Merry Christmas!

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hgonzalez 06:34 AM 12-23-2012
I have gotten a variety of gifts over the years. This year it ranged from nothing (no card even) from one family to a $ 75.00 gift card. Usually I get nice little gifts and occasional regifted (tags left on bottom..lol).

I spend about $30 - $ 40.00 on each child here at Christmastime plus I make a movie of the kids doing various Holiday activities at daycare and give a copy to each family. I have not gotten a single email or text 'thank you' yet this year. It hurts.

It is a little tricky this year as I saved 3 vacation days for the days between Xmas and New Years which gave me 11 days off in a row. I told families about this months ago...but now some of them are mad and I suppose feel like they have already 'given' me something by paying me for my time off.

Whatever...it makes me sad every year, but at least I know the kids had fun and enjoy their gifts from me.

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MyAngels 06:54 AM 12-23-2012
Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady:
Over the years I have gotten everything from nothing, to a Dollar Store fingernail kit, to $100 gift cards. The one thing I have noticed is that the annoying families usually don't do anything and the awesome families are usually generous. I guess that makes sense.
I know what you mean - the only two "bad" gifts I've ever received were from PITA families. One was a gift card to Blockbuster (we never rented from them) that was already redeemed , and the other was a tacky Christmas sign with the clearance tag still on it (I think it was $2.97) from a mom who worked at the store it was from, so she got an additional discount on top of that.

Other than that, though, I've had really awesome and generous families through the years.
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sharlan 07:53 AM 12-23-2012
I've never expected presents from any of my families. I've never felt slighted when I didn't receive anything. I would really rather not get anything than a trinket or knick knack that I can't use.

This year, I got a tower of snack/candy items. I'm sure the kids will enjoy eating them.

One parent gave me a week's bonus, plus paid for next week when the child isn't coming. I'll only have the child 2 days the following week.

One gave me a $25 gift card for Disneyland. They know we go all the time.

One gave me a $25 Visa gift card.

I didn't get anything from the last which is just fine.
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Michelle 08:08 AM 12-23-2012
The best present I received this year was a hand written card from a mom that said " thank you for helping me become a better mommy" I was in tears.
She hugged me on Friday and thanked me again.

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