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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:18 AM 12-10-2012


It is in the 30's here today (total opposite of the 70 degree weather we had been having) and I had two parents "tell me" that their child needs to wear a coat or a hat.

I just stated that the children wear a coat, hat, and gloves when the weather is in the 50's or below.

I required parents to bring a coat, hat, and gloves in October because I wanted to make sure we had the proper clothing to bundle up in. I suppose the parents think I just like to decorate their cubbies with winter gear ...

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Zoe 11:22 AM 12-10-2012
I think it depends on the parents. I know that as a parent if I don't say something it might not get done. True, it is a trust thing, but it has made me feel better to just ask and double check. Now as a childcare provider I don't want to be told by a parent to do something, but I wouldn't mind so much if they were double checking or asking me something, AND if it didn't happen every day.
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crazydaycarelady 11:24 AM 12-10-2012
No, I don't have any that remind me, but I have one that I have to remind to bring a coat, in December, in Montana! Sheesh!
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bunnyslippers 11:25 AM 12-10-2012
I get these reminders on occasion. It doesn't bother me if it is something child specific, like a doctor's appointment, change in schedule, etc. Common sense things like wearing a coat annoy me! If I can't remember a coat on a cold day, I probably shouldn't be trusted with children.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:28 AM 12-10-2012
Originally Posted by bunnyslippers:
I get these reminders on occasion. It doesn't bother me if it is something child specific, like a doctor's appointment, change in schedule, etc. Common sense things like wearing a coat annoy me! If I can't remember a coat on a cold day, I probably shouldn't be trusted with children.
That's where I'm at ...
Remind me about things that are out of the ordinary. But, a coat? A hat?
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Blackcat31 11:43 AM 12-10-2012
I think I used to get a lot more reminders when I first opened and my own kids were younger. The reminders mostly came from older parents or parents who were further along raising their kids than I was.

Now I am older than almost all my DCP's so I rarely get reminded to do anything but I do get asked advice alot.

I assume most of this is age related. Atleast it has been in my experience.
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DCMom 12:50 PM 12-10-2012
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:

Now I am older than almost all my DCP's so I rarely get reminded to do anything but I do get asked advice alot.

I assume most of this is age related. Atleast it has been in my experience.
Lol, same here. With age comes wisdom, as they say
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EntropyControlSpecialist 01:09 PM 12-10-2012
I think they quickly forget that I have a degree, over 10 years of experience, have raised 1 child, and am raising a teenager now. I look young. When I go to school functions, everyone thinks I am in High School with my son. They call me his sister, and he always looks shocked. He thinks I am ancient at the ripe old age of 24.
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SilverSabre25 01:24 PM 12-10-2012
Ugh, how annoying. Had a family like this before. The mom didn't like me and didn't trust me *at all*. Called every single day for a couple of months and if babe was having a good day (by my report) she would get grumpy and start giving me the third degree!!! They wanted baby in a full snowsuit, with fleecey outfit underneath, and a hat, to go outside in April............... (it's OH...it was in the *high* fifties that day.....). They would also remind me to change the child if they pooped (duh), to feed her (double duh), and not leave her alone.
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ninosqueridos 02:12 PM 12-10-2012
I've gotten phone calls...

"Remember to offer her water. I gave her a lot this weekend and she needed it."

"Remember to change her bib. She doesn't like to be wet." Thank you, but I am not changing her bib more than fifteen times per day.

Usually those comments from new families and/or first time parents.
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littlemissmuffet 03:07 PM 12-10-2012
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:


It is in the 30's here today (total opposite of the 70 degree weather we had been having) and I had two parents "tell me" that their child needs to wear a coat or a hat.

I just stated that the children wear a coat, hat, and gloves when the weather is in the 50's or below.

I required parents to bring a coat, hat, and gloves in October because I wanted to make sure we had the proper clothing to bundle up in. I suppose the parents think I just like to decorate their cubbies with winter gear ...
When parents "remind" me of stuff like this I reply back with something like "Oh no worries, I've been dressing kids for winter for 10 years now - looking after children is my job, afterall!"... which usually gets the point across to not tell me how to do my job! Ugh.
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Evansmom 03:45 PM 12-10-2012
I've been micromanaged too. Everything from "be careful bc he likes to find small objects on the floor and put them in his mouth" for a toddler (duh!) to offering water (really?). It's always first time parents. I've been studying child development and caring for kids for more than 17 years people, I got this.
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providerandmomof4 04:01 PM 12-10-2012
Just the other day I had a dcm with a mobile baby say, "be careful...she's really moving now.." I just smiled sweetly and said, "yea, I noticed that," and laughed. I really like this dcp though, she's young and just worries. I guess it depends on who is reminding me...
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JustMe 06:55 PM 12-10-2012
I've got one who does this! It's so annoying to me. She called every day for months when her child started... and she's not a first time mom! She still gives me reminders and micromanages everything, from what food her child gets to naptime... she even asked if I was properly cleaning my toys because her child had gotten an ear infection. I get so tired of it!
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Lucy 06:58 PM 12-10-2012
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I think they quickly forget that I have a degree, over 10 years of experience, have raised 1 child, and am raising a teenager now. I look young. When I go to school functions, everyone thinks I am in High School with my son. They call me his sister, and he always looks shocked. He thinks I am ancient at the ripe old age of 24.
I'm tired, so maybe this just didn't register with me the right way. But you're 24 with a teen son in high school?? Huh?
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EntropyControlSpecialist 07:07 PM 12-10-2012
Originally Posted by Lucy:
I'm tired, so maybe this just didn't register with me the right way. But you're 24 with a teen son in high school?? Huh?
Adoption.
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Hunni Bee 07:45 PM 12-10-2012
I find that when they say these things, its stuff that they have trouble with.

I have one tells me to make sure her son wears his coat every morning. He refuses to wear any type of winter wear for her, she comes in every day with the coat in her hand because he won't wear it.

I don't have that problem with him.
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