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Poptarts22 10:54 AM 10-11-2016
Today mom arrived with preschool dcg3. She had a stuffed puppy in a baby sling on her and a tote bag with accessories and a notebook. Mom informed me that "cupcake" is a preschool "pet" that each child takes home and completes a paper on his activities and keeps a log. He needs fed every four hours. A nap. Played with and read a book (which was in bag). Considering that dcg is 3-that means someone would be keeping the log for her and reading the story to cupcake. Mom spent a good five minutes explaining the duties of caring for Cupcake. She was dead serious about me doing this horsecrap for a STUFFED ANiMAL! Looked her straight in the eye and said "yeah-that's not gonna happen".
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Snowmom 10:57 AM 10-11-2016
Originally Posted by Poptarts22:
Today mom arrived with preschool dcg3. She had a stuffed puppy in a baby sling on her and a tote bag with accessories and a notebook. Mom informed me that "cupcake" is a preschool "pet" that each child takes home and completes a paper on his activities and keeps a log. He needs fed every four hours. A nap. Played with and read a book (which was in bag). Considering that dcg is 3-that means someone would be keeping the log for her and reading the story to cupcake. Mom spent a good five minutes explaining the duties of caring for Cupcake. She was dead serious about me doing this horsecrap for a STUFFED ANiMAL! Looked her straight in the eye and said "yeah-that's not gonna happen".
Lol
I would have said "Sure, no problem. My rate is $160/week".
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LostMyMarbles 11:09 AM 10-11-2016
Originally Posted by Snowmom:
Lol
I would have said "Sure, no problem. My rate is $160/week".

....rate is $160 a week for CUPCAKE lmao...Da heck do people think.

I thought my difficult parent situation today was stupid, but mine is ungrateful. Your situation is stupid. Difinately NOT in the job discription. Do you have a no bringing toys into day care policy?

I love your reply!
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Play Care 11:11 AM 10-11-2016
Yup, sounds like HOMEwork.
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Baby Beluga 11:15 AM 10-11-2016
Originally Posted by Snowmom:
Lol
I would have said "Sure, no problem. My rate is $160/week".
Haha, perfect response!

OP, what was mom's response when you told her it wasn't going to happen?

ETA: did she explain why she wanted you to do this with "cupcake"? It's such an outlandish and idiotic request I am curious as to why mom wanted it done.
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Poptarts22 11:20 AM 10-11-2016
Mom acted amazed that I wasn't going to do it. I do have a no toy policy, but mom said she thought I would bend the rules for this occasion. Nope. Im sure she thought I was being rigid and uptight-maybe her and my ex husband can start a club :-)
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Ariana 11:23 AM 10-11-2016
What the

Some parents are crazy! Reminds me of the parent that tried to get me to teach her child to read when she was only with me for an hour a day. Ummm sorry mom that is your job!
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laundrymom 11:26 AM 10-11-2016
"absolutely!! This is a great project. But we need to discuss my rates for this type of request. I'm thinking an extra $80? You can write me a check but I prefer cash. "
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:42 AM 10-11-2016
Originally Posted by LostMyMarbles:
....rate is $160 a week for CUPCAKE lmao...Da heck do people think.

I thought my difficult parent situation today was stupid, but mine is ungrateful. Your situation is stupid. Difinately NOT in the job discription. Do you have a no bringing toys into day care policy?

I love your reply!

Made my day. This whole thread. It's like a free present!!!
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LostMyMarbles 12:10 PM 10-11-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:

Made my day. This whole thread. It's like a free present!!!

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midaycare 12:14 PM 10-11-2016
DS has had to do something very close to that for 1st and 2nd grade.

Why for a 3 year old??? I'm so confused.
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Hunni Bee 12:51 PM 10-11-2016
Originally Posted by midaycare:
DS has had to do something very close to that for 1st and 2nd grade.

Why for a 3 year old??? I'm so confused.
We do it in our 3s and 4s classrooms. It's a not that involved though. They take the thing home one weekend, snap some photos of the toy with the kid doing their regular weekend stuff, and slap the pics in a word document with a cute paragraph. The kids live for their turn.

I'm looking forward to getting to do one this year.
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Blackcat31 12:53 PM 10-11-2016
I had a DCK have this same "assignment" for preschool.

My kiddo was an older pre-k student though and was perfectly capable of taking care of her own "buddy".

The only thing I did was snap a few cute pictures of DCK and "buddy" doing a couple activities together and shared them via text with the parent.

It wasn't a big deal and added a lot of conversation and 'like' stories to the day. The kids were all inspired to talk about their adventures with pets, friends and family etc. and all the places and things they did together.

Gave us a lot to think about in regards to what we wanted to learn about the next week. I think it's what sparked our Trip Around the World unit.
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Josiegirl 02:52 PM 10-11-2016
When dcm shows back up, 'I'm so sorry dcm but Cupcake ran out the door right as you left; I guess you didn't see her? And miraculously she just showed back up on our doorstep a minute before you pulled in!'
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Nurse Jackie 04:33 PM 10-11-2016
I had a mom who's job was doing some type of drawing contest. She wanted me to "assist" her 20 mos old dcb in drawing his mom and dad at work on a construction site. She was really going into details on what she wanted in the picture. I don't know if that project ever got done but I do know it didn't get done here.
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daycare 05:16 PM 10-11-2016
i have a program that we take books home in a bag each week and do a book exchange . It is so that children and their PARENT, learn to bond together doing something educational. It is supposed to be the foundation of parent and child learning time, which later when they start school equates to HOMEWORK.

I used to be apart of a program that did this through my county called raising a reader, until they lost all of their funding. I wish they would bring that program back.

I agree this lady is coo-coo! so sad that she wants you to do her work, which is meant to be bonding time with her child.....


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MunchkinWrangler 07:11 AM 10-12-2016
Imagine the germs on that thing!!!
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JackandJill 07:45 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by daycare:
i have a program that we take books home in a bag each week and do a book exchange . It is so that children and their PARENT, learn to bond together doing something educational. It is supposed to be the foundation of parent and child learning time, which later when they start school equates to HOMEWORK.

I used to be apart of a program that did this through my county called raising a reader, until they lost all of their funding. I wish they would bring that program back.

I agree this lady is coo-coo! so sad that she wants you to do her work, which is meant to be bonding time with her child.....

I do something like this as well! Every week, someone gets to bring home our class "pet" (a stuffed bear), and the parents write what he did with them over the weekend so we can read about it during circle time.

I started sending home "book bags" with the other kids, because some were upset they didn't get to have the pet. The bags have a book, and print out game/activity to do as a family, etc. Sometimes they come back completely untouched, but 90% of the time, parents are reminding their little ones to grab a book bag before they leave for the weekend.
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Controlled Chaos 07:59 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I had a DCK have this same "assignment" for preschool.

My kiddo was an older pre-k student though and was perfectly capable of taking care of her own "buddy".

The only thing I did was snap a few cute pictures of DCK and "buddy" doing a couple activities together and shared them via text with the parent.

It wasn't a big deal and added a lot of conversation and 'like' stories to the day. The kids were all inspired to talk about their adventures with pets, friends and family etc. and all the places and things they did together.

Gave us a lot to think about in regards to what we wanted to learn about the next week. I think it's what sparked our Trip Around the World unit.
That sounds adorable and doable.
Its the keeping a written log where I thought - NOPE!
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Baby Beluga 08:09 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by daycare:
i have a program that we take books home in a bag each week and do a book exchange . It is so that children and their PARENT, learn to bond together doing something educational. It is supposed to be the foundation of parent and child learning time, which later when they start school equates to HOMEWORK.

I used to be apart of a program that did this through my county called raising a reader, until they lost all of their funding. I wish they would bring that program back.

I agree this lady is coo-coo! so sad that she wants you to do her work, which is meant to be bonding time with her child.....

This was my thought too. I have heard of schools doing program like this, and I think they are fine - when the parents and child are the ones participating. What baffled me was the mom asking her child's provider to do her work for her.
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daycare 08:45 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by Baby Beluga:
This was my thought too. I have heard of schools doing program like this, and I think they are fine - when the parents and child are the ones participating. What baffled me was the mom asking her child's provider to do her work for her.
I agree, I don't think that its a providers place to have to do what the parent is supposed to. BUT I think that the parent might have the idea that it is ok to ask the provider because a lot of places advertise will assist or tutor your child in homework.

Around here just about any school age place that takes school kids advertises that they assist with homework help. As a parent when my kids were little, I wanted to do homework with them, because that way I knew where my child was academically and where they needed help. It was no surprise to me when I went into their parent teacher conference where they were having issues.

in today's society it seems that there are a lot of "we will parent for you" type services.

yeah, I would be upset if a parent came to me and asked me to work for them, Nope!!
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daycarediva 09:08 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by daycare:
i have a program that we take books home in a bag each week and do a book exchange . It is so that children and their PARENT, learn to bond together doing something educational. It is supposed to be the foundation of parent and child learning time, which later when they start school equates to HOMEWORK.

I used to be apart of a program that did this through my county called raising a reader, until they lost all of their funding. I wish they would bring that program back.

I agree this lady is coo-coo! so sad that she wants you to do her work, which is meant to be bonding time with her child.....


We do the same! The kids get to chose a tote bag with book that we have been reading/just read together, and whatever activity goes along with it (sometimes just puppets, activity, game, etc) They LOVE it and it gets them to connect with their parents.

This sounds like homework. As a parent, I would have snapped a photo of the stuffed animal and dck on the porch leaving for school, wrote a note about what the dck says they did that day, and then snapped a photo of dck in the car with stuffed animal riding home. Stuffed animal would have come with me UNLESS I ASKED the provider if the kid could bring it.
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childcaremom 09:21 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by Poptarts22:
Today mom arrived with preschool dcg3. She had a stuffed puppy in a baby sling on her and a tote bag with accessories and a notebook. Mom informed me that "cupcake" is a preschool "pet" that each child takes home and completes a paper on his activities and keeps a log. He needs fed every four hours. A nap. Played with and read a book (which was in bag). Considering that dcg is 3-that means someone would be keeping the log for her and reading the story to cupcake. Mom spent a good five minutes explaining the duties of caring for Cupcake. She was dead serious about me doing this horsecrap for a STUFFED ANiMAL! Looked her straight in the eye and said "yeah-that's not gonna happen".
I love your response to dcm.

I would have emphasized the home part to her.
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Pestle 09:46 AM 10-12-2016
"Do you think her preschool teacher would help her with a time-consuming project that I assigned her?"
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nanglgrl 10:56 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by JackandJill:
I do something like this as well! Every week, someone gets to bring home our class "pet" (a stuffed bear), and the parents write what he did with them over the weekend so we can read about it during circle time.

I started sending home "book bags" with the other kids, because some were upset they didn't get to have the pet. The bags have a book, and print out game/activity to do as a family, etc. Sometimes they come back completely untouched, but 90% of the time, parents are reminding their little ones to grab a book bag before they leave for the weekend.
I do the same thing and have a example activity related to the book that they can do as well. I use the plastic bags that costumes and wigs come in during Halloween time because they're sturdy and have little buttons on them.
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Mom2Two 11:00 AM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by Play Care:
Yup, sounds like HOMEwork.
Yes, my thoughts exactly. HOMEwork.
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daycare 06:04 PM 10-12-2016
Originally Posted by Pestle:
"Do you think her preschool teacher would help her with a time-consuming project that I assigned her?"
hhaahahha that is a good one. Wonder if the preschool teacher even knows that mom is trying to pawn her parenting responsibility off on the daycare provider.
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