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Really?
Have you ever had a family on a subsidy who obviously doesn't qualify? New family just started last week, both parents drive brand new SUVs and own a boat and send their kids in expensive clothes (I'm a finger painting mud friendly daycare too!) . Nice family but they're obviously working the system. It's sad because so many families need the subsidy but never get off the wait list. One of my friends works for a subsidized only preschool and she says it's very common.
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Yup. It's pretty common.
Are the parents married? I am guessing they aren't and/or they claim that they don't live together. I know many families who are on section 8, food stamps, medical, subsidy, and they have more money than I do. |
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I have wondered if *they* got rid of the marriage variable entirely and always combined the household income of both PARENTS. Period. (Like FAFSFA already does) Whether that means one or two households is irrelevant. Would this abuse stop? Spitballing : Thoughts? It is naptime and I am sincerely curious.
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They have different last names, so probably not married even though they have two kids. Man I shouldn't have got married It doesn't pay to be honest nowadays.
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"Having children is a huge hunk of family income. If people stopped feeling entitled to money for breeding, maybe there would be no need for childcare subsidy. " I love a good debate. Yes, I know $hit happens, that is the REAL reason for subsidy. This is in hopes of good fun and honest discussion.
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Leigh, I had a couple clients hit with circumstances like that, too. One was the family I gave three years worth of free childcare, for two children. Another was for 2 years, one child.
Both families are back on their feet, now. It took 9 years for the first, 6 for the second. BUT their worlds are turning back around. To your DCF. IME, People are always willing to help those who put forth effort to help themselves. I am glad they found you. Have you referred her to child support recovery services?
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My DD sees it every day. Parents come to apply for free/reduced lunches driving brand new cars, wearing lots of sparkly jewelry, carrying Coach purses.
They have no income, friends support them. Or so they say. |
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I also work at a salon, and so many of the women there work every system available, it makes me sick! I feel if they took all their efforts in learning how to defraud the system and put it into bettering their career, they wouldn't need the assistance in the first place!! |
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I have 2 families on subsidy. One married with 2 kids.
The other family is divorced with 2 kids but living with their significant other (who is not bio-parent) in a really nice house they just purchased together. The married parents are both home today. I have their kids in care. The divorced parent is in the Caribbean on a white sandy beach drinking fruity drinks and posting on FB how much fun their having. I have those kids in care today too. Bio-parent won't take them because it's not a scheduled visit. |
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Yup. It's frustrating when I'm working 50+ hours per week and barely making ends meet and they're working the system, using my taxes.
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I also saw a TON of under the table work and drug money in my days in the low income area we previously lived in. ALL subsidy, all better off than dh and I working our butts off. |
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I don't deal with subsidies but I wonder every day how people afford the crap they have! Boggles my mind.
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When my dh family came here to visit for the first time (they are from a drug infested state where the majority are drawing SSI but live in and drive more expensive things than we do) they went back and told the we lived in a mansion and were RICH! Made me angry because we work hard for what we have and I don't consider my home a mansion by no means but IT IS MINE and I obtained it legally. They draw from every form of government assistance possible. Just not fair!
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A thing that I really found unsettling was my States reaction to my giving free care instead of accepting subsidy.
Years ago, I applied for compassionate variance and received it. I diligently maintained it. I saw it as my opportunity to offer one or two slots, per year, as a gift to a family in need preventing them from getting on assistance. I had the desire, square footage, ratios, equipment and experience. I did not claim a loss on taxes/meal served as they were extra, no compensation, slots. It literally cost the State/Fed nothing. All good right? No. Now they no longer grant the variances and ask us to have all families apply for services. "It effects the food program reimbursements of the local schools". Really.
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Both of the families I have on subsidy have more discretionary income than I do. I have one who proudly told me she was getting 11000$ in "taxes" back. That was in the beginning of Feb. She's already "broke". 2 yo son has been wearing the same pair of ratty sweatpants for 4 days in a row now and his shoes that I bought for christmas are getting small. I need better clients.
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While I try not to judge the people in line in the store on WIC and SNAP because I can't know their circumstances.....
a sudden job loss doesn't make all of your nice things disappear etc.... It's harder not to when you're close enough to see more of their lifestyle. It made me super self concious about what I was wearing or carrying with me when I used my WIC after my husband left though...and that's sad. |
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We were foster parents and received WIC and food stamps (this was back when they were food stamp cash, not card) and I got soooo many dirty looks. One of my first families when I opened was a sibling set- two different fathers but the mother was on point. She worked really hard and paid for care in cash. Those kids were always dressed like models straight out of catalogs though, despite her low income. She COULD have qualified for every subsidy imaginable, but didn't even apply. She finally confessed to me that dcd/her ex was a big time drug dealer and that's why she left him, but he took good care of her boys. When he came to pick up one day, my dh was here and he knew the guy. He has (had, probably more now) EIGHT kids with like 5 or 6 different mothers and he took care of ALL of them. He bought them all food, clothes, school supplies, etc. He also worked a FT job and paid child support out of that. She was one of my BEST clients of all time- even used her tax return to pay me ahead of time for care, paid her rent ahead, saved the rest. Family situations are COMPLICATED nowadays! |
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This post is a couple of months old, but I wanted to dive in. I understand there are people who abuse the system and those type of people will always have struggle in there life and probably never manage to get to the top. However, I know how it feels to be on government assistance to then a middle class and then back on assistance again. Its so easily to judge and be critical when you never know the situation and can only see as far as what your eyes show you. I have worked at programs that offer assistance and have experienced a situation where a woman was divorced with 4 children. Her husband left her for his mistress and all she had was there black Cadillac Escalade. It was paid off. but looked like it was new because it was well maintained. It was hard on her because she always had a certain lifestyle and she thanked me one day for not looking down on her and she burst into tears that day in the office. She said every time she went to the grocery store to swipe her food stamp card she had crazy looks because her kids was so well dressed, but no one knew those clothes were from her previous lifestyle. She even told me one time a lady followed her out of the store just to see what she drove! I came from a family of 7 siblings and my dad owned a construction business my mom was a homemaker and we grew up poor. My dad was the jack-of-all trades and worked very hard, but our family of 10 was too large. So I understand and I vowed to never live the way I lived and I managed to live up to that vow. However, when I was pregnant I couldn't work due to complications and my husband had a fairly decent job at the plant. The plant shut down and we had to get on government assistance. At the time we drove an Ford Expedition and people accused us (not knowing) of beating the system and the Expedition wasn't fancy! So I understand how it is to be poor, for a family to loose a job, and to be looked down on.....Oh here's another story my good friend of mines owns a beauty shop (who is also an author)....and she is very talented!! She has been doing my hair for 17 years. When my husband lost his job at the plant she knew of my situation and did my hair for free! I refused, but she always insisted. Others thought I was beating the system with my hair done and driving an Expedition....so we can't be so quick to judge. Especially if you have never been there!
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Nevermind old thread!
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What I want to know is WHY ARE WE PAYING ATTENTION TO HOW OTHER PEOPLE PAY FOR THEIR GROCERIES!?
I have never in my life noticed that someone was paying for groceries with something other than cash/credit card. Occasionally I will become annoyed with the price matchers that take 30 minutes at the register, or the guy at the self checkout who is paying with A HANDFUL OF COINS. I guess I don't get why it's anyone's business but their own if they are on assistance. |
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Sorry, I also didn't realize it was old.
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Like the Unregistered that tried to show a different perspective ... I try hard not to judge others but when I see certain behaviors day in and day out from families I've gotten to know pretty well over the years, it's a completely different story. ...and when one of my single moms (who pays very little towards her child care costs) complains to me that she can't afford to buy her child mittens because she is saving her "extra" money for her upcoming trip to the Caribbean, it IS my right to judge. Not old enough that the topic isn't relevant still. |
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I totally get that, also as a provider you see the inside WAY more than someone standing in line at the grocery store.
I just feel bad that people have to worry about being judged, especially if they are going through a hard time financially. |
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Our country is very divided right now. The very wealthy can afford to live well. The poor qualify for help. The shrinking middle class are the ones who are feeling the burn. |
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Last edited by Blackcat31; 05-24-2017 at 07:52 PM. |
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It's all about achieving a good balance. No, we shouldn't judge too quickly. At the same time, we shouldn't be accepting of negative behaviors and choices. |
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It's hard not to judge because there ARE people who abuse the system, terribly. Essentially, they're taking money from the ones who do desperately need it to get over a hard time. The system needs to be changed! The people that receive help should put something back into the system, whether it be time volunteering or something. Honest hard working underpaid families seem to have to jump through hoops for months to get any help, in their dire time of need.
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Flip side for debate: Historically the fear of public humiliation and ostracism is what kept people in line in a civilized society. Without it what motivates people to work if their needs can be met otherwise?
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SNAP TANF Medicare Medicaid Financial Aid Grants Meals on Wheels CACFP......these all come from taxpayers It made me think wow...some of the wealthiest companies receive government ballouts! My daycare receives CACFP reimbursements and its a government program and it sure does helps alot😃 |
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....My apologies I meant 2200-3000 didn't realize I typed 3200-3900!
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When I lost my insurance in December of 2015 due to my parents divorce, I applied for healthcare insurance through healthcare.gov, the only place i could apply through due to state rules. After inputting my information, I was automatically enrolled in Medicaid because of my income qualifications. I did not want to be on Medicaid, I felt like I was taking something away from someone else who needed it more than I did. But because I qualified for coverage through them, I was not able to enroll in another insurance program.
Then in January 2016 I found out I was pregnant. It was unplanned, and a complete shock. But, having Medicaid turned out to be a great thing! Then I got a letter from the state that because I was pregnant and on Medicaid I qualified for WIC, and was enrolled in that program. In the beginning it wasn't a huge help, and I seldom used it. But now that DS is 8 months old, it really helps with formula cost. Both my fiance and I work 50+ hours a week, and I also have a weekend gob waiting tables. I choose to put the money that I can save using WIC into a high interest savings account and a Roth IRA. DS has one more WIC appointment and then we will be discontinuity services. The program has helped to balance the cost of feeding an infant, allowed me to save some $$$ to continue to better our life and have an emergency fund. I am thankful for this program. |
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I have no experience with child care assistance or food stamps, but it reminded me of something.
I came to financial office at college to confirm my citizenship (the system was acting up), and the lady at the desk casually said that another woman would come back on Monday and "reward you whatever you are eligible for." I said I wasn't eligible for anything. "Pell Grant?" - "No, I make too much." - "Did you fill out FAFSA?" - "Yes, it says I make too much." - "Where do you work?" - "I don't, my husband does." And then in a highly disappointed tone she says, "Oh, you're maaaaarried..." Yeah, it's a bummer. When I told my husband, he asked if I'd like to get divorced. That way, as a single mother, I'd get all the financial aid I needed. And as a straight-A student, I wouldn't be threatened to lose it. FAFSA gave me .25 cents and said, "Have fun at college." |
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Our system is so broken, and I can totally see why people who are in it NEVER get motivated to try for financial independence!
I'm 2012 I was a lead teacher at a center making $14/hour, married with one kid. Scraping by, hit very hard by hard times. My husband had a low paying restaurant job. My paychecks were eaten up mostly by our health insurance and my daughters daycare tuition.Dumpy apartment we paid for, thrift store clothes we paid for, old unreliable car we paid for, no frills, no eating out desperately trying to save to buy a house and get a start for our family. My assistant teacher was making $12/hour. Single with live-in boyfriend who made a good income that She didn't report. She ate out everyday at lunch and most nights for dinner. Had a 3 bedroom section 8 house-free. Healthcare for her and her 3 kids-free. Child care for her 3 kids- free. Cash assistance each month she used on pot and cigs admittingly. Food stamps-free. She and her kids got "obama cell phones"-free. They got bikes through a gov program-free. Tickets to all sorts of events like circus-free. Comcast service- free. Her paychecks were hers to spend on whatever she wanted... Why would she ever give that up to struggle like I was? 5 years later I am a homeowner, business owner, and enjoying financial freedom and the pride of independence. She is doing the same thing she was 5 years ago. Still addicted. Still dependent. This is how the system keeps people crippled. It is not a helping hand... very deceptive. |
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Eligibility for some of these government assistance programs isn't simply not earning X amount of income. There are spend downs and other financial obligations and expenses taken into consideration. The formula used to decide eligibility for my state's child care assistance program is complex and never cut and dried. You can two separate single parents earning the same income and each with one child. Depending on each of their unique situations they may or may not qualify for assistance. |
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It would be no different than a single parent having a room mate that shares living expenses. The room mate has no financial obligation to anything other than their half the rent/utilities etc.... The room mates income has no bearing on the type or amount of assistance the single parent receives. |
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My sister has 3 children and is married to the father of her youngest two. Her oldest is in college and although her step father has an excellent job his income wasn't considered in the financial aide my niece got. So not sure if there are exceptions, special considerations or what but my sisters situation didn't work as you stated (all household income counts) so I can only speak from that experience. |
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FAFSA is federally regulated and the application process that includes the questionaire is the same for everyone. There are no special paperwork handled by any college to fill out FAFSA. It must and can be only completed through the government website and you must enter information from your income tax to complete it. Then the information is sent to the college on one choice. You can be either be a dependent of someone or independent when completing the FAFSA. When a child graduates high school and wants to attend college he or she needs his parent's income tax info to complete a FAFSA. If you're independent and can't remember your tax info there is an IRS link that automatically retrieves a person's information. |
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My oldest qualified for FAFSA under just my income because I had physical custody. But the she moved in with her dad right before HS graduation and had to use his household income instead of mine and it sabotaged her.
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She should have continued to use yours..its legal. As long as she lived with you more than 6 months.
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....and listed as a dependent on your tax return
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She lived with him for second semester of junior year through graduation, and since she lived with him for more than six months it was his right to claim her.
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Ok, I'll read the replies when I have my comp back. I'll just say that I don't want to disclose my husband's wage here, but it is more than 35K. And no, we can't afford college, my Mom pays for it, and if I go to University, I'll apply for a student loan to cover it. There you go, middle class at its best/worst.
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Also, she requested, and was granted refusal of raises at annual review time so that her income would not exceed benefit requirements. Just another exame of how it can be a disservice to a gal in the long term... |
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I had a single mom with two kids come in crying. She got a raise at work, which bumped her a tax bracket. It meant that her $1 an hour raise was going to get her less than .25 cents an hour take home....and her subsidy was based on her gross income....so her copay was going up. So getting that raise actually cost her considerably. She ended up pulling her kids and having them bounced around from relative to relative during the day so she could make rent.
So....I can see why someone would decline a raise. |
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