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Old 03-08-2011, 03:10 PM
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So I have been doing my in home child care for a little over 2 years and have not had one child get hurt with a bruise/scratch or anything...until the past two weeks with the same child.

Last week the little boy (17 months) fell and hit his eye on a toy that left him with a very reddish/purplish eyelid...I felt horrible!!!

Well today right before pick up, one of the little girls that I care for went to grab her blanket and that little boy went and pulled at her blanket so the girl tugged it back real hard making the little boy off balance and hit his head and nose on the corner of the bookshelf...leaving a quite large black and blue bump on his forehead and one nostril red/bloody.I put ice and a cold wash cloth on both his head and nose.

I almost started crying when telling the father what happened at pick up...I felt so bad that he got hurt two weeks in a row and both accidents were pretty bad...The father seemed a little upset today...I told him I don't want them upset with me but It was nothing I could prevent or get to in time to stop it.

I am afraid the parents will take him out...because of him getting hurt. I understand these things happen...just I have been so cautious and so on top of things that the children don't get hurt and what do you know the same little boy does two weeks in a row...

I just hate that he got hurt and having people upset with me...Anyone have the same issue before?
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Old 03-08-2011, 03:21 PM
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I think that it is always a little upsetting at first... especially when another child caused the injury. When they just fall and get hurt, its a little different.

I have had this happen, lucky for me it has been just falling or self inflicted.

I would not stress. Some times things happen out of our control and I think that the parents realize that children are going to get bumps and bruises, its part of life.

have a nice tall glass of wine and relax, I don't think that an understanding parent woud pull their child out of care for something so small like this.... if they do, then maybe they are not meant for your childcare.
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Old 03-08-2011, 04:12 PM
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At that age, a lots of unintentional accidents happen. It is not your fault and I understand feeling horrible.

Is there a way you can childproof the rooms better to help?
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Old 03-08-2011, 05:15 PM
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My kids are constantly getting hurt tripping over there own two feet. It happens to kids particularly when they are growing in verbal and thinking skills because their brains are not focused on paying attention to the physical as much. I have one kid right now that has fallen and bruised here and at home daily for 2 weeks straight. Another kid has bruises up and down his legs from tumbling on the snow/ice mounds.
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Old 03-08-2011, 06:01 PM
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My son at that age got hurt ALL the time. The smallest thing would throw his balance off and he would hit his head in the corner of everything!! His first year pictures he had a massive bruise in the middle of his forehead because of a fall he had taken days before into a door frame.. while we where at the picture studio he fell into the corner of the lego table and had another bruise... I told my doc I was going to put a helmet on him so.. accidents happen.. nothing we can control and my house is really baby proofed. Don't feel bad, I'm sure they understand and they're not going to pull him from your care. Have a better tomorrow
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Old 03-08-2011, 06:06 PM
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I told the father to have his wife text my later in the evening to let me know how her son was doing because I was worried about the bruise and his nose...She just texted me saying he was "Doing Okay" I texted her back saying Thank you for letting me know, I feel so bad and then she wrote Yes, we weren't very happy seeing it. We know it wasn't intentional....

I feel like they are still upset with me...I wasn't happy that it happen either but I don't want them to be upset with me where their is nothing I could have done to prevent it....
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Old 03-08-2011, 06:16 PM
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If I had moved my kids when they were in daycare ( now 13 and 15 years old) every time they got hurt, I would have had to quit my job and stayed home. Its part of kids growing up.

As a parent, I look to see if my child is being taken care of in the following ways:
they are loved, listened to, fed, given shelter, hugged, sang to, read to, and are able to express themself in a good envirinment.

I think that most parents are understanding that this is all part of childhood, I would however, keep an extra eye on the little guy, since it was just last week that he had an accident...... However, don't let them being upset get to you. It's only natural for a parent to react that way when their child gets hurt.
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she wrote Yes, we weren't very happy seeing it. We know it wasn't intentional....
Sorry she had to stick that in there about them not being happy seeing it....that would have hurt me, too considering you couldn't have prevented it.
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Don't let him get hurt again.

If the table has a hard corner, move it. Keep him in arms reach.

Let the parents know what you have done to make your space safer.

Be completely upfront and honest about what happens every time, and make a duplicate ouch report.

If he is walking, toddling, give him a safe place to fall. remove obstacles, scour your house for sharp edges, flower pots....imagine every hurt kid scenario - And Prevent It.

Its what we do.
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Old 03-09-2011, 04:57 AM
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Don't let him get hurt again.

If the table has a hard corner, move it. Keep him in arms reach.

Let the parents know what you have done to make your space safer.

Be completely upfront and honest about what happens every time, and make a duplicate ouch report.

If he is walking, toddling, give him a safe place to fall. remove obstacles, scour your house for sharp edges, flower pots....imagine every hurt kid scenario - And Prevent It.

Its what we do.
This is actually dead on. Nobody is perfect, but we have to try

Crawl around at their eye level and look around often...especially if you cannot separate them out of you family space.

Good luck, hun...sounds like you have a little "Murphy"... it takes alot of effort to keep up with one of those....
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Same exact thing....17 month old...always BOLTING across the floor. He's VERY fair skinned...he hit his head two weeks in a row for a black & blue on both sides of his head. I felt like a horrible lepper and I felt like my good name & record were ruined (although he's obviously had this problem before since he has a scar from stitches on his eye). I documented it and felt horrible forever about it, BUT it does happen. My other DCB got stitches one week and a black eye the next.....FROM HOME!!!! I hate to say it, but that made me feel a little bit better about myself. ;-)
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Don't let him get hurt again.

If the table has a hard corner, move it. Keep him in arms reach.

Let the parents know what you have done to make your space safer.

Be completely upfront and honest about what happens every time, and make a duplicate ouch report.

If he is walking, toddling, give him a safe place to fall. remove obstacles, scour your house for sharp edges, flower pots....imagine every hurt kid scenario - And Prevent It.

Its what we do.

I agree with moving things and making things child proof, but I disagree with 'prevent it' and 'keep him at arms reach'. Kids WILL get hurt. It's a fact of life. When they are learning to walk, they will fall. They trip over their own two feet, trip over each other, etc. I have a little one that came one day with a HUGE bump on his forehead. He was walking and literally walked into the wall.

..... ps. the 'flower pot' was something I never thought of moving. It was out of the way and in the same location for 2+ yrs. Last week one of my DCBs fell and lost his tooth on it. It has been moved and I have gone through and walked my house again to make sure it is as childproof as I can make it. BUT just today one of the little ones tripped over his own shoes walking into the my house (with his parents) and bumped his head on the hardwood floor. Some accidents CANT be avoided.

Im sorry the parents made that comment <<Hugs>> but just think of it as a parent we never want to see our children get hurt.
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Old 03-09-2011, 01:21 PM
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This is exactly why for those that are under 2 play in an enclosed play area, with no access to the bigger kids. It is the best way I can keep them separated, yet together.

I remember when my own kids went to a daycare center years ago, they had a corner of the room gated off, and that is where the under 18 mo ones played. 99% kid safe. No chance of an older child hurting them.

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I agree with moving things and making things child proof, but I disagree with 'prevent it' and 'keep him at arms reach'. Kids WILL get hurt. It's a fact of life.
I agree with this. I let kids learn the hard way to a certain degree. Some accidents can't be avoided, and frankly shouldn't be avoided. We are helping kids learn about the world, and how things work. We are not supposed to bubble wrap their heads and treat them like idiots.

By hovering and shadowing a child, we do a lot more damage than a few bumps on the head. Kids are not meant to be micromanaged.
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A few weeks in my DS and DCB were playing in the water in the bathroom. I sent them in to wash hands and didn't think anything of it. Well, DCB slipped in the water and got a bloody nose! I was so impressed with the fact that I did not freak out but, worried that mom would pull him out. When I told her what happened she just asked him why he was playing in the water! I wouldn't worry about it too much. He is bound to be hurt on their watch too! All you can do is provide comfort and first aid until the parent can be there!
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I told the father to have his wife text my later in the evening to let me know how her son was doing because I was worried about the bruise and his nose...She just texted me saying he was "Doing Okay" I texted her back saying Thank you for letting me know, I feel so bad and then she wrote Yes, we weren't very happy seeing it. We know it wasn't intentional....

I feel like they are still upset with me...I wasn't happy that it happen either but I don't want them to be upset with me where their is nothing I could have done to prevent it....
I honestly had to roll my eyes at her response. I can tell he is an only child.
I am impressed that you went 2 years without any bruises or bumps! I write AT LEAST one incident report each week, sometimes as many as 5! I don't put these 3 to 5-year-olds in bubbles nor do I prevent them from running when we are outside at the playground. That is where most of the incidents here occur. The parents know that I let them run, jump, skip, walk, etc. and that I won't be shadowing all 9 children with my arms around them saying, "Be caaaaaareful!" as they swing on a monkey bar, climb up the jungle gym, or bounce on the see saw. I've had children go home with a dark bruise on their noggin and one on their eye (from them losing their balance and their face hitting the jungle gym bars), skinned knees, ant bites due to sticking their hand in the ant pile, etc. I have never had a parent have an issue. They might say, "Oh no! Are you okay?" but that's it. The funniest responses are when the parent teaches the child that it's a "battle wound" or when they say, "Oh, that's the best he could do today? "
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I'm searching the "net" for forums as this...I am developing a advocacy group concerning children, particularly those in childcare whether it be family care or facility care.

I want to just address the "hurts" in childcare. Certainly it depends on whether the child is the first (only) child of the family. But, be that as it may, our childcare centers and family homes must be as child-proof as we can make them. But, what we share with parents is that the children get their "hurts" here; this is where they grow up; nothing is perfect. But there is a sincere reassurance that it is not routine that children get hurt. We have to look deep into the heart of a parent and let them know we are empathetic and that, at the end of the day, we only have their children's best interest at heart.

I know that we cry, etc., but really -- you will never ever get a parent to not be angry. It's their flesh and blood and anger is their choice. When you know that you have done all of that you can do; you have given all that you could; you have prepared a safe, sanitized and appropriate place for their children to be during any day, then you will learn that childcare is not for cowards. But for true, sincere, caring people who will support families!!!
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I'm searching the "net" for forums as this...I am developing a advocacy group concerning children, particularly those in childcare whether it be family care or facility care.

I want to just address the "hurts" in childcare. Certainly it depends on whether the child is the first (only) child of the family. But, be that as it may, our childcare centers and family homes must be as child-proof as we can make them. But, what we share with parents is that the children get their "hurts" here; this is where they grow up; nothing is perfect. But there is a sincere reassurance that it is not routine that children get hurt. We have to look deep into the heart of a parent and let them know we are empathetic and that, at the end of the day, we only have their children's best interest at heart.

I know that we cry, etc., but really -- you will never ever get a parent to not be angry. It's their flesh and blood and anger is their choice. When you know that you have done all of that you can do; you have given all that you could; you have prepared a safe, sanitized and appropriate place for their children to be during any day, then you will learn that childcare is not for cowards. But for true, sincere, caring people who will support families!!!
Children are injured way more with their parents than in child.care. Mothers are the number one abuser of children and the number one cause of intentional injury.

Why would you focus on child care. We aren't even close to the top when it comes to injury of children. Mom, Dad, MOMS BOYFRIEND, relatives etc should be your concern if safety of children is your concern.
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I'm thinking maybe I should remove all board books from my toddler areas On his very first day, 21 month old fell face-first on the corner of a board book he was carrying and got a big bruise right next to his eye.
Not sure if I should tape cotton balls on all the corners of the board book pages, or only make paperback books available to toddlers () or perhaps just read *to* them and not allow them to handle those dangerous books at all.

I do understand a parent's concern with a pre-verbal child. They may feel that they need to be on the look-out for any signs of possible abuse, if they don't know the provider well, and their child has just begun in care. But once trust has been established, I have never feared telling a parent how an injury occurred.

Added: and yes, I noticed that it's a recently-revived thread.
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NM....I just saw the "old thread" note.
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I'm thinking maybe I should remove all board books from my toddler areas On his very first day, 21 month old fell face-first on the corner of a board book he was carrying and got a big bruise right next to his eye.
Not sure if I should tape cotton balls on all the corners of the board book pages, or only make paperback books available to toddlers () or perhaps just read *to* them and not allow them to handle those dangerous books at all.

I do understand a parent's concern with a pre-verbal child. They may feel that they need to be on the look-out for any signs of possible abuse, if they don't know the provider well, and their child has just begun in care. But once trust has been established, I have never feared telling a parent how an injury occurred.

Added: and yes, I noticed that it's a recently-revived thread.
Eww..I don't know if you should go the paperback book route, don't you know papercuts can really hurt?!
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Eww..I don't know if you should go the paperback book route, don't you know papercuts can really hurt?!
Bummer Hadn't thought of the papercuts
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