I posted some time ago about my husband and his health issues. Well he has been hit with more, he just found out that he has a cancerous polyp and they need to surgically remove it, he will be sent in for blood work, ct scans to see if it has spread ect and the surgeon to talk about the surgery . I really feel like I need to go to the surgeon and talk with him with my husband, I mean we are beside ourselves right now and we are both scared and I think he needs support during that visit as well as I. I just know that now I will need to close for this surgery maybe a couple of weeks as we heard this is a major surgery, hospital stay is at least 4-5 days alone. That in itself may be hard for some of my families and may loose at least 2 but as sad as that would be my husband comes first. But I'm torn on whether or not I should close for the surgeon appt or if we should see if our daughter could go with him as she I think would be able to ask good questions in this time (she is 27). I am just so scared right now and scared for my husband, he has been through so much over the years.

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I would close for the appointment! Your daycare parents should understand that and if not, then you are better off without them. My parents are just going through this too and my mom needed to be at the appointment to hear from the doctor firsthand and to ask the questions that were worrying her. I wish you both the best as you go forward!

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I agree with the PP, you and your dh come first. You can certainly have your dd accompany the both of you but if I were you, I'd want to be there too.
Good luck with everything!!

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How would you word something to your parents without giving them too much information? I know eventually I will have to tell more but my husband especially isn't wanting anyone to know yet. We are praying that once he has the CT scan it will show that it hasn't spread and that the surgery will remove it. Thank you for the replies

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Maybe have your daughter sub for daycare so you can go to the appointment.

And hugs. I hope that all turns out well.

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Yes your daughter maybe can sub for the few hours while you are at the appointment.

I would just say that you have a DRs appointment and there was a last minute cancellation which is why the short notice. I have used that excuse before!

Good luck

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I am so sorry

I have to close for similar appointments sometimes. In my notice letter I usually state:

"(DC name) will be closed on Thursday June 27, 2019 due to a medical appointment that cannot be scheduled on the weekend. Tuition is not do for this day, please check your email for your pro-rated tuition amount. I apologize for any inconvenience this may cause. As always thank you for allowing me to care for your precious little ones."

I go into depth with parents during my interview that I try to schedule appointments after hours and on the weekend, but it's not always possible. That letter and the prior discussion usually wards of any questions from families. Usually

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