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Unregistered 08:12 AM 01-07-2011
I am a daycare provider of over 20 some years. Question for you providers.....
Do any of you get so frustrated with parents these days. I truly love taking care of the children,teaching and watching them grow, but it is the parents that get to me. They don't seem to want to discipline their kids at home these days and hot have to spend a lot to time with their children when they get them home. Not all parents are like this, but many these days are. Not sure why they wanted to have kids if they don't want to be with them that much. It is the child that suffers. Parents that work don't spend a lot of their time with their kids anyway because they are in daycare for 8-12 hours, so it just gets to me when I hear a Mom sat to me" I feel like am a better person for working and not being with them all day" I know that is not true with many that have to work, they most likely would want to spend more time with their kids, but it is those that choose to work and not raise the child themselves.
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momma2girls 08:23 AM 01-07-2011
Yep, I have said you meet all kinds out there. The yrs. of providing daycare are getting worse with parents, etc.. As the yrs. go by the worse off it is. Now you definately meet all kinds!!!
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Cat Herder 08:24 AM 01-07-2011
Everyday
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Blackcat31 08:40 AM 01-07-2011
Yup...been thinking about opening a drive-thru daycare. Drop your kid at the door, no need to come in, I'll pin your bill to their shirt and do the same when paying. No need to have any type of relationship with the parent. I'll even get one of those hose things that makes a "ding" sound when you drive over it so I know you are here like at full service gas stations.....

Ok, I am kidding...but I can dream can't I?????
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countrymom 09:04 AM 01-07-2011
your absolutely right. and it seems to be getting worse. I hate when people start posting on facebook about how they go out all the time, where are the kids, why are you hanging out with your children.
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momma2girls 09:04 AM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Yup...been thinking about opening a drive-thru daycare. Drop your kid at the door, no need to come in, I'll pin your bill to their shirt and do the same when paying. No need to have any type of relationship with the parent. I'll even get one of those hose things that makes a "ding" sound when you drive over it so I know you are here like at full service gas stations.....

Ok, I am kidding...but I can dream can't I?????
Ha, this is too funny!!
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missnikki 09:08 AM 01-07-2011
No one said all of these parents 'wanted' to have kids. You don't apply for a child then hope one pops out. What some of them 'wanted' didn't involve thinking that far ahead, if ya know what I mean, wink wink.

Sorry- I have some of the most irritating parents on the face of the earth, that should just leave their kids with me permanently, I swear.
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Little People 09:11 AM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Yup...been thinking about opening a drive-thru daycare. Drop your kid at the door, no need to come in, I'll pin your bill to their shirt and do the same when paying. No need to have any type of relationship with the parent. I'll even get one of those hose things that makes a "ding" sound when you drive over it so I know you are here like at full service gas stations.....

Ok, I am kidding...but I can dream can't I?????
I always wanted to make a conveyor belt from my driveway to the front door. Parents place children on seat...ring bell on side of conveyor belt... push start button and the child comes to the door. And there would be a box next to the seat for payment!! Then in the evening parents ring bell and provider places child on conveyor belt and sends them to parent!
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kidkair 09:14 AM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by missnikki:
No one said all of these parents 'wanted' to have kids. You don't apply for a child then hope one pops out. What some of them 'wanted' didn't involve thinking that far ahead, if ya know what I mean, wink wink.
I completely understand. I personally don't want kids and freak out anytime my period is late. None of my plans for the future do not involve me having kids tagging along. I love kids and that's why I have a daycare. I love spending the day with them and then sending them home. Parents are the most difficult part of this job.
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Blackcat31 09:17 AM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by missnikki:
No one said all of these parents 'wanted' to have kids. You don't apply for a child then hope one pops out. What some of them 'wanted' didn't involve thinking that far ahead, if ya know what I mean, wink wink.

Sorry- I have some of the most irritating parents on the face of the earth, that should just leave their kids with me permanently, I swear.
If we could just figure out how to convince the IRS that WE have the children more than the parents and therefore deserve the tax deduction!!!

I'm also sick of listening to state assisted parents tell me about their tax refunds of up to multiple $1000's each year for only having to work a couple hours a week and have their childcare paid for!!! I will never understand this! I work my butt off for long hours so the single parents with multiple babydaddies can reap the rewards!!
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missnikki 09:22 AM 01-07-2011
As taxpayers, we ALL work our butts off for others to reap the rewards. I've been horrified by parents taking advantage of the system, using their kids to get away with no job, wearing nice clothes, getting their hair 'did', and driving a car that costs 2x what mine is worth...All while asking for discounts, spending their days in line at Social Services office with their hand out, grocery store shopping buying steak and Haagen Daaz with the EBT card...I could go on and on. Sorry. bad mood.
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MARSTELAC 09:22 AM 01-07-2011
Oh that one burns me up as well. I have a few families like that...getting back tons and we barely get one because we make tooooo much money. What a joke.
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nikia 09:26 AM 01-07-2011
Oh how I agree with all of you. I hate going to the store and having the person in front of my pay with food stamps BUT then pull out 2 hundred dollar bills to pay for their beer and tobacco products. DRIVES ME NUTTY.

I have a mom who made to much to get state assistance so she went and asked her work to cut her hours so she can get it and they did it. Its horrible and makes me so angry. If someone truly needs it I think its great its their to help people get back on their feet, but so many abuse it.

Sorry totally hijacked the thread
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Unregistered 09:37 AM 01-07-2011
SO Glad I am not alone with my frustrations about parents!!!!

If we all lived by each other, it would be fun to have a daycare provider's night out and just exchange our "daycare adventure's" and have a few glasses of wine!
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momma2girls 11:17 AM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
SO Glad I am not alone with my frustrations about parents!!!!

If we all lived by each other, it would be fun to have a daycare provider's night out and just exchange our "daycare adventure's" and have a few glasses of wine!
It's really fun to start a daycare group in your area, and meet once a month or so- It is really great to get out, and complain, complain, complain!!!! You really do learn alot as well. We exchange our contracts, etc..
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DCMom 03:21 PM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by Iowa daycare:
It's really fun to start a daycare group in your area, and meet once a month or so- It is really great to get out, and complain, complain, complain!!!! You really do learn alot as well. We exchange our contracts, etc..
Our network meetings are ALWAYS at a restaurant that has a bar...
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momma2girls 03:30 PM 01-07-2011
Originally Posted by DCMom:
Our network meetings are ALWAYS at a restaurant that has a bar...
HA!! Ours as well!!
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momatheart 01:05 PM 01-08-2011
It is the parents not the kids. Kids behavior is bad because of what parents have allowed their children to get away with. I have seen so many passive parents in the last 10 years that I want to tell them point blank YOU NEED TO PARENT.

Parents who drop off at open, pick up at close and put their kids to bed early so they don't have to deal with them are my pet peeves.

Also what about parents that put their older kids into every activity possible and then haul the younger one around to these activities after a full day of daycare? I am sorry but I am sure that little 3 or 4 year old only wants to be home with mom and dad for the night. Not be dragged all over the place only to be hauled out of the car and put to bed right away when they get home.

You know parenting used to be a profession now it is a hobby.
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boysx5 02:27 PM 01-08-2011
oh me and friend who also does daycare were just talking about this in the last 15 years things have changed so much. The average parent doesn't want to spend anytime with their kids they just want to have them to keep up with the Jones why have them if you don't want them?
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ddnanny13 01:03 PM 01-10-2011
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
If we could just figure out how to convince the IRS that WE have the children more than the parents and therefore deserve the tax deduction!!!

I'm also sick of listening to state assisted parents tell me about their tax refunds of up to multiple $1000's each year for only having to work a couple hours a week and have their childcare paid for!!! I will never understand this! I work my butt off for long hours so the single parents with multiple babydaddies can reap the rewards!!
I get this too! I had one dcm who actually didn't pay me and then actually complained to me for 2 weeks about being broke. I was like I know what you mean I didn't even get paid this week! She shut her mouth pretty fast. Oh did I mention her assistance pays for her rent, food, medical, and most of daycare? And they just bought an $8,000 tv and took a vacation??? must be rough....
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Unregistered 02:06 PM 01-10-2011
You all are so right!! Things sure have changed with parenting over the years! I wish parents would realize what they are doing to their kids, but they just don't seem to care.

It is the kids that I feel for. They need us providers to show them that we care about them and give them the attention that they deserve during the day.
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Keri'sKids 07:13 PM 01-10-2011
The reason why people today have kids is a selfish one. They are simply filling a void in their life. The problem is once filled they don't know what to do with the kid from then on. Therefore DC. Lucky you!
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