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Old 11-28-2012, 07:53 AM
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I may have contributed to this unfortunately. Dcm has a long drive so I told her that she could bring dcg in pjs. I assumed she would also bring clothes so I could change her later.

Anyway, she brings her 2yo child everyday in pajamas, no underwear, shoes but no socks, and hair in a messy tangle. My contract does say that kids need to be ready for the day and technically she is ready, just not presentable. Dcm brings her this way to avoid a fight with her. Does dcm not realize how she is settng herself up for later?

Yesterday to prove a point I made dcgirl get dressed with underwear, put on her shoes with socks, and we combed her hair. Of course she didn't like it but I did not give her a choice. I understand the whole "pick your battles" thing but doesn't socks and underwear seem like something that is a given, not a choice?
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:00 AM
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I totally agree. That just sounds lazy to me...I can't believe she would send her daughter out for the day with no real clothes.
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:02 AM
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Oh my I have this exact same family!

I just started DCF a few weeks ago. Every morning (3x week) DCM bring the DCKS in and they are in their PJ's! DCM never asked me if this is ok, just did it. Top it off they don't have shoes, socks, or coats on and its freezing outside. DCM lets them walk up to my door!!!

My contract states: children are to arrive ready for the day. These DCKs are not and are FILTHY!!!! Their hair is not brushed, there is gunk all over their faces, etc. It breaks my heart.

I haven't said anything to DCM yet because I am debating on whether or not I will continue to care for them.
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:06 AM
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Yeah, I think you made the mistake by allowing her to send her daughter in pj's.

Now that it is clearly an issue for you (which you figured it wouldn't have been!?), I'd tell DCM that it's just too much since DCG clearly doesn't want to follow directions and get ready in your care, so she'll need to arrive to you dressed and ready. Just explain that it takes up too much time in the morning and while you were trying to help, you feel it's making matters worse now as other children are arriving etc.
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:28 AM
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I think it is funny how so many providers require the DCK's to come dressed but yet, they themselves wear yoga pants and/or sweatpants for comfort and easy moveability.

Aren't PJ's the most comfortable thing a kid could wear? I guess I don't understand why they HAVE to wear something other than pajama's when they are just kids.

Plus, if you walk into any mall or store these days, more than half the population of people (including adults) are wearing pajama pants or yoga pants so I don't see how kids are suppose to be any different when adults don't seem to care any more.

I don't care what my DCK's wear for clothing provided it is clean, the right size and doesn't pose a safety risk to them or the other kids.

fwiw~ OP, I NOT saying you or any other poster in this thread wears only yoga pants or sweatpants .....I was just adding my 2 cents about the topic in general.
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:28 AM
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I acutally don't mind getting her dressed but dcm does not bring clothes for her. It is dcms intention for her to stay in jammies, no underwear, and no socks for the whole day. Yesterday I used her spare outfit for clothes.

I think dcg needs to learn, from SOMEBODY at least, the you can't always hang out commando all day everyday just because you want to. LOL Sometimes life calls for underwear.

P.S. Blackcat - I AM wearing yoga pants! LOL
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:48 AM
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I agree that kids should get dressed for their day.

in my daycare we practice life skills. I also prepare them for kinder.

One of the things that we work on most is self help skills. When the kids start school, they will have to get up, eat, get dressed and be ready to go by a certain time. So this is something that I not only help the kids set up for, but the parents as well.

When DCK turn 4, they are given homework 3 nights a week and have to bring home a friday folder. I try to copy what the school does here, so that they are used to the routine and hoping to set them up for success.

I guess if I were dealing with younger age kids, then I may not care as much, but at 2.5 is when I start making them start practicing those life skills.

I would be telling DCM that she needs to send in clothes so that DCG can change.

BTW- Yoga pants are not PJ's. lol
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Old 11-28-2012, 08:58 AM
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BTW- Yoga pants are not PJ's. lol
They are for me. I wouldn't be caught dead wearing yoga pants in public or anywhere I am conducting business.

NOT saying it is wrong, just sharing my personal feelings about them and saying the same respect should be given for DCF's personal feelings/thoughts about what their children should wear each day.

I understand that you practice life skills and self-help skills as do I but learning to put your shirt on or your pants is simple whether you are wearing PJ or jeans and a Tee.

Proper dress in public places if you go on field trips is one area I would feel uncomfortable but as a parent, I would be offended if you said my child couldn't participate in the trip to the zoo just because she was wearing pj's (as in pj pants and tops...not night gowns) especially if you told me that while you were wearing yoga pants.....kwim?
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:08 AM
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They are for me. I wouldn't be caught dead wearing yoga pants in public or anywhere I am conducting business.

NOT saying it is wrong, just sharing my personal feelings about them and saying the same respect should be given for DCF's personal feelings/thoughts about what their children should wear each day.

I understand that you practice life skills and self-help skills as do I but learning to put your shirt on or your pants is simple whether you are wearing PJ or jeans and a Tee.

Proper dress in public places if you go on field trips is one area I would feel uncomfortable but as a parent, I would be offended if you said my child couldn't participate in the trip to the zoo just because she was wearing pj's (as in pj pants and tops...not night gowns) especially if you told me that while you were wearing yoga pants.....kwim?
Sorry, I guess I was a little confused about the situation.

I would never tell anyone what to wear. I don't care if you wanted to wear a box for the day. As long as the child is comfortable, it is safe, clean and they can manage throughout the day, then I could not care what you wore.

All that I am saying is that they do need to change out of their sleeping clothes. I would not be ok with a child rolling out of bed and wanting to go out in the clothes they slept in. I guess to me that is gross.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:10 AM
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I'd tell mom you tried and it's just not working out due to her attitude. Was a nice offer to extend, but if it's not working it's ok to wave the white flag and pass the responsibility back to the parents.






(Since capri pant season is over I am in yoga pants full swing.

Always paired with a respectable sweater or fleece pullover of course but I figure daytime pj wear is my given right as a daycare provider lol

The only line I won't cross is those nasty thin skin tight leggings that reveal EEEEEVERything or the lounge pants with cheesy/dorky patterns )
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:12 AM
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I acutally don't mind getting her dressed but dcm does not bring clothes for her. It is dcms intention for her to stay in jammies, no underwear, and no socks for the whole day. Yesterday I used her spare outfit for clothes.

I think dcg needs to learn, from SOMEBODY at least, the you can't always hang out commando all day everyday just because you want to. LOL Sometimes life calls for underwear.

P.S. Blackcat - I AM wearing yoga pants! LOL
At first when you said no undies, I thought you mean she was in a Pull-up or something. She's seriously okay with her daughter going commando all the time?! And no socks is kind of yucky too.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:13 AM
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Sorry, I guess I was a little confused about the situation.

I would never tell anyone what to wear. I don't care if you wanted to wear a box for the day. As long as the child is comfortable, it is safe, clean and they can manage throughout the day, then I could not care what you wore.

All that I am saying is that they do need to change out of their sleeping clothes. I would not be ok with a child rolling out of bed and wanting to go out in the clothes they slept in. I guess to me that is gross.
Oh, I hear you (and I agree) but in today's world rolling out of bed IS ready and awake.

I have seen young adults go to job interviews in their just slept in sleep clothes and messy hair, I see grown people everyday walking around the mall/stores in pj pants with all sorts of cartoon characters in them, young women in clothing that would have gotten me thrown out of school, church and my home, I see women in yoga pants all the time and I am betting only a tiny percentage of those actually just left a yoga class.....

Anyways, I guess my point was, that we all have different expectations of what is and isn't proper clothing and as long as a child is clean, I don't really care if they wear pj's (even fresh from sleeping) or anything else as long as it is safe and comfortable for them.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:14 AM
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My own kids get spoiled sometimes when im too lazy to get them dressed for the day... least the twins anyway
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:16 AM
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They are for me. I wouldn't be caught dead wearing yoga pants in public or anywhere I am conducting business.

NOT saying it is wrong, just sharing my personal feelings about them and saying the same respect should be given for DCF's personal feelings/thoughts about what their children should wear each day.

I understand that you practice life skills and self-help skills as do I but learning to put your shirt on or your pants is simple whether you are wearing PJ or jeans and a Tee.

Proper dress in public places if you go on field trips is one area I would feel uncomfortable but as a parent, I would be offended if you said my child couldn't participate in the trip to the zoo just because she was wearing pj's (as in pj pants and tops...not night gowns) especially if you told me that while you were wearing yoga pants.....kwim?
Guilty as charged for wearing yoga pants! lol
What do you wear? As not to take over op i will post this topic.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:20 AM
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pj pants are a sign of lazy. I don't care if they are comfy they have yoga pants for that (and yes lululemon has nice ones, my dd owns 2 pairs) I don't know of any provider who is in pj pants (unless there is a reason) to do their job. Its the fact that mom is teaching her dd that its ok to be lazy and not care about her appearance.

also, if I go out with the littles I expect them to look presentable because they are representing my daycare.

my issue is that WHO THE HECK MADE SKINNY JEANS FOR A 2 YR OLD, REALLY THEY CAN'T BEND IN THEM.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:24 AM
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I think dcg needs to learn, from SOMEBODY at least, the you can't always hang out commando all day everyday just because you want to. LOL Sometimes life calls for underwear.
I have a 4 yo DCB who goes commando EVERY day. I don't really understand it and at first I was put off by it; but it hasn't really been an issue at all. He never has any potty accidents, and he is modest so none of the other kids even know that he doesn't wear underwear.

I think what I would have the issue with is if these were pajamas that the child slept in the night before (and therefore dirty). And I would especially have an issue if I saw the same pair of pajamas two days in a row- that more than likely means she is keeping her child in the same clothes for days at a time.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:24 AM
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I have a mom who does this, she would bring her 3 yr old in pj's. So after sleeping in them all night and wearing them all day they would go back to bed in the same jammies--talk about germs gross. Her other child (he's 7) answers the door in his underware not boxers either. And if they want comfort for their kids they sell sweatpants too.
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:25 AM
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I have a 4 yo DCB who goes commando EVERY day. I don't really understand it and at first I was put off by it; but it hasn't really been an issue at all. He never has any potty accidents, and he is modest so none of the other kids even know that he doesn't wear underwear.

I think what I would have the issue with is if these were pajamas that the child slept in the night before (and therefore dirty). And I would especially have an issue if I saw the same pair of pajamas two days in a row- that more than likely means she is keeping her child in the same clothes for days at a time.
so what happens when he zips his pecker up, do you think he would wear underware, my ds never went commando so I'm having a hard time understanding this
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Old 11-28-2012, 09:35 AM
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so what happens when he zips his pecker up, do you think he would wear underware, my ds never went commando so I'm having a hard time understanding this
LOL!!!

I have never seen him wear anything but athletic pants or sweat pants. He will be starting kindy next year though and the school does not allow athletic or sweat pants to be worn. I figure it's the parents responsibility to figure that out when the time comes!! But yeah, a boy should not go commando if they are wearing something with a zipper! OUCH!
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Old 11-28-2012, 10:01 AM
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I have to chime in on the commando thing....sorry to hijack

My son is now 5 and he always hated wearing underwear. He refused to wear them...

Well about 4 months ago, we were getting ready for some family photo and I put him in jeans.... Well lets just say have you seen the movie something about Mary??? LOL
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He wears underwear now....lol
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I have to chime in on the commando thing....sorry to hijack

My son is now 5 and he always hated wearing underwear. He refused to wear them...

Well about 4 months ago, we were getting ready for some family photo and I put him in jeans.... Well lets just say have you seen the movie something about Mary??? LOL
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I have seen young adults go to job interviews in their just slept in sleep clothes and messy hair, I see grown people everyday walking around the mall/stores in pj pants with all sorts of cartoon characters in them, young women in clothing that would have gotten me thrown out of school, church and my home, I see women in yoga pants all the time and I am betting only a tiny percentage of those actually just left a yoga class.....
THIS is exactly why I want dcg to know that you can't ALWAYS wear your jammies. Sometimes clothes are not an option.

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I feel this way too! I would NEVER take this child out in public in her condition because I feel it woulde be a bad reflection on me (and my business.)

As far as dressing myself for daycare - I am on the floor, up and down, wiped on, snotted on, cried on, spit up on, so I usually wear black yoga pants and a clean t-shirt, WITH underwear and socks. I feel this is appropriate for the job I do. I change if I go out in public or have a dc interview and I would never weat flannel or printed pj bottoms duyring work hours.
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I think what I would have the issue with is if these were pajamas that the child slept in the night before (and therefore dirty). And I would especially have an issue if I saw the same pair of pajamas two days in a row- that more than likely means she is keeping her child in the same clothes for days at a time.

THIS happened to me with a DCF. They are my first arrival so I told dcm to go ahead and leave grumpy dcb in pj's. Well, then he would stay in pj's (too small, mis-matched and dirty from sleeping in ALL DAY... sooo, I had to specify to bring a change of clothes. Yes, this kiddo now gets dressed at my house in the AM, but he has come the next day in the same clothes! GROSS!


I REQUEST that all the kids wear comfy clothes. Cotton pants, fleece, sweats, don't care but I KNOW jeans aren't comfortable for me to roll around in (and nap in jeans? Not comfy! I feel bad and usually take them off and swap for sweats out of my stash) I also have to say, jeans are NOT warm for going outside and my dcb who wears jeans every day is ALWAYS saying his legs are cold AND he unbuttons his jeans to play indoors.
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I acutally don't mind getting her dressed but dcm does not bring clothes for her. It is dcms intention for her to stay in jammies, no underwear, and no socks for the whole day. Yesterday I used her spare outfit for clothes.

I think dcg needs to learn, from SOMEBODY at least, the you can't always hang out commando all day everyday just because you want to. LOL Sometimes life calls for underwear.

P.S. Blackcat - I AM wearing yoga pants! LOL
Ehhh ... a lot of people hang out commando. My husband used to, but recently stopped. I have several friends that do as well who are adults.
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Old 11-28-2012, 01:16 PM
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I don't dress them. Lol how they come is how they leave. And seriously DYING LAUGHING about commando!!!!!!
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Oh, I hear you (and I agree) but in today's world rolling out of bed IS ready and awake.


I have seen young adults go to job interviews in their just slept in sleep clothes and messy hair, I see grown people everyday walking around the mall/stores in pj pants with all sorts of cartoon characters in them, young women in clothing that would have gotten me thrown out of school, church and my home, I see women in yoga pants all the time and I am betting only a tiny percentage of those actually just left a yoga class.....


Anyways, I guess my point was, that we all have different expectations of what is and isn't proper clothing and as long as a child is clean, I don't really care if they wear pj's (even fresh from sleeping) or anything else as long as it is safe and comfortable for them.
Re; the bolded part above.....maybe you see this because they were not taught by their parents or child care providers that it is appropriate to get up, wash up and change into proper attire for the day. just sayin'

Except the yoga pants part....I don't wear them except to work out in, but I see absolutley nothing wrong with them for day wear. I think they are quite cute, actually
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so what happens when he zips his pecker up, do you think he would wear underware, my ds never went commando so I'm having a hard time understanding this
I am seriously ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PECKER!!!!! I haven't heard that word in ages!!!! Thanks for my laugh of the day!!!!!!!
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Re; the bolded part above.....maybe you see this because they were not taught by their parents or child care providers that it is appropriate to get up, wash up and change into proper attire for the day. just sayin'
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Except the yoga pants part....I don't wear them except to work out in, but I see absolutley nothing wrong with them for day wear. I think they are quite cute, actually
Our school district recently sent home a notice to all parents saying that yoga pants will no longer be considered acceptable. Not really sure why, just had several of my DCM's who are teachers tell me the girls are no longer allowed to wear them. They can wear leggings IF there is something covering their rear ends.

Again, not sure what their line of thinking is/isn't but it has supposedly been an issue so they are no longer allowed.

I also have to agree that yoga pants are REALLY REALLY comfy but I just can't bring myself to wear them in public. It feels weird.
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I may have contributed to this unfortunately. Dcm has a long drive so I told her that she could bring dcg in pjs. I assumed she would also bring clothes so I could change her later.

Anyway, she brings her 2yo child everyday in pajamas, no underwear, shoes but no socks, and hair in a messy tangle. My contract does say that kids need to be ready for the day and technically she is ready, just not presentable. Dcm brings her this way to avoid a fight with her. Does dcm not realize how she is settng herself up for later?

Yesterday to prove a point I made dcgirl get dressed with underwear, put on her shoes with socks, and we combed her hair. Of course she didn't like it but I did not give her a choice. I understand the whole "pick your battles" thing but doesn't socks and underwear seem like something that is a given, not a choice?
I honestly don't care how long a parent has to drive or what time they have to wake up, etc - it's a parent's responsibility to dress and get their child ready each morning. There are plenty of parents and children who have to get up much earlier than the average bear and survive just fine by adjusting to an earlier bed time Children need to come dressed and ready for the day!

As for the no undies, that's completely inappropriate and I would send back home with child to get some! It would probably never happen again if this parent has as long of a drive as you day.
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I think it is funny how so many providers require the DCK's to come dressed but yet, they themselves wear yoga pants and/or sweatpants for comfort and easy moveability.

Aren't PJ's the most comfortable thing a kid could wear? I guess I don't understand why they HAVE to wear something other than pajama's when they are just kids.

Plus, if you walk into any mall or store these days, more than half the population of people (including adults) are wearing pajama pants or yoga pants so I don't see how kids are suppose to be any different when adults don't seem to care any more.

I don't care what my DCK's wear for clothing provided it is clean, the right size and doesn't pose a safety risk to them or the other kids.

fwiw~ OP, I NOT saying you or any other poster in this thread wears only yoga pants or sweatpants .....I was just adding my 2 cents about the topic in general.
I don't care what the kids wear as long as the clothing is clean (as in it wasn't worn all night and now the day too), they can easily be changed or go potty, it doesn't obstruct their ability to play, the parents are ok with it getting messy and it's weather-appropriate. I've had kids wear everything from pj's to costumes (and it's not Halloween) and I really don't care as long as it meets my above requirements.

As far as I go, I dress based on how I feel that day. Bloated and yucky = skirts and pants with elastic waists (although they do look appropriate IMO...like wide leg black pants, long cotton skirts, linen pants with a rollover waist, etc.). Feeling good about myself and/or we are going in public = jeans. Either way, I wear nice tops (not T-shirts) and make-up all the time because I look like a wreck otherwise. My hair is another story...it's either a pony tail or air-dried. I don't like using heat on my hair unless I want to look really nice.
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I want children up and ready to go for the day. I noticed that how you dress is how you act or describes your life. Also, we are outside playing hard during the day and then come in and rechange. If I allowed kids here in there jammies that is all I would have for them. We also are out for walks/fieldtrips and such. I put alot of hard work into my program and would like the public to see that through the children that come here.

The only, only famous person I know that made any money in their pj is Hugh Heffner. Need we say more on that one-

Now I do wear yoga pants/capri yogas/elastic waisted pants but I have not worn jeans in years. I cannot stand the way they feel on me/look on me and no matter what kind I try they ride up my crotch. I cant stand having most button style pants on. Now since I stopped wearing jeans, I have not had a bladder infection since.
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I personally think that children should be presentable, in everyday clothing and not PJ's, but I can understand how that is my own opinion and others may view that differently.

For the days that both of my kids have to be up and out the door by 7 for preschool, I dress them in yoga pants and a comfortable shirt at night, and then toss on a sweater. It's lazy, I know, but at least it looks like I put a little effort into it.

In this world, perception is reality, and, though we may try not to be judgmental, there are certain thoughts that run through our minds when we see a perfectly capable grown woman shopping at Walmart at 4 in the afternoon in PJ's and slippers.
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I think it is funny how so many providers require the DCK's to come dressed but yet, they themselves wear yoga pants and/or sweatpants for comfort and easy moveability.

Aren't PJ's the most comfortable thing a kid could wear? I guess I don't understand why they HAVE to wear something other than pajama's when they are just kids.
I agree with this - kids can come in pjs, but it's their dress for the rest of the day - I will not change a child into their usual clothes - and the jammies must be clean.

Also, no underwear... that's just gross when it comes to kids.
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I wear undies all the time but have several friends that don't wear them. They don't like the feel of them and can't stand to have them on. They have always, always been this way to.

I'm wondering if its more common then we think because I really wonder about people that wear thongs-might as well not wear anything.
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I personally think that children should be presentable, in everyday clothing and not PJ's, but I can understand how that is my own opinion and others may view that differently.

For the days that both of my kids have to be up and out the door by 7 for preschool, I dress them in yoga pants and a comfortable shirt at night, and then toss on a sweater. It's lazy, I know, but at least it looks like I put a little effort into it.

In this world, perception is reality, and, though we may try not to be judgmental, there are certain thoughts that run through our minds when we see a perfectly capable grown woman shopping at Walmart at 4 in the afternoon in PJ's and slippers.
I agree with you in regards to my OWN kids. They wear appropriate, matching, nice clothing. I learned to stop caring how daycare children are dressed and I'm not willing to purchase clothing for them so they could be presentable. Often times they wear clothing with holes and stains. One dck comes in perpetually mismatched outfits. Once again, as long as the clothes fit, are clean, easily accessible for diaper changes/potty breaks, appropriate for play and the parents don't care about the clothing getting messy. I almost prefer sweatpants everyday because at least they are easily accessible, appropriate for play and can get messy.

Ugh, I get so sick of dck's wearing lace-up high top shoes, tight jeans with belts, crisp and clean white clothes and super frilly dresses. Send them in sweat pants....it makes my life a million times easier!
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Speaking of underwear.... I have a friend from college who always had issues with her undies riding up and giving her a wedgie....she solved the issue by wearing mens underwear.

Her DD is now 5 and also wears boys underwear.

She says it stays put and never gives her a wedgie.
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Speaking of underwear.... I have a friend from college who always had issues with her undies riding up and giving her a wedgie....she solved the issue by wearing mens underwear.

Her DD is now 5 and also wears boys underwear.

She says it stays put and never gives her a wedgie.
They do make a style of mens underwear for women-I think they are called boyfriend style or something like that. They look like little shorts or the style of undewear men wear that have the tighter legs.
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They do make a style of mens underwear for women-I think they are called boyfriend style or something like that. They look like little shorts or the style of undewear men wear that have the tighter legs.
My DD wears the boy short kind. She has a cute little bottom so they are perfect for her.

My friend wears tidy white-y's she is a little more, shall we say "blessed" in the be-hind department.
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omg this is the best thread ever.
On my parenting site, someone (not me) did a poll on how many people where undies to bed. I was kind of shocked that many don't, now mind you they aint in their middle thirties or forties but i was shocked. One poster even said that she likes to "air herself out" because "it was trapped all day" I just don't know anymore, its just way too bizarre.
My dh went commando when I met him but that was because he couldn't afford underwear, heck when I met him he had 2 pairs of jeans, 2 pairs of shirts and 2 pairs of undies because his mother would rather spend money on expensive stuff then undies. Now, he has enough undies for a month.
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I wear undies all the time but have several friends that don't wear them. They don't like the feel of them and can't stand to have them on. They have always, always been this way to.

I'm wondering if its more common then we think because I really wonder about people that wear thongs-might as well not wear anything.
I do not wear underwear - EVER - unless I wear a dress or skirt.
However, when it comes to children I think it's inappropriate to go commando!
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I do not wear underwear - EVER - unless I wear a dress or skirt.
However, when it comes to children I think it's inappropriate to go commando!
What the difference between an adult or a child not wearing underwear?
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What the difference between an adult or a child not wearing underwear?
I can't believe I'm going to say this but I imagine it has to do with a lack of skill in wiping.
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I can't believe I'm going to say this but I imagine it has to do with a lack of skill in wiping.
Didn't think of that!

This is just me but I just think for a girl, your pants would just get yucky through the day in your crotch area. Just me, maybe they don't and it seems it would be irratating to that area with the material.
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I don't wear undies either, unless I wear a skirt or jeans. I hate jeans though. (that time of the month I wear thongs).

Yup, I was going to say skill in wiping also.
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I see women in yoga pants all the time and I am betting only a tiny percentage of those actually just left a yoga class.....
It's hard to work with kids and wear jeans because they aren't flexible enough to move around in and with my body type when I sit or get down to there level (no matter how high I lift my jeans- which are up to my belly butto) I always get a plumbers crack (even when I wear a long shirt!?)- which is a lot less professional than yoga pants or leggings. And I hate Khakis because they get dirty too easily- not to mention I just think they look frumpy/mannish and have no personality- lf I saw someone wear khakis I'd think they work with computers not at a place with kids and actually interacting with them JMHO. I think if I had a center I would advise my staff, as long is it isn't loose or too form fitting, and wear a descent length shirt to wear yoga pants/leggings over jeans or khakis just because jeans and khakis are too constricting and limit you mobility- which can be a safety hazard- espesually because everyone wears either "skinny" and "bootcut" jeans the most.

Also if you are interacting with the children and engaging in activities with them (which looks more professional than any clothes you wear) that is more of a workout than most yoga or fitness classes.

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LOL!! This thread reminds me of a Tide commercial

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9QkgRTtUgu8

to each his/her own.
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Years ago I took care of a brother and sister. Their mom had to bring them @ 5:30 am. She would put them to sleep each night in a fresh clean sweatshirt and sweat pants and then bring them to me each day in those sweats. I always thought that was the greatest idea. They were dressed and clean and ready for the day. Perfect!
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My MIL always had her girls go without underwear at night - to air out. I thought it seemed like a good idea so I tried it. Turns out I absolutely CANNOT sleep without underwear. I also think not wearing underwear with jeans on would be irritating and uncomfortable.
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I can't believe I'm going to say this but I imagine it has to do with a lack of skill in wiping.
Yup, this exactly.
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** Yes I KNOW this thread is 8 years old **

I just remember a good/funny story about a child at my former center.

Everyday this child (almost 3 years old -not potty trained) would come in pajamas, hair not brushed, diaper NOT changed but hey at least his teeth was brushed . Yet the mother will sit there and chat with you while you are changing and dressing him

Anyway- the Pre-K (before me) teacher was in charge of the morning while I was in the other room. I mentioned to her that Kenny needs to be changed and dressed. The teacher flat out told me she isn't doing that. It's pure laziness (which I agree!) to not even change an overnight diaper.

So while I was able to watch and listen, Kenny and his mom comes in. I heard the mother say to him "It's time for Ms R to get you ready!". Teacher said "No I am sorry I can't do that. He needs to come in ready for HIS day. I nor We can't drop everything to do what should have been done before he gets here"

The mother was NOT happy. But she got over it
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