Getting Under My Skin

[Ithinkso]

Over the years I have had kids. But none as rude as the little girl I have right now. Since she has been in my care. She has broken games ,ate puzzle pieces and has poked not one hole but 7 in my furniture and is very smart mouthed. Last week she got mad at me and told me she cant stand my fat faced self. This week she told me my house is dirty. Its not. I asked where did she hear that she said "My mom says you need to clean your house because my socks smell like dogs when I get home" So yesterday mom came to get her I let her talk and right before she walked out door I said" She told me that when she gets home her feet smell like dogs. If you would like you can bring her slippers so her feet stay clean." Moms face drop and with an attitude said " Oh I never said your house was dirty. That's something she must have said. She never says that at she gets home." I just said "uh huh have a good night". I want to let her go just because Im tired of the smart mouth and mom claiming "she dont do this at home" But she my only kid right now and I working on getting more. I plan things out for her but the things she does make me not want to do anything with her at all.

[Pestle]

7 holes in the furniture? I would re-asses what furniture the kids have access to. If it's that delicate, it might not belong in the day care area. Or did she have a sharp tool? How did it happen?

I have it in my contract that, while I don't charge for wear-and-tear, I do charge for willful damage to my property. (Added that after a kid broke three toys in a row one day.)

If a child did minor damage in one go while I wasn't paying attention, that's one thing, but if she returned to do the same destruction after being redirected several times, I would consider calling for pick up.

[CityGarden]

Use this as motivation to get more families and then term once you can.

[Josiegirl]

Wow. I don't think I could accept them into my own home every day. I let a dcb go immediately 1 day(he had 2 brothers that came here too but this 1 kid had a definite attitude and I was opening my home to them on Saturdays!). He had been playing with a bunch of cars and trucks in the playroom, just got up and walked away to do something else. I asked him if he was done and he said yes. So I asked him to please put them away before he got out something else. Completely ignored me. I walked right up to him and asked him again, face to face. 'I don't wanna.' So I walked him right back to the pile of toys, sat him down, said you're staying right here til you pick up every toy. He was a smart mouth 5 yo lil $hit and I don't think I've ever called a dck that before. He called me a 'fu@kin bit@h'. I called his mother and said 'you can come pick him up. I'm done.' This was just the straw that broke the camel's back. He and the oldest brother were quite a team. The middle dcb was great! The point of my too-long story is My home is a safe place for me, and the kids who come here. And I was not going to allow anyone to show me such disrespect in my own home.
It sounds to me dcg is getting these words from dcm, which is truly sad and VERY disrespectful, because an adult should know better.
Good luck on replacing this family as soon as you can.

[Ithinkso]

It was an old ottoman that I had.I never had any trouble before with kids tearing stuff. It was movie time and she was drawing while watching it. She got upset because I told her we where not painting and it was movie day. And maybe we can paint the next day.She is not a 3 year old. She is 6 years old.I only have her after school and school breaks. Every time shes angry she damages something. Mom finds it funny when she mad.

[Ithinkso]

It was an old ottoman that I had.I never had any trouble before with kids tearing stuff. It was movie time and she was drawing while watching it. She got upset because I told her we where not painting and it was movie day. And maybe we can paint the next day. I went to get her some popcorn when she did this. She is not a 3 year old. She is 6 years old.I only have her after school and school breaks. Every time shes angry she damages something. Mom finds it funny when she mad.

[Laurie]

The dck is obviously hearing and learning all of this from home. Good for you to stand up to the dcm!! *claps*
You need to add into your policy if a dck breaks or destroys toys/property, the dcp either pays for it or replaces it!!

I've had plenty of dck behave as your dcg and I don't allow it to continue. I give the dcp two warnings and on the third offense, they're terminated.
It's completely rude of the dcm to think her child's funny when she's naughty/mad. I wouldn't put up with it.

Sometimes I don't think dc providers stand up for themselves enough! We open our homes to their child and your home should be respected. Its obvious they allow her to get away with anything. So she doesn't know how to respect anything. kids like that drive me nuts!! lol

I've given up on taking older children. My openings are for infants only and they stay with me until pre-school (2-2 1/2) age. I just can't deal with all these rude, discrespectful kids! 😂

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Originally Posted by Laurie

The dck is obviously hearing and learning all of this from home. Good for you to stand up to the dcm!! *claps*
You need to add into your policy if a dck breaks or destroys toys/property, the dcp either pays for it or replaces it!!

I've had plenty of dck behave as your dcg and I don't allow it to continue. I give the dcp two warnings and on the third offense, they're terminated.
It's completely rude of the dcm to think her child's funny when she's naughty/mad. I wouldn't put up with it.

Sometimes I don't think dc providers stand up for themselves enough! We open our homes to their child and your home should be respected. Its obvious they allow her to get away with anything. So she doesn't know how to respect anything. kids like that drive me nuts!! lol

I've given up on taking older children. My openings are for infants only and they stay with me until pre-school (2-2 1/2) age. I just can't deal with all these rude, discrespectful kids! 😂

ABSOLUTELY. Give this Mom a warning and say on warning 3 the contract will be terminated. Oh my.

[Blackcat31]

I would terminate services simply because it sounds like the relationship has grown stale and is now damaged.... and a child is now involved.

If you can't afford to term, you essentially work for them and have to put up with it or you risk losing their money.

IMO, not all money is good money.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

She sounds like a brat! Let mom deal with the repercussions of raising an ill mannered child and let her go.

just to add...her calling you names is borderline abusive! She is six and knows what it means to be a bully, so her behavior is unacceptable!

[MyAngels]

I'd eat beans and weenies without the weenies forever before I'd put up with a family like that. Ugh. Term ASAP is my only advice. I'm sorry you feel you have to put up with it

[LysesKids]

Originally Posted by MyAngels

I'd eat beans and weenies without the weenies forever before I'd put up with a family like that. Ugh. Term ASAP is my only advice. I'm sorry you feel you have to put up with it

I'm on the same page... I would have termed this child already. This scenario is part of why I no longer take older kids (I love my itty bitty's lol)

[Ariana]

It is sooooo much harder and more stressful to care for a child you do not like. Ruined furniture aside I would term because you don't like the kid.

[Ithinkso]

Originally Posted by Ariana

It is sooooo much harder and more stressful to care for a child you do not like. Ruined furniture aside I would term because you don't like the kid.

Its not that I dont like the child.I dont like her behavior. Mom came to pick her up today and we where talking the kid looks up at her mother and says" you need to stop talking now" all mom said to her was " you need to wait your turn". The behavior is a result of mom not the the kid. As I look at the all the issues the child has I feel bad for her. But I cant fix what mom allows.

[hellothere94]

The child sounds very entitled, I know all children are to an extent but this sounds excessive! If she is making your daycare days more difficult and negatively affecting the quality of care you give to other children I would say that it's perfectly reasonable to term this family. Imagine if the other children see her overpowering your authority and disrespecting the furniture, they might take her lead and start doing it too!

[Mike]

You said she's your only kid right now. If there were others, I would say let her go, but if she's the only one, it does give you time to see what you can do, if anything, and if you want to try.

I agree with what CityGarden said:

Originally Posted by CityGarden

Use this as motivation to get more families and then term once you can.

I wouldn't want to deal with a mother like that, so if you don't want to give up on the child, see what you can do, but be ready to term as soon as you can afford to.

Maybe it'll help if you give her a little say in what is done, or give her a bit of responsibility. I've dealt with a few bratty kids and it almost always helped when they were given a bit of control or responsibility.

[Blackcat31]

Originally Posted by Ithinkso

Its not that I dont like the child.I dont like her behavior. Mom came to pick her up today and we where talking the kid looks up at her mother and says" you need to stop talking now" all mom said to her was " you need to wait your turn". The behavior is a result of mom not the the kid. As I look at the all the issues the child has I feel bad for her. But I cant fix what mom allows.

Mom allows the child to behave badly
You allow the mom to behave badly

If you do not want to participate, terminate.

[Pestle]

Re-ASSESS, Pestle. Don't re-asses.