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BumbleBee 12:57 PM 09-18-2013
I have a dcg, 9 yo, dx w/pdd-nos. I know a few providers on here have children with the same dx. I'm wondering if the rudeness/attitude/snottiness is related to the learning disorder or just the dcg being rude/snotty.
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Lil'DinoEggs 01:28 PM 09-18-2013
I have limited experience (two children) but both were the same. As long as their needs are met, I ignored the undesired behavior and gave lots of positive reinforcement.
Unregistered 01:44 PM 09-18-2013
I have a older child have PDD NOS. She is very friendly, helpful, happy, etc... I do not think the rudeness/attitude/snottiness is related to PDD NOS. She doesn't understand about thebehavior but I would recommend to work with her to be positive behavior or let her parents work with her. Good Luck!
Luvnmykidz 02:15 PM 09-18-2013
My dd is 6 and has PDD-NOS. She is pleasant and tries to help out. She does have an attitude at times, which is corrected, but not ever rude or snotty. I always assumed that her attitude was just her temperament, personality. Never really thought it was part of the diagnosis. Curious to see what others have experienced though.
stephisme 05:33 PM 09-18-2013
PDD-NOS is an autism spectrum disorder. Typically it's used when the child does not meet all of the criteria for autism, but still fits the autism mold. Many times the autism diagnosis will be given later on. Social issues are very common in children with autism, especially Asperger's syndrome (although since this year Asperger's is no longer a diagnosis). Sometimes they may come off as rude or that they have an attitude, as they can have difficulty showing certain emotions, deciphering the emotions of others, and do not have a filter (they say what they think).
If you ever watched Big Bang Theory, it is said that Sheldon has Asperger's and that is why he comes off as rude, if that helps at all!
It can be challenging to deal with, but fortunately their are some steps you and the parents can take.
I hope this helped!
If you ever watched Big Bang Theory, it is said that Sheldon has Asperger's and that is why he comes off as rude, if that helps at all!
It can be challenging to deal with, but fortunately their are some steps you and the parents can take.
I hope this helped!
Lil'DinoEggs 08:44 PM 09-18-2013
From what I worked with, it is like the children do not have the barrier to stop what they are saying. Yes it comes out as rude sometimes. Another thought is frustration. While being snotty is not an actual symptom, goon to school and trying to function in a normal setting can be stressful especially if their peers and teachers haven't accepted their personality yet. I try not to correct their bad behavior constantly and got them involved in chores or special projecta where they felt a sense of accomplishment.
Angelsj 04:47 AM 09-19-2013
Originally Posted by Trummynme:
I have a dcg, 9 yo, dx w/pdd-nos. I know a few providers on here have children with the same dx. I'm wondering if the rudeness/attitude/snottiness is related to the learning disorder or just the dcg being rude/snotty.
TIA
I would say yes, and no. As someone said, these kids have little to no filter, so they will say or do many things that are amazingly rude or snotty. But, often, if you simply point it out, THAT one behavior will stop. I have a dcg, 9 yo, dx w/pdd-nos. I know a few providers on here have children with the same dx. I'm wondering if the rudeness/attitude/snottiness is related to the learning disorder or just the dcg being rude/snotty.
TIA
Example, "You are fat."
You are shocked, but just tell her that telling someone they are fat is rude.
Next minute, "You are really big." This could go on forever. They are usually smart kids with no idea what the "social rules" are or how to follow them.
I wouldn't put up with it, just bear in mind they are not being disobedient, but need more specific instruction.
Familycare71 04:54 AM 09-19-2013
Originally Posted by stephisme:
PDD-NOS is an autism spectrum disorder. Typically it's used when the child does not meet all of the criteria for autism, but still fits the autism mold. Many times the autism diagnosis will be given later on. Social issues are very common in children with autism, especially Asperger's syndrome (although since this year Asperger's is no longer a diagnosis). Sometimes they may come off as rude or that they have an attitude, as they can have difficulty showing certain emotions, deciphering the emotions of others, and do not have a filter (they say what they think).
If you ever watched Big Bang Theory, it is said that Sheldon has Asperger's and that is why he comes off as rude, if that helps at all!
It can be challenging to deal with, but fortunately their are some steps you and the parents can take.
I hope this helped!
Exactly this PDD-NOS is an autism spectrum disorder. Typically it's used when the child does not meet all of the criteria for autism, but still fits the autism mold. Many times the autism diagnosis will be given later on. Social issues are very common in children with autism, especially Asperger's syndrome (although since this year Asperger's is no longer a diagnosis). Sometimes they may come off as rude or that they have an attitude, as they can have difficulty showing certain emotions, deciphering the emotions of others, and do not have a filter (they say what they think).
If you ever watched Big Bang Theory, it is said that Sheldon has Asperger's and that is why he comes off as rude, if that helps at all!
It can be challenging to deal with, but fortunately their are some steps you and the parents can take.
I hope this helped!
. Boys typically are more aggressive, rude and don't have social boundaries. Girls typically are more quiet and reserved... Again this is typical- there is never a hard rule.
My guess is yes it is related to the diagnosis BUT is also effected by how the parents respond too. Personally I understand and remember they are struggling so offer more support and set up situations where they can be successful BUT also hold them accountable to their actions and behaviors
Familycare71 05:00 AM 09-19-2013
Another thing to remember is they tend to work in hard lines. So if there is a specific phrase or situation that is a problem if you consistently (and specifically) tell them it is not allowed they will adapt that as long as it is within their ability. Like PP said: you are fat, you are big, etc... I would say: you can not ever comment on someone's weight. That is a rule. Then I would give examples of what they cannot say. If I heard a diff variation I would say : that is commenting on weight- not allowed. Very simple and straight forward.
It also works in the other direction- keep your hands to yourself! Is not specific enough. They will kick and not understand why you are mad. They followed your rule. So instead say: keep your body parts off other people.
Again- every kid is diff and what works for some doesn't work for everyone.
It also works in the other direction- keep your hands to yourself! Is not specific enough. They will kick and not understand why you are mad. They followed your rule. So instead say: keep your body parts off other people.
Again- every kid is diff and what works for some doesn't work for everyone
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