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bunnyslippers 06:27 AM 04-02-2013
Just a little pet peeve. DCD just dropped off his daughter. He reminded me that today is DCM's birthday, so it would be great if I could make sure all the kids make her a card. 
I don't really MIND doing it...but it just aggravates me that this DCD couldn't take a minute and make a card for his wife with his little girl. She is handed off every day to anyone who will watch her, and has no consistency at all. Just annoyed.
Another family shorted me two days pay for this month, and I have no idea why, soooo, now I have to have yet another payment discussion with yet another family that just can't get it's act together.
Does anyone have personal responsibility anymore? So sick of babysitting the parents in this place!
I don't really MIND doing it...but it just aggravates me that this DCD couldn't take a minute and make a card for his wife with his little girl. She is handed off every day to anyone who will watch her, and has no consistency at all. Just annoyed.
Another family shorted me two days pay for this month, and I have no idea why, soooo, now I have to have yet another payment discussion with yet another family that just can't get it's act together.
Does anyone have personal responsibility anymore? So sick of babysitting the parents in this place!
wahmof3 06:29 AM 04-02-2013
That's all I have got on this one.
SilverSabre25 06:44 AM 04-02-2013
Oh geez, I totally wouldn't do that! If you do it for one, it will be expected to do it for all, and that's just such a slippery slope, there's no way I would do that.
I did bake cookies for a dcm's bday once: her DH was out of town and she had just had a miscarriage, and she's become a good friend.
I did bake cookies for a dcm's bday once: her DH was out of town and she had just had a miscarriage, and she's become a good friend.
bunnyslippers 06:46 AM 04-02-2013
I am definitely not doing it. I just get so amazed at how much extra people ask for. Next time, I will just say, "Sure, I will make your wife a card. How about you take care of my dry-cleaning on your way to the donut shop?"
annoyed!!!
annoyed!!!
Meeko 06:49 AM 04-02-2013
The parents do this deliberately, thinking the provider won't want to "disappoint" their child.
But birthdays are events that the FAMILY should be arranging.
If it was me, I wouldn't do it. Talk about her birthday, have the kids sing Happy Birthday....but don't do what THE PARENTS should be doing.
I have 16 kids. They would spend waaay too much of their time making cards for each other if I did this for all of them. One child cannot be the focus of the whole day.
I do order birthday crowns online and each birthday child gets to wear a crown on their birthday...but that's it. The day goes on as per normal.
When Dad picks up, just cheerfully tell him you were too busy with SCHEDULED activities to cater solely to his daughter, but that she is SOOO looking forward to the things HE has planned for her! Dump it back in his lap.
But birthdays are events that the FAMILY should be arranging.
If it was me, I wouldn't do it. Talk about her birthday, have the kids sing Happy Birthday....but don't do what THE PARENTS should be doing.
I have 16 kids. They would spend waaay too much of their time making cards for each other if I did this for all of them. One child cannot be the focus of the whole day.
I do order birthday crowns online and each birthday child gets to wear a crown on their birthday...but that's it. The day goes on as per normal.
When Dad picks up, just cheerfully tell him you were too busy with SCHEDULED activities to cater solely to his daughter, but that she is SOOO looking forward to the things HE has planned for her! Dump it back in his lap.
Meeko 06:52 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by Meeko:
The parents do this deliberately, thinking the provider won't want to "disappoint" their child.
But birthdays are events that the FAMILY should be arranging.
If it was me, I wouldn't do it. Talk about her birthday, have the kids sing Happy Birthday....but don't do what THE PARENTS should be doing.
I have 16 kids. They would spend waaay too much of their time making cards for each other if I did this for all of them. One child cannot be the focus of the whole day.
I do order birthday crowns online and each birthday child gets to wear a crown on their birthday...but that's it. The day goes on as per normal.
When Dad picks up, just cheerfully tell him you were too busy with SCHEDULED activities to cater solely to his daughter, but that she is SOOO looking forward to the things HE has planned for her! Dump it back in his lap.
Oops! My bad!! I just re-read the original post and realized it was the MOM he wanted a card for The parents do this deliberately, thinking the provider won't want to "disappoint" their child.
But birthdays are events that the FAMILY should be arranging.
If it was me, I wouldn't do it. Talk about her birthday, have the kids sing Happy Birthday....but don't do what THE PARENTS should be doing.
I have 16 kids. They would spend waaay too much of their time making cards for each other if I did this for all of them. One child cannot be the focus of the whole day.
I do order birthday crowns online and each birthday child gets to wear a crown on their birthday...but that's it. The day goes on as per normal.
When Dad picks up, just cheerfully tell him you were too busy with SCHEDULED activities to cater solely to his daughter, but that she is SOOO looking forward to the things HE has planned for her! Dump it back in his lap.
Good grief!!!! NO!
makap 06:55 AM 04-02-2013
I am mixed between this!
and this!
and this!
Blackcat31 06:57 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by Meeko:
When Dad picks up, just cheerfully tell him you were too busy with SCHEDULED activities to cater solely to his daughter, but that she is SOOO looking forward to the things HE has planned for her! Dump it back in his lap.
When Dad picks up, just cheerfully tell him you were too busy with SCHEDULED activities to cater solely to his daughter, but that she is SOOO looking forward to the things HE has planned for her! Dump it back in his lap.
That is what I would do. I don't take outside request for this kind of thing.
MotherNature 08:44 AM 04-02-2013
The gall! I would just say Happy birthday next time I see her. For the kid, I'd plan a special treat or something like that, but for a parent? No way. If Dad wants to surprise Mom w/ a card from kiddo, he should've orchestrated it over the weekend. Even if she's your only kid, that's just outside your responsibilities.
NeedaVaca 08:55 AM 04-02-2013
Is this the same DCD that asked you to do his kids Valentines?? Jeez, your families are something else. Stand up for yourself!! I know you are on a countdown but that doesn't give the parents the right to walk all over you
crazydaycarelady 09:02 AM 04-02-2013
He wants ALL the kids to make his wife a card?
For some reason when someone suggests I do something it becomes the LAST thing on my agenda. I just don't like being told what to do! LOL
For some reason when someone suggests I do something it becomes the LAST thing on my agenda. I just don't like being told what to do! LOL
bunnyslippers 09:13 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady:
He wants ALL the kids to make his wife a card?
For some reason when someone suggests I do something it becomes the LAST thing on my agenda. I just don't like being told what to do! LOL
That is exactly how I feel! I probably would have done it if I thought of it on my own...but once someone asks/tells...I have no interest!He wants ALL the kids to make his wife a card?
For some reason when someone suggests I do something it becomes the LAST thing on my agenda. I just don't like being told what to do! LOL
Different parent than the Valentine's parent.
They all just like to push parenting off on me, or anyone else who they think will do it. Can't wait to be done! I have 10 days until our next spring break.
EntropyControlSpecialist 09:26 AM 04-02-2013
What exactly did you tell him when he said that?! I don't think I'd even be able to formulate a response.
littlemissmuffet 09:34 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by bunnyslippers:
Just a little pet peeve. DCD just dropped off his daughter. He reminded me that today is DCM's birthday, so it would be great if I could make sure all the kids make her a card.
I don't really MIND doing it...but it just aggravates me that this DCD couldn't take a minute and make a card for his wife with his little girl. She is handed off every day to anyone who will watch her, and has no consistency at all. Just annoyed.
Another family shorted me two days pay for this month, and I have no idea why, soooo, now I have to have yet another payment discussion with yet another family that just can't get it's act together.
Does anyone have personal responsibility anymore? So sick of babysitting the parents in this place!
Wow. I would have replied with "No Joe, I don't think that's my place. How about you pick up little Susie an hour early and go home and make mom something special?" Just a little pet peeve. DCD just dropped off his daughter. He reminded me that today is DCM's birthday, so it would be great if I could make sure all the kids make her a card.
I don't really MIND doing it...but it just aggravates me that this DCD couldn't take a minute and make a card for his wife with his little girl. She is handed off every day to anyone who will watch her, and has no consistency at all. Just annoyed.
Another family shorted me two days pay for this month, and I have no idea why, soooo, now I have to have yet another payment discussion with yet another family that just can't get it's act together.
Does anyone have personal responsibility anymore? So sick of babysitting the parents in this place!
bunnyslippers 10:18 AM 04-02-2013
I replied, "Well, I have a pretty full day here, what with the six children and my planned curriculum. I would probably plan on doing one at home later."
I just get so tired with starting every day with another DUMB request. People just suck!
I just get so tired with starting every day with another DUMB request. People just suck!
EntropyControlSpecialist 10:23 AM 04-02-2013
Did he seem shocked?
bunnyslippers 10:24 AM 04-02-2013
Not at all. He is not the brightest star in the sky.
EntropyControlSpecialist 10:39 AM 04-02-2013
Hilarious!
AmyKidsCo 12:07 PM 04-02-2013
Sometimes I'm amazed by the things we're asked to do. One parent asked me to give her 2 yo a bath because she hadn't had time the night before.
MNMum 12:38 PM 04-02-2013
I don't get why parents think we have more time and energy to do these things than they do. Most have 1 or 2 kids that they are taking care of. Why would I have more time and energy to do this when I am taking care of 6-10?????
Angelsj 12:38 PM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by Meeko:
Oops! My bad!! I just re-read the original post and realized it was the MOM he wanted a card for Good grief!!!! NO!
Right? and have ALL the kids do it? !!!Oops! My bad!! I just re-read the original post and realized it was the MOM he wanted a card for
Good grief!!!! NO!Um..how bout no.
EntropyControlSpecialist 01:30 PM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by MNMum:
I don't get why parents think we have more time and energy to do these things than they do. Most have 1 or 2 kids that they are taking care of. Why would I have more time and energy to do this when I am taking care of 6-10?????
Because we're Mary Poppins. Helloooo. I don't get why parents think we have more time and energy to do these things than they do. Most have 1 or 2 kids that they are taking care of. Why would I have more time and energy to do this when I am taking care of 6-10?????
bunnyslippers 01:37 PM 04-02-2013
I think somewhere the line between personal assistant and child care provider gets blurred. Next thing I know someone will be dropping off laundry and dishes. Sheesh!
bunnyslippers 01:38 PM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by AmyKidsCo:
Sometimes I'm amazed by the things we're asked to do. One parent asked me to give her 2 yo a bath because she hadn't had time the night before.
This has happened to me, too!!!! Sometimes I'm amazed by the things we're asked to do. One parent asked me to give her 2 yo a bath because she hadn't had time the night before.
Starburst 03:18 PM 04-02-2013
I'd probably let DCG make one if there is any down time but unless DCM is friends with all the DCK's parents I would tell DCD "I think it would be more meaningful and personal if you and DCG made it"- some guys are clueless and think that it seems like a bigger gester to have a bunch of (practically strangers) make a bunch of cards than the only two people who really count.
I mean like you said I personally wouldn't mind doing it if I came up with the idea on my own and decided to do this because I wanted to do it out of the goodness of my heart, but for him to expect to take time out of regular routine and curriculum at the drop of the hat kinda makes it hard to actually put you in the spirit to do it. Also if u do it for them than you might have to do it for all the parents! Daycare logic 101- if someone gets special treatment everyone expects special treatment!
Then again I am the type of person who does things inspite of a person because they tell me I cant or when I am about to do something on my own and then someone tells me to do it and then I don't want to do it (permanant teenage logic syndrome?)
I mean like you said I personally wouldn't mind doing it if I came up with the idea on my own and decided to do this because I wanted to do it out of the goodness of my heart, but for him to expect to take time out of regular routine and curriculum at the drop of the hat kinda makes it hard to actually put you in the spirit to do it. Also if u do it for them than you might have to do it for all the parents! Daycare logic 101- if someone gets special treatment everyone expects special treatment!
Then again I am the type of person who does things inspite of a person because they tell me I cant or when I am about to do something on my own and then someone tells me to do it and then I don't want to do it (permanant teenage logic syndrome?)
Laurel 03:54 PM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by bunnyslippers:
I am definitely not doing it. I just get so amazed at how much extra people ask for. Next time, I will just say, "Sure, I will make your wife a card. How about you take care of my dry-cleaning on your way to the donut shop?"
annoyed!!!
I am definitely not doing it. I just get so amazed at how much extra people ask for. Next time, I will just say, "Sure, I will make your wife a card. How about you take care of my dry-cleaning on your way to the donut shop?"
annoyed!!!
Laurel 04:00 PM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by bunnyslippers:
I replied, "Well, I have a pretty full day here, what with the six children and my planned curriculum. I would probably plan on doing one at home later."
I just get so tired with starting every day with another DUMB request. People just suck!
I replied, "Well, I have a pretty full day here, what with the six children and my planned curriculum. I would probably plan on doing one at home later."
I just get so tired with starting every day with another DUMB request. People just suck!
Your posts are keeping me laughing tonight. I'm new here but not to child care.
Laurel
Kaddidle Care 04:43 AM 04-03-2013
Originally Posted by bunnyslippers:
Just a little pet peeve. DCD just dropped off his daughter. He reminded me that today is DCM's birthday, so it would be great if I could make sure all the kids make her a card.
WHAT? Just a little pet peeve. DCD just dropped off his daughter. He reminded me that today is DCM's birthday, so it would be great if I could make sure all the kids make her a card.
I think I would have replied:
"AHAHAHAHA! You're so funny - nice try Dad!"