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Sick & Tired 07:46 AM 07-17-2013
Ugh! So sick of all the crap we have to put up with as dcproviders. The dcparents have no respect for us, not our time, home, family or the needs we have as people!! They all seem so selfish. I understand every person has to put their own family first. That is no issue with me, but don't expect me to accommodate every little thing for YOU. I have a family too and a business to run. These parents let their children act like hooligans in our homes, basically making it okay to disrespect us. They have the nerve to complain about the things we do, well if you don't like it there are plenty of other dc's for you to go to. One thing these parents need to remember YOU chose me as your provider. I did not choose you, I did not track you down not contact you. But it really irritates me when they have the nerve to complain about something petty, however when you have to correct the
On something or let them know something is being done that is not okay; like picking your child up late, not paying on time, not correcting their child's bad behavior in my home while they're present, not helping your child learn or be where they need to be developmentally, etc... The parents have the nerve to get upset. Ugh. I'm so done.
On something or let them know something is being done that is not okay; like picking your child up late, not paying on time, not correcting their child's bad behavior in my home while they're present, not helping your child learn or be where they need to be developmentally, etc... The parents have the nerve to get upset. Ugh. I'm so done.
Heidi 07:50 AM 07-17-2013
Sounds like you're pretty frustrated today!
Join the group and you can whine with the rest of us, as well as get ideas and support. It helps enormously!
Join the group and you can whine with the rest of us, as well as get ideas and support. It helps enormously!
EntropyControlSpecialist 09:48 AM 07-17-2013
Not every parent is like this! You may just have a "bad batch" and that can really change your attitude about doing daycare. 
coolconfidentme 09:50 AM 07-17-2013
I too am tired of some of my parents....
Yesterday a child called another child a name right in front of his mom & me. I looked to see if she would do anything, which she didn't. I told DCB it was rude & asked if he had anything to say about it. He said (& I quote).., "Yeah..., BYE!" I replied (as the mom stood there) "Zero tolerance. Go to timeout, we do not call people names here." I turned to the mom & said, "You need to have a talk with your son tonight, he obviously is learning that behavior from someone & that someone isn't in my daycare. I then set the timer & folded my arms. You could here a pin drop in that 5 minutes.
Yesterday a child called another child a name right in front of his mom & me. I looked to see if she would do anything, which she didn't. I told DCB it was rude & asked if he had anything to say about it. He said (& I quote).., "Yeah..., BYE!" I replied (as the mom stood there) "Zero tolerance. Go to timeout, we do not call people names here." I turned to the mom & said, "You need to have a talk with your son tonight, he obviously is learning that behavior from someone & that someone isn't in my daycare. I then set the timer & folded my arms. You could here a pin drop in that 5 minutes.
Starburst 09:58 AM 07-17-2013
Originally Posted by coolconfidentme:
I too am tired of some of my parents....
Yesterday a child called another child a name right in front of his mom & me. I looked to see if she would do anything, which she didn't. I told DCB it was rude & asked if he had anything to say about it. He said (& I quote).., "Yeah..., BYE!" I replied (as the mom stood there) "Zero tolerance. Go to timeout, we do not call people names here." I turned to the mom & said, "You need to have a talk with your son tonight, he obviously is learning that behavior from someone & that someone isn't in my daycare. I then set the timer & folded my arms. You could here a pin drop in that 5 minutes.
I too am tired of some of my parents....
Yesterday a child called another child a name right in front of his mom & me. I looked to see if she would do anything, which she didn't. I told DCB it was rude & asked if he had anything to say about it. He said (& I quote).., "Yeah..., BYE!" I replied (as the mom stood there) "Zero tolerance. Go to timeout, we do not call people names here." I turned to the mom & said, "You need to have a talk with your son tonight, he obviously is learning that behavior from someone & that someone isn't in my daycare. I then set the timer & folded my arms. You could here a pin drop in that 5 minutes.
I think sometimes parents are afraid to dicipline their child infront of another adult but I hate when parents never dicipline their kids! I think they want you to be the bad guy so they can still be the child's "friend"
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EntropyControlSpecialist 10:02 AM 07-17-2013
Originally Posted by Starburst:
I think sometimes parents are afraid to dicipline their child infront of another adult but I hate when parents never dicipline their kids! I think they want you to be the bad guy so they can still be the child's "friend".
Some on here don't play that and will tell the parent to parent their child. I think sometimes parents are afraid to dicipline their child infront of another adult but I hate when parents never dicipline their kids! I think they want you to be the bad guy so they can still be the child's "friend"
.I do it myself if the parents don't because I have more control over their child than they do (the ones that need "ASSISTANCE") and their child will actually listen to me. I don't have time to parent the parents. They get raised eyebrows from me.
These same children are the ones who will hoot and holler when I return from an appointment (all of 1 hour long LOL) saying they missed me, yet they never say those things to their parents after being away from them 9-11 hours. Sad, really. Discipline does not equal a child not liking you.
daycarediva 10:24 AM 07-17-2013
I feel the same way today about my dcp's (not all of them though, some are awesome!) Read through the venting thread, as they say, misery loves company! 
MrsSteinel'sHouse 10:47 AM 07-17-2013
I think the OP is obviously having a bad day.
I love my parents. I have had "problematic" parents over the years but for the most part I have enjoyed my parents and their children. I think straight forward expectations are required. Also the realization that I can only control what happens on my watch. I can get very frustrated over knowing that their parents are keeping them up late, allowing them to watch way too much tv, feeding them junk but I can't change that. I can be sure that they know what is taking place at my house and why. I can care for their kids the best I can while they are under my care.
I do believe that most parents appreciate me and the care that I give their children. All my parents pay me on time. All my parents follow their schedules the best they can, sometimes things come up. Sometimes things come up in my world too and they have to adjust for me. I deal with 5 families every week and it all seems to work. My families love their kids and the other little ones I watch. I had to ask a couple of parents to adjust with me for the fall so that we could "take back" two of our friends that needed care. Originally I didn't think I could take them for the hours dad's new job needed and they went to a friend of the parents who happens to live down the street. Concerns for their saftey and well being were raised. I devised a plan and my parents helped me to make it happen. My ds has a doctor apt coming up. Whoosh my parents took care of my problem. Honestly, I think that by cultivating not just the relationship with the child but with the parents is well worth it. Respect and appreciation goes both ways. If my moms didn't head off to work I wouldn't have been able to stay home all these years with my kids and homeschool. Ok there is my rainbow and sunshine post about parents
I love my parents. I have had "problematic" parents over the years but for the most part I have enjoyed my parents and their children. I think straight forward expectations are required. Also the realization that I can only control what happens on my watch. I can get very frustrated over knowing that their parents are keeping them up late, allowing them to watch way too much tv, feeding them junk but I can't change that. I can be sure that they know what is taking place at my house and why. I can care for their kids the best I can while they are under my care.
I do believe that most parents appreciate me and the care that I give their children. All my parents pay me on time. All my parents follow their schedules the best they can, sometimes things come up. Sometimes things come up in my world too and they have to adjust for me. I deal with 5 families every week and it all seems to work. My families love their kids and the other little ones I watch. I had to ask a couple of parents to adjust with me for the fall so that we could "take back" two of our friends that needed care. Originally I didn't think I could take them for the hours dad's new job needed and they went to a friend of the parents who happens to live down the street. Concerns for their saftey and well being were raised. I devised a plan and my parents helped me to make it happen. My ds has a doctor apt coming up. Whoosh my parents took care of my problem. Honestly, I think that by cultivating not just the relationship with the child but with the parents is well worth it. Respect and appreciation goes both ways. If my moms didn't head off to work I wouldn't have been able to stay home all these years with my kids and homeschool. Ok there is my rainbow and sunshine post about parents
My3cents 11:16 AM 07-17-2013
Originally Posted by MrsSteinel'sHouse:
I think the OP is obviously having a bad day.
I love my parents. I have had "problematic" parents over the years but for the most part I have enjoyed my parents and their children. I think straight forward expectations are required. Also the realization that I can only control what happens on my watch. I can get very frustrated over knowing that their parents are keeping them up late, allowing them to watch way too much tv, feeding them junk but I can't change that. I can be sure that they know what is taking place at my house and why. I can care for their kids the best I can while they are under my care.
I do believe that most parents appreciate me and the care that I give their children. All my parents pay me on time. All my parents follow their schedules the best they can, sometimes things come up. Sometimes things come up in my world too and they have to adjust for me. I deal with 5 families every week and it all seems to work. My families love their kids and the other little ones I watch. I had to ask a couple of parents to adjust with me for the fall so that we could "take back" two of our friends that needed care. Originally I didn't think I could take them for the hours dad's new job needed and they went to a friend of the parents who happens to live down the street. Concerns for their saftey and well being were raised. I devised a plan and my parents helped me to make it happen. My ds has a doctor apt coming up. Whoosh my parents took care of my problem. Honestly, I think that by cultivating not just the relationship with the child but with the parents is well worth it. Respect and appreciation goes both ways. If my moms didn't head off to work I wouldn't have been able to stay home all these years with my kids and homeschool. Ok there is my rainbow and sunshine post about parents
I agree with you. I think when you get one bad egg sometimes it trickles down to other bad eggs. Sometimes just one bad egg is enough to make many of us post the way that we do. I have said it many times before, but parents don't stop to think about US they are busy thinking of their own lives, work, relationships, schedules, needs and wants. We are a vessel they pay to make their world run smooth for them. I too have had good parents, but not always. I think some personalities in providers cause the button pushers to push. Strong personalities can smell weak ones miles away and the pushers run their worlds eating them up and spitting them out. Having good business practices and being able to implement them from the get go is the success of many long term providers and great working relationships with parents.I think the OP is obviously having a bad day.
I love my parents. I have had "problematic" parents over the years but for the most part I have enjoyed my parents and their children. I think straight forward expectations are required. Also the realization that I can only control what happens on my watch. I can get very frustrated over knowing that their parents are keeping them up late, allowing them to watch way too much tv, feeding them junk but I can't change that. I can be sure that they know what is taking place at my house and why. I can care for their kids the best I can while they are under my care.
I do believe that most parents appreciate me and the care that I give their children. All my parents pay me on time. All my parents follow their schedules the best they can, sometimes things come up. Sometimes things come up in my world too and they have to adjust for me. I deal with 5 families every week and it all seems to work. My families love their kids and the other little ones I watch. I had to ask a couple of parents to adjust with me for the fall so that we could "take back" two of our friends that needed care. Originally I didn't think I could take them for the hours dad's new job needed and they went to a friend of the parents who happens to live down the street. Concerns for their saftey and well being were raised. I devised a plan and my parents helped me to make it happen. My ds has a doctor apt coming up. Whoosh my parents took care of my problem. Honestly, I think that by cultivating not just the relationship with the child but with the parents is well worth it. Respect and appreciation goes both ways. If my moms didn't head off to work I wouldn't have been able to stay home all these years with my kids and homeschool. Ok there is my rainbow and sunshine post about parents
Familycare71 03:01 PM 07-17-2013
Right now I have amazing parents... But I have also had some bad ones... The worst is when you have a bunch of them at the same time- sounds like what OP is going thru...
I am similar to PP... I don't argue or expect the parents to parent- if things are getting out of hand I just step in. I wont watch a parent and kid fight it out Anymore... Ain't no one got time for that!.
Hang in there!!! And do what PP said: visit the venting thread! You will feel better!
I am similar to PP... I don't argue or expect the parents to parent- if things are getting out of hand I just step in. I wont watch a parent and kid fight it out Anymore... Ain't no one got time for that!
. Hang in there!!! And do what PP said: visit the venting thread! You will feel better!