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Old 10-03-2012, 04:47 PM
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I usually post as seashell but for some reason I can't login. I'm too upset right now to keep trying. I have a dc baby who just started crawling. her parents freaked out because they say she's gone home the last 2 days and her clothes have been dirty and smell bad from crawling through something on the floor. this is the second child for this family, and they have been with me for 4 years, ft. we've never had any big issues. I told him I was very sorry I didn't know what she has crawled through. my floors get vaccumed everyday. Last.night I got down on my hands and knees to make sure there were no wet spots. dad came in early today with a bag and said his wife told him that he needed to inspect the house but dirt. I have no problem with it, because I have nothing to hide. he crawled around on his hands and knees and was sniffing my rug. then he gave toys and furniture a inspection. I don't know what was in the bag, he went into the play room by himself, as I was upstairs with the other children waiting for pickups. he said something about having wipes to clean up any grunge. I have nothing to hide. everything here is clean. am I wrong to be extremely insulted? I told Dad that he couldn't trust me to care for his children properly, we should consider ending our relationship. he looked surprized and ended his inspection. I would love to throw them out, but I'm having serious money issues right now. they recently brought in another family of two, and I'm afraid if I toss them I will lose that family as well. should I just suck this up and look for replacements or toss them now?
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:06 PM
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This is a tough one because on one hand I too as a parent would want to make sure the area my child is spending their day in is clean but on the other hand, as a DP I would be insulted to have someone sniffing my floors!

I do think it is funny that DCM had DCD go to your place to sniff your floors on his hands and knees...even funnier that he agreed!! My DH would be like..you want me to what? No way! LOL

Could someone have spilled milk or spit up on the rug? My DS spit up a lot as a baby and I would always wipe with baby wipes or a facecloth. My house never smelled bad and I cleaned all the time but one day I was lying on the floor playing with him and I got the nastiest wiff of something horrible! It was just all the spit up that you could not see but you could smell!! I washed the carpets and it was fine afterwards.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:09 PM
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This is a tough one because on one hand I too as a parent would want to make sure the area my child is spending their day in is clean but on the other hand, as a DP I would be insulted to have someone sniffing my floors!

I do think it is funny that DCM had DCD go to your place to sniff your floors on his hands and knees...even funnier that he agreed!! My DH would be like..you want me to what? No way! LOL

Could someone have spilled milk or spit up on the rug? My DS spit up a lot as a baby and I would always wipe with baby wipes or a facecloth. My house never smelled bad and I cleaned all the time but one day I was lying on the floor playing with him and I got the nastiest wiff of something horrible! It was just all the spit up that you could not see but you could smell!! I washed the carpets and it was fine afterwards.
This, but I also would have wanted to ask if my DH could sniff her carseat.

The whole thing is just so odd.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:10 PM
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First of all I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Man there seems to be some crazy parents out there! I'm torn on what I would do in this situation.

One side tells me that I would show him where his child plays/crawls and let him get down there and smell it if necessary. Afterwards I would ask if he saw any problems with the cleanliness of my daycare. Since I'm sure the answer would be no I would then say "great, then this is the last time I expect to hear about this matter. If you can't respect the care I provide after 4 years of being a client we need to end our relationship."

The other side (and the one I usually follow) tells me that I would be so completely offended at his accusation that he would never step a foot in my house again much less get down on his hands and knees to smell my carpet. They have after all been with you for 4 years, why this now? It sounds like the new baby is making them act a little crazy.

One thing I do want to mention/ask though is if you have dogs or cats? I in no way mean to offend anyone who has pets it's just that I have a friend who is OCD about how clean her house is (and it is very clean) but it smells because of her pets and I don't think she notices because she smells it every day.
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I too can't believe the dcd agreeed to sniff around. My hubby wouldn't do that for all the money in the world. This whole thing seems weird to me, but IF I wanted to keep them and keep them happy I would probably change the baby into something else after arrival in the morning and close to pick up change her back into her other outfit so she is clean as can be!
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:28 PM
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:30 PM
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I would remove my child from a daycare before I would get down on my dang hands and knees and sniff someones carpet. That is rude and condesending. I would be insulted that they chose to treat me like I was an utter and complete moron. I can see that things happen and maybe a child could crawl thru some spit up on something but to act in the way n utterly rediculous. Could you please record this dad on his hands and knees smeeling you house? I would love to send that in to a few places. I bet you could win some money.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:56 PM
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Wow! Just when I think I've heard it all someone posts about a situation like this that makes me shake my head and feel truly blessed for the day care families I have! I would have been so tempted to kick his a$$ while he was crawling around on the floor. Unbelievable!
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:59 PM
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Wow! Just when I think I've heard it all someone posts about a situation like this that makes me shake my head and feel truly blessed for the day care families I have! I would have been so tempted to kick his a$$ while he was crawling around on the floor. Unbelievable!
I know right?! LOL

sheeesh! just when you thought you had heard it all! If I desperately needed the money, I would buy her a few outfits to change into at daycare and then change her back into her own clothing before pickup. if they still keep complaining, i would tell them what I was doing and how I knew for sure it was not my house

It might be their car seat......

This reminds me of a mom that was SOOOO upset her daughter was taking her diaper off during nap. It happened twice before I insisted they send her in a onesie. Mom busts into the house and rushes to the nap room saying she wanted to see where her daughter was sleeping and what was "making" her take her diaper off.....what?!?! I was so shocked and just let her have at it. Mom had seen the nap room.....its an empty room with beds and PNPs. She barged into the room and then stood in the middle confused because there was no bogey man in the corner, I guess. The whole thing was ridiculous
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:06 PM
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This reminds me of a mom that was SOOOO upset her daughter was taking her diaper off during nap. It happened twice before I insisted they send her in a onesie. Mom busts into the house and rushes to the nap room saying she wanted to see where her daughter was sleeping and what was "making" her take her diaper off.....what?!?! I was so shocked and just let her have at it. Mom had seen the nap room.....its an empty room with beds and PNPs. She barged into the room and then stood in the middle confused because there was no bogey man in the corner, I guess. The whole thing was ridiculous
Like I said - just when I think I've heard it all........!
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:13 PM
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Similar things have happened here, but not to that extreme. After the child gets dropped off, I put dcb into our socks, and shirt because mom is neurotic. Before pickup, I change him back. I would let dcd "sniff" around, but I would've tried to stand there and watch. If someone is inspecting my facility, I am watching them like a hawk!
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:17 PM
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There is no way I would have allowed that to happen. As soon as he got down on his knees I would have kindly escorted him out. No way. That is just ridiculous.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:53 PM
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are you another one of those weird daycares that lets kids rub poop on the floor?

I don't think I could continue to have a working relationship with a family who degraded me so badly. I can see random drop ins to check on the kids, I can see commenting if the clothes smell bad and asking if something had been spilled on the carpet or if they had crawled in something on the grass. I can't see sending my child somewhere where I felt the need to sniff the floor. Rude.

I hope your finances straighten out soon and you can give them the boot.
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Old 10-03-2012, 08:05 PM
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Do you have any pets?

Years ago, I had a cat that never peed in the house. All of a sudden, she started peeing in the baby's carseat. Of course, the parents were not very happy. They figured out that their dog would lay down next to the carseat at night. My cat peed in the carseat. I started putting a large toy in the carseat and they started putting the carseat onto the table.

I agree with what someone else posted. Change the baby's clothes when she gets there and change her back before the parents come.

I sweep daily, mop twice a week and vacuum daily. My babie's feet and legs are black at night. I wash them up before the parents come.
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Old 10-04-2012, 06:47 AM
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Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

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Old 10-04-2012, 07:16 AM
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Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

I am working on sticking up for myself in my business, I tend to people please.

BUT they would not be welcome back into my home after all of this and the request to steam clean would've sealed the deal if the whole floor sniffing hadn't already.

I would eat bread and butter until I found a replacement! SMH

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wait until they notice that it is something at their place.
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:19 AM
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Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

Good luck today. I hope it goes well. Absolutely look for someone else and give these a@@holes the boot. They are just outrageous. Tell them that they can pay for the steam cleaning since they are the only one with the problem.
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:20 AM
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BTW, did you ever find out what he had in the bag?
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:21 AM
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My response would be, um the floor is where all the dirt is. I would be more excited my child is crawling then worrying about a what they are crawling through. Crazy

I have laminte flooring and its very hard to keep clean 100% of the time
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:26 AM
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Show up on their doorstep in the next day or two armed with a bag of swabs, disposable overalls, rubber gloves, hair net, shoe covers, a surgical mask and a hazardous waste container and say you smelled something on her clothes that you didn't recognize. It might be something that would cause a reaction to your other daycare kids, so you need to swab their home for filth.........

Seriously.....I would have ordered him out of my house.
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:34 AM
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This is outrageous!!! I've been in this business for almost 20 years and never heard something as out of this world as this!!

I too would have booted them out as soon as he hit his knees to the floor.

I am so very very sorry you are dealing with this. How dare they humiliate you this way. And, to not even offer some sort of apology after talking to them about it.

I sure wish you didn't need the income and could term them now instead of waiting. If it were me, I just couldn't be comfortable with them in my home.
I hope you find a replacement very soon. {hugs}
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:34 AM
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I think they handled this whole thing wrong! Since they have been with you for so long wouldn't it have been nice if they bought you a gift cetrificate for carpet cleaning and just said something like "now that the baby is crawling" instead of going the humiliation route?

My crawlers go home with dirty knees and sometimes tummies. I apologize but the parents brush it off, say it happens at home too, and are glad the kids are scooting all over!
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Old 10-04-2012, 07:59 AM
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Woo Hoo, I was able to log in this time. I was so upset last night when I posted this thread, I could hardly remember my own name, let alone log in.

So I sent these parents a text last night asking them to call me when the kids settle. They called via conference call about an hour later. I told them that I was very hurt. That it was humiliating to have someone sniff my rugs and check my house for "Grunge and Filth". I appologized once again for the baby's cloths being dirty but explained for the 1000000000 time I truly didn't know what it was. My daughter, daughter in law and I all got on our hands and knees on the carpet and found nothing. It smelled like the vinegar solution that I clean with. I suggested that maybe she had been drooling and her shirt got wet. They replied a curt no, thats not it. We went around and around. I was hoping for an appology, but it didn't happen. I asked them what they wanted to see happen. She said she wanted the rugs steam cleaned in the playroom and the living room. I consented, because I still need the business. BUT...I have decided to look for other children to replace them and when I do, I will simply tell them I can not get past the situation and I am ending the relationship. In the mean time, I have bought cloths for the baby to wear here. I'll change her when they drop her off and put them back on when they arrive. Im terrified to put this child down for tummy time!!!! God forbid she doesn't come home smelling like roses! Thanks for the advise ladies, and for listening to me rant. They havent shown up yet today, so I'll update you when they do. Hopefully it's not too awkward.

I would be so livid!! Not only did he crawl on his hands & knees inspecting and smelling around for "Grunge and filth", and then not even apologize after you explained how insulted you were, but then they had the nerve to request your carpets be steam cleaned??? I don't care if I needed the money, I'd terminate care immediately & we'd be on a super strict budget until I found their replacement.

Are your carpets due for a steam cleaning anyway? Or have they been done recently? If they were fairly recently done, I'd show them your receipt and request they pay for it since the carpets are not due for steam cleaning yet.
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Old 10-04-2012, 08:16 AM
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Seriously?!? WTF? Pardon my expressions, but I have to admit I am completely shocked and dumbfounded that a parent would be so down right insulting to actually do something like that!

I find their behavior to be rude, disrespectful and absolutely NOT accetable!!!!

I would be mortified and humiliated if a DCP asked to crawl around my floors.

OP, I surely hope you aren't having the carpets cleaned at YOUR expense...I am thinking DCF should be paying for it out of their own pockets!

Wow! I just don't even know what to say. I know for me personally, I would have showed dad the door and termed IMMEDIATELY the second he told me that DCM sent him to sniff my floors!

I have said it before and I will say it again:

My time, sanity and personal self-worth are far more valuable to me than keeping clients who think they can treat me like dirt!(or sniff my floors)
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Unbelievable.

Just...absolutely unbelievable.

I cannot believe the nerve of some people.

OP I am so sorry your are dealing with this situation...how stressful!
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Seriously?!? WTF? Pardon my expressions, but I have to admit I am completely shocked and dumbfounded that a parent would be so down right insulting to actually do something like that!

I find their behavior to be rude, disrespectful and absolutely NOT accetable!!!!

I would be mortified and humiliated if a DCP asked to crawl around my floors.

OP, I surely hope you aren't having the carpets cleaned at YOUR expense...I am thinking DCF should be paying for it out of their own pockets!

Wow! I just don't even know what to say. I know for me personally, I would have showed dad the door and termed IMMEDIATELY the second he told me that DCM sent him to sniff my floors!

I have said it before and I will say it again:

My time, sanity and personal self-worth are far more valuable to me than keeping clients who think they can treat me like dirt!(or sniff my floors)
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I am mortified for you- how insulting! I'm sorry that you had to endure that its sad what we have to put up with to get the bills paid.
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Old 10-04-2012, 08:27 AM
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It is very insulting and i would begin fishing for a new kid to take their place
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It is very insulting and i would begin fishing for a new kid to take their place
this is what I would do! Insulting but RUDE also!
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As a parent, if I felt the need to smell the carpets, I wouldnt bring my kids to that place! just weird! If you dont notice anything on the child at pick up, maybe it IS the car seat. I have been (not) known to put clothes on the kids and changing them back before pick up, just dont forget!
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Seashell, I'm still just shaking my head over this one. I can't believe these parents! Their rude, insulting behavior aside, it just doesn't make sense to me. I don't know about you but I always change the kids' diapers for a final time just before they go home. If they smelled or their clothes were dirty, I would notice that as soon as I picked them up/put them down on the changing table. If for some reason I didn't notice, I would think the parents would as soon as I handed the child to them. If they didn't notice and say something before they left your home, I'm thinking the baby got into something after leaving your house. Have they given any thought to the possibility that they are overlooking something at their house?

Have they said what the smell smells like? The only other thing I can think of is that I have had kids who have soaked their diapers during naptime while they sleep and the pee kind of wicks up onto their clothing. By the time nap is over, the clothing has dried so it doesn't look or feel like the clothing is soiled but the smell is there. Is it possible something like that has happened and that's what they're smelling?
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Have they said what the smell smells like? The only other thing I can think of is that I have had kids who have soaked their diapers during naptime while they sleep and the pee kind of wicks up onto their clothing. By the time nap is over, the clothing has dried so it doesn't look or feel like the clothing is soiled but the smell is there. Is it possible something like that has happened and that's what they're smelling?
That's what I was thinking. Sorry you have to go through this. How was drop off today?
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I would keep this child in a pack n play or on a huge waterproof mat/blanket option so she will not touch the floor until the day you term her. I would not steam clean the carpets....just hold off for a bit in case you get a replacement soon. start advertising like crazy and get this family out the door for good. to be honest, I would take the risk and just let them go for now no matter about the replacement.....it is degrading to work for people like this.
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so what was the smell. how come they didn't bring it to you to smell. then you could identify it. I would be so mad.
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Just thinking of you Seashell and hoping your day was better today.
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WOW!! This is over the top unbelievable. I really think that parents today are just unusual.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Did you ever find out what he had in his bag? For all you know he could have placed a camera in your home.
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Oh my goodness! I just want to give you a giant hug! Their behavior is disrespectful and offensive! I'm not sure where you live and what kind of clientele you deal with but there is no way I would put up with that behavior out of anyone. A replacement kid is never too far off. If you feel your financial situation is too dire for that, I would request that the dcp provide a PnP for the LO to stay in. The only way to get through to people like that is to inconvenience them. Then maybe they will understand how offensive their behavior was. As a parent (and a self professed hater of all things dirty) I would NEVER inspect someone's area like that, EVER. That is just NOT ok. Once again, hugs to you!
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I would term them...that is soooooo insulting! Even if I needed the money, I don't know if I would ever be able to work with a family that thinks it is okay to come over and insult my cleanliness and sniff my floors.
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WOW!! This is over the top unbelievable. I really think that parents today are just unusual.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Did you ever find out what he had in his bag? For all you know he could have placed a camera in your home.
I agree with you and I blame a lot of it on our social media, tv and what not!!!


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Did they show up?
Where abouts on her clothes was smelling funny? Sniff test her when she comes in the door, in case it is her car seat.
Or if she wears jeans/thicker pants, maybe she had a poopy that escaped a bit and you couldn't see it on her pants?
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This post comforts me somewhat because I interviewed with neighbors that wanted a closer home daycare for their 1 year old. After meeting them, allowing them to stop by during playtime to meet the kids before they started.. and a constant going back and forth between one day wanting to start, the next day not wanting to start. Then refusing to allow their child attend fieldtrip and an inspection of my house that seemed way out of the ordinary. They seemed rigid and weird to say the least. I could imagine going threw the same thing with them and this post makes me happy that I turned them down.. Regardless of being intimidated by the husband who wanted to know why his child wasnt accepted.

My 2 cents, as if it counts for anything.. I know that it is hard financially, especially now with the economy. I think that we have to learn how to take the good with the bad at times. If they are not satisfied, they will move on their own. Its easy to say that you will discontinue a relationship but when it comes down to it. Its a hard thing for me to do. I feel that if Im loyal to my customers and do a great job, they will tell other people. Word of mouth brings in most of my clients.
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Oh, yeah..

Also, I have a crawler and his clothes do get dirty from crawling and self feeding.. I get my floors cleaned professionally once a month but his clothes stilll get a little dingy looking..

I simply change his clothes at the end of the day and wipe him down with a baby wipe to freshion him up. His mom keeps a zip lock bag labeled (Dirty clothes) for his bibs and dirty clothing. She also makes sure that he has plenty of clean clothes so that I can change him when I need to threw the week. Ive been changing his clothes before the end of the day since he was small because of throw up and moving around.

Try suggesting this to the parents to see if this may solve the problem and also help keep the revenue coming in.
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Wow. Just wow.

I'm sorry that things are tight and you need these ass faces as clients. I would absolutely look for a new dc family ASAP and give them the boot. Not because they had concerns, but for how they went about it. They are humiliating you. It takes a special kind of jerk to make someone feel like that.

You should tell them baby always smells like that -- it must be their stinky ass house.
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I am dying to know what happened during the rest of the week. How are you?
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I would term them...that is soooooo insulting! Even if I needed the money, I don't know if I would ever be able to work with a family that thinks it is okay to come over and insult my cleanliness and sniff my floors.
Exactly....and my thoughts are that now they have crossed the line, and you let them, they will feel free to treat you disrespectfully in the future. I would tell them that I was insulted and feel that they are no longer a good match for my daycare.
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Why didn't they just bring the smelly fabric to your home if they really wanted to be convincing? What was smelling your floors supposed to do?
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these people are crazy. I would never do that as a dcp
I would be very offended as a provider
Time to start "sniffing" around for a replacement.
What was in the bag?
Have they been a good family besides this? 4 years is a long time and should be a good relationship by now.
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So what happened? I too am curious as to what was in the bag. I keep wondering if they placed a camera in the playroom??
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I'm bumping this up because I want to know what was in the bag.
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I've been lurking on this thread, and I'm dying to know what happened too!

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So what happened? I too am curious as to what was in the bag. I keep wondering if they placed a camera in the playroom??
I would be LIVID if someone even attempted this!! I would totally press charges if someone tried to place a camera in my home. That's WAY too far!

I REALLY hope that's not what was in the bag!!
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Ok, now I'm dying to know what happened.
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It seems we have to wait to find out what happened here.....

In the meantime, I'll throw in my thoughts. My thoughts are that dcps are really nitpicking. That means that they will probably be pulling the kids from your daycare soon. Not because of anything wrong with your daycare. They are just looking for a reason to justify what they want to do. People tend to blow little things out of proportion when trying to justify something. They probably found someone cheaper, or a relative who would watch them and feel guilty. They want to have a REASON for pulling the kids.

That is what I would be suspecting - but then, I ten to be suspicious.....
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It seems we have to wait to find out what happened here.....

In the meantime, I'll throw in my thoughts. My thoughts are that dcps are really nitpicking. That means that they will probably be pulling the kids from your daycare soon. Not because of anything wrong with your daycare. They are just looking for a reason to justify what they want to do. People tend to blow little things out of proportion when trying to justify something. They probably found someone cheaper, or a relative who would watch them and feel guilty. They want to have a REASON for pulling the kids.

That is what I would be suspecting - but then, I ten to be suspicious.....

I think the same thing Country. I feel so bad for OP having to go through this, but to me, it seems they are looking for a way out. If I were you I'd find someone else asap and let them know it just isn't working. I would also def find out what was in the bag. Pronto.
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This, but I also would have wanted to ask if my DH could sniff her carseat.

The whole thing is just so odd.
Yes, really odd...I'd freak
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bumping this again......

what happened?

You would think the OP would give an update......... makes you kinda wonder
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Please tell me this wasn't one of those fake posts and we all got caught up in it? If not I agree with the other posters who said the parents are probably just trying to blow something out of proportion to find a way to leave your daycare for a cheaper/more convenient provider.
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Please tell me this wasn't one of those fake posts and we all got caught up in it? If not I agree with the other posters who said the parents are probably just trying to blow something out of proportion to find a way to leave your daycare for a cheaper/more convenient provider.
That's what I'm thinking.
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Seashell has been registered and relatively active here since 2009, though. She is post 15.
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Seashell has been registered and relatively active here since 2009, though. She is post 15.
It also looks like she hasn't been back to the site since about the time she posted this, so she doesn't realize folks are hoping for an update.
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