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Old 08-01-2013, 02:20 PM
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DCM I have had for almost 4 year texts me asking for a discount bc her DCK is going to preschool.

It only affects my services with her on Mondays.

I already discount her 1 day a week ($50 a week) bc DCKs don't come one day a week.

Her fee should be $250 week for an infant and preschool DCK. I only charge her $200.

My full time rate is 3 days per week or more and/or over 20 hours. The DCK will be here 3 days per week and 27 plus hours per week.

Why do these parents think we are "price negotiators"??

What would you say to DCM? and not sound horrible??

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Old 08-01-2013, 02:36 PM
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DCM I have had for almost 4 year texts me asking for a discount bc her DCK is going to preschool.

It only affects my services with her on Mondays.

I already discount her 1 day a week ($50 a week) bc DCKs don't come one day a week.

Her fee should be $250 week for an infant and preschool DCK. I only charge her $200.

My full time rate is 3 days per week or more and/or over 20 hours. The DCK will be here 3 days per week and 27 plus hours per week.

Why do these parents think we are "price negotiators"??

What would you say to DCM? and not sound horrible??

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I would remind mom that her rate is for three days a week and over 20 hours. Since she attends over that minimum, her rate will not change. And then I'd remind her she already gets a discount and that if shed like to find care elsewhere, you need your notice
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Old 08-01-2013, 02:41 PM
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I have learned that with some families, if you give an inch, they will take a mile. If you give in once, they will expect it again.

I stopped offering anything and even agreeing to anything outside of my contracts.

I just tell them that legally, if I give you a discount, I have to be fair and offer it to everyone else too or I could be found in a discrimination law suit, which I refuse to allow that to happen.

Adults act just like kids do at times. If you allow it once, they expect it again and if you say no, they will try to negotiate it with you. So in order to stop this from happening, it's no every time................just follow your contract......
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Old 08-01-2013, 02:43 PM
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What would you say to DCM? and not sound horrible??

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She wouldn't like me then because the kids that only attend part days/weeks actually get charged more than a regular attendee...

My reasons? It's too hard to fill the space around that kind of inconsistency.

When parents start making alternate/partial attendance arrangements their rate goes up.

If I were you, I might be sarcastic and tell her that if she can find a family willing to fill her gaps in attendance due to the DCK going to preschool, you'll cut her a break. If not, then her rate will be going up so you can accommodate the lower attendance status.

On a serious note, whenever a parent attempt to bargain with me about rates and such, I say something along the lines of "I understand that you are trying to save money where you can but I do not appreciate you feeling as though you can do that with my services. I offer quality care and expect parents to understand that is what they are paying for.

If you would prefer to have a cheaper daycare rate, I know a neighboring provider who parks the kids in front of the TV all day and provides discounted supervision for a really low rate. If you want her number, let me know. Your choice."


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She wouldn't like me then because the kids that only attend part days/weeks actually get charged more than a regular attendee...

My reasons? It's too hard to fill the space around that kind of inconsistency.

When parents start making alternate/partial attendance arrangements their rate goes up.

If I were you, I might be sarcastic and tell her that if she can find a family willing to fill her gaps in attendance due to the DCK going to preschool, you'll cut her a break. If not, then her rate will be going up so you can accommodate the lower attendance status.

On a serious note, whenever a parent attempt to bargain with me about rates and such, I say something along the lines of "I understand that you are trying to save money where you can but I do not appreciate you feeling as though you can do that with my services. I offer quality care and expect parents to understand that is what they are paying for.

If you would prefer to have a cheaper daycare rate, I know a neighboring provider who parks the kids in front of the TV all day and provides discounted supervision for a really low rate. If you want her number, let me know. Your choice."


.................then I smile really really big so that the parent isn't really sure if I am joking or if I am serious.

btw~ I am serious.
girrrlll I need to learn to say that....

I just did my first stint at using my BB big time and was shaking after the DCM left. Hours later I felt sooooo good though.....

I also charge a higher rate for PT.....
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Old 08-01-2013, 03:16 PM
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Tell her sure, after I raise your rate to the regular rate I will discount the rate to what you are paying now
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Tell her sure, after I raise your rate to the regular rate I will discount the rate to what you are paying now
girl you are on a funny role......... that's good...I will have to use that.....
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See I totally agree! In fact I pulled up your rate sheet BlackCat to see what you charge... DCM would probably crap herself.

This DCM tried to negotiate a cheaper rate last winter when the newborn began care. I told her that I already discount her rate and cannot go any lower. She gave me some attitude and said something like "what so I am paying for the day they don't attend" I said no you are paying a set rate and then added additional fees if she needed wednesdays.

I have lost several families in the past few months and have been without an income for 6 weeks HOLDING 4 spaces for these DCKs (3 different DCFs) without any fees (I know my fault) BUT then I get this message that she wants even more of a break. WHO is going to pay my bills??

I just know that when I respond I risk losing this family, but I keep telling myself- what will DCM want next?
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Old 08-01-2013, 03:27 PM
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do you have that letter BC posted about why DC is so expensive?

I know that you really want to keep this family. I have been in your shoes. BUT you have to take care of your first before you can take care of anyone else.

I would just tell DCM. Sorry, I only do one discount and I have already given it to you. I would tell her that you don't get your lights, food, water, etc discounted, so you can't possibly go any lower than that. I hate to have to say it, but you might have to tell her that if she can't afford your already discounted rates, then she should start looking for care else where......

It stinks that parents back us into these coroners sometimes. DON"T let them. You work hard and deserve every penny you charge....
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Old 08-01-2013, 03:33 PM
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Yes I have that letter nicely placed in my daycare forms folder- ready to whip out at any time .

I keep telling myself "Their problems are NOT my problems and I can only have 6 spaces" These spaces pay my bills.

Yet it is difficult, I have had this DCF for going on 4 years and hate to lose them, but I guess it is what it is.
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Yes I have that letter nicely placed in my daycare forms folder- ready to whip out at any time .

I keep telling myself "Their problems are NOT my problems and I can only have 6 spaces" These spaces pay my bills.

Yet it is difficult, I have had this DCF for going on 4 years and hate to lose them, but I guess it is what it is.
OMG 4 years you have been dealing with this???

I have a mom that is hard on me. BUT I find that the more I put my foot down, the more respect I get out of her. She thought she could push me around and I think she liked doing it too. As soon as I stood up for myself, she respected me more...

Just think about it like when you see on TV girls bully the younger or not so popular one.....the bully pushes them around until finally the one getting picked on stands up for herself and demands respect..........Everyone sees the new confidence and leaves the unpopular girl alone or they end up backing her............Sad that adults do this to each other, but don't let her bully you....Stand up for yourself....

besides I have a great left hook.....Ill be flying soon, I might drop in.....lol
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Tell her sure, after I raise your rate to the regular rate I will discount the rate to what you are paying now


This actually crossed my mind!

Along the lines of since you are changing the terms of our contract, You will now come in at a much higher rate and I will discount you to $$$. Oh thats what you are paying now and then some
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OMG 4 years you have been dealing with this???

I have a mom that is hard on me. BUT I find that the more I put my foot down, the more respect I get out of her. She thought she could push me around and I think she liked doing it too. As soon as I stood up for myself, she respected me more...

Just think about it like when you see on TV girls bully the younger or not so popular one.....the bully pushes them around until finally the one getting picked on stands up for herself and demands respect..........Everyone sees the new confidence and leaves the unpopular girl alone or they end up backing her............Sad that adults do this to each other, but don't let her bully you....Stand up for yourself....

besides I have a great left hook.....Ill be flying soon, I might drop in.....lol
LOL!! In reality this is a great DCM. She just has a hard time dealing with paying when the child is not in attendance! When I first started I did charge a daily rate. Then after not being able to make ends meet, I charged a per space fee, but didn't increase their rate. So DCF was here 4 days I just charged the daily rate X 4. That was 3 years ago. I sort of see what she is trying to do, but our latest contracts say "This is a weekly fee and fees are due regardless of child's attendance". The preschool DCK is sweet but can be a nightmare. Cries A LOT and makes herself vomit- almost on demand.

I just sent DCM a response. I just said they are attending full time and her rate per our contract will be the same.
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Yes I have that letter nicely placed in my daycare forms folder- ready to whip out at any time .

I keep telling myself "Their problems are NOT my problems and I can only have 6 spaces" These spaces pay my bills.

Yet it is difficult, I have had this DCF for going on 4 years and hate to lose them, but I guess it is what it is.
Here a couple motivational pictures. I have them both printed and pasted on one of my cupboard doors.

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Ok. So part time is 2 days a week?




Should've seen it coming.
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Ok. So part time is 2 days a week?




Should've seen it coming.
And you say " yes it is, and I'm sorry but I don't have any part time positions open right now" and end it there
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And you say " yes it is, and I'm sorry but I don't have any part time positions open right now" and end it there
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I just wanted to say I love ya'lllllll!!

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Thanks it means so much! I am so glad I can come here and get objective help. This job is by no means easy.
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Thanks it means so much! I am so glad I can come here and get objective help. This job is by no means easy.
NO it is not..........BUT most DCP think that it is soooo easy.....maybe because we make it look easy....lol
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Well I better start interviewing, gotta gut feeling this family will be gone.

BUT YAY for me for standing firm and getting paid what I deserve
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OMG- she won't stop texting me regarding rates. Its almost enough to say I am so done.
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just dont text back......I would leave it be and you can talk to her about it in person.............

I am closed for the day. so if anyone calls, text or emails me, I won't reply or answer it until my normal business hours resume....

gosh what a brat this women is being
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I would send one final text and let it go

"Daycare mom, I currently have no positions available and a change of days is not possible nor is a change in rate. If you are planning to find care elsewhere, please remember I need a two week notice. Have a great night"
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I would send one final text and let it go

"Daycare mom, I currently have no positions available and a change of days is not possible nor is a change in rate. If you are planning to find care elsewhere, please remember I need a two week notice. Have a great night"
Absolutely and stop responding. Things that aren't negotiable do not need to be replied to once you have given your final answer.
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OMG 4 years you have been dealing with this???

I have a mom that is hard on me. BUT I find that the more I put my foot down, the more respect I get out of her. She thought she could push me around and I think she liked doing it too. As soon as I stood up for myself, she respected me more...

Just think about it like when you see on TV girls bully the younger or not so popular one.....the bully pushes them around until finally the one getting picked on stands up for herself and demands respect..........Everyone sees the new confidence and leaves the unpopular girl alone or they end up backing her............Sad that adults do this to each other, but don't let her bully you....Stand up for yourself....

besides I have a great left hook.....Ill be flying soon, I might drop in.....lol
Yes!! I agree- if you stand up to her she may just back off! She has had her kids with you for 4 years for a reason
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Well didn't sleep last night. My mind was racing with this situation.

The last message from DCM was asking about daily rate. I haven't offered a daily rate in several years. I do however only offer a daily rate during the summer for teachers kids and if I take a personal day I deduct the amount for the day.

I feel I need to explain everything to DCM. I know, I know she has been a client for 4 years she KNOWS exactly what she is doing.

DCM really needs to get the "daily rate" out of her head. That is exactly what is confusing her.

How do I spell it our for her?

Do I remind her that in reality she should be paying $250/week so $200 is a steal for a licensed home?

I am past hurt and I am getting angry about this FOUR YEARS I have cared for this DCF and she is upset about $25?????

I am also irritated about the whole preschool thing. I mean around here registration is early May and she is just now telling me??? I have held a spot for her kids all summer and turned away several families.

I am not going to cave on this. She will either pay the rate or find someone else. I am worth it.
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I think I would give here a new contract with your CURRENT price options that you would give to any new client coming in. Let her know that your rates are not negotiable she can pick from the price options listed. If you are feeling really generous you can give her the option of the CURRENT prices offered to parents coming in, or she can continue at the rate she is at. There is no benefit to you to keep this family on when you can bring in another family at a higher rate. At the end of the year it means you have taken a cut in pay, so less money in your pocket to meet your family needs and more money in her pocket to spend on her family. The expenses to keep a daycare running go up not down. Wages tend to go up over the years, not down.

Is she aware she is getting a discount of $50 a week already, and is now asking for more? Would you rather have the extra $3750 (50 weeks x $75) in your families pocket at the end of the year or yours?
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I think I would give here a new contract with your CURRENT price options that you would give to any new client coming in. Let her know that your rates are not negotiable she can pick from the price options listed. If you are feeling really generous you can give her the option of the CURRENT prices offered to parents coming in, or she can continue at the rate she is at. There is no benefit to you to keep this family on when you can bring in another family at a higher rate. At the end of the year it means you have taken a cut in pay, so less money in your pocket to meet your family needs and more money in her pocket to spend on her family. The expenses to keep a daycare running go up not down. Wages tend to go up over the years, not down.

Is she aware she is getting a discount of $50 a week already, and is now asking for more? Would you rather have the extra $3750 (50 weeks x $75) in your families pocket at the end of the year or hers?
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I'd tell her if she wants to renegotiate her rates you'll be bringing her up to your current rate, with no discount, and it will end up costing her more since she's grandfathered in with a lower rate now.
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Oh been here and done it last year with a family! To make a long story short we kept having the "can I pay" debate on and off for a good week. I explained the rate. She would say ok. Then I would get an email/text/call asking the same question. It got to the point that I emailed her a final explosion and told her she could be paying XYZ, this is my current rate, this is what she is getting and what she could be paying elsewhere and if she thinks she can find better elsewhere let me know and I will fill her spots. Done. She didn't complain again.

They know what they are doing. They think if they keep pushing you will give.

Say enough is enough. I think you have explained it and I would no longer contact. And if she brought it up again in person I would clearly state I explained my rates. Done.

Then start interviewing.............

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I'd tell her if she wants to renegotiate her rates you'll be bringing her up to your current rate, with no discount, and it will end up costing her more since she's grandfathered in with a lower rate now.
THIS!!!!! ^^^^^


Any time someone wants to try and "negotiate" my rates with me and change up their schedule due to something like this...I tell them that their contract will be re-done at whatever the current rate is.

They ONLY get 2 choices. Remain at the exact same rate they were at (regardless of her reducing her hours because of preschool) OR they can re-sign a new contract with new rates applied.

THERE ARE NO OTHER OPTIONS.

If the mom continues asking about a daily rate, tell her you may have used to offer a daily rate but NOW you do things like THIS (give her your current rate scale).

DO NOT budge on this. She may have been a long standing client but it seems to me her longevity isn't based on any type of loyalty only that the situation has always worked for HER. The whole delay on telling you about preschool TELLS you that she will ALWAYS put her needs before yours.

NOT saying that is bad. Just saying you need to do the same.

YOUR needs (business wise, financially, mentally and emotionally) need to be YOUR priority.

Hand her two contracts. One with her old rate and one with the new one. Tell her to sign which ever one she is choosing and have it back to you by xxx date. (I'd give no more than 5 days). If she balks AT ALL, tell her there is a third option....she can give her two weeks notice.

Don't negotiate and don't give any other options. If she truly values everything you have done over the last 4 years, she'd be dumb to walk away.

If she does, then you will know that daycare works that way. Families put their needs first. You need to do the same. Guilt (by either party) should NEVER be in the mix.
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Well didn't sleep last night. My mind was racing with this situation.

The last message from DCM was asking about daily rate. I haven't offered a daily rate in several years. I do however only offer a daily rate during the summer for teachers kids and if I take a personal day I deduct the amount for the day.

I feel I need to explain everything to DCM. I know, I know she has been a client for 4 years she KNOWS exactly what she is doing.

DCM really needs to get the "daily rate" out of her head. That is exactly what is confusing her.

How do I spell it our for her?

Do I remind her that in reality she should be paying $250/week so $200 is a steal for a licensed home?

I am past hurt and I am getting angry about this FOUR YEARS I have cared for this DCF and she is upset about $25?????

I am also irritated about the whole preschool thing. I mean around here registration is early May and she is just now telling me??? I have held a spot for her kids all summer and turned away several families.

I am not going to cave on this. She will either pay the rate or find someone else. I am worth it.
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Weight.lifted.off.shoulders.

I did respond to DCM. I put it all out there. What she would be paying as a new client, what she is grandfathered into paying, that I only have 6 spaces, etc etc

I felt I was VERY professional and VERY clear. I know this DCM knows exactly what she is doing.

Blackcat- you are exactly right she IS trying to do whats best for HER and I am doing what is BEST FOR ME.

Stood my ground and grew a little bit stronger- gotta LOVE THAT!!

The only thing I am hesitant about was I gave her a deadline of Aug 7 to decide. I felt that if she is going to make changes I need to know asap so I can make adjustments. Her children don't even start back until mid August.

Thanks a million for all of your help!! I will keep you updated on how this turns out.
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Weight.lifted.off.shoulders.

I did respond to DCM. I put it all out there. What she would be paying as a new client, what she is grandfathered into paying, that I only have 6 spaces, etc etc

I felt I was VERY professional and VERY clear. I know this DCM knows exactly what she is doing.

Blackcat- you are exactly right she IS trying to do whats best for HER and I am doing what is BEST FOR ME.

Stood my ground and grew a little bit stronger- gotta LOVE THAT!!
The only thing I am hesitant about was I gave her a deadline of Aug 7 to decide. I felt that if she is going to make changes I need to know asap so I can make adjustments. Her children don't even start back until mid August.

Thanks a million for all of your help!! I will keep you updated on how this turns out.
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nothing like some backbone rubbing!!!!!

great job......I am horrible at using mine, but with the forms help and more confidence I am getting better. THe more we use our BB, the better we get at it and eventually it starts to just become a natural part of the process....
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Weight.lifted.off.shoulders.

I did respond to DCM. I put it all out there. What she would be paying as a new client, what she is grandfathered into paying, that I only have 6 spaces, etc etc

I felt I was VERY professional and VERY clear. I know this DCM knows exactly what she is doing.

Blackcat- you are exactly right she IS trying to do whats best for HER and I am doing what is BEST FOR ME.

Stood my ground and grew a little bit stronger- gotta LOVE THAT!!

The only thing I am hesitant about was I gave her a deadline of Aug 7 to decide. I felt that if she is going to make changes I need to know asap so I can make adjustments. Her children don't even start back until mid August.

Thanks a million for all of your help!! I will keep you updated on how this turns out.
You ARE worth it and there is no need for you to be "beaten down" into giving someone a lower rate. That's absurd.
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almost 10 hours later.... no response from DCM.

Guess I made her mad.
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She is too busy scrambling about calling around checking rates and seeing if she can find cheaper care, before she formulates her response If she can not find cheaper care you should get a polite response shortly.
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She is too busy scrambling about calling around checking rates and seeing if she can find cheaper care, before she formulates her response If she can not find cheaper care you should get a polite response shortly.
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Oh would it not be nice right now to have the phone ringing off the hook with clients looking for care, and have the ideal families show up for interviews. It would be nice to let current mom know her spaces had been filled with parents more than willing to pay your rates without hesitation.

One can dream right
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Oh would it not be nice right now to have the phone ringing off the hook with clients looking for care, and have the ideal families show up for interviews. It would be nice to let current mom know her spaces had been filled with parents more than willing to pay your rates without hesitation.

One can dream right
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So she hasn't responded at all about any of this?
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I'd love to know what she has said.
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No response.

Go figure. She is probably making calls and will let me know something Wednesday or AFTER.
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No response.

Go figure. She is probably making calls and will let me know something Wednesday or AFTER.
You gave her a Wednesday, August 7th deadline right?

No matter what, stick with it. Even if she calls the morning of the 8th. She NEEDS to be taught that YOU are the boss of YOUR business NOT her.

Sometimes NO amount of money is worth dealing with clients who treat you like dirt.
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You gave her a Wednesday, August 7th deadline right?

No matter what, stick with it. Even if she calls the morning of the 8th. She NEEDS to be taught that YOU are the boss of YOUR business NOT her.

Sometimes NO amount of money is worth dealing with clients who treat you like dirt.
Best advice I've ever received from this board. Definitely listen to BC.
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Yes she has until 4:30p on Wed August 7.

I plan on sending her a text at 4:31 if I had not heard anything and then be ready to move on.

I do already have ads out
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Well its Deadline Eve...... and nothing yet.
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Well its Deadline Eve...... and nothing yet.
Anything ???
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Anything ???
Sorry! Forget its a diff time zone- it's 10:10 here
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However this turns out, good for you. Either she will agree to abide by your terms or you will get a new family who is more respectful of your business and appreciates you.
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Well its Deadline Eve...... and nothing yet.
Seriously?

Well, atleast you know now that she likes to be the one in charge and you took that from her.

Sending good wishes your way for a quick fill of the space (with a client who actually respects you)!
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Today is the deadline. Still nothing. Obviously- DCM is ticked.

I have a slew of emotions right now.

I am feeling bad bc I know child care is expensive. (my bills still need paid)

I am feeling anxious bc of not knowing what this family is doing. (come on 4:30)

I am feeling sad bc I will miss the kids if they leave.

Most of all I am mad/hurt bc this is how she wants to be after 4 years??? and all of this is over $25 or one day the older DCK will not be here and yet will still be here full time status.

Have a feeling its going to be a long day.

Looking forward to being out of this limbo.
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Kup!!
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DRUM ROLL PLEASE..........

They are returning and at full time status!!!!!

YAY for me!!!

Deep cleansing breath and weight off my shoulders.
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DRUM ROLL PLEASE..........

They are returning and at full time status!!!!!

YAY for me!!!

Deep cleansing breath and weight off my shoulders.
I bet DCM called around and found that you aren't being difficult or over priced.....and then she weighed her options and figured out that it was in her (and her children'sO best interest to stay put.

GOOD JOB STANDING YOUR GROUND!!!!!! This is a great example of how enforcing your policies and not always bending works out EXACTLY like it is suppose to!
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DRUM ROLL PLEASE..........

They are returning and at full time status!!!!!

YAY for me!!!

Deep cleansing breath and weight off my shoulders.

Good for you!!!
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Hope this leads to a fresh start with greater respect
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