tenderhearts 01:10 PM 03-08-2017
Well after months of trying to shadow my 20 mo old biter, I have made that difficult decision to terminate care. I feel so horrible as I love the family and the little boy but being it's only me providing care it's proving to be quite difficult to shadow him constantly. The anxiety and stress and worry is too much. Plus over the last couple of months I can tell a few of my dc kids have really had a hard time with my focus being so focused on the biter and my quality time with the others has lacked.
I only I hope I am making the right decision, these are always so difficult for me. I think I will feel better once I give them the letter. Not sure how they will take it.
Unregistered 02:23 PM 03-08-2017
The second year I was open, I had a dcb that had issues and needed to be shadowed constantly. There are two of us, yet it was taking a toll on us and the other children. We were also worried about terming because we did like the family and the child. It was the best decision I made to term and noticed the difference with made with the relations between the other children and between the children and us. The main thing I took away from this experience was always do what is best for the whole group and myself because it will affect everything else. After this a added in my handbook regarding terming based on what is best for the whole group.
lovemydaycare0912 02:32 PM 03-08-2017
It's never easy to term or make the decision to do it. I believe it will be the right one for you and your group. It's hard to shadow a child when it's just you. You shouldn't have to work in worry or fear of what may happen if you have to step away for 3 seconds. Good for you and wish you the best. Just imagine all of us behind you when you term, that's what I did last year when I was scared out my behind to do it lol.
grandmom 03:17 PM 03-08-2017
Do what it takes to reduce your stress.
I can hear the tension and anxiety in your post. You're going to feel SO RELIEVED the first day this little one isn't in your care and you can focus on actually enjoying all of the children instead of protecting them.
tenderhearts 04:49 PM 03-08-2017
Thank you everyone for the support in this. I already feel a sense of relief. I do know it will be the best for everyone involved.
I gave her the letter so we shall see if I get a phone call later or if they will even bring him back, I don't know.