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Old 12-15-2015, 06:53 AM
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So my 15 mo dcb has started hitting. He's not doing it hard and it's not in retaliation. At first it appeared to be for no reason at all, but after a few days observing, and many interventions, I believe this has become his way of asking for attention or to play. My question for you all is, how do I teach a non verbal child the correct way to ask to play/for attention?
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Old 12-15-2015, 07:07 AM
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Use very simple cause and effect response. Often, adults and older kids inadvertently give attention to the hitting behavior with big reactions. (Eg: facial expressions, saying ouch, no hit, etc)

Instead, model soft hands and only give attention when the little one is soft. It doesn't happen overnight, but if you are consistent, he will learn that he only soft touches get a response from the other kids.
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Old 12-15-2015, 09:08 AM
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It's awesome that you've figured it out.

I generally just remind them "gentle hands" at that age, and then guide them with simple language. Say something like "you want to play....say play, please!"
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Old 12-16-2015, 11:20 AM
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Thanks guys! I was hoping you all would have a magic phrase to expedite this fun phase of his development...I guess I'll just have to keep intervening and redirecting. Every single time. 2o times a day, lol.
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Thanks guys! I was hoping you all would have a magic phrase to expedite this fun phase of his development...I guess I'll just have to keep intervening and redirecting. Every single time. 2o times a day, lol.
I teach every kid to say "help"

"Help" covers anything they need assistance with.
Including attention.

Both the 18 month olds and the 13 month old I have in care can say help clear enough that everyone understands and whomever can provide the "help" does so.
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Old 12-16-2015, 12:42 PM
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I teach every kid to say "help"

"Help" covers anything they need assistance with.
Including attention.

Both the 18 month olds and the 13 month old I have in care can say help clear enough that everyone understands and whomever can provide the "help" does so.
Thanks! I think he could manage that. He can say a few words already.
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I love these ideas! You can teach a sign for help too.
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Old 12-17-2015, 02:23 PM
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I love these ideas! You can teach a sign for help too.
I like that "help" could represent anything from fixing a toy, opening our toy cabinet, to play with me. I can usually tell what he wants but this way the other kids can too, and they really do care about each other. They'd be happy to "help".
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