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Starburst 04:33 PM 03-13-2013
Someone did a post about a term or word that people might find offensive or wouldn't say infront of their daycare kids or wouldn't allow daycare kids to say. So abvoiusly there are some words you won't allow kids to say like swear words, inappropraite names for body parts/funtions, and slang words that are sexist/racist/ target any particular group of people. But are there any words that can have negative associations or that aren't nesicarrly "swear words".

List of words I would not allow kids (or parents for that matter) to say at daycare:
Stupid
Retard
(as mentioned in the other post)
Dumb
Fat/Skinny
Hate
Ugly

Oh My God (since some families maybe offended by that as mentioned in the other post)
Gay (if calling someone or something that as an insult- people did that all the time in my hs and it really irritated me)
Weird (if trying to use it as a put down or judgement)
Poop (IDKY but I hate that word it sounds gross and kids like to say it at the worst times {like lunch}; not a fan of Doo-Doo or Doody either)
Bad (if used to discribe someone {not their behavior or choices but them})
Gangsta/Gangster/thug/Cholo/Chola (I cannot stand little gangster wannabes- and yet I like some rap music {some artists that are even considered gangster rappers})
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just_peachy 04:51 PM 03-13-2013
I know I'm kind of strict with my words, so I let a lot of them slide but MY kids can't say:

butt
fart
stupid
dumb
hate
fat
oh my God
bored/boring
feet (as a joke, they all know I'm not a feet kind of person, hah!)
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MarinaVanessa 05:07 PM 03-13-2013
Certain words used in certain contexts. If the child or person is using the word properly in context then I don't mind it so much:

Butt (I hurt my butt ... ok to say) (you're a butt/I'm going to kick your butt ... not ok)
Hate (I hate you ... not ok to say, if talking about history and one of the kids says that one group hated another group ... then it's ok for discussion)

Not ok ever:
Stupid
dumb
gay
Crap
Oh shoot, oh damn, oh crap
... anything used as a derogatory comment or made to insult someone or make them feel bad.

And weirdly enough I don't mind the word fart. It's a bodily function much like saying "I have to poop" or "I have to pee" .... "I have to fart" or "I farted" is ok with me as long as they say excuse me .

We have toilet words and bad words. Toilet words are the words that we shouldn't say to each other because they are hurtful but the words themselves aren't bad by themselves and bad words obviously words that look like this %$#& and are NEVER ok to say to ANYONE at ANY TIME.
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mrsnj 05:43 PM 03-13-2013
I also don't allow 'Eww" or "Yucky" at my table. To ME it is rude. If they don't like something they only need to say something like "No thank you" but to call food "Ewww nasty" when others are clearly eating or (or your host is sitting right there who made it) is just rude.
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frgsonmysox 05:57 PM 03-13-2013
We call them "negative" or "inappropriate" words here. We don't allow the standard curse words, of course. We also don't allow kids to say, "Oh my god" because we don't want to offend others. We are not Christians ourselves, but we are not trying to offend others so we can say, "OMG, Oh my goodness, Oh my gosh" instead.

We can't use mean words such as "stupid, dumb, gay, ugly, fat" ect. Any words that hurt someone else are not allowed in that context. Also, we don't use "inappropriate" words, like "poop, pee, penis, vagina ect" unless they are used in context. Sometimes the kids just like say the words over and over to be silly, and thats not allowed.

I also don't like "Can't" as in "I can't do it...". That phrase is not allowed. I have kids tell me they can't pick up the blocks. So I correct them, "You CAN do it, you are choosing not to". If they are having a hard time with something (like writing) and they say they can't do it, I correct them with, "Yes, you can. You are capable of doing anything you want, we just have to work harder". I tell my kids all the time they are smart.

I've recently banned, "I just wanna...." as it comes out of one of my kids mouths all day long, and it's not polite. I make her correct herself and use, "May I please..."
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Lucy 07:35 PM 03-13-2013
Can I just ask one thing here? What's wrong with "Oh shoot"? I have a little 3 yr old who tells me "don't say that! It's a bad word" if I ever say oh shoot. And she's not thinking that I'm saying s*h*i*t... she knows it's shoot. I was puzzled. What exactly is wrong with shoot?
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Starburst 09:25 PM 03-13-2013
Originally Posted by Lucy:
Can I just ask one thing here? What's wrong with "Oh shoot"? I have a little 3 yr old who tells me "don't say that! It's a bad word" if I ever say oh shoot. And she's not thinking that I'm saying s*h*i*t... she knows it's shoot. I was puzzled. What exactly is wrong with shoot?
It could be that if her parents don't let her play with guns at home or even if they do she is not allowed to say shoot or say that she is going to shoot at someone. Or it could be because that word just implies to harm or target someone and her parents told her that is not a nice word to use or that the word means something bad so she reasons 'not nice word = bad word'. 3 year olds can pick up words but not necessarly the context of how it is used or that some words can have double meanings like chute= tunnle/slide/drop. Some people also consider the saying "just shoot me" as a rude or even a swear phrase like 'eat/ bite me'.

But that is good to keep in mind to because I plan on having a star themed program and was going to give the kids in my program group names (based on age) and I was planning on calling the toddler group "the shooting stars"- so maybe I should rethink that (I also don't want them to think it is okay to shoot at me [since my name is Star] )
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Evansmom 09:53 PM 03-13-2013
I don't allow the kids to say shut up, stupid, gay, retard, or any of the regular offensive "bad" words obviously nor do I allow them to use descriptive words negatively or in a hurtful manner. Calling some one any name that they don't like is not allowed either.

Know what kids really really like? Rhyming words! If a kid here says something we don't allow we try to replace it with a silly made up rhyming word. Everyone cracks up, the lesson sticks and we have fun!

Besides its much much funnier to day "oh bing bing noodle" than "oh sh!t" anyway!!
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CedarCreek 05:15 AM 03-14-2013
I cringe when the kids say "poop" out of context. I tell then unless you need to go, don't say it.

Basically any offensive words, dumb, stupid, gay, retarded

I don't allow the boys to tease the others about "acting like a girl" this happens a lot here in Texas.

I also don't like "can't". I need a reason.

Or kill. When we go outside, we always end up playing "monster" and of course one of the boys usually will start to try to play fight and "kill" the monster. I always redirect at that point.
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GoodKarma 05:26 AM 03-14-2013
I don't like anything negative, derogatory, rude or mean, so every one else has already mentioned most of them. One that I didn't see yet is " shut up".
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Springdaze 05:32 AM 03-14-2013
I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?
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CedarCreek 05:36 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Springdaze:
I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?
That cracked me up!

I dont allow that either!
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Luna 05:38 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Springdaze:
I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?

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just_peachy 05:48 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by CedarCreek:

I don't allow the boys to tease the others about "acting like a girl" this happens a lot here in Texas.
OOH, that's a really good one! I agree! Any sex separation comments aren't allowed. "That's a girl color" or "No boys allowed..." nope, none of that stuff flies here. In fact, a lot of the girls started wearing princess dresses during our music time to dance. The boys thought it looked fun (and it is! Spinning around in floofy dresses,) so they wanted to join. Now I'll have my group of 5, 3 girls and 2 boys all wearing dresses and dancing and no one bats an eye.

I sent parents a pic to gauge their reaction and they all thought it was adorable.
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Evansmom 06:07 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by GoodKarma:
I don't like anything negative, derogatory, rude or mean, so every one else has already mentioned most of them. One that I didn't see yet is " shut up".
I listed shut up and I agree I think it's said far too often, it may just be how I was brought up not to say it but it really raises the hairs on my neck to hear kids saying this. If you need someone to stop talking a simple "please be quiet" or even less polite just "be quiet" is much better IMO.

CedarCreek I agree! I also will not allow anyone to say ".... Like a girl" as in "scream like a girl" or "throw like a girl". I take great offense at that as a feminist. And both my boys know this well! Then again the poor guys are often subjected to my "women are not to be objectified!" rants. Lol!

Also I don't allow the word gay to be used derogatorily. Descriptively yes. But not negatively. We call it "the G word".
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Blackcat31 06:41 AM 03-14-2013
I had a DCM several years back that was VERY upset when she heard someone say "Bless you" to her child after he sneezed.
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jenn 07:01 AM 03-14-2013
Stupid, shut up, idiot, sucks (This sucks!), cuss words,...I'm sure there are more, but that's what I can think of.
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Unregistered 07:07 AM 03-14-2013
Okay, mine is going to be a little different,

Most of my "not allowed" words have already been listed for my 5 and under day group, but i have 2 of my own SA children plus two more, ages 12, 10, 8, 6. Most of my list comes from my 10y son, but here it goes....

Your Face! (Need i say more)
Thats Gay
Uhhhh God, Uhhhh gosh, geeze, etc.
I Hate That! (No, you dislike it)
Don't Look at Me!

Obama (i dont even get it but apparently it goes with anything)
Obama Mama!
I'll call Obama!
You look like Obama!

Terd
Worm
Brat
Shut up
GET OUTTA MY ROOM!

NARKS (Okay, i know this is not that bad but he was using it every other sentence, THANK YOU DISNEY CHANNEL, now it is banned)

About a million more as he seems to make up more things to say as i ban them, mostly directed at his sister not daycare children so it is slightly different, but not okay, she is 12 and can handle herself well though.
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CedarCreek 07:46 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by just_peachy:
OOH, that's a really good one! I agree! Any sex separation comments aren't allowed. "That's a girl color" or "No boys allowed..." nope, none of that stuff flies here. In fact, a lot of the girls started wearing princess dresses during our music time to dance. The boys thought it looked fun (and it is! Spinning around in floofy dresses,) so they wanted to join. Now I'll have my group of 5, 3 girls and 2 boys all wearing dresses and dancing and no one bats an eye.

I sent parents a pic to gauge their reaction and they all thought it was adorable.
The boys here frequently dress up in the princess clothes! They just think its fun.

Once,I had a dcd come to pick up his dcb while he was running around in a yellow Belle skirt and a snow white red bow.

dcd: "Boy, you need to take that girl stuff off and pick up a sword or something"

He said this while laughing so I didn't go too hard on him.

Me: "Oh, Dad. He's just having fun dressing up."
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Evansmom 08:49 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Okay, mine is going to be a little different,

Most of my "not allowed" words have already been listed for my 5 and under day group, but i have 2 of my own SA children plus two more, ages 12, 10, 8, 6. Most of my list comes from my 10y son, but here it goes....

Your Face! (Need i say more)
Thats Gay
Uhhhh God, Uhhhh gosh, geeze, etc.
I Hate That! (No, you dislike it)
Don't Look at Me!

Obama (i dont even get it but apparently it goes with anything)
Obama Mama!
I'll call Obama!
You look like Obama!

Terd
Worm
Brat
Shut up
GET OUTTA MY ROOM!

NARKS (Okay, i know this is not that bad but he was using it every other sentence, THANK YOU DISNEY CHANNEL, now it is banned)

About a million more as he seems to make up more things to say as i ban them, mostly directed at his sister not daycare children so it is slightly different, but not okay, she is 12 and can handle herself well though.

I like these! I have teens and I hear a lot of this too. The other one you didn't mention that I have banned (sounds funny but...) is AMAZING!!! ARGH!! Thanks probably to Disney too the one and only adjective I hear coming from the teens is "amazing". There. Are. SO. Many. Other. Good. Adjectives!!

We have a teacher at the middle school here who banned the word in her class and put up posters in the room listing tons of other words the kids could use instead
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Starburst 09:28 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Springdaze:
I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?


lol It's good to remind the parents there are some things they aren't allowed to say in daycare too
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Starburst 09:34 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Okay, mine is going to be a little different,

Most of my "not allowed" words have already been listed for my 5 and under day group, but i have 2 of my own SA children plus two more, ages 12, 10, 8, 6. Most of my list comes from my 10y son, but here it goes....

Your Face! (Need i say more)
Thats Gay
Uhhhh God, Uhhhh gosh, geeze, etc.
I Hate That! (No, you dislike it)
Don't Look at Me!

Obama (i dont even get it but apparently it goes with anything)
Obama Mama!
I'll call Obama!
You look like Obama!

Terd
Worm
Brat
Shut up
GET OUTTA MY ROOM!

NARKS (Okay, i know this is not that bad but he was using it every other sentence, THANK YOU DISNEY CHANNEL, now it is banned)
Lol Im guily of saying 'your face' when I was a teen (or maybe even just a few years ago), but don't say it much any more. I also would say "Your mom goes to college" and "your mom wears army boots" (I think I got those from napoleon dynomite) I have also used as a joking comeback to someone (not infront of kids) "your mother knits socks of hate" (yeah, I have a lot of free time on my hands to make up things that don't really make sense)- so just some more things you may need to band in the future.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:57 AM 03-14-2013
I have one child that just began here and he uses quite a few.

I don't allow them to do a dramatic sigh at me when I ask them to do something (they say, "Yes ma'am!"), say butt, loser, na na na na boo boo, oh my God, stupid, crap, hate, etc. I also don't allow whining.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:58 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Starburst:
Lol Im guily of saying 'your face' when I was a teen (or maybe even just a few years ago), but don't say it much any more. I also would say "Your mom goes to college" and "your mom wears army boots" (I think I got those from napoleon dynomite) I have also used as a joking comeback to someone (not infront of kids) "your mother knits socks of hate" (yeah, I have a lot of free time on my hands to make up things that don't really make sense)- so just some more things you may need to band in the future.
"Your Mom" jokes got banned in this household as soon as I met my soon-to-be-ex husband. His Mom died of AIDS and he would be very offended by people saying your mom jokes.
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DaisyMamma 10:07 AM 03-14-2013
Perhaps a little OT, but I don't allow the SA kids to cry when they pretend their babies. It drives me crazy!
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Sugar Magnolia 10:57 AM 03-14-2013
" MINE! " ....if it is screamed as they grab something
"GIMME THAT!" if it is screamed at someone possessing object wanted by.the.screamer
I wish I had a tape recording that.says "That is not yours, it belongs to all of us, we .share or wait our turn"
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MissK 11:16 AM 03-14-2013
All of the above! lol I also can't stand dangit or darnit - sure, they're not swear words, but they're also not allowed in my house
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Lucy 11:20 AM 03-14-2013
Originally Posted by Starburst:
It could be that if her parents don't let her play with guns at home or even if they do she is not allowed to say shoot or say that she is going to shoot at someone. Or it could be because that word just implies to harm or target someone and her parents told her that is not a nice word to use or that the word means something bad so she reasons 'not nice word = bad word'. 3 year olds can pick up words but not necessarly the context of how it is used or that some words can have double meanings like chute= tunnle/slide/drop. Some people also consider the saying "just shoot me" as a rude or even a swear phrase like 'eat/ bite me'.

But that is good to keep in mind to because I plan on having a star themed program and was going to give the kids in my program group names (based on age) and I was planning on calling the toddler group "the shooting stars"- so maybe I should rethink that (I also don't want them to think it is okay to shoot at me [since my name is Star] )
Hadn't thought of the gun element of that word.

For your toddler group, how about "Bright Stars"?
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WImom 11:59 AM 03-14-2013
All of the above and "What the".

I have two kids that are always saying that. I guess I just don't like what the next word could be.
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frgsonmysox 12:13 PM 03-14-2013
"what the" is banned in my home too. All my kids and my daycare kids have picked it up, and all of them are now working on not saying it. I feel the absence of a curse word, when it is implied, is just as bad.
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Michelle 12:37 PM 03-14-2013
I am not sure but I might be late tonight... make sure they are fed dinner!

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Country Kids 01:27 PM 03-14-2013
What the (big pet peeve of mine, did I mention =BIG. I think they pick it up from cartoons because thats where I have heard it the most)

crap
shut up
OMG
Pee-like nails on a chalkboard
I can't-UUGGHH you can
No-when being defiant
I'm sorry-when they don't mean it
Fart-just say excuse me
stupid

I'm sure if I thought about it, it might be the size of a small dictionary.
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KDC 01:47 PM 03-14-2013
"I see london, I see France... I see Ms. K's underpants. You all know that one "

"I'm rubber and you're glue, whatever you says bounces off me and sticks to you"... another oldie but goodie.

Aww, Stinks
Stinker butt
biscuit butt
Jerk
dork
any potty words used for something other than going potty - which includes working the word 'butt' into songs.

My daycare 'naughty' word is nuggets. Aww, Nuggets. They've started using my 'swear' word at their houses, oops... good it's a safe one!
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Starburst 12:10 AM 03-15-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I had a DCM several years back that was VERY upset when she heard someone say "Bless you" to her child after he sneezed.
My psychology teacher was a seventh day adventist (doesn't really have to do with anything but he mentioned it before). He said he doesn't say 'bless you' when people sneeze because the reason people started saying that when you sneeze is because your heart skips a beat when you sneeze and in the old days people thought that when you sneeze the devil was trying to take your soul out of your body through your mouth and nose (or something like that). So they would say "bless you" to make sure the devil didn't take your soul (like on Dora when they say "Swiper, no swiping"). So he said he doesn't say it for that because people only do it because it is a learned habit that was created on misinformation. He says he will tell people "God bless you" anyway, but just not when they sneeze only out of a repititious learned habit. I think it also has to do with that thing about only praying what is in your heart and not praying in vain- I read somewhere that while it is okay to say the lords prayer if you truely mean it, it is kind of pointless in churches making people memorize it and pray it in vein repetition everyday unless the person truely is praying for it because it was just supposed to be an example of how to pray and also that you aren't supposed to say the same exact prayers everyday (Mathew 6:7).

Man we have been talking about religion/religion-like topics alot on this board this week
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Starburst 12:18 AM 03-15-2013
Originally Posted by Lucy:
Hadn't thought of the gun element of that word.

For your toddler group, how about "Bright Stars"?
Well, my infant group is going to be called "twinkling stars" (kinda close to 'bright stars'). With all my age groups I have a star themed name and logos for tee shirts and advertisements- I remember we had these in gymnastics when I was a kid and I loved it. There is a picture is on my private photo album with all my group names and logos.

Edited to add:
Maybe "bursting stars" might work thats the only other thing I can think of that would fit the logo. I might just keep 'shooting stars' anyway because most people call them shooting stars anyway.
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Orie 05:12 AM 03-15-2013
Originally Posted by CedarCreek:
That cracked me up!

I dont allow that either!
Yes, this should be on the list!
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kendallina 01:18 PM 03-15-2013
My MWF class has started this "head" thing. I have no idea how it got started, but they all do it now and it drives me (and their parents nuts). They'll say,

"I knocked my head off"
"I knocked your head off"
"I'm a head head"
I'll say, "what did you have for breakfast?" one of them will say, "Head head."

These are 4 year olds and they all think it's hilarious. They are super good kids and everyone laughs about it, but it grates on my nerves and I don't allow them to answer a question that I ask with, "head". Weirdos. lol
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