So yesterday my 2 yr old dcg scratched my dcb 3 yr olds face and a little on his neck. Yup, it was ugly, yes I separated them then for the entire day and now she will be my shadow. . The boys try to take things from her sometimes and she grabs them and squeezes and this is the result. The dcb did not cry at all, everything was fine except for the marks left behind. Unfortunately, this is like the 3rd time this has happened to him by this girl. I texted mom a picture right away and she said she knows things happen and for me not to get upset and that they will talk to him about sharing too etc. Then last night she texted me about a couple of non-daycare stuff. Everything was fine. . This morning she calls me and says he's not coming today that when she said they were going to my house he got really upset and she just couldn't bring him today. She wasn't going to "force" him to come, so grandma is coming today. She also says that he has a scratch by his eye and his eye is a little swollen so he may have to go to the dr. I didn't see any by his eye. I'll attach a picture. She said that she told him that he has to go back to my house tomorrow. He's a 4 day a weeker and I love this family and him. Any ideas on what I can do? I've told her that I'm going to keep them separate and make her go where I go for awhile, but man if he does come back and it happens again, they'll be done for sure. What do you guys think? I pray they come back. Any ideas on what I should do at this point?

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I had this same problem. This little girls nails were always long and when she scratched, it looked horrible. The victims mom would get really upset and all i could really do is tell her i would talk to the childs parents and that she scratches because he takes her toy away. I would tell the scratchers parents that they must keep her nails cut or she would have to wear gloves.

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I'm really worried that they're going to pull him. She said hahaha no way! I would keep you forever if I could. So I'm hoping it was just a bad morning and he'll be back tomorrow. She is wearing mittens right now lol I put them on yesterday after it happened and have been watching her like a hawk! So how did your situation turn out? Did they keep the nails cut short? Did she still try to scratch?

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They didnt always keep them cut and every time she scratched i would make her parents feel bad for it by telling them that the mom of dcb was really upset. It annoyed me that they knew she was scratching but didnt make sure her nails were cut before daycare. Eventually as she got older, she didnt scratch anymore but i ended up terming the dcb victim because mom was just too much to handle for other things. She made a big deal about everything and i felt she would be a liability some day.
Tell this childs parents they need to make sure their nails are cut before daycare because they have been injuring other children and you cant have that.

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Did you talk to the DCG's parents?
Were her nails too long? Did the parents clip them?

I'm curious about what the aggressors parents said/did/reacted to this?

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I texted her parents right away too and sent them a pic. They were both very upset about it and said that sometimes she gets upset at home with them and like grabs them with her hand. Kinda like a palm pinch if that makes sense, but she's never sunk her nails in, but that they would trim her nails and put her in time out if she grabs them at home like that.

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This is the 3rd time though.....I'm surprised the parents aren't all over it and making sure her nails are trimmed super short. Sending her to time out isn't a solution for her. It's a punishment and most kids don't learn via punishment.

She needs to be taught a more appropriate way of asking for toys or communicating her needs. That is what I was wonder in regards to her parents.

How does she ask for things at home? Is she simply given what she wants, when she wants it?

I know she is only 2 but I just couldn't accept a response like that from a parent... time out is okay for older kids but I find it completely useless when the child isn't taught an alternative to the unwanted behaviors.

Time out should be a punishment for when kids KNOW better but are still making bad choices.

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Ugh, I know it’s frustrating when things keep happening.

I’d definitely insist that the scratcher’s nails are cut short, and inspect them at drop off. Also the shadowing.

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