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Old 04-22-2016, 10:35 AM
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I had an interview a few weekends ago. It was odd.

Mom emailed to set up a playdate. I told her, just like I did during the interview, that I don't offer those for safety and privacy issues. I understood that her comfort in choosing a provider involved that but it isn't something I offer.

Today she emailed about parent orientation. Um, that was the interview.

I do not want this woman as a client.

Please help me word something polite but blunt so she stops asking to come and hang out.
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Old 04-22-2016, 10:47 AM
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How about:

After consideration, I do not feel that you would be a good fit. Best of luck on your search!
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Old 04-22-2016, 10:51 AM
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I had an interview a few weekends ago. It was odd.

Mom emailed to set up a playdate. I told her, just like I did during the interview, that I don't offer those for safety and privacy issues. I understood that her comfort in choosing a provider involved that but it isn't something I offer.

Today she emailed about parent orientation. Um, that was the interview.

I do not want this woman as a client.

Please help me word something polite but blunt so she stops asking to come and hang out.

Dear Parent

As discussed in the interview, I do not offer parent observations or "play dates" as the privacy of ALL children and families currently enrolled is a priority at ABC Daycare.

I understand that as a parent, this may not be something that makes sense but it is non-negotiable and not something I am willing to discuss further.

At this time, I do not feel that my program is the right fit for your needs. Attached is the number/contact info for the local Child Care Resource and Referral offices. Perhaps they can be of assistance in locating care arrangements that will meet your needs.

Sincerely

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Old 04-22-2016, 10:52 AM
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How about:

After consideration, I do not feel that you would be a good fit. Best of luck on your search!
less words = less room for further discussion
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Old 04-22-2016, 01:07 PM
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I was going to say just tell her the spot has been filled.
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Old 04-22-2016, 02:13 PM
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I was going to do that.... but I'm still advertising on sites that she is a member of and didn't want any awkward convos. Anyways, I sent it, she replied, and it's done!
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Old 04-22-2016, 02:18 PM
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After consideration, I do not feel that you would be a good fit. Best of luck on your search!
I think this is perfect, less is always more!
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Old 04-25-2016, 11:14 AM
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I can understand why parents want to come visit.I hated it to.I would let them come visit while we were outside at the end of the day.I made sure the time was well before parents showed up . The kids had run around time so they usually were not all over the new child.
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Old 04-25-2016, 11:32 AM
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Sounds like she thinks you operate like a center.

Both of those are things we require, as a center.

I'm not arguing your decision not to take her on, it may just be that she has only dealt with centers in the past and doesn't know how home daycare works.
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Old 04-25-2016, 11:34 AM
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Sounds like she thinks you operate like a center.

Both of those are things we require, as a center.

I'm not arguing your decision not to take her on, it may just be that she has only dealt with centers in the past and doesn't know how home daycare works.
She brought a friend to the interview who asked all the questions. Questions that makes me think that she either works at a centre or has been through one.

Either way, it was a weird vibe for many reasons and I told her twice during the interview that I don't offer visits. Then she emailed twice about organizing one. She seemed like more work than I am prepared for.
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Old 04-25-2016, 11:36 AM
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She brought a friend to the interview who asked all the questions. Questions that makes me think that she either works at a centre or has been through one.

Either way, it was a weird vibe for many reasons and I told her twice during the interview that I don't offer visits. Then she emailed twice about organizing one. She seemed like more work than I am prepared for.
I feel ya
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Dear Parent

As discussed in the interview, I do not offer parent observations or "play dates" as the privacy of ALL children and families currently enrolled is a priority at ABC Daycare.

I understand that as a parent, this may not be something that makes sense but it is non-negotiable and not something I am willing to discuss further.

At this time, I do not feel that my program is the right fit for your needs. Attached is the number/contact info for the local Child Care Resource and Referral offices. Perhaps they can be of assistance in locating care arrangements that will meet your needs.

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I know this is really old, but I almost just snorted out my hot lemon water reading the sign-off.
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Old 10-23-2017, 09:18 AM
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She brought a friend to the interview who asked all the questions. Questions that makes me think that she either works at a centre or has been through one.

Either way, it was a weird vibe for many reasons and I told her twice during the interview that I don't offer visits. Then she emailed twice about organizing one. She seemed like more work than I am prepared for.
See I don't allow people to bring friends or other family adult family members to interviews, only the Parents/Guardians; they show up with someone tagging along (or without baby, unless it's not born), I cancel the meeting on the spot... it shows they already don't respect my policies which they were asked to read on my website before contacting me. I clearly spell out how to set up their interview and it's on BOTH the contact page & FAQ's page. I also explain why I don't allow outsiders to attend.
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I know this is really old, but I almost just snorted out my hot lemon water reading the sign-off.
I know...I wheezed laughing.
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