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EntropyControlSpecialist 07:56 AM 02-15-2013
I am so frustrated. I can't express that to you enough. I have all 3-5 year olds (with two 2.5-year-olds) if that helps to know.

I have had one child since he was 2.5 He bit back then and I finally got that stopped. He pushed, he hit, he tackled, etc. It would go through phases and not all be at the same time. He is now 3 years and 2 months old and every single day he shoves kids to the ground and laughs hysterically thinking it's a game (DESPITE going to time out every single time he does so and getting told hands are for hugging NOT for pushing) and he will randomly tackle kids if I have my back turned for a second to prepare lunch, use the restroom, etc. If he does it during Center Time I now have him play with tabletop toys on the table so that he cannot physically interact with the other children. It is getting dangerous because they fall near wall corners, chairs, etc. It happens at outdoor play as well and all I can really do is put him in time out every single time (yesterday it happened 3 times during outdoor play in both the morning and afternoon)!

I have tried talking to the parents. They tried increasing wrestling time at home. It slightly curbed the behavior but now it is back full force. I asked them this week to talk to him daily before coming to keep his hands to himself. I review the rules HOURLY that we do not touch our friends. Seriously, hourly. I have him say, "I will not touch my friends." or "I am a good listener." or "I will make good choices!"

I am pregnant and so very tired. It is made worse by repeating myself and it having no effect and to add to the matter I also have an almost 5.5-year-old here who does SIMILAR things (not the same, though). What would you do?!


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Country Kids 08:22 AM 02-15-2013
I have no advice as I have the same issue here with one of mine. The parents and I have tried everything but I think mine is picking up alot from older siblings but when they do something here, they get this mad face and they get aggresive.

I'm starting to see this more and more with boys and it really makes me wonder why?
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:00 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by Country Kids:
I have no advice as I have the same issue here with one of mine. The parents and I have tried everything but I think mine is picking up alot from older siblings but when they do something here, they get this mad face and they get aggresive.

I'm starting to see this more and more with boys and it really makes me wonder why?
Mine will do it when both happy and mad. The parents really haven't tried everything, I think they view it more as "my problem" since they don't have this problem at home due to having no other children.

I will have 2 spots to fill in the fall and I WILL NOT take anymore boys. I absolutely refuse. Today I have some children absent, but I do have 4 girls here and 3 boys. The 4 girls have had no issues this morning beyond a tiny bit of whining but 2 of the 3 boys have been in time out several times.
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dEHmom 09:00 AM 02-15-2013
My own boys (5 and 7) know better, but every time afterschool a dcb age 7 comes, they all start wrestling and running around. I put them in time out as well, which helps for a few minutes and that's that. I feel ya hunny! Sometimes they fall asleep during time out which tells me they are tired!
The thing that bothers me more is the bickering they do.

Let me know if you find something that works, cause I would love to hear it too!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:03 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by dEHmom:
My own boys (5 and 7) know better, but every time afterschool a dcb age 7 comes, they all start wrestling and running around. I put them in time out as well, which helps for a few minutes and that's that. I feel ya hunny! Sometimes they fall asleep during time out which tells me they are tired!
The thing that bothers me more is the bickering they do.

Let me know if you find something that works, cause I would love to hear it too!
I finally got too tired myself so I have been making him shadow me.
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dEHmom 09:06 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I finally got too tired myself so I have been making him shadow me.
i have a 1 yr old shadow, as in my post "need advice on mean 1 yr old"
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Country Kids 09:13 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I finally got too tired myself so I have been making him shadow me.
I seriously can't shadow 5-6 kids and they all have a different issue that needs to be addressed constantly for!
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cheerfuldom 09:17 AM 02-15-2013
If he is really this bad and you have done everything you could, I would term. Its just not safe for the other kids (or even you!) to have this tiny terror in care. There is nothing more you can besides providing one on one care for this child. He obviously needs CONSTANT supervision and redirection. He is not the right fit for your program. You should let him go before someone gets seriously hurt.
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SuperNinjaMommy 09:23 AM 02-15-2013
I had a dcb who I absolutely could not keep him from being aggressive with others. What I started doing was having him keep a hula hoop with him. When he walked he was to carry it around him and when he stopped to play it would rest around him on the floor. This demonstrated to him personal space with him still being able to interact. After about a week, he was much better about personal space and even though we had to have reminders it wasn't every 5 minutes which was a huge relief.
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Hunni Bee 10:29 AM 02-15-2013
Im dealing with this exact same problem right now. But it's with a 4.5 year old, and it beginning to look an awful lot like bullying. He's the biggest kid in the class, significantly behind in some areas and just so aggressive. He pushes down, punches, kicks, calls names, grabs toys - everything.

There are 20 kids in thr room, so i can't shadow just him. I'm almost hoping the other parents complain. This is a high end preschool, so no one is ever termed .
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coolconfidentme 11:52 AM 02-15-2013
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
What would you do?!

Why put up with it? Term him. The others may copy that behavior.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 12:07 PM 02-15-2013
I'm putting up with it right now because I'm afraid some clients will leave when I announce my pregnancy. I am the ONLY person who supports myself, my son, and this baby right now.

I think I'll announce it next week (12 weeks) to see if anyone leaves and go from there.
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