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rmc20021 05:00 AM 04-02-2013
Well...dcm, you know...the one who only showed up two days last week without calling or anything on the other two days???
The one where the dcb told me last week he was going to (and named off another daycare) and dcm told me they would see me Monday, then never showed up???
Well, guess who shows up on my doorstep this morning pounding on my door!!!
And guess who didn't answer the door?
None of my dck's are going to be here today so I decided yesterday I was going to make plans when I found out they all had other plans today themselves.
I'm NOT going to change MY plans for a dcm who doesn't have enough respect to let me know what is going on. Wonder how SHE likes it!!! No call, No text...no nothing.
The one where the dcb told me last week he was going to (and named off another daycare) and dcm told me they would see me Monday, then never showed up???
Well, guess who shows up on my doorstep this morning pounding on my door!!!
And guess who didn't answer the door?
None of my dck's are going to be here today so I decided yesterday I was going to make plans when I found out they all had other plans today themselves.
I'm NOT going to change MY plans for a dcm who doesn't have enough respect to let me know what is going on. Wonder how SHE likes it!!! No call, No text...no nothing.
BumbleBee 05:09 AM 04-02-2013
Enjoy your day!
Meeko 05:28 AM 04-02-2013
I am SO proud of you! 
EntropyControlSpecialist 05:49 AM 04-02-2013
Smart lady!So, she still hasn't said anything?!
hope 05:59 AM 04-02-2013
Wow, good for you!!!! Enjoy your day!
Zoe 06:06 AM 04-02-2013
Awesome! Good for you!
The sad thing is she sounds like the type who won't get why you didn't answer the door.
Good for you! The sad thing is she sounds like the type who won't get why you didn't answer the door.
MrsSteinel'sHouse 06:12 AM 04-02-2013
good for you!
momofsix 06:16 AM 04-02-2013
Good for you!!!
wahmof3 06:18 AM 04-02-2013
Whoo-Hoo enjoy your day!!
ABCDaycareMN 06:29 AM 04-02-2013
Good for you, enjoy your day!
daycarediva 06:36 AM 04-02-2013
Ohhh boy I would have answered that door! "Oh sorry dcm, dcb told me he was going to XYZ daycare and since he was a no call, no show I filled his position."
KnoxMom 06:38 AM 04-02-2013
Everybody will probably jump on me for saying this, but I don't agree that you should stoop to her level. I understand the whole 'taste of her own medicine' approach, but that doesn't make it right. I am happy that you have the day off, but if she hasn't given you notice that she was leaving you should still maintain your professionalism (regardless of your feelings). Perhaps even a quick text this morning or last night saying "Reminder parents, I will be closed 4/2 as discussed. See you all Wednesday!" (then it's completely her own fault for being absent without notice and missing the memo). I personally would have answered the door to let her know I was closed for the day. Idk, maybe I'm over analyzing the difference between backbone and revenge. I'm learning to not be so black and white but I still struggle with gray areas at times. Anyway, enjoy your day! After all the headache I'm sure it was needed :-)
Blackcat31 06:40 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
Ohhh boy I would have answered that door! "Oh sorry dcm, dcb told me he was going to XYZ daycare and since he was a no call, no show I filled his position."
I agree. I think DCM was completely disrespectful by not calling or communicating her needs to you but I think I would definitely have answered the door and told her that I was not caring for her children and told her exactly why. Ohhh boy I would have answered that door! "Oh sorry dcm, dcb told me he was going to XYZ daycare and since he was a no call, no show I filled his position."
Knoxmom...we must have been posting at the same time.
KnoxMom 07:02 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I agree. I think DCM was completely disrespectful by not calling or communicating her needs to you but I think I would definitely have answered the door and told her that I was not caring for her children and told her exactly why.
Knoxmom...we must have been posting at the same time.
Great minds think alike! I agree. I think DCM was completely disrespectful by not calling or communicating her needs to you but I think I would definitely have answered the door and told her that I was not caring for her children and told her exactly why.
Knoxmom...we must have been posting at the same time.
Kym2098 08:04 AM 04-02-2013
MarinaVanessa 08:15 AM 04-02-2013
Wow I really expected her not to show. Non communication for me is a no-no for me and I would have done the same as above. I don't see anything wrong with what the provider did because had the DCM shown up yesterday like she had originally said then the provider could have discussed whether she was coming to daycare today or not and let her know that none of the other families would be coming for the day. But the parent didn't. The parent thought that apparently it is ok to show up if and when she wants without communication. DCM could have even called yesterday to tell the provider that she wouldn't be coming yesterday and the provider could have discussed whether or not she was needed today, but again she didn't.
I don't feel that it is my responsibility to call or contact my clients to check to see whether or not they are coming. It's their responsibility.
I don't feel that it is my responsibility to call or contact my clients to check to see whether or not they are coming. It's their responsibility.
AmyKidsCo 08:26 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by MarinaVanessa:
I don't feel that it is my responsibility to call or contact my clients to check to see whether or not they are coming. It's their responsibility.
I don't feel that it is my responsibility to call or contact my clients to check to see whether or not they are coming. It's their responsibility.
ITA, but in WI we HAVE to call parents if their children don't arrive at their normal time without prior notification. Somehow it's MY responsibility to make sure a parent doesn't forget their child in a car.
Lyss 08:30 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by Meeko:
I am SO proud of you!
I am SO proud of you!
nanglgrl 08:33 AM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by MarinaVanessa:
Wow I really expected her not to show. Non communication for me is a no-no for me and I would have done the same as above. I don't see anything wrong with what the provider did because had the DCM shown up yesterday like she had originally said then the provider could have discussed whether she was coming to daycare today or not and let her know that none of the other families would be coming for the day. But the parent didn't. The parent thought that apparently it is ok to show up if and when she wants without communication. DCM could have even called yesterday to tell the provider that she wouldn't be coming yesterday and the provider could have discussed whether or not she was needed today, but again she didn't.
I don't feel that it is my responsibility to call or contact my clients to check to see whether or not they are coming. It's their responsibility.
I agree. I don't know if I would have answered the door and addressed the issue or let the mom knock until her knuckles cracked. I think it would depend on my mood. If I was all set for a day off and in a relaxed mood I probably wouldn't have answered. Having to have the conversation would have been stressful for me and that stress would stay with me long after I turned the mom away. Ignoring it would still be stressful but it would be less stressful for me personally.Wow I really expected her not to show. Non communication for me is a no-no for me and I would have done the same as above. I don't see anything wrong with what the provider did because had the DCM shown up yesterday like she had originally said then the provider could have discussed whether she was coming to daycare today or not and let her know that none of the other families would be coming for the day. But the parent didn't. The parent thought that apparently it is ok to show up if and when she wants without communication. DCM could have even called yesterday to tell the provider that she wouldn't be coming yesterday and the provider could have discussed whether or not she was needed today, but again she didn't.
I don't feel that it is my responsibility to call or contact my clients to check to see whether or not they are coming. It's their responsibility.
MotherNature 08:40 AM 04-02-2013
Is she blowing up your phone texting you?
rmc20021 09:55 AM 04-02-2013
Ok...here is what happened. The OTHER dcm (#1) sent me a text last night, after promising to return LAST NIGHT to pay her fees and then I'd go ahead and allow them to stay, saying they couldn't find a way to the bank and asked if it was ok to pay first thing this morning as she had a ride lined up.
I didn't respond until this morning at 7:30 and told her she had until 10 am as I had no other kids today and would be leaving at 10 sharp. This was the third time I've had issues with them paying and it's always one excuse after another. This mom is 'friends' with the dcm (#2) the one who hasn't been showing up.
Dcm (#1) text back saying there was no way she could get her by 10 because dcm (#2) had brought her son over to her house and her husband was watching him. She then told me she gave dcm (#2) the money to give to me...which didn't make any sense as she wouldn't have been here until after work today and since they work together and rode to work together, why would she have given the money to her first thing this morning, and then have her bring the money to me after work when she could have swung by here herself with dcm (#2).
Dcm (#1) then text me asking me if I was open today...uhhhhhh, no YOU HAVE NOT PAID ME YET and I have no other kids so don't even think of bringing yours over (didn't say that but felt like it).
So I then text dcm (#2) asking her what is going on because dcb had told me he was going to another daycare and since he hasn't been showing up, and she hasn't been letting me know anything I assumed she had found another provider.
She text back saying, "who told you that? I don't even know what punkin place is"...funny thing is that when I text her the name of the place, I spelled it Pumpkin...she spelled it punkin, the same way the business spells it so it was obvious something is going on.
I'm not sorry I didn't answer the door. I am not going to sit here and wait when they don't have the respect to let me know if they are coming or not. It would have been all the same had I left earlier and not been here when she decided to come. I could have sat here all day. I KNOW if I had answered the door there would have been words. Sometimes I need to think over something I want to say before I say it so it doesn't come out wrong.
And I'm not sorry in the least if neither of them stay...it appears they are 'ganging' up on me, or just two very irresponsible people.
I had an interview last Friday for one child and an interview this morning for 2 brothers. I've called the one from Friday and she definitely wants the spot so I would have one filled IF dcm (#2) decides not to stay. And the brothers can easily replace dcm (#1).
My stress levels this week have been over the roof between these two dcm's and it's just not worth it
I didn't respond until this morning at 7:30 and told her she had until 10 am as I had no other kids today and would be leaving at 10 sharp. This was the third time I've had issues with them paying and it's always one excuse after another. This mom is 'friends' with the dcm (#2) the one who hasn't been showing up.
Dcm (#1) text back saying there was no way she could get her by 10 because dcm (#2) had brought her son over to her house and her husband was watching him. She then told me she gave dcm (#2) the money to give to me...which didn't make any sense as she wouldn't have been here until after work today and since they work together and rode to work together, why would she have given the money to her first thing this morning, and then have her bring the money to me after work when she could have swung by here herself with dcm (#2).
Dcm (#1) then text me asking me if I was open today...uhhhhhh, no YOU HAVE NOT PAID ME YET and I have no other kids so don't even think of bringing yours over (didn't say that but felt like it).
So I then text dcm (#2) asking her what is going on because dcb had told me he was going to another daycare and since he hasn't been showing up, and she hasn't been letting me know anything I assumed she had found another provider.
She text back saying, "who told you that? I don't even know what punkin place is"...funny thing is that when I text her the name of the place, I spelled it Pumpkin...she spelled it punkin, the same way the business spells it so it was obvious something is going on.
I'm not sorry I didn't answer the door. I am not going to sit here and wait when they don't have the respect to let me know if they are coming or not. It would have been all the same had I left earlier and not been here when she decided to come. I could have sat here all day. I KNOW if I had answered the door there would have been words. Sometimes I need to think over something I want to say before I say it so it doesn't come out wrong.
And I'm not sorry in the least if neither of them stay...it appears they are 'ganging' up on me, or just two very irresponsible people.
I had an interview last Friday for one child and an interview this morning for 2 brothers. I've called the one from Friday and she definitely wants the spot so I would have one filled IF dcm (#2) decides not to stay. And the brothers can easily replace dcm (#1).
My stress levels this week have been over the roof between these two dcm's and it's just not worth it
KnoxMom 10:09 AM 04-02-2013
Ok, so there is a little more to the story than I thought. If there is a chance that opening the door will lead to any type of altercation/exchange of words than I can understand avoiding the interaction. I didn't realize how bad the relationship was b/w parent and provider. Sounds like it is time to term and move on!
rmc20021 10:16 AM 04-02-2013
It's not that there's already bad blood between us, I just don't want to say something out of my own frustration which may lead to that. I'm a very laid back person, but when enough is enough...it's enough.
I'm also very NON confrontational because I always fear coming across the wrong way. Expecially since she is my next door neighbor I want to keep things very civil.
I'm so frustrated that I want to make sure when I speak to her that I say exactly what I want, in a polite manner so as not to cause things to get to that point.
This morning as she was pounding on my door, after not hearing from her and not knowing what was going on was NOT the time to talk to her. I figured she was done here and had moved on, so it really caught me by surprise and I was not prepared to handle the situaion.
When I txt her this morning asking what was going on, I told her to call me later today when she got the chance so we could discuss it. I had had time to think about how I wanted to handle it, rather than just be surprised and not have an answer to everything going on which I'm frustrated with.
I'm also very NON confrontational because I always fear coming across the wrong way. Expecially since she is my next door neighbor I want to keep things very civil.
I'm so frustrated that I want to make sure when I speak to her that I say exactly what I want, in a polite manner so as not to cause things to get to that point.
This morning as she was pounding on my door, after not hearing from her and not knowing what was going on was NOT the time to talk to her. I figured she was done here and had moved on, so it really caught me by surprise and I was not prepared to handle the situaion.
When I txt her this morning asking what was going on, I told her to call me later today when she got the chance so we could discuss it. I had had time to think about how I wanted to handle it, rather than just be surprised and not have an answer to everything going on which I'm frustrated with.
Heidi 12:32 PM 04-02-2013
Originally Posted by rmc20021:
It's not that there's already bad blood between us, I just don't want to say something out of my own frustration which may lead to that. I'm a very laid back person, but when enough is enough...it's enough.
I'm also very NON confrontational because I always fear coming across the wrong way. Expecially since she is my next door neighbor I want to keep things very civil.
I'm so frustrated that I want to make sure when I speak to her that I say exactly what I want, in a polite manner so as not to cause things to get to that point.
This morning as she was pounding on my door, after not hearing from her and not knowing what was going on was NOT the time to talk to her. I figured she was done here and had moved on, so it really caught me by surprise and I was not prepared to handle the situaion.
When I txt her this morning asking what was going on, I told her to call me later today when she got the chance so we could discuss it. I had had time to think about how I wanted to handle it, rather than just be surprised and not have an answer to everything going on which I'm frustrated with.
Makes sense to me...It's not that there's already bad blood between us, I just don't want to say something out of my own frustration which may lead to that. I'm a very laid back person, but when enough is enough...it's enough.
I'm also very NON confrontational because I always fear coming across the wrong way. Expecially since she is my next door neighbor I want to keep things very civil.
I'm so frustrated that I want to make sure when I speak to her that I say exactly what I want, in a polite manner so as not to cause things to get to that point.
This morning as she was pounding on my door, after not hearing from her and not knowing what was going on was NOT the time to talk to her. I figured she was done here and had moved on, so it really caught me by surprise and I was not prepared to handle the situaion.
When I txt her this morning asking what was going on, I told her to call me later today when she got the chance so we could discuss it. I had had time to think about how I wanted to handle it, rather than just be surprised and not have an answer to everything going on which I'm frustrated with.
It sounds like it's time to take control and send her packing. So glad that you have new clients ready to go!
