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CraftyMom 06:23 AM 05-09-2014
I was sitting in the waiting room at my daughter's dance class last night. I over hear a conversation between two moms. One is talking about how she brings her kids to the before and after school program while she is working. She says how they offer care from 6am until school time, then after school until 6pm.
She goes on to say that she wakes her kids up at 5am to get them out the door to be there for 6am but she has to be at work for 8. Then she says she gets out at 4 and laughs about how she waits until 5:59 to pick them up so she can just feed them supper and send them to bed! And laughs how she doesn't have to help with homework since they do it there!
The other mom answers back that she doesn't work. Her and her daughter live with her mom and the mom works and pays for everything (this woman was at least 30). This one brags about how she does nothing all day and when her daughter is home she plays games on her phone all night...laughing that she does not even like to play games, she ONLY does it so her daughter will think she is busy and leave her alone!!! And when the daughter asks her for something she sends her away saying I'm busy with my game, leave me alone!
Oh and the kids they are talking about are 5 and 7 years old!
Gotta love it!
She goes on to say that she wakes her kids up at 5am to get them out the door to be there for 6am but she has to be at work for 8. Then she says she gets out at 4 and laughs about how she waits until 5:59 to pick them up so she can just feed them supper and send them to bed! And laughs how she doesn't have to help with homework since they do it there!
The other mom answers back that she doesn't work. Her and her daughter live with her mom and the mom works and pays for everything (this woman was at least 30). This one brags about how she does nothing all day and when her daughter is home she plays games on her phone all night...laughing that she does not even like to play games, she ONLY does it so her daughter will think she is busy and leave her alone!!! And when the daughter asks her for something she sends her away saying I'm busy with my game, leave me alone!
Oh and the kids they are talking about are 5 and 7 years old!
Gotta love it!
Shell 06:25 AM 05-09-2014
Horrible! This is the type of behavior I am always telling dh about , and he never believes me. Will be reading this to him later!
Second Home 06:26 AM 05-09-2014
That is so sad .
Magic 07:52 AM 05-09-2014
it is really sad
I had same thing happen not too long ago
I had DC children with me at the libary and bumped into 2 moms I kind of knew
both moms I actualy know threw other people and had heard stories
both moms children have been to my house
I watched moms interact with thier children ( well kind of interacted )
and well not wamen that should have children
one of the children figured out who I was she is just over 3 and followed me around the whole time I was there talking and interacting with me while mom on phone ....
the other child has huge behavoural issues ...go figure not even 4 years old ..one of the mothers has an older girl early teen and is often in trouble and is not welcome here any more as result ( school friend of my girl ) , she stirs up things between friends and now into stuff that she shouldnt be ...she did tell me once she feel her mothier does not love her ...go figure
in our business this is a hard issue to hear and deal with ...
I had same thing happen not too long ago
I had DC children with me at the libary and bumped into 2 moms I kind of knew
both moms I actualy know threw other people and had heard stories
both moms children have been to my house
I watched moms interact with thier children ( well kind of interacted )
and well not wamen that should have children
one of the children figured out who I was she is just over 3 and followed me around the whole time I was there talking and interacting with me while mom on phone ....
the other child has huge behavoural issues ...go figure not even 4 years old ..one of the mothers has an older girl early teen and is often in trouble and is not welcome here any more as result ( school friend of my girl ) , she stirs up things between friends and now into stuff that she shouldnt be ...she did tell me once she feel her mothier does not love her ...go figure
in our business this is a hard issue to hear and deal with ...
melilley 08:05 AM 05-09-2014
So sad. I couldn't imagine not spending time with my kids or sending them somewhere if I didn't have too.
I have one who is here every day his mom or dad have a day off. Dcm gets out of work at 3:15 and leaves dcb here until dad picks up between 5:30 and 6:00. I suspect it's because she can't deal with her own kids. Some things she has told me just make me cringe.
Well its their loss. They will never get those extra minutes/hours back.
I have one who is here every day his mom or dad have a day off. Dcm gets out of work at 3:15 and leaves dcb here until dad picks up between 5:30 and 6:00. I suspect it's because she can't deal with her own kids. Some things she has told me just make me cringe.
Well its their loss. They will never get those extra minutes/hours back.
EntropyControlSpecialist 08:59 AM 05-09-2014
That is actually tragic. I will never understand that. I love any
Mom time I get and wish I could be a SAHM without other peoples.
Mom time I get and wish I could be a SAHM without other peoples.
Annalee 09:32 AM 05-09-2014
Originally Posted by CraftyMom:
I was sitting in the waiting room at my daughter's dance class last night. I over hear a conversation between two moms. One is talking about how she brings her kids to the before and after school program while she is working. She says how they offer care from 6am until school time, then after school until 6pm.
She goes on to say that she wakes her kids up at 5am to get them out the door to be there for 6am but she has to be at work for 8. Then she says she gets out at 4 and laughs about how she waits until 5:59 to pick them up so she can just feed them supper and send them to bed! And laughs how she doesn't have to help with homework since they do it there!
The other mom answers back that she doesn't work. Her and her daughter live with her mom and the mom works and pays for everything (this woman was at least 30). This one brags about how she does nothing all day and when her daughter is home she plays games on her phone all night...laughing that she does not even like to play games, she ONLY does it so her daughter will think she is busy and leave her alone!!! And when the daughter asks her for something she sends her away saying I'm busy with my game, leave me alone!
Oh and the kids they are talking about are 5 and 7 years old!
Gotta love it!
I have a parent like this right now. I have an hour limit which keeps them in line but if there were no boundaries, they would NEVER pick up their kid. SAD!!!!I was sitting in the waiting room at my daughter's dance class last night. I over hear a conversation between two moms. One is talking about how she brings her kids to the before and after school program while she is working. She says how they offer care from 6am until school time, then after school until 6pm.
She goes on to say that she wakes her kids up at 5am to get them out the door to be there for 6am but she has to be at work for 8. Then she says she gets out at 4 and laughs about how she waits until 5:59 to pick them up so she can just feed them supper and send them to bed! And laughs how she doesn't have to help with homework since they do it there!
The other mom answers back that she doesn't work. Her and her daughter live with her mom and the mom works and pays for everything (this woman was at least 30). This one brags about how she does nothing all day and when her daughter is home she plays games on her phone all night...laughing that she does not even like to play games, she ONLY does it so her daughter will think she is busy and leave her alone!!! And when the daughter asks her for something she sends her away saying I'm busy with my game, leave me alone!
Oh and the kids they are talking about are 5 and 7 years old!
Gotta love it!
SignMeUp 09:52 AM 05-09-2014
Families who do this are the reason that my intake form asks for actual work hours as well as drop-off and pick-up times.
TwinKristi 09:53 AM 05-09-2014
I had two new DCKs this week and an extra that's usually only here Thur-Fri so Tues was super busy! At the end of the day I realized I was so busy and he was so busy that DS & I hardly spent any quality time together all day! I relished in my snuggles while we watched a movie in my bed. My older kids are in school most of the day and I'm sure I'll be a little more sympathetic during summer, but I am so thankful to be home and to help them with homework after school. It's really sad that some parents really don't want to be parents, they're just along for the ride and status. 
KiddieCahoots 09:57 AM 05-09-2014
I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.
SignMeUp 10:08 AM 05-09-2014
Originally Posted by KiddieCahoots:
I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.
It can have a life-long effect on their children. I had a family with one boy, one girl. Girl was in my care from 3 wks on (not legal to do that here any more) until they moved away when she was 5. Kids were here every second dc was open. Mom was proud because she had them fed, bathed and in bed by 6:45 pm. They left here at 5:30!I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.
Fast-forward eleven years. Girl calls me on the phone and says, "Hi, this is Cxxxxx. You used to take care of me, but I don't know if you remember me."
Of course I remember(ed) her. I told her I was just thinking about her because I knew she had just had her golden birthday that past week.
Point being - do you see the lack of a feeling of self-worth there? No matter what I could do for her/with her, she needed and sought her parents approval and love. It can't be done in an hour and fifteen minutes a day.
cheerfuldom 10:23 AM 05-09-2014
This kind of parenting is disgusting! and most definitely abusive in its own way.....maybe worse than neglect due to poverty. It is so damaging to know your parents could do something for you but choose not to
midaycare 12:13 PM 05-09-2014
That makes me so sad, I don't even know where to begin.
BumbleBee 12:45 PM 05-09-2014
The family that left me for cheaper care was like this. Dad had to be in the 'right mood' to deal with his kids and mom couldn't be bothered with them unless they were bringing compliments to her (oh look how cute they are. Oh she's so pretty. Oh he's so precious. Etc)
I hate people like this
I hate people like this
SignMeUp 12:56 PM 05-09-2014
Originally Posted by Trummynme:
The family that left me for cheaper care was like this. Dad had to be in the 'right mood' to deal with his kids and mom couldn't be bothered with them unless they were bringing compliments to her (oh look how cute they are. Oh she's so pretty. Oh he's so precious. Etc)
I hate people like this
Me too. Kids as posessions.The family that left me for cheaper care was like this. Dad had to be in the 'right mood' to deal with his kids and mom couldn't be bothered with them unless they were bringing compliments to her (oh look how cute they are. Oh she's so pretty. Oh he's so precious. Etc)
I hate people like this
LadyK8 01:28 PM 05-09-2014
I seriously want to cry reading this thread.
I'm also looking forward to seeing my mom shortly, God willing, so that I can thank her for being an attentive mother while raising 9 children by herself and working full-time.
For all those times she panicked when she thought she'd be picking us up from daycare late. For all those times she had my brothers carry us in her room while we were sleeping so that we could sleep with her.
Sorry for hijacking this thread, but this struck a cord with me.
I'm also looking forward to seeing my mom shortly, God willing, so that I can thank her for being an attentive mother while raising 9 children by herself and working full-time.
For all those times she panicked when she thought she'd be picking us up from daycare late. For all those times she had my brothers carry us in her room while we were sleeping so that we could sleep with her.
Sorry for hijacking this thread, but this struck a cord with me.
Cradle2crayons 01:34 PM 05-09-2014
I find his very sad also.
I grew up a latch key kid from age 6 years old and up. I woke up for school alone... fame home from school alone... Got my own breakfast alone....
When I got older I played ball... And I was there alone... Watching my team mates parents there hugging their kids telling hem good job... Knowing my own parents were home from work on a Saturday or that time in the afternoon but didn't care enough to be there to hug me.
It was a very lonely child hood that haunts me even to this day....
I grew up a latch key kid from age 6 years old and up. I woke up for school alone... fame home from school alone... Got my own breakfast alone....
When I got older I played ball... And I was there alone... Watching my team mates parents there hugging their kids telling hem good job... Knowing my own parents were home from work on a Saturday or that time in the afternoon but didn't care enough to be there to hug me.
It was a very lonely child hood that haunts me even to this day....
sugar buzz 02:08 PM 05-09-2014
I have a DCB and DCG, who are here from opening to closing. Their parents are both professionals, who argue over who has to leave work and come get him and his sister. Today, DCM told me that "it's not about quantity, it's about quality." What I don't think they realize is that "quality" is not a token weekend trip to the zoo or the once-a-year beach vacation that they love to brag about and post
on Facebook. I think that to a child quality time is just being there and being accessible--so it kind of is about quantity.
on Facebook. I think that to a child quality time is just being there and being accessible--so it kind of is about quantity.
grandmom 02:35 PM 05-09-2014
Originally Posted by Cradle2crayons:
I find his very sad also.
I grew up a latch key kid from age 6 years old and up. I woke up for school alone... fame home from school alone... Got my own breakfast alone....
When I got older I played ball... And I was there alone... Watching my team mates parents there hugging their kids telling hem good job... Knowing my own parents were home from work on a Saturday or that time in the afternoon but didn't care enough to be there to hug me.
It was a very lonely child hood that haunts me even to this day....
C2C. I'm sad for you. I'm sure you have been diligent to break this behavior pattern so that your own children will know that unconditional love that comes from time. You can't have quality time with out quantity first.I find his very sad also.
I grew up a latch key kid from age 6 years old and up. I woke up for school alone... fame home from school alone... Got my own breakfast alone....
When I got older I played ball... And I was there alone... Watching my team mates parents there hugging their kids telling hem good job... Knowing my own parents were home from work on a Saturday or that time in the afternoon but didn't care enough to be there to hug me.
It was a very lonely child hood that haunts me even to this day....
Cradle2crayons 03:23 PM 05-09-2014
Originally Posted by grandmom:
C2C. I'm sad for you. I'm sure you have been diligent to break this behavior pattern so that your own children will know that unconditional love that comes from time. You can't have quality time with out quantity first.
Absolutely!! And this is one reason I've moved mountains to never miss any firsts... As well as never miss a ball game, school event, field trip, you name it.C2C. I'm sad for you. I'm sure you have been diligent to break this behavior pattern so that your own children will know that unconditional love that comes from time. You can't have quality time with out quantity first.
I've done things different all around... BECAUSE of how I grew up.
My parents still haven't changed. And because of that, my kids don't have grandparents at all wanting to be in their life.
But they know their parents love them and are always there, no matter what.
llpa 04:34 PM 05-09-2014
Originally Posted by KiddieCahoots:
I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.
Yes! I can't believe they can even sit there an brag about it!
Like they are getting away with something so brilliantly planned!?
Shame on them!
Some day they will grow up (themselves) and realize it's too late to get any of what their missing back.
craftymissbeth 05:51 PM 05-09-2014
This is so sad
I had someone contact me who used to be a daycare provider. She just recently moved here. She works until 6:30 pm, but her boyfriend gets off at 3:30. He's not the child's father, but they live together. said he want alone time in the evenings so she would pick dcg up at 6:45. Nope. No way. I told her it'd be $150 per week for 6:45 OR $95 for 3:45... I was hoping she'd get the hint that I don't want kids here that late unless absolutely necessary. Nope, instead she said she could do $75 for a 5:30 pick up
this isn't a freaking negotiation, lady!
I said sorry it doesn't look like we're on the same page. Good luck!
Anyway, it makes me sad for kids whose parents just can't be bothered.
I had someone contact me who used to be a daycare provider. She just recently moved here. She works until 6:30 pm, but her boyfriend gets off at 3:30. He's not the child's father, but they live together. said he want alone time in the evenings so she would pick dcg up at 6:45. Nope. No way. I told her it'd be $150 per week for 6:45 OR $95 for 3:45... I was hoping she'd get the hint that I don't want kids here that late unless absolutely necessary. Nope, instead she said she could do $75 for a 5:30 pick up
this isn't a freaking negotiation, lady!I said sorry it doesn't look like we're on the same page. Good luck!
Anyway, it makes me sad for kids whose parents just can't be bothered.
jenn 06:15 PM 05-09-2014
Wow! I guess they won't be winning any parent of the year awards!
Bookworm 08:00 PM 05-09-2014
This supports my theory that children are now the new accessory. You're supposed to have them because society says so. I see this too much in my center.
Sugar Magnolia 05:38 AM 05-10-2014
Terrible, but not at all shocking. I've seen it, especially amongst the wealthy. Not the working wealthy either, the idle wealthy. They spend tons of money on gadgets, activities and other " stuff " to keep kids out of their hair. I call them stay in bed moms.
On the flip side, some of the lower income and downright poor families........they are the most involved and attentive. I don't see this as solely an income issue however, it's an attitude and priorities issue, IMO.
On the flip side, some of the lower income and downright poor families........they are the most involved and attentive. I don't see this as solely an income issue however, it's an attitude and priorities issue, IMO.
katzan 06:02 AM 05-10-2014
Wow... if you don't even want to spend time with your kids, why have them to begin with.