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TickleMonster 11:34 AM 04-04-2014
Hey everyone! My mother and myself have been doing daycare for the past 3 years and just found this site and LOVE it! We have a question that's open for input. Today has been a very rough day. Well scratch that, a very rough week! It started off with a 4 yr old dcg smashing my dd hand with a large toy. We ended up calling her mother to send her home. This may sound harsh but the whole story is that this dcg is destructive. She has broken numerous toys in our home, chews on literally EVERYTHING, and has a tendency to attack other children when she doesn't get her way. Yesterday alone dcg hit another dck while outside, chewed up her 8 month old bb favorite toys (literally shredded it) and proceeded to knock one of our screens out of the window and tore off the latch that holds the screen. So her attacking my dd this morning was the last straw for this week. DCM seems passive about dcg behavior. Says she will talk to her so hope next week is better. The question is, what would you do? Were we right to send her home? Would you term? Sadly if we do term, we also lose her 8 month old bb (as well as income) but don't know if its worth it. We have had them for 6 months and this is new behavior for dcg that seems to be getting progressively worse but dcm says nothing has changed in their routine at home.
Blackcat31 11:38 AM 04-04-2014
Originally Posted by TickleMonster:
Hey everyone! My mother and myself have been doing daycare for the past 3 years and just found this site and LOVE it! We have a question that's open for input. Today has been a very rough day. Well scratch that, a very rough week! It started off with a 4 yr old dcg smashing my dd hand with a large toy. We ended up calling her mother to send her home. This may sound harsh but the whole story is that this dcg is destructive. She has broken numerous toys in our home, chews on literally EVERYTHING, and has a tendency to attack other children when she doesn't get her way. Yesterday alone dcg hit another dck while outside, chewed up her 8 month old bb favorite toys (literally shredded it) and proceeded to knock one of our screens out of the window and tore off the latch that holds the screen. So her attacking my dd this morning was the last straw for this week. DCM seems passive about dcg behavior. Says she will talk to her so hope next week is better. The question is, what would you do? Were we right to send her home? Would you term? Sadly if we do term, we also lose her 8 month old bb (as well as income) but don't know if its worth it. We have had them for 6 months and this is new behavior for dcg that seems to be getting progressively worse but dcm says nothing has changed in their routine at home.
What would I do? Hey everyone! My mother and myself have been doing daycare for the past 3 years and just found this site and LOVE it! We have a question that's open for input. Today has been a very rough day. Well scratch that, a very rough week! It started off with a 4 yr old dcg smashing my dd hand with a large toy. We ended up calling her mother to send her home. This may sound harsh but the whole story is that this dcg is destructive. She has broken numerous toys in our home, chews on literally EVERYTHING, and has a tendency to attack other children when she doesn't get her way. Yesterday alone dcg hit another dck while outside, chewed up her 8 month old bb favorite toys (literally shredded it) and proceeded to knock one of our screens out of the window and tore off the latch that holds the screen. So her attacking my dd this morning was the last straw for this week. DCM seems passive about dcg behavior. Says she will talk to her so hope next week is better. The question is, what would you do? Were we right to send her home? Would you term? Sadly if we do term, we also lose her 8 month old bb (as well as income) but don't know if its worth it. We have had them for 6 months and this is new behavior for dcg that seems to be getting progressively worse but dcm says nothing has changed in their routine at home.
I would term. I don't care if the child has 5 siblings....
It is NOT worth the financial loss (other DCK injuries or other families leaving) because of ONE child's aggressive behavior.
Group care is putting the needs of the group AS A WHOLE before individual needs.
I would term immediately and offer to keep the younger sib but be prepared for the family to decline.
Either way, I would still not be willing to keep the physically aggressive DCG.
I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of behavior and would rather lose the income from that one family verses losing income and reputation from others.
Welcome to the forum too!!
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:43 AM 04-04-2014
I have tried to stick it out with a child who did similar things. Nothing changed and I was stressed to the max. because of it. I did term. and it was ugly.
When I take a child into care for the day I am accepting responsibility for that child and their safety. If I can't provide a safe place for all the other children due to ONE's misbehavior then I would term.
When I take a child into care for the day I am accepting responsibility for that child and their safety. If I can't provide a safe place for all the other children due to ONE's misbehavior then I would term.
MotherNature 01:34 PM 04-04-2014
I would term as well.Agression towards others=not great. You risk losing your other families by keeping the hellion. 4 is way too old for chewing stuff up. In my contract, I have a statement about deliberate destructionof daycare property will be reimbursed by that family.
llpa 04:24 PM 04-04-2014
It's your job to protect all children in your care. That includes protecting them from one of their own. I would let her go. It would scare me as a parent to know my child was in care with her. It's not worth it to risk losing other families.