The investigation is related to time outs/discipline policy. It's a licensed daycare, not a home daycare. My sons name specifically came up. Someone reported that he was made to stand in a corner for 40 mins. When he doesn't eat as fast as the other kids (he's a very poor eater) he was forced to sit alone at a table while the other kids would play.

My son has never told me any of this. He has mentioned time outs (which I'm fine with if it's done correctly, a few mins not 40 mins) but when I brought it up with the teachers they say they don't do time outs. Their policy states they don't do time outs and they legally have to follow their policy.

My son likes his daycare and he's happy to go there, he likes his friends. There are things I've noticed he says but I just thought he was making it up as 3 year olds often do. He wears dresses and "girly" clothes. He says that his teachers tell him he's not allowed to wear dresses and that only girls wear dresses. When they're in front of me, they comment on how nice his dresses are and deny ever saying anything negative about it. This one time when I brought him in to daycare, he started crying and wouldn't let go of me, saying that his friends will make fun of his dress and his teachers will laugh. I thought he was just faking it because he wanted to stay home and watch his shows.

I'm super worried about all this. I'm pretty sure it was a teacher who reported all this. They had a new teacher who was only there for about a month. It obviously wasn't a parent since they're not there. They don't take reports from kids. The lady I spoke to said my son isn't in any immediate danger and that all these issues will be addressed and they'll need to come up with a plan to change what they're doing. I'm worried that it won't change and they might even be mad about this investigation and take it out on the kids. They've always been really nice, I've never had any bad feelings from them. I don't even know what to think now. I want to send him in with a hidden camera or something to see if all he says is true.

Any opinions or advice is appreciated.

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