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CraftyMom 07:03 AM 07-14-2014
Every one of my dcp's are home today ( 3 sets of parents!)

And all of the kids are here!

Grrrrrrrr! Spend time with your kids for goodness fricken sake!

Dcb2 was supposed to stay home today so dad can take him to the beach, dad decided time alone would be more fun, mom spending time with older son...lovely

Dcg2 mom and dad spending quality time alone today without dcg...lovely

Dcg2 mom took the day off to be with older child but not dcg, dad is also not working ...lovely

Just want to express my irritation! I know we vent about this topic a lot, but I JUST DON"T GET IT! these poor kids
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Blackcat31 07:06 AM 07-14-2014
It does suck but honestly, if it weren't for those types of parents half of us wouldn't be in business.

((hugs)) have a good day and know that atleast those kids know YOU care about them.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 07:35 AM 07-14-2014
A lot of my parents do not work and bring their kids here 27-45 hours a week to bond with other sibling it seems. I have to laugh bc I just can't imagine you need 45 hrs a week of alone time.
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NightOwl 08:08 AM 07-14-2014
I understand a day occasionally, I mean like, rarely. Lol. But if you're off every Friday, then yes, I'm judging you for bringing your kid every Friday!
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Leigh 09:31 AM 07-14-2014
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
A lot of my parents do not work and bring their kids here 27-45 hours a week to bond with other sibling it seems. I have to laugh bc I just can't imagine you need 45 hrs a week of alone time.
I'd settle for 45 MINUTES of alone time per week!!!
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My3cents 12:12 PM 07-14-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
It does suck but honestly, if it weren't for those types of parents half of us wouldn't be in business.

((hugs)) have a good day and know that atleast those kids know YOU care about them.
I too don't mind if parents take a day- just tell me your taking a day

it is sad when it becomes habit and they don't spend time with the kids. I guess the weekend is enough for most parents and a couple of hours a day.

I do my best to encourage parents to spend time with the kids when they are not working but as black cat says......it is so so so true- we wouldn't have work.

I don't let this get to me as much as I used to let it-
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Learning Daycare 12:26 PM 07-14-2014
Originally Posted by Wednesday:
I understand a day occasionally, I mean like, rarely. Lol. But if you're off every Friday, then yes, I'm judging you for bringing your kid every Friday!
Exactly! That's just too much! It really makes me wonder why some people had kids. Maybe because they think it's the next step? 1. College, 2. job, 3. married, 4. kids
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spud912 02:03 PM 07-14-2014
I have a dcb whose parents are both teachers. Dcm and dcd are separated and from what I can see, dcd has dcb Sunday through Wednesday and dcm has dcb Wednesday through Saturday. Well the days dcd has dcb, dcb is in attendance open to close. Dcd will actually drop him off in pajamas (as in, dcd is still in his pj's). His entire summer vacation he has not nor will he take one day to spend with his son. It actually makes me wonder, what does a single guy do all summer when he doesn't work? It's obvious he's not taking vacations. Poor kid!
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sugar buzz 03:04 PM 07-14-2014
Originally Posted by Learning Daycare:
Exactly! That's just too much! It really makes me wonder why some people had kids. Maybe because they think it's the next step? 1. College, 2. job, 3. married, 4. kids
I've wondered about this same thing! I get a lot of DCF, where both parents are workaholic professionals, who planned each of their children. They always put the perfect family act on extra thick, but their children are at my house from opening to closing.

During a huge snowstorm, one DCM bragged that her boss told her she could leave work early to "go get her babies," but she went straight home, instead. When I closed for the following snow day to force her to keep them at home, I jokingly told her that I was ready for school to open since I had spent the day watching the One Direction documentary with my daughters. She replied: "Oh, no...I just love snow days with my kids." Yeah....sure!
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CraftyMom 07:34 PM 07-14-2014
I don't mind parents taking the occasional day off with no kids. But it has become more regular with my dcps.

Very true though, it's how we stay in business, unfortunately
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Tdhmom 07:48 PM 07-14-2014
I think the reason I have such a hard time with this is because I would much rather be at home with just my kids...I always assumed parents thought this same way. BUT they also don't open their home to many children and play referee all day long...then maybe...just maybe they would look at it as we do and take their kids every chance they were able to so we could keep our sanity.

To be real honest...if they have the day off I would rather not know! I had a potential dcm (didn't work out) tell me while interviewing that she would TRY to be here by 4:30 but on days that she has meetings for school, gate duty or getting her hair done!!!! Yes she said that, then she would be here by 5:30. NOPE sorry lady! You have to get your "hair done" like every other working mother...either with your children in the evening or on Saturdays and have family watch them. Unless you would want to pay me what a high school kid would get paid to watch 2 children in the evening...then we can discuss it.

I've never considered myself a people person, I'm learning how true this is every passing year
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midaycare 07:53 PM 07-14-2014
This doesn't bother me. If a parent is paying for a day, and they are working or getting a message, or sleeping at home. I provide a service.

I think if we demand parents pay for a service - even if the kids aren't there - we can't expect the parents not to use those days.

Exceptional parents certainly will spend extra time with their kids, though.
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Butter Biskets 08:03 PM 07-14-2014
I totally understand what you are saying. It drives me crazy when parents are at home doing their own thing while we are taking care of their kids. I also understand that we are getting paid to provide this service, but it doesn't take away how it feels to be in this situation. I too, would also prefer not to know when they are home and not at work. I think it is human nature.
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spud912 09:07 PM 07-14-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
This doesn't bother me. If a parent is paying for a day, and they are working or getting a message, or sleeping at home. I provide a service.

I think if we demand parents pay for a service - even if the kids aren't there - we can't expect the parents not to use those days.

Exceptional parents certainly will spend extra time with their kids, though.
I agree....I do struggle with this. BUT if you as a provider offers the family time where they don't have to pay if the child is not in attendance and that family chooses not to go that route (and send the child open to close despite not working), THAT is unfortunate to me.

I had an EX-family try to get me to watch their daughter on Father's Day. The father just got back from a work-related trip that lasted a month one day prior . It's one thing to impose on another family's Father's Day, but to not want to spend time with your daughter when you haven't seen her in a month??? I just don't get it!
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midaycare 04:21 AM 07-15-2014
Originally Posted by spud912:
I agree....I do struggle with this. BUT if you as a provider offers the family time where they don't have to pay if the child is not in attendance and that family chooses not to go that route (and send the child open to close despite not working), THAT is unfortunate to me.

I had an EX-family try to get me to watch their daughter on Father's Day. The father just got back from a work-related trip that lasted a month one day prior . It's one thing to impose on another family's Father's Day, but to not want to spend time with your daughter when you haven't seen her in a month??? I just don't get it!
Oh absolutely. If they don't have to pay when they don't send the child, there is no excuse for it.
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Unregistered 06:13 AM 07-15-2014
Originally Posted by sugar buzz:
I've wondered about this same thing! I get a lot of DCF, where both parents are workaholic professionals, who planned each of their children. They always put the perfect family act on extra thick, but their children are at my house from opening to closing.

During a huge snowstorm, one DCM bragged that her boss told her she could leave work early to "go get her babies," but she went straight home, instead. When I closed for the following snow day to force her to keep them at home, I jokingly told her that I was ready for school to open since I had spent the day watching the One Direction documentary with my daughters. She replied: "Oh, no...I just love snow days with my kids." Yeah....sure!
I got tired of caring for kids whose parents got sent home because of weather. If an adult workplace is closing -- you need to take your children home!
I put it in my policy that if your workplace is closed due to weather or other area emergency (before you come to dc) your child should remain with you. And if your workplace closes due to the same, you need to pick your child up immediately.
I figure it could be a little hard to know, but really, it hasn't been so far. Once one workplace closes, the others follow suit. AND YOUR CHILD BELONGS WITH YOU THEN.
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Tdhmom 06:29 AM 07-15-2014
Originally Posted by spud912:
I agree....I do struggle with this. BUT if you as a provider offers the family time where they don't have to pay if the child is not in attendance and that family chooses not to go that route (and send the child open to close despite not working), THAT is unfortunate to me.

I had an EX-family try to get me to watch their daughter on Father's Day. The father just got back from a work-related trip that lasted a month one day prior . It's one thing to impose on another family's Father's Day, but to not want to spend time with your daughter when you haven't seen her in a month??? I just don't get it!
I do offer this! For this reason. Hoping if they have the day off then they will take advantage of it. If I'm cut short that week in pay because they wanted to stay another day camping...fine by me! We get to take off and go swimming for the day It works most of the time but I have had parents that do not care and send them anyway. It's sad.
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Indoorvoice 08:54 AM 07-15-2014
One of my friends posted on Facebook yesterday that he got out of work early and was wondering what he should do until it was time to pick up his kid from daycare. Someone posted "go pick up your son and have a special treat with him!" He replied, "yeah, but I already paid for daycare for the month so..."

When I opened my daycare, I decided to only charge when the child was here so parents would be encouraged to keep their kids with them when they had a day off. I like random days off to spend with my own children. It hasn't been an incentive for them at all. They gladly pay me $30 for a day free from their child. I didn't specifically ask for new years off this year... I just assumed everyone would stay home with their families. Nope! I had a kid at my door at 8 am because they wanted to go out to eat!
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