So we had a pretty mellow group until my part time (friday only) day care girl started coming here every day (2 days ago). She came on Fridays when there was only 1 baby and 2 older kids. She never had a big problem with toddler aggression or anything until this week when she is attending regular days and I now have 3 babies (11 mo, 10 mo, 15 mo) 3 yr old + dcg 23 months. She seems to find the smaller babies 10 mo and 11 mo and runs up to them, screams in there face and takes their toys. She makes them cry every time because they are scared. She seems to be all of a sudden very possessive and wants to take everyone's toys. She is also making a fist and touching them like she would hit them but she has not actually done that. She then tried to shut the pretend fridge door on the 10 mo old and was squishing her in there.

Wondering why the sudden change of behavior and how I should respond.

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Oh, #%$& no! How old is she?

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Oh my! Is she on a trial period for the full time care? I would lessen her days back if this behavior continues for the safety of the babies.

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No I don't have a trial period for switching enrollment. Only for when you first enroll. So she is here. Also she left her other daycare to come here full time so I would feel bad putting her parents in a situation. She's 23 months old next week. I may have to be her shadow but even then she keeps screaming at them. It's only been 3 days. Maybe she is just possessive because she is trying to "claim her territory" or something? She is fine with the older kids, just intimidates the babies.

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How bad would you feel if she really did hit or hurt one of the babies ? She's very young and doesn't realize the babies are vulnerable. How do you keep them safe if you are changing a diaper or making lunch ?

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I have put her in the walker when I've needed to do that or in the booster seat eating cheerios while I'm doing those things so far. It's day 3 so I haven't really had a formal plan as of yet.

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