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CraftyMom 07:41 AM 07-15-2014
So dcg2 gets dropped off by grandma today. Dcg walks in and starts playing, gma repeats goodbye, I'm leaving over and over, dcg continues playing. I finally say ok, bye gma have a good day! Gma then loudly says here I go I'm going out the door! Dcg starts whining and runs to her, so gma says oh ok, since you are having a hard time I will stay for a minute....wth? Then dcg goes back to playing and gma says I better leave quick before she sees me! Then "sneaks" out. ugh annoying but whatever, mom does the same thing.
Then I was posting a few pics of the kids on fb and I see a post from gma saying, dcg didn't want to stay at daycare today, she had a rough time and wanted to stay with me. This annoyed me. Why? Why lie? I feel like it makes me look bad! Dcg couldn't have cared less that gma was leaving until gma made a fuss! I wanted to say Really? Were we at the same daycare this morning? Instead I just put a ? Gma says oh, yes she was fine, she's always fine at daycare!
Then I was posting a few pics of the kids on fb and I see a post from gma saying, dcg didn't want to stay at daycare today, she had a rough time and wanted to stay with me. This annoyed me. Why? Why lie? I feel like it makes me look bad! Dcg couldn't have cared less that gma was leaving until gma made a fuss! I wanted to say Really? Were we at the same daycare this morning? Instead I just put a ? Gma says oh, yes she was fine, she's always fine at daycare!
EntropyControlSpecialist 07:43 AM 07-15-2014
She is an adult. After the second time I would have smiled and said, "Looks like DCG is having fun with her buddies now. Bye, Grandma. Have a nice day." And opened the door.
Shell 09:34 AM 07-15-2014
Ha! Good for you for putting the question mark- subtle way to let it be known you saw the post, and know what she's up to. Sounds like Gma and dcm need to feel wanted and special by the child. I had a dcm that would put on this charade every morning, too. When I would walk out of the room, she would stop all the b.s. It was like she only put on the show when others were watching, and without the audience, she lost interest in her kid 
SignMeUp 09:51 AM 07-15-2014
I had one who just. could. not. leave. until her little boy cried for her.
Some days it took her a long long time to get him to cry
I put a stop to that
Attention? A need to feel needed? I don't know for sure. I just know I will not have my kids' morning disrupted by that monkey business
Some days it took her a long long time to get him to cry
I put a stop to that
Attention? A need to feel needed? I don't know for sure. I just know I will not have my kids' morning disrupted by that monkey business
midaycare 10:00 AM 07-15-2014
Feeling guilty that dcg likes coming to daycare? What a piece of work!
daycarediva 10:06 AM 07-15-2014
I once had a family LEAVE, without notice, because I had to usher mom out of the door every single day. She pulled the SAME THING. It only worked on the kid for the first few days though. After that she NEVER cried at drop off. Her kiddo had ZERO separation issues, came in, and bolted for the playroom. In their term letter, Mom stated that dcg was having separation anxiety and not comfortable with me and daycare in general.
I later found out that she had been telling the Dad that the kid screamed at drop off, this had been their 4th daycare in as many months. She gave me a great reference to a current client, too. They attend church together, and dcm is now a SAHM.
So lying to her husband to achieve her SAHM goals is the epitome of Christian values.
I later found out that she had been telling the Dad that the kid screamed at drop off, this had been their 4th daycare in as many months. She gave me a great reference to a current client, too. They attend church together, and dcm is now a SAHM.
So lying to her husband to achieve her SAHM goals is the epitome of Christian values.
My3cents 10:38 AM 07-15-2014
Originally Posted by CraftyMom:
So dcg2 gets dropped off by grandma today. Dcg walks in and starts playing, gma repeats goodbye, I'm leaving over and over, dcg continues playing. I finally say ok, bye gma have a good day! Gma then loudly says here I go I'm going out the door! Dcg starts whining and runs to her, so gma says oh ok, since you are having a hard time I will stay for a minute....wth? Then dcg goes back to playing and gma says I better leave quick before she sees me! Then "sneaks" out. ugh annoying but whatever, mom does the same thing.
Then I was posting a few pics of the kids on fb and I see a post from gma saying, dcg didn't want to stay at daycare today, she had a rough time and wanted to stay with me. This annoyed me. Why? Why lie? I feel like it makes me look bad! Dcg couldn't have cared less that gma was leaving until gma made a fuss! I wanted to say Really? Were we at the same daycare this morning? Instead I just put a ? Gma says oh, yes she was fine, she's always fine at daycare!
I wouldn't address that on facebook. So dcg2 gets dropped off by grandma today. Dcg walks in and starts playing, gma repeats goodbye, I'm leaving over and over, dcg continues playing. I finally say ok, bye gma have a good day! Gma then loudly says here I go I'm going out the door! Dcg starts whining and runs to her, so gma says oh ok, since you are having a hard time I will stay for a minute....wth? Then dcg goes back to playing and gma says I better leave quick before she sees me! Then "sneaks" out. ugh annoying but whatever, mom does the same thing.
Then I was posting a few pics of the kids on fb and I see a post from gma saying, dcg didn't want to stay at daycare today, she had a rough time and wanted to stay with me. This annoyed me. Why? Why lie? I feel like it makes me look bad! Dcg couldn't have cared less that gma was leaving until gma made a fuss! I wanted to say Really? Were we at the same daycare this morning? Instead I just put a ? Gma says oh, yes she was fine, she's always fine at daycare!
but seeing how you did.......I would add the truth now. Grandma she loves you to death but did just fine when you left.
Don't take that stuff personally. Grandma just wants everyone to know that this kiddo is the center of her universe! She wants the parents to know that she would watch this kiddo full time but in reality she is too old to do it. Grandma is mad at herself for not being able to full time care for her grand baby. The parents don't want that for the child either and it ticks GMa off, because she would if she could. Its not about you as a provider.
AmyKidsCo 11:23 AM 07-15-2014
Originally Posted by SignMeUp:
I had one who just. could. not. leave. until her little boy cried for her.
Some days it took her a long long time to get him to cry
I put a stop to that
Attention? A need to feel needed? I don't know for sure. I just know I will not have my kids' morning disrupted by that monkey business
Me too. I think some moms need to be needed by their children more than their children actually need them. I'm just glad I won't be dealing with them when the children are teens!I had one who just. could. not. leave. until her little boy cried for her.
Some days it took her a long long time to get him to cry
I put a stop to that
Attention? A need to feel needed? I don't know for sure. I just know I will not have my kids' morning disrupted by that monkey business
KidGrind 11:47 AM 07-15-2014
I would’ve replied:
________ came in politely and went to play. You called out to her several times without her acknowledging you. After your 4th call out to her, she ran to you and gave you a hug & whined a bit. We all want to be wanted & needed. ______ loves you and talks about you often. One goodbye is enough and best for the children.
________ came in politely and went to play. You called out to her several times without her acknowledging you. After your 4th call out to her, she ran to you and gave you a hug & whined a bit. We all want to be wanted & needed. ______ loves you and talks about you often. One goodbye is enough and best for the children.
MissAnn 05:31 PM 07-15-2014
I had a dad who would stay out in the car with his 3 year old. They drove another boy here as well. That boy would walk right in.....i would ask that boy where DCB and DCD was.....he would say they are crying. They would finally come in......both red eyed and sit on my couch clinging to each other crying more. I finally told the dad that DCB will not adjust until he himself gets confident in leaving him with me. It took awhile.....and then they had a another baby who they sent to me. He had a hard time at first with her but ended up being a pro drop off dad!
Naptime yet? 06:53 PM 07-15-2014
Originally Posted by MissAnn:
I had a dad who would stay out in the car with his 3 year old. They drove another boy here as well. That boy would walk right in.....i would ask that boy where DCB and DCD was.....he would say they are crying. They would finally come in......both red eyed and sit on my couch clinging to each other crying more. I finally told the dad that DCB will not adjust until he himself gets confident in leaving him with me. It took awhile.....and then they had a another baby who they sent to me. He had a hard time at first with her but ended up being a pro drop off dad!
Why is that so weird to me? The kid was 3! I would have had to leave the room, I would have felt so awkward in witnessing that.I had a dad who would stay out in the car with his 3 year old. They drove another boy here as well. That boy would walk right in.....i would ask that boy where DCB and DCD was.....he would say they are crying. They would finally come in......both red eyed and sit on my couch clinging to each other crying more. I finally told the dad that DCB will not adjust until he himself gets confident in leaving him with me. It took awhile.....and then they had a another baby who they sent to me. He had a hard time at first with her but ended up being a pro drop off dad!
Unregistered 08:09 AM 07-17-2014
Originally Posted by MissAnn:
I had a dad who would stay out in the car with his 3 year old. They drove another boy here as well. That boy would walk right in.....i would ask that boy where DCB and DCD was.....he would say they are crying. They would finally come in......both red eyed and sit on my couch clinging to each other crying more. I finally told the dad that DCB will not adjust until he himself gets confident in leaving him with me. It took awhile.....and then they had a another baby who they sent to me. He had a hard time at first with her but ended up being a pro drop off dad!
Ewe.I had a dad who would stay out in the car with his 3 year old. They drove another boy here as well. That boy would walk right in.....i would ask that boy where DCB and DCD was.....he would say they are crying. They would finally come in......both red eyed and sit on my couch clinging to each other crying more. I finally told the dad that DCB will not adjust until he himself gets confident in leaving him with me. It took awhile.....and then they had a another baby who they sent to me. He had a hard time at first with her but ended up being a pro drop off dad!
Weird. I'm glad it worked out for you but I would have termed.
Unregistered 01:23 PM 07-19-2014
Originally Posted by Shell:
Ha! Good for you for putting the question mark- subtle way to let it be known you saw the post, and know what she's up to. Sounds like Gma and dcm need to feel wanted and special by the child. I had a dcm that would put on this charade every morning, too. When I would walk out of the room, she would stop all the b.s. It was like she only put on the show when others were watching, and without the audience, she lost interest in her kid
I have sooooooooooooooooo many parents like this. If no one is watching, they will leave asap. If I'm with other parents, they'll be "Mommy HAS to go work". Like they're talking to a dog. I also have parents (usually the same ones) I know either do nothing on the weekend or nothing kid friendly (or use a sitter) and say "Oh, yeah. This weekend we went to Chuck E. Cheese". I'll never forget one year I asked a mother what she did over the weekend. I guess she thought the child wasn't listening. She said "We went to Six Flags". The child started screaming and crying. After a few minutes, it was deduced that the mother had went to the movies with the father and left the child with a sitter. The child thought the parents went to Six Flags without them. I once had a family who had the child stay a grandma's while they took a week long vacation to Disney World. Some parents really don't do anything with their children.Ha! Good for you for putting the question mark- subtle way to let it be known you saw the post, and know what she's up to. Sounds like Gma and dcm need to feel wanted and special by the child. I had a dcm that would put on this charade every morning, too. When I would walk out of the room, she would stop all the b.s. It was like she only put on the show when others were watching, and without the audience, she lost interest in her kid
Unregistered 01:32 PM 07-19-2014
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
I once had a family LEAVE, without notice, because I had to usher mom out of the door every single day. She pulled the SAME THING. It only worked on the kid for the first few days though. After that she NEVER cried at drop off. Her kiddo had ZERO separation issues, came in, and bolted for the playroom. In their term letter, Mom stated that dcg was having separation anxiety and not comfortable with me and daycare in general.
I later found out that she had been telling the Dad that the kid screamed at drop off, this had been their 4th daycare in as many months. She gave me a great reference to a current client, too. They attend church together, and dcm is now a SAHM.
So lying to her husband to achieve her SAHM goals is the epitome of Christian values.
Not very Christian, but be happy to be rid of her. A person who lies like that and is unhappy with childcare, would probably cause trouble down the line. I once had a parent like that. She started asking very uncomfortable questions. She was only part time. So, I gave her a discount rate. She wanted to know what others paid and all sorts of inappropriate questions. I terminated her and never looked back. I eventually made friends with another daycare owner in a city over. She told me the lady asked to be her aide after asking similar questions. I guess the women felt jealous. My friend told her that she didn't have enough money for aide. She flipped out. She called CPS on her on made up claims. My friend was closed for a bit until it was determined the mom was lying.I once had a family LEAVE, without notice, because I had to usher mom out of the door every single day. She pulled the SAME THING. It only worked on the kid for the first few days though. After that she NEVER cried at drop off. Her kiddo had ZERO separation issues, came in, and bolted for the playroom. In their term letter, Mom stated that dcg was having separation anxiety and not comfortable with me and daycare in general.
I later found out that she had been telling the Dad that the kid screamed at drop off, this had been their 4th daycare in as many months. She gave me a great reference to a current client, too. They attend church together, and dcm is now a SAHM.
So lying to her husband to achieve her SAHM goals is the epitome of Christian values.