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Thriftylady 10:40 AM 10-03-2014
Of all the times they actually want to give him some home time, I have an interview in a couple of hours. I don't know if I should let them meet him or should I send him away? He is rarely here when he does get home time it is only for 34 hours each week for a restart on his clock. Opinions? He will go have coffee or something if I ask but then I think maybe it looks bad if I sent him away? I just wonder what the parents would rather see knowing some can be funny about some things. Not that hubby is a bad guy or anything, he actually loves the littles.
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CraftyMom 10:46 AM 10-03-2014
Originally Posted by Thriftylady:
Of all the times they actually want to give him some home time, I have an interview in a couple of hours. I don't know if I should let them meet him or should I send him away? He is rarely here when he does get home time it is only for 34 hours each week for a restart on his clock. Opinions? He will go have coffee or something if I ask but then I think maybe it looks bad if I sent him away? I just wonder what the parents would rather see knowing some can be funny about some things. Not that hubby is a bad guy or anything, he actually loves the littles.
I would have him stay. I like to introduce my husband since he lives here
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daycare 10:52 AM 10-03-2014
it's his house too why not. if someone is weird about it, then they are not the right fit.

if anyone ever told me that they didn't want my hubby around or my older kids, I would be showing them the door.
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Thriftylady 10:53 AM 10-03-2014
You all have a point. I am over thinking this whole thing today I know. I can't seem to calm myself.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 10:53 AM 10-03-2014
When I first opened I always worried about them "seeing" a male here because people are WEIRD these days. Eventually, I just stopped caring and at some point he worked with me. I had one parent say, "Will he BE HERE often?" at an interview and I said, "YEP! " That lady was a PITA on many levels and her child would slap and scratch me and I took it. Eventually they left for a "bigger" program and then wanted to come back. Magically, I had no space.
Other than that, I have never had any issues to my knowledge. If there was any issue, I wouldn't want them anyways since I also have a teen son.

I would keep him around and happily introduce him saying they might not see him too often but you wanted to introduce the wonderful man you are married to.
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Cradle2crayons 01:19 PM 10-03-2014
My husband works out of state too so I understand totally but yes, overthinking lol.

Deep breath

My husband worked offshore the first 12 years of our current 12.5 year marriage... The last three months he's now and OTR trucker lol...

The life of wives like us are quite different and totally hard to explain to others.

It's weird but we are so used to routine when he isn't here that sometimes him coming home throws the entire house into chaos...

Sometimes daycare parents only see my husband a few times a year. But if he's here during an interview, yes they meet him.
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DaveA 01:26 PM 10-03-2014
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:

I would keep him around and happily introduce him saying they might not see him too often but you wanted to introduce the wonderful man you are married to.


It's pretty natural to overthink interviews a bit. But if he's not around as often this is a good chance to introduce him to the parents.
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Thriftylady 06:06 PM 10-03-2014
Originally Posted by Cradle2crayons:
My husband works out of state too so I understand totally but yes, overthinking lol.

Deep breath

My husband worked offshore the first 12 years of our current 12.5 year marriage... The last three months he's now and OTR trucker lol...

The life of wives like us are quite different and totally hard to explain to others.

It's weird but we are so used to routine when he isn't here that sometimes him coming home throws the entire house into chaos...

Sometimes daycare parents only see my husband a few times a year. But if he's here during an interview, yes they meet him.
Oh I know!!! Sometimes he is home an extra day for some reason and I feel like screaming "get out!!!" and I hate being in the truck with him. It is almost like his house my house and we have both become set in our ways. I love him with all my heart, but I am used to him being gone.

Actually he and I feel like the interview went really well, the parents are the age or our son, but were easier to talk to. I have a couple of concerns, the biggest one being infant is breast fed. I encouraged mom to do at least two bottles a day I hope she does. She said "she will drink them but fights them some". That and I asked her to let me know within 24 hours if she thinks she will want a spot and she said "well I don't need care for a month yet". I told her I understand but I need to know what to plan for the spots. They seem easy enough to work with. The boy has seizures, but has not had one for 10 months. He does have the rectal thing if a seizure lasts longer than five minutes, I told her she would have to teach me. I am not worried about the epilepsy, my ex hubby had it so I know the drill, but the rectal thing worries me a bit. Hopefully he won't need it if he comes here.
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SSWonders 08:34 AM 10-05-2014
My husband is always here to meet prospective parents when they interview. But, he is a high school teacher and will often help in daycare when he gets home from school. They also meet both of my parents because they live with us.
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Is it bedtime yet? 08:08 PM 10-05-2014
I actually always have my hubby and kids here for interviews. They all know the drill and it actually makes me more comfortable having them around. My hubby is more of a talker than I am and if the conversation wanes, I can always count on him to jump in My girls are great to help with the kid(s) of the DCP. We must be doing something right because since I reopened 4 years ago I have only had 4 interviews that didn't want to start right away. One moved away. One wanted somewhere way cheaper. One wanted to start, but I knew right away it wasn't going to work out, so I kept telling them to sleep on it and I think they took the hint One just didn't like me
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Thriftylady 08:34 AM 10-06-2014
Yes, I try to have my daughter here during interviews if possible. She is 16, loves kids and helps me when she is home. I am even going to pay her to if I can get up and running. She is still in school but helps out where she can. Mom was supposed to get more info on her school schedule today as far as hours, but it still won't start till sometime next month. I am hoping she will contact me today or tomorrow. I hate feeling in limbo, but will still interview for the spots if need be.
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CurtainCrawlerCaretaker 10:37 AM 10-06-2014
Under my provincial regulations in BC..this is what home licensed daycare/family child care is defined as...

Family Child Care is the provision of care in a licensee’s personal place of
residence, with the licensee personally providing care. It includes opportunities
for the social, emotional, physical and intellectual growth of children. The
importance of a home-like environment and the provision of family centered
activities are emphasized.


They want it as an everyday home setting. Here, all family members 13yrs+ have to have valid criminal record checks. I once checked into moving to a house with a basement suite so that I could have daycare separate from my home space and Licensing said no. They expect that children in home daycares to interact with family members. I have to use a reasonable amount of space that is shared with the family for my daycare (kitchen & eating areas especially). So I always tell parents that my family is around, although, we rarely see my husband as his hours are longer than mine. That said... maybe once or twice a month he makes an appearance during daycare. I think most people would expect that their kids would see your husband, being a home daycare anyway.
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