Please help!!!
I have a baby daycare 0-2 years old and watch 6 babies. Each week I request a Package of diapers from the parents. All of the parents comply except one. She packs four in his diaper bag on Most days but sometimes she forgets all together. It irritates me bc I feel like she is oppositional defiant. I feel like she is afraid that one of her diapers will be used for another child....when actually I have to sometimes borrow a diaper from another for her child
I have prayed to see her differently but nothing has changed yet. I really can’t stand her. She lingers around for up to 45 mind at pick up just to spy on my interactions with the other children and I have watched her kid now for 8 months. Last week she said, “I would love to come by sometime and just sit for a day”...I just ignored her. Maybe somewhere on the internet it says that daycares should be ok with that...but I’m not...bc this is my home and she judges Everything I do.
She only allows me to feed her son purée 6 month baby food that she brings bc she is afraid he will choke (he is 11 months).
Yesterday at pickup she mentioned that the other children were hyper and said, “you must have had some sugar”. She thinks she is being slick, but she was trying to find out if I fed them nutritious snacks.
She didn’t vaccinate her kid either and I believe she couldn’t find another reputable daycare who would tolerate that which is why she is still here.
I also think she has a recording device in the diaper bag. Bc sometimes I deliberately make comments right by the bag about her (Iesha needs to take her son to the dr for pink eye) and she will respond the next time I see her about it. Her husband is a computer guru and I know this is quite possible. I watch these babies with my mom and am going to put all of them into the play room tonight at pick up...then when a parent comes my mom can just come in and get one and that should speed things up with ppl leaving earlier.

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First, I am now humming tunes from ABC, so thanks for that.

Second, does she have a copy of your handbook and policies?

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Our daycare puts initials on every diaper and the diapers are placed in that child's cubby.

Don't accept him into care if you don't have enough diapers for the day.

ELIMINATE DIAPER BAGS. Change your daycare so you do not allow diaper bags. A child's belongings can stay in his cubby and should not be brought back and forth. If he soils an extra pair of clothes, send it home and expect it to be replaced the next day. Diaper bags need to be left in the car, and not in your home.

Mom should have access to her son's cubby so she can see what is needed and be responsible for always keeping it stocked. Make sure she knows this, and if something is running low, just give a friendly heads up.

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I agree, no diaper bags. It just isn't sanitary to bring them back and forth. Plus I don't want to have to search each bag for dangerous items (I worked at a center once and the Pre-K students had backpacks to take to/from school. One child had weed in his backpack I don't want that happening on my watch)

You can either:

1) Not accept into care without enough diapers.

2) Increase tuition and provide diapers yourself. Honestly, at this point, this is probably what I would do. Send out a letter: "Dear Parent as of date your new tuition rate will be $ - with this increase I will now be purchasing and providing diapers for DCK."

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found a cigarette lighter in a diaper bag of one of my 2 year olds yesterday, even better? It was one of the older ones without the safety lock and the parent hung it on there childs hook (in reach of all the other kids).

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I have a strict "no diaper bag" rule. The kids all have a cubby. In that cubby goes a change of clothing.

I have shelves above my changing table and when each child gets down to about 6 diapers, the parents are expected to bring a whole pack to refill the shelf.

On the first of each month, all parents bring a pack of wipes. I work my way through them during the month, so I only have one container on the changing table at a time.

In the past, I have found lighters, condoms, medications, used tissues, small change, a small knife and more in diaper bags. I refuse to have to search bags for restricted items, so it's no bags here at all. I am honest with the parents and tell them exactly why. It's a safety concern.

Oh...and no diapers or not enough diapers means no care for the day and no refunds.

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I learned from this forum that no diaper bags is standard policy. I learned that the day I reached into a diaper bag and came out with a bloody used tampon applicator in my hand.



I raised my rates by $3/day and now I provide my own diapers and wipes. I agree that getting rid of this family is necessary for your sanity. Avoiding a repeat in the future by switching to providing your own diapers is optional.

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I'd replace.

This is way too much unecessary-ness for one child/parent.

Resentment and contempt are a provider's worst enemy.
When they show up, it's time to part ways with the root.

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